Buddha crossing a predestined person: Dharma and wisdom in life

Chapter 37 Cultivate the mind of cause and effect with the Buddha's mind - the karma of the past life, the retribution of the present life (3)
What these three dreams meant, Xiucai couldn't figure it out, so he went to a fortune teller to interpret the dream the next day.The fortune teller slapped his thigh and said to him after hearing his three dreams: "I think you should go home, there is no hope. Don't you think it's a waste of effort to grow cabbage on a high wall? Wearing a bamboo hat and an umbrella Isn't it superfluous? It's useless to lie on the bed with your sweetheart naked and back to back, isn't it?"

When Xiucai heard this, his heart fell into a hole in the ice and he was so cold. After returning to the hotel, he packed his bags and prepared to go home.The shop owner felt a little strange, and asked him why he retreated before taking the exam?Xiucai told him the dream that the fortune teller had interpreted for him in this way, and the shop owner was happy: "In my opinion, you must stay this time. I hope you will have a lot of success. You think, planting cabbage on the wall is not a high-level dream." Kind of (middle)? Doesn’t wearing a hat and holding an umbrella mean that you are prepared for this time? Lying back to back with your sweetheart, doesn’t it mean that your chance to turn around is coming?” When Xiucai heard it, he thought it made sense, so he Changing his disheartened demeanor, he took the exam energetically, and got a third prize in the result.

From this story, we can see that if the same thing is told from different angles, there will be completely different results: it can make the listener disheartened, or it can make the listener happy.

From the point of view of thinking about the problem, the same is true.Thinking about the same thing from different angles will have very different effects.In the words of psychologists: Positive thinking makes people happy, and negative thinking makes people sad.

The difference between positive thinking and negative thinking is nothing but the state of mind.Whether a person's mentality is good or bad, it can be the yeast of happiness or the prelude of sadness.

People's mentality is different, and the feeling of the same thing is very different.For example, when writing flowers, some people praised: "Falling flowers are not ruthless things, they can be turned into spring mud to protect flowers." Some people wrote "The Burial of Flowers" that made people feel heartbroken.Another example is facing autumn, Ma Zhiyuan wrote sadly: "The ancient road is windy and thin horses, withered vines and old trees are dim and crows, and people live on small bridges and flowing water. When the sun sets, heartbroken people are at the end of the world."

But Liu Yuxi wrote very kindly: "Since ancient times, autumn has been sad and lonely. I say that autumn is better than spring. When the sky is clear and a crane floats above the clouds, it will lead the poetic sentiment to the blue sky."

Faced with the same thing, when encountering the same thing, some people feel happy, while others feel distressed, which is caused by completely different mentality.

There is such a fable: Two craftsmen went to sell flower pots, but unfortunately their car overturned on the way, and most of the flower pots were broken.One craftsman said with a mournful face: "It's over, it's unlucky to break so many flower pots!" But another craftsman said: "It's lucky that there are so many flower pots that haven't been broken!"

If a person has a good attitude, even in the face of adversity and despair, he can feel happiness and hope.

One day in December 1914, a fire burned Edison's laboratory to ashes, causing a loss of more than 12 million US dollars. The pain can be imagined.At that time, Edison was 200 years old, and people were worried that he would not be able to withstand such a heavy blow and would be crushed to the ground by the pain.Unexpectedly, the next morning, Edison looked at the ruins and said: "The disaster has its own value. Look, no, all our previous errors and mistakes have been completely burned by the fire. Thank God, now we You can start all over again." Just 67 days after the fire, Edison began to roll out his first phonograph.

American educator Carnegie said: "If we have happy thoughts, we will be happy. If we have miserable thoughts, we will be miserable. If we have fearful thoughts, we will be afraid. If we have unhealthy thoughts, we will be miserable. We'll get sick."

The environment is created by the heart, and the happy state of mind must be created by ourselves.Sometimes as long as you think from a different angle and think more about the benefits when you encounter problems, you can change negative thinking into positive thinking, and move from the predicament of "there is no way out" to the sunny day of "the willows are dark and the flowers are bright in another village".

