Buddha crossing a predestined person: Dharma and wisdom in life

Chapter 71 Cultivating a Heart of Charity with the Buddha’s Mind——Being Compassionate and Kind (5)
Australia's number one young politician, John Brogdon, known as the "future prime minister", was forced to announce his resignation because of his extraordinary gaffe at the reception, destroying his promising future. The 37-year-old Brogdon was favored by all parties in Australia before, and believed that he was most likely to stand out in the 2007 national election and become Australia's young prime minister.

Brogdon misses the opportunity to live up to the old adage that "it comes out of your mouth."Three weeks ago, when he attended the reception held by the Australian Hotel Association, because his long-time political opponent Bob Barr had just resigned, he was in a good mood and drank six bottles of beer in one go. He flirted with a blond woman and then joked that Barr's Malaysian wife was a "mail order bride".

Barr was very dissatisfied with Brogdon's words: "I can't accept his apology, because his words not only caused great emotional harm to my wife Helena, but also deeply hurt my wife. other citizens of the same background".Barr's wife, Helena, came to Australia from Malaysia to study at the age of 17. She graduated from the University of Sydney and later became a successful businessman with a strong reputation in Australian politics for her enthusiasm.

Australian Prime Minister Howard strongly condemned Brogdon's remarks: "It is a big mistake to say that. I know Helena very well. She is a very generous and enthusiastic person. Such remarks should never be said."

Later, at a hastily held press conference that day, Brogordon said with embarrassment that he apologized for his "inappropriate behavior" and would resign as leader of the Liberal Party, which also meant that he lost the chance to become Australia's prime minister. Opportunity.

In ordinary social activities, normal people sometimes do this one or two times, but the word "fast" must have passed by in a flash, and the next thing is "unhappy".Let me give you a simple example: when you are queuing up to pay at the supermarket, the line moves very slowly, and there is an old lady in front of the cashier, who spends a long time counting the change given to her by the cashier. Well, while you feel sorry for the wasted time, and wait patiently for a long time, you may finally be unable to hold back and let out a hysterical roar.

Just like a person will get goose bumps after sneezing, showing off a quick tongue is actually a form of catharsis for physiological pleasure.The difference is that the pleasure of sneezing is purely physiological, but the quickness of the tongue is mixed with a strong psychological color.In this sense, in order to overcome the problem of being quick to talk, we must work hard on the usual self-psychological adjustment.

This is like the mood of the onlookers and spectators at that time, and it is also a way of life.For example, Company A sues Company B for infringing its intellectual property rights, and there are several factions watching the excitement.Some hope that Company A will lose, and some hope that Company A will win.In the end, Company A gave up the lawsuit, and the two parties resolved the issue peacefully.It's a pity that those who like to watch the excitement lose the inexplicable pleasure because there is no excitement to watch.

Those who are quick to talk for a while also have the meaning of watching and watching the excitement psychologically.His mouth is itchy, if you don't let him vent, won't that mouth be more itchy?As the saying goes: Don't do to others what you don't want yourself to do to yourself.Many things cannot be solved by seeking pleasure on your own, it will only make things worse.

Think twice about everything, and speaking is no exception. Think before you speak, and make sure that you will not hurt others before speaking. Only then can you speak out, and you can be respected and recognized by others.

Being low-key in speech is another important quality of being a human being. When talking with others, you must not let people hear that you are arrogant, look down on others, teach others, or be sarcastic.Even if you have made certain achievements in your career, or have some special advantages, you must not be arrogant, arrogant, think you are superior to others, sing high-profile everywhere, always put on your status, say what you want, just say what you want. If you are happy with yourself and don't care about other people's feelings, sooner or later you will hurt yourself because of your aphasia.When you have to clarify the problem, you can't say everything. The everlasting police motto of "too much talk is bound to fall" and "disaster comes from the mouth" still bears witness to its value today.

There is an old joke about a union president calling a meeting of five committees.The time for the meeting has long passed, but only three people came.He sighed and said: "Oh, the one who should have come has not come!" A committee member felt very uncomfortable hearing this, and he thought: Am I the one who shouldn't come?So the committee member quietly left.Seeing this, the chairman of the trade union sighed again: "Oh, you shouldn't have left!" Hearing what the chairman said, the remaining two committee members mistakenly thought that they were the ones who should have left but did not, so they all left in a fit of anger.It can be seen that just because of inappropriate words, not only the meeting failed, but also people were offended.The shadow left by the trade union chairman's tongue on the other party's heart may not be calmed down in a short time.

Words are the clothes of articles, and words are the clothes of personal culture and character. There are many people who are well-dressed and look noble and gorgeous, but it’s okay if they don’t speak. It is not uncommon for a little bit of admiration to disappear immediately.It is a pity that some people are not bad in learning and character, but they are careless for a while, and they don't know how to correct themselves.Playful but not elegant vulgar slang, people find it fresh and interesting when they first hear it, and occasionally learn to say it, it becomes a habit after a long time, and the result is that it comes out casually.Just imagine what kind of resentment people would have if those words were heard in a social arena?People who are not used to saying this kind of thing will feel embarrassed when they hear it.

