Buddha crossing a predestined person: Dharma and wisdom in life

Chapter 40 Cultivate Inclusiveness with the Buddha's Heart——Swallowing Everything, Inching to the Universe (1)
Hanging down the Buddha's ears, listening to all the sounds

Nobodies who accomplish nothing are immune to criticism.Respecting the opinions of others is a virtue of being a human being, and respecting the opinions of the masses is an essential quality of a leader.However, in real life, there are many people, including many leading cadres, who are happy when they hear the same opinions as themselves, but they can't listen to "dissenting opinions". Authoritative thinking is at work.In the eyes of these people, since they are leaders, they should be the planners and the arbiters of decisions. If their opinions are refuted or opposed, their authority will be challenged. If things go on like this, why should they lead their subordinates?For the sake of face and authority, they indiscriminately suppressed "dissenting opinions".

In fact, this approach is unnecessary.The so-called opinions are people's opinions and views on things. "Dissent" means different opinions and opposing voices.It is normal for people to have different views on things, and it is not in line with objective laws that "heroes see the same thing" all the time.Just as the length of the ten fingers can play the function of the hand, and the height of the pentameter can form a beautiful melody. People often come to a correct understanding of things only through the contention of different opinions.

In today's knowledge explosion, it is impossible for everyone to be an all-round expert in their field, and it is not easy to be an expert in one aspect.It is of course good for a leader to be able to provide insightful insights on a certain aspect of the issue. If he cannot, being able to summarize the opinions of others and draw correct conclusions is also an ability.However, some leaders are putting on airs and pretending to understand, showing that they are experts in everything and everything, and cannot tolerate the slightest dissent. Doing so will only fill their ears with flattery and flattery.Many times, leading cadres made wrong decisions in such an environment.Therefore, Comrade Mao Zedong said: Let people speak, and the sky will not fall; Comrade Deng Xiaoping also said: It is not terrible to talk in a hurry, what is terrible is the silence.

Therefore, listening to "dissenting opinions" can allow leaders to examine whether the decision-making is comprehensive and correct from different angles, and make decisions more objectively and fairly.Wei Zheng in the Tang Dynasty almost exclusively mentioned "differences" throughout his life. Sometimes even Li Shimin, who was good at accepting advice, wanted to kill him. However, Li Shimin endured the embarrassment of temporarily losing "face", accepted these opinions, and finally became a generation Mingjun.As a leader, if you practice "speaking in one voice" and cannot tolerate other people's "dissenting opinions", one day you will make mistakes in decision-making, but the cause of the party and the people will suffer.

Japan's "Edison" Akio Morita encourages everyone in the company to "put forward opinions openly", even for his own bosses, don't be afraid of conflicts due to public opinions.He believes that "the more different opinions, the better, because the final conclusion must be more intelligent", and "the risk of the company making mistakes will be reduced."

Chen Yun, a revolutionary of the older generation, is known in the party for being good at listening to different opinions.Speaking in front of him, you can know everything and say everything.He believes that there are many contradictions in the objective reality. To see the problem comprehensively and prevent one-sidedness, it is necessary to exchange opinions with others, especially to listen to negative opinions. "If there are no different opinions, you should also assume an opposite. Absorb the correct ones, refute the wrong ones, and make your own opinions more complete. And in the process of practice, you must continue to revise it. Because people's understanding of things is often not one-time. It can be done.” Different opinions should be compared, up and down, left and right, and back and forth, so as to make a comprehensive analysis that conforms to reality.Repetition means not to make a decision too hastily, but to allow time for repeated consideration.Chen Yun also said not to be afraid of being scolded. He said: "Being scolded has a bad side, but it also has a good side. Whenever someone makes a mistake, someone scolds it, and it is easy to correct it. If people shout long live every day, once they make a mistake, it is a big mistake."

The so-called "the authorities are obsessed, but the bystanders are clear", the parties involved often cannot see the problem clearly because they are in it, so they need to listen to other people's opinions with an open mind.

At the end of the Warring States period, South Korea conspired to weaken Qin's power in the name of sending water workers to help Qin repair irrigation canals.After the incident, the Qin royal family was shocked, and even the grass and trees were all soldiers, and asked the king of Qin to expel all foreign aid guests in the Qin court.

