Alternative parenting tricks for lazy moms

Chapter 1 Newborn baby, you really need to be careful and cautious (1)
At this stage, your responsibilities are "simple"

— take care of the baby carefully,

Help him or her get through the "beginning of life" safely.

6 must-have "big events" for newborn babies

A few tricks to see if the newborn baby is healthy
A baby who coughs a few times does not mean that he has pneumonia, and a small sneeze does not necessarily mean that he has a cold.You don't need to surprise yourself with any of this.Come, make a cup of green tea and relax.If the baby "reaches the standard" in the following aspects, the little guy is healthy!

□For babies born at full term, the birth weight is between 2500 grams and 4000 grams.

□Height 46-53cm, head circumference 33-38cm.

□ After cleaning up the mucus in the mouth and nose, the baby should "cry loudly" within 1 minute.

□Abdominal breathing, the respiratory rate is about 40-60 times/min, and the heart rate is about 120-140 times/min.

□Baby sleeps 20 hours a day, about 3 hours deep sleep.

□The skin is ruddy and elastic, the subcutaneous fat is rich, and a few veins can be seen faintly on the skin of the abdomen.

□The epidermis is covered with a layer of soft lanugo (which will disappear within a few weeks) and white, cheese-like sebum.

□The lanugo on the face has basically disappeared, there is a little lanugo on the back of the shoulders, the hair is as soft as silk, and the roots are separated.

□Close fists with both hands, can raise head for 1-2 seconds in prone position, and have a reflexive crawling action.

□When holding the baby upright, the lower limbs can bear a little weight, and there are "stepping reflex" and "standing reflex".

□The baby girl's mammary glands have developed, the areola has been colored, and breast nodules with a diameter of about 1 cm can be felt. The labia majora can completely cover the labia minora and the clitoris.

□The scrotum of the male baby has pigmentation and obvious folds, and both testicles have descended into the scrotum.

□The eyes are sensitive to light, and I like to observe the faces of my parents. I can tell whether it is a mother or a father within 2 weeks.

□Hearing is very sensitive, and it shows a sense of intimacy and security to the voice of the mother, but it is temporarily invalid for the father.

□ The olfactory center and end are mature, and they will actively look for nipples when they smell frankincense.

□Have a well-developed sense of taste, can distinguish different concentrations of sugar water and express pleasure to slightly sweet food, absolutely "spit" lemon juice.

□The sense of touch is highly sensitive, especially in the eyes, forehead, perioral area, palms, and soles of the feet.

□Several special physiological states: (1) Jaundice. (2) Fake menstruation. (3) Breast enlargement and lactation phenomenon.

The baby has a "golden ratio"

Aha~~~ It turns out that the baby is a "four-headed body", very comic, with a very Q ratio.

It's fine, it's normal, and it's healthy!

Then let us explain the essentials of raising newborn babies from head to toe in the following content, so that you can know it at a glance without any effort, and be a "lazy mother" down-to-earth.

Using Vegetable Oil Skillfully to Remove Tire Scale
When a baby is just born, the surface of the skin is covered by a layer of oil. This layer of oil is yellowish white, which is the secretion of skin and epithelial cells, commonly known as "fetal scale", also known as "cradle cap".

The old belief that removing scale can make your baby sick is in fact totally unscientific.

The scale will accumulate over time, and the seborrheic secretion and dust mixed with the scalp will slowly form a layer of "hard scab", as if wearing a very uncomfortable hat for the baby. Although it is not painful or itchy, But it is very unhygienic, so it must be removed.

Lazy skills are revealed—use "force", can't solve it!

To clean the little face, you need to follow the order
Not only do you have to wipe off the saliva and milk stains on the baby's chin and neck at any time, don't let them "flood" the delicate skin.Moreover, it is necessary to develop the hygienic habit of washing the baby's face every morning and night.

"Lazy skills" revealed - how to wash cleanly and thoroughly?
You need to prepare these tools:
Also need to be in the correct order:
A little steam to clear the small nasal cavity
There are often some secretions in the baby's nasal cavity that need to be cleaned, and the delicate nasal cavity must not be directly stretched out by your "five-clawed octopus".Take back your "octopus", first distinguish the type of secretion, and then make a move!

To clean the nasal cavity, first of all, prevent the baby from moving around, so as not to cause accidental injury.

Oral Care Made Easy

The baby has no teeth, does it need oral care?You must be hesitant to ask this question.

Then a picture appeared in my mind-the baby held the toothbrush and toothpaste and asked: "Mom, I don't know what to brush?" Haha, this is so interesting!

Of course the baby does not need to use these myself!