An expert in the legal field once compared 300 foreign criminals with 300 foreign philanthropists, and finally came to a conclusion: kindness is more beneficial to health than evil, and the life span of a good person is 27 years longer than that of a wicked person on average, and the quality of life is higher 3 to 5 times better and more than 4 times healthier.

Human beings always have relative struggles between good and evil, good and evil, beauty and ugliness, and so on.And why did the wise men of all ages persuade people to be good instead of evil?One of the important reasons is that good people live healthier lives, have better interpersonal relationships, are more respected, more confident, and live more freely, while evil people are just the opposite.

From this point of view, a person who acts with kindness and thinks about the good will be able to obtain a healthy body.

Think for the good, of course, not just for the good. You have hatred for someone, and you have a deep grudge. At this time, you can try to think for the good. Think about the good of the other party, or the good of being an opponent. It's not that you have such a strong opponent, and you won't be so powerful.

You can also imagine the benefits that suffering brings to you. Suffering is negative gold. You have finally grown and matured through challenges...

When you encounter difficulties, you also try to think of the good.You must know that everything has two sides, one positive and the other negative. If you cling to the negative thinking, then you will suffer untold suffering and give birth to disease. If you always try to think of the good, the method is It will appear, and the front may suddenly become clear.

There are two types of emotions: positive emotions and negative emotions.

The second characteristic of emotions is "polarity".From a clinical point of view, we divide emotions into two categories: positive and negative emotions.Any emotion that brings us a pleasant experience is called a positive emotion, and any emotion that brings us a painful experience is called a negative emotion.Positive emotions include joy, love, satisfaction, gratification, etc.; negative emotions include anger, anxiety, fear, grief, shame, etc.

The purpose of our psychotherapy is to make people have more positive emotions and less negative emotions.

Whether we are happy or not depends not entirely on the matter itself, it also depends on other factors.The first is cognitive style, the way you see things.Everything has a good side and a bad side.If we feel the bad side of things, we will suffer; if we feel the good side of things, we will be happy.

Who is in charge of fate?Once upon a time, a falling heart asked this unanswerable question countless times, especially when the people were quiet at night, sitting alone, with a myriad of thoughts, watching the street lights in the dark night trembling in the breeze, and a waning moon hanging on the branches. When the head is flickering, that kind of thought becomes more intense. Looking back on the journey of life, I can’t help but feel a little bit lost, sighing, the work is not going well, the ideal is shattered, the warmth and coldness of human feelings, everything makes people feel sad. Feel dazed and heavy, lost and helpless.

However, just when my heart and reality collided strongly, by chance, I went to visit an elder. The elder said something that made me realize the true meaning of life and benefit my whole life: destiny is in my own hands, everyone The destiny of a person exists in his own decision. There is no savior in the world. Only he can save himself. Besides, there may be some kind of unknown talent hidden in each of us. It is buried in us by God. The gold mine in life, if you can find it, dig it out as much as you can, success is close at hand...

A series of unpretentious words came to my heart, yes, fate is in my hands, and people need a little spirit and a little self-confidence to live.Life is a clear mirror. When you smile at it, it smiles at you. When you cry at it, it also cries at you. It can never be covered up. You must live positively and look forward hard. , strive for the active side, and look forward to good returns.There is no need to blame yourself or others, otherwise, you will only encounter stumbling blocks from time to time, making you somersaulting, getting your face covered in dust, and even your body covered in cuts and bruises.As the saying goes, people are valuable and energetic, and they are defeated by inferiority.

When the heart is thinking, the action will follow. The heart thinks in one place, and the energy moves in one place.It can be said that everyone is the screenwriter, director and protagonist of their own destiny. We have the right to arrange the drama of our life in a magnificent and colorful way, and we also have the responsibility to direct the drama of our life in an exciting, colorful and colorful way. Obligation to perform the drama of one's own life outstandingly.

Firmly believe that nothing is difficult for the world, as long as there is a heart; believe in this famous philosophical saying: God closes a door for you, and at the same time opens a skylight for you; Standing at the forefront of the tide of material desires, but being led by money and power into the abyss, even though the world is prosperous, it is all for profit, and the world is full of hustle and bustle, all for profit, but there are some things that cannot be used in simple material Money is used to replace and measure equivalent value, and one's own strength is the most important.