At that time, Li Si, the guest of Chu State, was also expelled.Before being expelled, Li Si risked his life to give the king of Qin a list. This list is the famous "Book of Remonstrance and Expelling Guests" in history, which said:

"The fact that the Qin State is so powerful and prosperous today is the result of the emperors of the Qin Dynasty employing capable men. Qin can accommodate scholars, so the world's wise men have come here admiringly. Since Mu Gong, one of the five tyrants in the Spring and Autumn Period, appointed his surrender Baili Xi, foreign aid to virtuous men There was an endless stream of scholars who came to Qin.

Therefore, it is said: Mount Tai does not allow the soil, so it can grow its height; the ocean does not choose the trickle, so it can reach its depth;For the country, the most important thing is to seek talented people.As long as it is a talent, it should be used freely.Instead, just because the courtier is a foreigner, he should not be suspected or expelled.The current practice of chasing ministers is harmful to the Qin State, but not beneficial!Talented people are gone, and no sages will ever come back, so how can we expect the country to have long-term peace and stability? "

After reading the "Book of Remonstrance and Chasing Guests", King Qin suddenly realized that for the future of Qin, he must not reduce his power.Therefore, the expulsion order was immediately abolished.

The king of Qin listened to Li Si's advice and took wise measures. Talents from all walks of life poured into Qin State one after another, laying a good organizational foundation for Qin State to unify the whole country.

Therefore, never blindly follow any point of view easily, never stubbornly think that your point of view must be correct, and never let the existing point of view in your mind block your wisdom and hinder your progress.Cultivate the habit of self-examination and self-blame at all times, and always remind yourself that many of the current thoughts are wrong or one-sided.Keep an open mind at all times, always keep an open-minded and tolerant mind, let your heart always open and flow, and accept new and correct things at any time.

As the saying goes, "Mount Tai does not let the soil", this saying means: Mount Tai is so tall, and he will not refuse to accept it-so it becomes taller and taller.The nature is like this, and so is human beings. Only those who are dissatisfied, open-minded, magnanimous and tolerant can become great people.Whenever you reject any person or point of view, be sure to say to yourself: "Calm, objective, rational. Maybe I still have many misconceptions that I don't realize."It is very difficult to do this!But only by doing this can you continue to improve and become stronger.So please always be careful!
Cyan eyes clarify the four seas
Everyone's tolerance, knowledge, scope, and mind are different.If you want to achieve great success and establish a great cause, you must cultivate your tolerance to be as big as the sea; cultivate your own learning ability to be as deep as the sea.If you want to cultivate the Tao, you must have the materials for cultivation, and you must first become a vast ocean like the sea.Therefore, it is described in the Buddhist scriptures that the eyes of Amitabha Buddha "purify the four seas with blue eyes", are blue and big, just like the four seas.And our eyes are so small that sometimes we can't even see the whites of our eyes!Of course, the point of view and courage are gone.

On the earth we live on, there are more than 60 billion people.People speak different languages, work in different occupations, and live in places large and small in the world.Therefore, as an abstract person, it is very, very small, like a tiny ant, an insignificant leaf in a green bush.However, if the focus is on a specific person, the situation is different.Because every specific person can hold many people, many things, and many social knowledge and natural landscapes in the world.At this time, this concrete person suddenly becomes infinite again.

In fact, a person is still the same person, so why does it change a lot when viewed from a slightly different angle?The mystery is that it is the person's heart, the person's soul, and the person's long-term training and cultivation that can really put many people and things in the world, a lot of social knowledge and natural landscapes into it. personality qualities.

Adding up a heart, a person's soul, and this person's personality quality, this is what we usually call a heart.

Mind, also called mind, is the most magical and profound spiritual carrier in the world.The great French writer Victor Hugo said: "The widest thing in the world is the ocean, the sky is wider than the ocean, and the heart of man is wider than the sky." If it is equally vivid, vivid, and charming, it is: "The prime minister can pull a boat in his stomach."