In fact, the baby's oral care is very simple, the reason is that the baby has not yet grown teeth.

You only need to drink some warm water for your baby after feeding, and let the baby "gargle" to maintain oral hygiene.This warm boiled water does not have to be sweet.

If you are still worried, you can use gauze dipped in warm water and gently wipe the baby's gums.

Note that this operation should not use too much force!

We know that the baby's oral mucosa is very fragile and delicate, and vigorous wiping may cause damage to the oral epithelium.The oral mucosa is damaged, which will cause oral infection in the baby.

Dealing with oral infections is really troublesome. One is that the treatment and recovery process is relatively cumbersome, and the other is that the baby’s milk feeding is disturbed because of the pain, and then what affects the nutritional supply and physical development all keep up...

As long as you pay attention, you'll be fine!
Cut off the nails, the little hands and feet will not be hurt
As you can see, the baby's little hands are always scratching. Although the nails are small and soft, they are still very "sharp" compared to the skin that can be broken by blowing bombs. If you are not careful, you will hurt yourself .

So you need to cut your baby's nails instead of wrapping your little hands or wearing gloves!That's a very boring approach, which will affect the development of fine motor skills of the baby's hands.

OK, take a good look at the action breakdown diagram below, and don't have a headache because of "I don't know how to cut the baby's nails".

If you accidentally hurt your baby, you need to stop the bleeding with sterile gauze or cotton balls immediately, and then apply a thin layer of anti-inflammatory ointment.

Taking care of small PP is different for men and women
Since there are gender distinctions, of course babies are different!

The only thing in common is that the baby's PP is very delicate, clean and hygienic can be comfortable, and should not be polluted by urine or feces.

"Lazy skills" publicity - the little PP who takes care of the male baby:

Most newborn male babies have phimosis. When cleaning, you have to push the foreskin up gently to wash it thoroughly.

After the baby boy grows up a bit, the long foreskin will gradually turn up. When cleaning, you have to turn up the foreskin gently to clean the urine dirt hidden inside.

The groin, penis, and scrotum of male babies are close to each other, and this area needs to be "focused on cleaning" to keep it dry and clean, otherwise it is easy to rot.After each defecation, not only should you rinse it off, but you should also apply a layer of talcum powder to keep it dry.

Note: If the talcum powder is poured directly on the skin of these parts, it will be wet and hardened, which will irritate the skin instead.You have to pour the talcum powder on your hands first, spread it lightly and quickly, and then apply it on these parts, remembering to avoid the glans.Another advantage of doing this is that the amount of talcum powder is well controlled!

"Lazy skills" publicity - the little PP who takes care of the baby girl:

The urethra of a baby girl is short and susceptible to bacterial infection, so be careful when cleaning it.

If there is feces here, wash off the stains with warm water in the order of perineum → anus.

Use absorbent cotton cloth to gently wipe the labial mucous membranes instead of towels, so as not to damage the mucous membranes and cause infection.

There is a small amount of white matter in the vulva of a female baby, which is usually the accumulation of exfoliated epithelium or urine alkali, and routine cleaning is enough.

Note: If the amount of white matter is small and the surrounding skin and mucous membranes are not red and swollen, it should not be over-cleaned.When applying talcum powder, avoid the vulvar mucous membrane of female babies.

TIPS: The knowledge of "painting and dabbing"
① After each cleaning, apply nappy cream to the little PP.

② Apply tannic acid ointment around the anus to prevent diaper rash.

③Pour the talcum powder and don't make it "dusty", so as not to inhale the baby and affect the health of the lungs.

Wisdom Select Wipes

There are so many types of wet wipes on the market, which one is right for your baby?When choosing wet wipes, just do the following:
Let's fold diapers together
Diapers are divided into convenient, safe, hygienic, absorbent and long-lasting diapers and traditional cotton diapers.

When cutting cotton diapers, do this:
"Lazy skills" revealed - the trick to judging whether the diaper is wet!
One is the time, observe it every one or two hours; the other is to pinch the swollen part of the diaper with your hands.If it "hardens", replace it with a new one immediately.

Changing diapers is fun (for boys)

Male babies need to pay attention to: clean the testicles and foreskin, these two parts have more folds, you need to turn up the folds to clean out the dirt inside!

Changing diapers is fun (baby girls)

The first 7 steps are all the same as in "Male Babies", but I want to remind you that because of the special structure of the reproductive organs of female babies, you should pay special attention to cleaning the genitals.

