Li Yinhe talks about sex

Chapter 45 Sexual Diversity Trends

The central idea of ​​sexual pluralism is respect for different ways of life, different ways of being human, and the pursuit of each person's self-goal. It is the application of democratic principles to the personal sphere. Eclectic and tolerant attitude.

Three major changes have taken place in the field of sexuality in the modern West: the first is the secularization of sex, which separates sex from religious values; There is a higher level of acceptance of homosexuality; the third is a change in the pattern of interpersonal relationships that leads to a crisis in the family.Beginning in the mid-20s, marriage rates began to decline in Sweden and Denmark, spreading to the United Kingdom, the United States and West Germany in the 60s, and then France, where cohabitation and divorce rates rose.One in three marriages ends in divorce.Since the world entered the era of AIDS, a fourth trend has emerged in the sexual field, which is the loss of sexual desire.Loss of desire has been called the disease of the 70s.Surveys show that loss of sexual desire has become more common over the past 90 years, affecting 20 percent of American women and 35 percent of American men.It can be said that the development trend of sexual norms is generally more and more diverse, and the constraints of sexual morality are becoming more and more loose.

Since the 20s, a number of new forms of sexual activities with "safe sex" as the main feature have appeared in the world, such as telephone sex activities. People call special service agencies, or talk or listen to imaginary sexual activity for sexual gratification.People facing the threat of AIDS have also invented other types of sexual activity that do not involve intercourse and exchange of bodily fluids.For example, masturbation, sadomasochism, online sex, etc.The development of computer technology and the development of "virtual reality" in recent years raises the possibility that in the future, sex will become increasingly a solitary activity for many people.In this era of AIDS, masturbation sex and similar sex activities that do not involve sexual intercourse and exchange of bodily fluids have gradually become the only truly safe sexual activities in the world.

This development trend is reflected in the theory of sexuality as sexual pluralism.Sexual pluralism is increasingly understood and accepted by people in the world and in China.Sexual pluralism advocates the expression of sexual desire itself, rejecting any single fixed way of expression.Its core tenets hold that difference is healthy and natural, not pathological, evil, or politically incorrect.

Traditional sexology is mostly based on monism, with heterosexual penis-vaginal intercourse as natural sex, and all other sexual behaviors as immature, auxiliary, or "real sex" alternative behavior.Premarital caresses and masturbation are important only insofar as they are means to assist the end of heterosexual intercourse.Masters and Johnson, while acknowledging that masturbation is easier for women to achieve pleasure, still view it as a substitute activity when heterosexual contact is limited or unavailable, and it is nothing more than a "second-best" behavior.The theoretical background of this sexual monism is still not divorced from the Christian sexual culture where reproduction is the only legal function of sex.Most sexologists are all about heterosexual penetrative sex.They often believe that only this sexual behavior pattern has a physiological basis, and the ultimate function of sex is reproductive function.

On the contrary, sexual pluralism expresses the rich and varied needs of human beings for sexual activities, which constantly refuses to be classified and stereotyped, constantly breaks away from all special cognitions and fixed facts.Opposing the classification and stereotyping of sexual activities is a rebellion of freedom against prohibition. It opposes the normalization of sexual behavior, the normalization of daily life, and the classification, control or prohibition.The theoretical basis of sexual pluralism comes from the diversity of sexual desire and pleasure, and from the infinite plasticity of sexual practice.Sexual pluralism tells us that human sexual desires are diverse, not single, that many different ways of life can be good, that everyone and everyone's way of life can be good.The central idea of ​​sexual pluralism is respect for different ways of life, different ways of being human, and the pursuit of each person's self-goal. It is the application of democratic principles to the personal sphere. Eclectic and tolerant attitude.After more than ten years of changes, sexual multiculturalism has been accepted by more and more Chinese people, and it will bring us a new era of freedom, democracy and healthy multiculturalism.

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