People from different countries and different nationalities in the world, when it comes to their hearts and minds, why can they coincide with each other and coincide with each other?This at least shows that people in the world have the same understanding of the heart, and they all believe that the heart of a person can accommodate the clouds and water of the four seas, and can also swallow the wind and thunder of the five continents.In other words, people are completely capable of thinking through the world, understanding the principles of the world, and correctly understanding and dealing with everything that happens in real life.Although there are often storms, fogs, hidden reefs, and whirlpools in the ocean in people's chests, a person with a broad mind can eventually support the ship of the soul with ease.

If we focus on our hearts and open our minds, we will also find that the meanings given to it by people from ancient and modern China and abroad are more than the above.Let me give you an example. We often say "have the world in mind and look at the world", but if you think about it carefully, it should refer to a lofty ambition. It also clearly refers to pride and integrity; also, whenever we see Mao Zedong and other revolutionaries of the older generation strategizing on the battlefield and winning thousands of miles in movies or history books, we immediately think of "there are heroes in the chest." Wan", the "chest" here not only means the mind in the traditional sense, but also contains wisdom, courage, strength and courage.Extending from this, a person's ambition, ability, principle, perseverance, demeanor and sense of honor, as well as the spirit of self-improvement in times of crisis, etc., also burst out from the heart.

This is like the blue sky above our heads. The reason why it is wide, magnificent and beautiful is that it combines strange mountains, deep seas, stubbornly extending roads, flags fluttering in the wind, and lights that twinkle like stars in the dark, etc. Wait, embrace them in its arms one by one.

So we praise and pursue such a realm: a mind as broad as the blue sky.

There was a young man who was very bad-tempered, irritable, and liked to fight with others, so many people didn't like him.One day, he wandered to Dade Temple accidentally, and happened to hear Zen Master Yixiu was giving a lecture. After listening to it, he vowed to change his past mistakes, and said to the Zen master: "Master! I will never fight with anyone again, lest people see me. People hate it, even if they are spit on, they will just patiently wipe it away and bear it silently!"

Yixiu Zen Master said: "Hey! Why bother, just let the spittle dry itself, don't wipe it!"

"How is that possible? Why do you have to endure it like this?"

"There's nothing unbearable about it, you just put it on your face like a mosquito, it's not worth fighting or scolding it. Although you get spit, it's not an insult, just accept it with a smile!" Yixiu said.

"What if the opponent hits with fist instead of saliva?"

"It's the same! Don't pay too much attention to it! It's just a punch."

Hearing this, the young man thought that Yixiu's words were too unreasonable, and finally couldn't bear it any longer. He suddenly raised his fist and hit Zen Master Yixiu on the head, and asked, "Monk, how are you doing now?"

The Zen master said with great concern: "My head is as hard as a rock, and I don't feel much, but your hand probably hurts?"

The young man was dumb and had nothing to say.

A man with a big heart is invincible.When some villains deliberately provoke you, you can avoid the tragedy of losing both sides by adopting a more rational attitude and avoiding it skillfully for a while.Therefore, a man must cultivate his own tolerance.A person with a big heart has a big heart and a wide heart.The road of life will become wider and wider.

Russian psychologists found in their research that the "popular people" in the children's pile have a common quality-broad-mindedness.

Two months ago, Russian educational psychologists conducted an interesting experiment in which they tried to understand why some children are popular among their peers, while others are disgusting.To this end, they compared the intelligence level, social skills and initiative ability of the two types of children when playing games.

After continuous comparison and analysis, psychologists finally discovered a quality that is often overlooked in these charming children - broad-mindedness.

Psychologists point out that the "popular people" in the children's pile are willing to open their hearts to their friends and share their thoughts together.If other kids get grades, they openly support them, not envy or even curse.The other person will intuitively feel their friendliness and become close to them.

Psychologists say that adults, like children, treat other people's success and failure attitudes reflect a person's spiritual development.For a person with imperfect personality development, when others succeed, he will express anger, jealousy, suspicion and even hatred, which will make it difficult for him to be respected by the people around him and make real friends. people are more likely to be successful.