"Hey~~~ My baby just hates changing diapers, always loses his temper, and I feel such a headache"—hehe, that's because you haven't done these three things:

① Changing diapers is actually a kind of parent-child interaction, you can't regard it as a troublesome thing.I hope you can proceed happily, and the baby will feel that you are in a good mood, and will also be happy, can the process not be smooth?
② Talk to the baby while changing the diaper, make him happy, and "rescue" the baby from the nervous and irritable mood.

③Distract the baby's attention, unconsciously, the baby really no longer rejects changing diapers.

This makes changing diapers a lot of fun!

Teach you how to wash diapers
Diapers must be washed in order to wash them quickly and cleanly!Washing diapers is also a "technical job"...

Urine-only diapers:
"Lazy skills" revealed - the trick to keep diapers soft and clean

Instead of using fabric softener or other detergents, the penultimate step-scalding in boiling water!
BB on diapers:

Teach you how to dry diapers
Drying and storage:
For parents who do not want to wash BB diapers

The baby's BB will be left on a small piece of cloth, just throw it away, and then, the big diaper is very easy to clean!

Don't hug into "injury"

Let's first take a look at the "legendary" fontanel, commonly known as the "skylight".

The fontanel refers to the two bony areas (soft) on the top of the baby's head at birth, which are divided into anterior fontanel and posterior fontanel.When the baby is sitting, the fontanel is slightly concave.Often said "skylight" or "fontelle" refers to the anterior fontanel.The anterior fontanel does not close until the baby is 1 and a half years old, and the posterior fontanel usually closes at 3 months after birth.

On the surface of the fontanel is the scalp, below is the meninges, followed by the brain and cerebrospinal fluid.You can feel the pulsation when you place your finger lightly on the fontanel.That is the "daily activity" in which the pressure of the brain and spine changes with the heartbeat and blood pressure changes, consistent with the pulse.

The fontanel is so fragile and its position is so critical, SO, you can’t press and touch it hard at will, but it can be washed here when you wash your hair, your movements need to be gentle, you can’t scratch with your fingers, and the shampoo water can’t be overheated, use warm water!

I was soft but at a loss, so I picked up the baby indiscriminately, and the baby cried loudly...Obviously I hugged him lightly and slowly, but why is he crying?

Whoops, you've turned "hug" into "hurt" and you're still wondering what?Let's have a little discussion:

The baby's neck muscles are still weak during development, so you should hold them horizontally, not vertically, to avoid damage to the spine.

When picking up, support the baby's head with one hand, and put the other hand on the baby's back and buttocks to support the lower body. At this time, the baby's body is basically in a straight line.

Hold the baby close to your chest, and it will be easier for the baby to calm down when he hears the mother's heartbeat, and naturally he will not cry or make a fuss!

Putting down the baby must be "slow"

Which skin tone changes are okay

Babies do act like "little chameleons" sometimes, changing skin color, which can really frustrate you.Before you know which skin color changes are okay, first understand the characteristics of your baby's skin. You know, it's good for your baby!

·Because the baby consumes more dairy products, the sebaceous gland secretion is very active, that is to say, the oil secretion is more.You need to help your baby keep his skin clean all over his body.

·Because the skin stratum corneum is thin and has excellent permeability, you should pay attention not to use your own skin care products for your baby to avoid adverse reactions and damage the "natural barrier" of your baby's skin.

The baby is still young, the immune system is not yet fully mature, and the skin is particularly susceptible to infection by various germs, but the medicines for external use are "accepted as ordered", so hormone preparations and acidic or alkaline external rubbing ointments is not available.

OK, let's talk about which skin color changes are normal.

Overheating can have serious consequences
Regardless of whether it is winter or summer, the baby is "enthusiastic" all day long, and the underwear can sweat out!The baby can't speak yet, the hot and cold are controlled by the mother, so don't be careless!
Beware, beware!This kind of "enthusiasm" is not appropriate for the baby.

Dehydration caused by profuse sweating, especially intracellular dehydration, will inevitably affect the nervous system, and hypoxia will directly damage the brain nucleus.Those with severe hypoxia may die of cardiogenic shock within 1 to 2 days.The combination of the hatchback is called excessive heat preservation, and the consequences are of course so serious!
How to maintain a safe body temperature
⊙ The room temperature should be kept at 22-23°C with good ventilation.

⊙Use electric fans to cool down in summer, and try not to turn on the air conditioner.

⊙When the room temperature is lower than 20°C, the baby should wear a fleece cap to reduce heat dissipation from the head.

⊙Turn on the Yuba to bathe the baby, and the action should be fast, and do not bathe the baby with unstable (lower) body temperature.

⊙Give a hot water bottle to babies with unstable or low body temperature, premature babies and babies with low birth weight, but it needs to prevent scalding.