Believe in yourself, you are in charge of your own destiny.

Cause and effect, the prodigal son turns back

Since the third law of cause and effect is established, when we change the cause in the cause and effect, the effect will naturally change accordingly, and the corresponding change will occur.If you change the original positive cause to a negative cause, you will naturally get a negative result, and vice versa.We usually say that the prodigal son will not be exchanged for money when he turns back; put down the butcher knife and become a Buddha immediately, etc., all conform to this law of cause and effect.

Xiao Zhu has been mixed with a group of thugs since he was a child, and the group of thugs can do all kinds of bad things, steal if they can, and rob if they can. Naturally, Xiao Zhu has also learned to steal, and his courage is getting bigger and bigger.

Due to financial constraints, Xiao Zhu stole into the home of a major writer one day.The writer went on a trip, and when he came back, he found that the things in his house had been rummaged in a mess, and before he left, the thief jokingly left a few words on the writer's desk: I never thought that there was money in the great writer's gourd. I actually found it here.The inscription is the thief "pig".

The great writer wrote about the theft in the newspaper. In the newspaper, he admired the thief's fine observation ability and speculation about the pretender's psychology, because no thief had thought that there would be money here.At the end of the article, the great writer made assumptions about the thief's behavior. He said: If such an ignorant thief can use his insight into human nature and heart in the right way, such as doing business, being a scout, etc., he will definitely be a thief. A very talented person who will definitely stand out.

Ten years later, the great writer was admitted to the hospital.One night, a strange leader of the Public Security Bureau came to visit him suddenly. In a separate small ward, the strange deputy director of the Public Security Bureau told the writer with tears in his eyes that his life path was changed because of his positive guidance. saved him.

The great writer Zhanger Monk couldn't figure it out. It turned out that the person who came here was the thief who stole the money from the writer's gourd 20 years ago. The "thief" knew that his benefactor's life would not be long, so he came here today to thank the writer.

A thief changed his life completely because of a positive word from a great writer, and he really used his keen observation and analysis on the right path, made excellent achievements, and became the deputy director of the Public Security Bureau 20 years later.This is a very typical causal change story.

The reason why a villain becomes a villain is not that he was born a villain at the beginning, but also because of various reasons that forced him to become a villain step by step.In order to sympathize with his people, God has left a rule of turning back for any wicked person - change the cause and change the effect.It is precisely because people who lead a negative life only need to pay attention to the cause and cultivate a positive thinking mind, then he will definitely be able to return to the right path, and he will definitely be able to gain the recognition and respect of others and the society.

The reverse is also true. If a good person does not insist on planting good causes, does not face up to the right thinking, does not insist on right thinking and right action, it will naturally be completely possible to fail, or even fail miserably!

When you curse others and hold hatred, you are like a fast-spreading wildfire that hurts yourself and others the most.A person who is easily angry is also the most unstable emotionally, and is more likely to destroy the long-established interpersonal relationships with others.

People are not perfect!As long as you make good use of your own talents, even the shortcomings will become advantages.People come in all shapes and colors, things have myriad forms, and the earth has countless creatures, so things must be broad and well-used.A beautiful life needs to be created by you; a warm society needs everyone to create together.A person can only have a happy state of mind if he maintains an optimistic spirit every day.

How to turn bad karma into good karma?
Where do evil people come from?You have to understand why you form a bad relationship with others, and then untie this knot, and the bad relationship will disappear.Therefore, to turn bad karma into good karma, the most important thing is rationality, morality, tolerance, and generosity.

You are wise, and you know that bad karma is not a good thing, and if the bad karma continues like this, it cannot be resolved, and you will retaliate against each other life after life.

Everyone, go and read the "Yin Zhi Wen of Emperor Wenchang". Before Emperor Wenchang learned Buddhism, he had a strong desire for revenge. He created a lot of bad karma and fell into the evil way to suffer. After hearing the Dharma, he repented and realized his mistakes. up.If you have wisdom, you can understand the truth of karma and retribution, and you will no longer create bad karma.