A person's charm comes from a generous and open mind.A broad-minded and upright person is a stalwart mountain and a broad sea.Broad-minded, you must be cheerful and optimistic, and you will not damage your spleen or liver by filling your chest with trivial matters.A broad-minded person stands tall, sees far, and can connect reality with the future.A broad-minded person is open-minded and tolerant, neither grudges about kindness nor resentment, nor obsessed with trivial matters.A gentleman is magnanimous, and a villain is always sad.Only with a broad mind can great things be achieved. "The bottom of my heart is selfless and the world is wide." When a person focuses on his own career and forgets about trivial matters, his heart will suddenly open up.

Men always show a character of being competitive, brave and aggressive, persevering, and never admit defeat, as well as psychological characteristics such as sulking, anxious, irritable, and competitive.If a man's personality and psychological characteristics are properly developed and guided well, it will be conducive to success and fame, as well as family and society.But if the guidance is not good, men often go to extremes—the ambition is out of control, the desire is endless and unsatisfied, so it is inevitable to stumble and fail on the road of life, which will damage the physical and mental health, cause premature aging or breed various diseases.

The traditional theory of health preservation in our country also attaches great importance to the close relationship between people's mental state and health and longevity, and puts forward the seven emotions—joy, anger, worry, thought, sadness, fear, and shock—as one of the important factors causing disease.It is believed that a happy mood can make the functions of internal organs and Qi and blood run normally, and avoid various diseases; while mental depression and emotional tension are often the root causes of diseases.

Two doctors from the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine in the United States randomly selected 1949 graduates from 1964-127, and divided them into two groups according to their personalities. The group is lively, active, intelligent and flexible.After analysis and research, the first group has the highest disease rate and high mortality rate - only in these 15 years, 13 people have died successively, while all the people in the second group are still alive.After research, the two doctors believe that good or bad temper, cheerful personality and depression are closely related to the incidence of disease and directly affect the length of life. According to a survey in 1978: 125 long-lived elderly over 90 years old in Hubei area, their common characteristics are cheerful, optimistic and kind, and have a normal heart.

To maintain a comfortable mood and a happy spirit emotionally, you must learn to avoid troubles and be lenient to others.Because it is difficult for people to avoid unsatisfactory things in daily life, it is inevitable to have conflicts and struggles such as misunderstanding, making things difficult, slandering, and non-cooperation with people around them, and even their relatives and friends sometimes have conflicts with themselves.People who know how to keep in good health can deal with non-principle issues calmly and rationally, give in what should be given in, endure what should be tolerated, and forgive what should be understood.As the saying goes, "A loss is a blessing" and "you have to forgive others and forgive others". Only by being open-minded and open-minded can you maintain a peaceful mind and live a happy life for a hundred years.

Dapeng is facing the wind for ninety thousand miles

The roc flies to an altitude of more than [-] li, and the atmosphere is below it.Zhuangzi is scientific, and anyone who has studied aeronautics will understand that a plane needs to take off if the wind direction is wrong; it cannot take off in the middle of turbulent turbulence, and the helicopter will fall into the turbulent turbulence.When the plane encounters turbulence, it has to fly up quickly and surpass that turbulence.To take off, a bird depends on the force of the wind. The stronger the wind, the easier it is to take off. With a quick flap of the wings, it takes off.If we succeed in cultivating the Tao in the future, it is the same if we want to take off. We need to borrow the wind to fly. This is the same principle.

Take this principle as a metaphor for life. If you want to succeed in your career, you need capital, and capital is your style.There are many young people who want to do this or that. After talking for a long time, do you have the capital?If you don't have any money, you just have no wind, so of course you can't fly.Then you can obediently meditate at home!How good not to fly!If you want to fly, you must cultivate this wind power. The stronger the wind power, the higher you can fly.

"A good wind sends me to Qingyun by virtue of its strength", and borrowing the strength of the other party to achieve one's own goals is the essence of the Eastern strategy.Sun Tzu once said: "Those who make good use of soldiers will no longer be in service, and their food will not last for three years. They will be used for the country. Because the food is given to the enemy, the army will have enough food." Introduced his famous thought of "Being food to the enemy".This idea emphasizes that we must learn to "borrow strength" from the enemy and transform the enemy's strength into our own strength.

Liu Bei can be regarded as a model of being good at borrowing from others and taking advantage of power, which is also the secret of his success.

(End of this chapter)