⊙ Babies who drink milk should replenish water in time.

⊙Bedding and clothing should be of moderate thickness.

Demystifying lanugo and hair
NO.1 - lanugo is not the same as real hair.

The whole body of the baby is covered with a layer of fluff during the fetal period. Note that the "whole body" is covered, of course including the head.At the 20th week, the lanugo hair is the most, and then gradually falls off, and the amount of shedding varies from large to small, and the speed varies from fast to slow.As a result, some babies still have a lot of lanugo hair but can't see a few hairs when they are born, while others have dark brown hair and almost no lanugo hair.

NO.2——The lanugo will obviously fall off when the baby is about 6 months old.

The hair that grows after lanugo falls off is the real "hair", and its color is darker than lanugo hair.This is caused by the law of natural growth. It is not that shaving the lanugo can improve the quality of the hair, making the sparse ones thicker and denser, and the color from light to darker. Even without shaving, the hair color will also turn black.Shaving lanugo is just a traditional folk custom, which also exists in the West.

NO.3——The amount of hair a baby has at birth does not determine the amount of hair in the future, and it has nothing to do with baldness!

You don't have to worry about looking at your little head again and again.The speed at which a baby's hair grows varies from person to person, which means it can be slow or fast.Generally speaking, around 1 year old, the hair quality will be darker and brighter, and the hair volume will be more.

NO.4 - The decisive factor of the baby's hair volume and hair quality comes from genetics.

NO.5 - The baby's hair has two characteristics.

One is that the hair is fine and soft, and the other is that the hair edges are lower before and after. The two appearances give you the illusion of "the baby has less hair".

I don't worry about where the hair falls.

The most common area of ​​hair loss is the "occipital area", located here:

Newborn babies usually lie flat, with their small heads swaying from side to side. Unavoidably, this part often rubs against the pillow, and will inevitably experience a "hair loss period", which is called "physiological hair loss".It's not uncommon to lose a few hairs during this period!After hair falls out, new hair will grow back.

You don't have to worry about it, and you don't have to think about special treatments.

The speed of baby's hair loss is fast or slow, which is related to the family's genetics and personal constitution.

The baby's hair loss is not particularly obvious. The order is from front to back. It may fall quickly in the front and grow slowly in the back.It stabilized at about 1 and a half years old.

In other words, the metabolic rate of the baby's hair will gradually slow down around this time.

Shaving the fetal hair of a full-moon baby is a tradition in both China and the West, and it has been used to this day.

As for why the fetal hair should be shaved, the answer of most mothers is very simple-as the older generation said, as long as the fetal hair is shaved, the baby's newly grown hair will be black and dense.You have to shave all of them!

Let’s talk about the result of this approach first, the result is completely without scientific basis.The baby's hair quality is only related to the genetic factors given to him by his parents!

In the final analysis, hair grows from the hair follicles below the scalp. No matter what "tricks" you play on the part above the scalp, it will not change the baby's future hair quality.That is to say, it does not matter whether the fetal hair is shaved or not, and the hair growing in the hair follicle will not be affected in any way.

From this perspective, this kind of behavior is completely a "traditional custom that is followed in its entirety".

So, whether to shave or not has its own advantages and disadvantages.

If you decide to shave your baby's fetal hair, you must be very careful in the process of shaving!

①Do not hurt the scalp, so as not to bring open wounds and bacterial infections.

②The baby's scalp is very delicate, so don't shave too hard to avoid damage to the hair follicle tissue.

③ In case of a wound, it must be treated in time to prevent various bacteria from entering or boils, etc. In severe cases, it may even cause sepsis.

The benefits of not shaving fetal hair to the baby are:
①The hair has the function of cushioning the unexpected attack and can protect the head.

② Block ultraviolet rays and reduce the damage of direct sunlight to the baby's head.

Help you identify the truth about baldness
You know, there are about 10 hairs on the skin of each person's head, and the growth rate of these hairs is slow. Even so, 50-100 hairs will fall off every day.

In addition to the baby's "physiological hair loss" mentioned above, you must know that "baldness" occurs due to certain factors.

In addition to the above situations, there are several situations that require your special attention.

The baby's hair color is abnormal.For example, when the baby is born, the hair is white, golden and other strange colors.

Immediate family members have straight hair, while newborn babies have curly hair.

Swimming is not suitable for every baby
Is it okay to let my baby swim?

Of course no problem!

However, there is a specific time period for babies to swim - no more than 12 months!

A baby who is fit to swim must meet the following criteria:
⊙Must be a normal full-term baby with a birth score ≥ 8 points.

(End of this chapter)