Even if someone framed me, it must be that I had a grudge against him in the past, and if it is reported to me today, I will write it off and don't care about it anymore.Not only did I not retaliate against his behavior, but I did not even have the thought of retaliating against him; on the contrary, I want to praise, rejoice, respect and make offerings to him.

why?His revenge on me not only settled the bill, but also wiped out my disaster.If you can turn around like this, not only will he do no harm to me, but he will also eliminate my disaster.Only in this way can we turn bad karma into good karma. This is the practice of a bodhisattva and what a truly enlightened person does.

Anyone's fate can be changed, life cannot be doomed!The following story proves it:
When I was 15 years old, I was working in a teahouse. I was so hungry that I ate a barbecued pork bun left by a customer while no one was looking.The manager slapped me hard and fired me.

I cried and went back to the rented place, and cried to the old man who lived next door: "Why is my life so hard? My parents divorced me when I was 12 years old. I was bullied at school and wronged at work. Am I doomed?" Do you want to be so unlucky all your life?"

The old man smiled and said, "Little ghost, who told you that life is doomed? If so, what surprises are there? Even being a millionaire is meaningless." After finishing speaking, he went to work.He is a security guard on the night shift, and he is always chattering. I have always ignored his words, but his words—life cannot be doomed—awakened me.

Since then, no matter how difficult the road is, I will keep going.Starting from persistence, my persistence and confidence came, and 10 years later, "One Game, One Dream" came out.

On the first day the record was released, a "senior" from the company prodded me: "Wang Jie, your singing voice is really weird, how much do you think your new record will sell?" His eyes were not very friendly, but I still I said frankly: "It should be able to sell 30 copies." Unexpectedly, within half a day, my answer was taken as a joke and spread all over the company, and some people even called me "30" when they saw me—— In their eyes, I want to become famous overnight and go crazy.Watching them laugh, even the producer of the record didn't say a word for me.I can only silently recite what the old man once said in my heart, and tell myself: "Life cannot be predestined."

On the seventh night of the record's release, I took a taxi home from get off work.A pleasant voice came from the radio of the taxi: "The next thing is to play the top song of this week's pop chart." A prelude to music sounded, and the familiar melody made my heart start beating wildly.The host continued: "This week's top song is "One Game, One Dream" sung by Wang Jie." At that moment, I burst into tears.

The next day, I pushed open the door of the record company, and everyone's faces were smiling the moment they saw me.After that, I heard a lot of "congratulations".I kept saying "thank you" to them.I don't know if this counts as a game or a dream.So far, the sales volume of "One Game, One Dream" has exceeded 1800 million copies. The moment of changing fate has passed, and I completely believe that life cannot be doomed!
No matter how many roads there are in the world, you have to walk by yourself, and others can never replace them.And fate can only be grasped by oneself, and only oneself is the real master of oneself.Some people in life cannot dominate themselves, some people give themselves to money and become slaves of money, some people become captives of power for the sake of rights, and some people cannot stand all kinds of setbacks and difficulties in life trials, surrendering themselves to God.

To be your own master, you can't be a slave to money, you can't be a prisoner of power, keep your true colors in the face of all kinds of temptations, otherwise you will lose yourself.Those who are too keen on pursuing external things may finally get their wish, but they will lose the most important thing like a servant, that is themselves.

There is such a joke in ancient times: a servant of the yamen was ordered to escort a monk who had committed a crime. Before leaving, he was afraid that he would forget to bring something, so he made up a jingle: "Package, umbrella and shackle, I am the clerk monk." On the way He chanted these two sentences while walking, always afraid that he would accidentally lose his things, and he would not be able to pay the errand when he went back. The monk saw that he was in a daze, so he got him drunk when he stopped to eat, and then shaved his head bald. , put the shackles around his neck on him, and he slipped away.After the guard sobered up, he always felt that something was missing, but the luggage, umbrella and paperwork were all there, and he touched his neck and the shackles were also there. He also felt that his head was bald, which meant that the monk was not missing, but he still felt that something was missing. Something, so he read the jingle over and over, and he was shocked: "Where did I go, why is there no me?" Yes, I lost everything but I lost myself. Although it is a joke, it is also thought-provoking.

(End of this chapter)