A beast with a long tongue cannot speak, and a man with a short tongue should not speak.People who say they don't care care the most.

In our daily work and life, there are many words that we do not have to say, so there is no need to talk or talk nonsense. Some words may not be beneficial if they are well spoken, or they will cause a lot of right and wrong.

Don't care about the past, forgetting is a blessing

Let's first look at what the Buddha said about suffering and happiness:

All suffering is greater than the body, and we suffer from this body because of a single thought of greed.As a result, all kinds of gains and losses, joys and sorrows are caused.If we continue to be greedy for glory and profit, when will our gains and losses, bitterness and joy be lost.The Buddha asked us to practice the four foundations of mindfulness, that is: "Consider the impurity of the body, contemplate the suffering as suffering, contemplate the impermanence of the mind, and contemplate the non-self of the dharma." But we are often confused.It’s as if we feel so comfortable scratching after being bitten by mosquitoes, but we don’t know that it’s just our self-paralysis when we suffer, and we forget that we were originally comfortable and comfortable when we were not bitten by mosquitoes.

The "Dharma Sentence Sutra" says: The Buddha only treed for the Lonely Garden Vihara in the country of Sravasti.From time to time, four new monks went to play games under the nai tree.Nai Hua Rong Mao has a good color and fragrance.Because of the saying.What is the best thing in the world.One person said that the moon in mid-spring is full of trees and flowers, and it is the most fun to play in the wilderness; another person said that the clan gatherings are intertwined with wine, music and singing and dancing are the most joyful; It is the happiest thing for those who walk in and out of the light to show their attention. One person said that it is the happiest thing for wives and concubines to be upright and brightly colored, and to indulge in the fragrance and fragrance freely, as the Buddha knows.That is to say.What you talk about is the way of worrying and fearing danger, not the way of eternal safety.All things decline in spring, autumn and winter, clansmen and relatives should part when they are happy, treasures, cars and horses are divided into five families, wives and concubines are the basis of love and hatred.Love and joy beget worry, greed begets fear.No greed, no worries, no fear.Ordinary people live in the world and attract resentment and misfortune, and there is no limit to the fear of endangering one's life and destroying one's family.Three ways, eight difficulties, endless pains and endless sufferings, this is what the monks of the Four New Schools heard and said.The mind is enlightened and the mind is cut off.I am ashamed and repent and seek truth with all my heart.Aim to do nothing and not be greedy for glory and profit.Arhat said.

All kinds of wealth, beauty, etc. described in the scriptures make people feel comfortable, which is no different from the comfort of being scratched after being bitten by a mosquito.

"Dharma Sentence Sutra" says: There are four monks in Zhiyuan Jingshe discussing with each other: what is the most suffering in the world, one word of lust, one word of hunger and thirst, one word of anger, and one word of fear.There is no end to arguing together.Buddha knows.Go to what he asked.To white Buddha.The Buddha said: What you talk about does not focus on suffering.There is no more suffering in the world than being pregnant.Hunger, thirst, cold, heat, anger, lust, lust, resentment, and misfortunes all come from the body.The source of suffering for the husband.The source of disaster.Worrying and worrying.The Three Realms are creeping and killing each other.I and I are bound to life and death, and all die by death.If you want to die, you should seek quiescence.Concentrate on staying upright without thinking.It is the happiest thing to attain Nirvana.In the past, a monk went to the mountains to learn Taoism.From time to time, there are four birds, pigeons, black snakes and deer attached to the left and right.Travel during the day to ask for food, and return to the night at night.One night, I asked myself about the suffering in the world.Pigeon words.Lust is blazing and careless.It's not unavoidable to be in danger.Wu Yan.When hungry and thirsty, the body is weak, the eyesight is dim, and the mind is restless.Throwing oneself into the snare and losing one's life is inevitable.Snake words.Anger and hatred do not avoid closeness and estrangement.It can also kill and commit suicide.Lu Yan.Often afraid of hunters and wolves and tigers.It seems to run to the bank of the pit with a sound.The horror of this word is suffering.The monk sighed.There is nothing wrong with suffering in the world.

The Buddha’s thousands of scriptures tell us how to get rid of suffering and find happiness, and he has tried hard to persuade us to practice this and that, but we can’t quickly understand the Buddha’s good intentions like the ancients, and we complain that the Buddha’s time is far away. Not for modern people.Therefore, through self-cultivation, people should gradually expand the mind of gains and losses, dilute the mind of pain and happiness, and reduce worries until they are liberated.

There is a movie called "Kekexil", which is a very beautiful and mysterious name.It is a very clean place on earth.From Tibetan, it means beautiful grass and beautiful girl.But what makes people feel uneasy is that there is an endangered animal here-Tibetan antelope, a group of hunters who are confused by money, and ecological justice who fight against them.The film shows such a mysterious and beautiful place, Hoh Xil, a series of shocking documentary stories from the eyes of a reporter from Beijing.There are no carved scenes, but people with clean hearts live in such a place. Due to the destruction of the ecology, a large number of nomads lost their precious grasslands. Without the guarantee of life, they can only cast their evil eyes on the Tibetan antelope.

Ritai is a Tibetan demobilized soldier. He leads a group of his brothers to protect this virgin land of nature.In the struggle to protect the Tibetan antelope and fight against hunters, almost all the troops were wiped out in this vast land.Ritai was finally killed by hunters.No money, no manpower, no guns.On the way to cross and arrest the criminals, they were all buried in the place closest to the sky due to the harsh climate and geographical environment, as well as the inhumanity of the criminals.It is such a simple and direct story that has brought strong shock and uneasiness to people's hearts.After the film ended, the subtitles showed that the local protection team had been disbanded, and the state had established a nature reserve in Hoh Xil with relevant management agencies.This is a true story.

When enjoying the movie, the exposure of the real lens makes people feel a deep pain.The Ritai brothers are played by Tibetan actors.There is no affectation and deliberate rendering of pen and ink.It just moved the reality to the camera, allowing people to truly experience the cruelty of such a life and the kindness and justice of those brothers.Maybe we will doubt that such a person will really be so persistent or have no regrets?Even the price of life?Is such that.Anything can happen in urban culture, but it seldom happens when there is no benefit. Everyone is dedicated to contributing something to the world.So when watching this film, people feel a kind of pain, a pain from the depths of the soul.

There are conflicts, struggles, and love between people, which are reflected in both films.Justice and evil, abandonment and choice, tolerance and rejection, greetings and nostalgia, as well as fading love and pursuit.Perhaps the purpose of the movie is not to let us see how exciting or pitiful such a person lives.They are not calling for a kind of pity and sympathy, but let us forget the pain in this reality.Life must go on, despite the ups and downs of fate, our hearts should be as clear as lakes on a plateau, and our souls should be higher than the height we stand on.Perhaps we can complain that life is sometimes too dirty and ruthless, but so many lovely people are living peacefully, even dying so peacefully.

Remember the teachings of the masters, we should learn to forget, whether it is suffering or happiness, it is better to forget each other.

There is a kind of happiness called forgetting.There is a legend that there is a kind of soup, after drinking it, you will forget everything.Forget all sorrow, forget all hatred, forget all unhappiness and things you want to forget in memory, of course that also includes forgetting love, forgetting love...

Forget about sorrow, and there will be no sorrow, and you can stretch your frown and worried face.All the injustices and unhappiness in the daily life will go away with forgetting, and people will become clearer, as if the sky covered by dark clouds suddenly turns blue.

Forget about hatred, and stay away from hatred.

The heart is not blinded by hatred. When everything becomes fleeting, people will relax completely, forgiving others and saving themselves.

When you forget love and forget love, you also forget everything you don't want to remember.When you are struggling to love someone, when you are helpless because of a relationship, it is such a great happiness to suddenly forget.

No one can be so free and easy, no one can truly forget!The days of love, hurt, and pain will never be erased, and the passage of time has increased the pain in the memory.Make the pain clearer, make the heart more haggard, make love turn into hate, love into resentment...

Learn to forget, also learn to forgive yourself and save yourself.Since you have loved without regret, separation always has its helplessness.When a person goes from naive and ignorant to thinking that he can see through the red world and the society, it is all a mental journey.In fact, it is not the case. Too much is said in writing, but too little is really understood.Complaints about others, self-pity and self-pity are all human nature, and most people are selfish.

Life is only a few decades, why bother to be so tired, why not learn to forget?Blindly pursue perfection, and in this world, there is no perfect thing at all. Perfection is a kind of defect, and only a flawed thing is truly perfect.Life is even more so. People who have no regrets in life are not happy.So the pursuit of perfection is actually the pursuit of a perfect state of mind.

When a person's life comes to an end, he will go through the cycle of five grains; when he is reincarnated as a human and passes through the Naihe Bridge, he will drink something called Mengpo soup, forget the memory of the previous life, and become happy in this life .Does it have to be at that time to really forget?What is happiness?Where is the happiness?People have been searching hard, searching, happiness is actually in that moment of looking back, happiness is actually in that forgetting.

There is a kind of happiness called forgetting; there is a feeling called love; there is a feeling called hatred; there is a feeling called disgust; there is also a feeling called hurt.Forget all the unforgettable pain, forget all the heart-wrenching feelings, that will be the greatest happiness...

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