The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 11 Jian Weizhi: How to Understand Men from Behavior and Posture (1)
Looking at men from three distances

1. Look at men from a distance
Stand a hundred meters away, watch coldly, watch quietly, it is best if he can't see you, but you can observe him.Look at the way he walks, the way he rides a bicycle, and the way he walks on uneven roads.If it is raining lightly, see if he will run away immediately; if there is a thief in front, see if he will run away; put a wallet on the side of the road, see if he will pick it up secretly when no one is around; See if he can hold the blind man's crutch and send the blind man through danger.If you have the heart, you can see a man's temperament and see if he is your ideal friend.

2. Look at men from a medium distance
Stand ten meters away, watch silently, watch quietly.Look at the color of his clothes, whether it is trendy or traditional; look at the way he reads, whether he is flustered or dedicated; look at his demeanor after being wronged or when he encounters difficulties; look at how he eats, how drunk he is, and how he plays online games See how he observes the woman, whether he glances at her in surprise or keeps staring at her.If you have a destiny, you can see a man's inner color, the city's belly, and feel a man's strength.

3. Look at men up close
Stand at a meter or so, and look genuinely, eagerly.Have a talk with him about love and career, and sing a romantic song with him.Walk with him on a thorny hillside, see if he cuts his hands, is he still protecting your body; wade with him a small river of unknown depth, see if he frowns, and holds your arm.If you really have a heart, you can see what kind of man is only suitable to be your friend, and what kind of man should be your lover.A man looks majestic, but when he shows his emotions in front of a woman, he will become very weak in an instant.He will entrust life and death in the hands of women, and follow her thoughts.

how to judge a man by his behavior
If you want to understand a man, besides spending time talking with him and understanding his personality, you can also see him through some simple and non-verbal details.Psychologist Dr. Meyer Blow once said: "Just by reading his clothes and behavior, you can be sure about his nature with absolute certainty."

A man is not only a child who will never grow up, but also a smooth and sophisticated old man.But through his behavior, the truth can be seen.

1. A man full of buzzwords
I often see such men in public places, such as restaurants and subways: they are full of economics and talk endlessly, from the US election to the inside story of the Iraq war, from stock trends to scandals in the entertainment industry, they know everything and catch everything.At this time, there must be a woman who is not bad in his audience, which is the passionate motivation for his speech.Even if such a man is alone with you, he may not give you many opportunities to speak.He wants to keep himself at the center all the time, and he can't bear to be the audience.In fact, such a man lived a very tiring life, and in terms of content, apart from what he said, there would be no more in his stomach.

2. A man who cares about everything

A friend once told such a story, saying that her ex-boyfriend was not short of money, knowledgeable, and from a good family background, but his only shortcoming was that he was too fussy.For example, if two people go out to eat, of course they can't make a mistake in checking the price when paying the bill, but he is too scheming.He obviously had the VIP card of that hotel, but he didn't show it when paying the bill, but had to wait until the bill came.He said that if you show it first, the discount will be fake.To buy a birthday gift, he would travel across the city, visit countless stores, and shop around, only to spend a mere one or two hundred yuan.Finally, the girlfriend couldn't bear it anymore, and after much consideration, she ended her three-year relationship with him.She said that it is justifiable to be careful without money, but if you have money and care about everything, it means that there is a problem with the quality, and this quality cannot be improved.

3. A man who stands up for everything

It's hateful for a man not to love you, but conversely, it's also hateful if a man loves you too much.This kind of scene is familiar to everyone: the station is overcrowded, the bus is coming, and some men take the lead, bravely rushing to the front, in order to grab a seat for their girlfriend.After the victory, they looked at their girlfriends with joyful expressions. The stupid women may take it for granted, but the discerning and intelligent women should sneer at it.It's better to avoid this kind of men who don't pay attention to public morality and lack basic human qualities. After marriage, it is often this kind of people who turn their faces and deny others.

4. Glib but caring man
Some men are naughty, they are very good at pleasing women, they are always ready to tell you sweet words, and they are always ready to send you fashionable things.In the eyes of ordinary people, these people are typical playboys, but they are not necessarily.You have to observe and distinguish such a man carefully.

Mr. F is a well-known "little slicker" in a public relations company, who messes with whoever he sees, especially women.It made the women in the company love and hate him.Once, the secretary of the company brought his two-year-old daughter to the company, and Mr. F liked it very much.Since then, Mr. F has continued to buy things for the little girl.He said that he was not going to get married and would marry him when the little girl grew up.After that, the secretary divorced and said that if she remarried, she would not marry unless Mr. F.At this time, Mr. F's face was blushing.It was only then that everyone discovered that Mr. F actually had a precious love under his slippery appearance.

Men in modern society are like this, a little bragging, a little vain, and a little cunning, but there may be a real side hidden in the bragging, an aggressive side in the vanity, and a smart side in the slickness. After "seeing flowers in the fog", the key is to see the core clearly.

How to see a man from his clothes

If you want to observe and judge a man, in addition to starting from observing his behavior as mentioned above, you may wish to see through the following "windows" on his appearance, and maybe you will get what you want to know from them.

1. Men's shoes
You can tell from a man's shoes whether he has a lot of confidence and whether he cares about the details.A man who loves shoes must love women very much, and he will take good care of the woman he loves.Therefore, it is much safer to choose a man who loves shoes.On the contrary, a man who doesn't like shoes must not care about the subtleties.So can he pay attention to your birthday, anniversary, and your favorite perfume brand and other small things?

2. Men's hats

In sports venues or on weekend leisure trips, I always like a man wearing a baseball cap. He looks very fashionable and casual. He should be a sunny man who loves sports and has an open mind.There are some middle-aged men who sometimes like to wear a bowler hat as their outfit. Such people may want to leave the impression of a stable, old-fashioned gentleman.

However, today's men generally seldom wear a hat to adorn themselves.But if you meet a man wearing a hat by chance, you might as well try to figure it out more, and get a glimpse of his "true feelings" and taste.However, don't rule out the possibility that men wearing hats are likely to be bald.

3. Watches
A watch is to a man what a necklace is to a woman.A watch is the most important accessory for a man.Once wearing a watch with individuality, taste and masculinity, even if the appearance is not outstanding, or a man dressed in ordinary clothes, he will get a kind of invincible self-confidence and infinite power from it. Careful women can know his passion and strength at a glance. masculinity.

4. Jewelry
Nowadays, more and more men wear jewelry.Heart of beauty in everyone.But the man you are dating is covered in pure gold jewelry, can you not feel sick after seeing it?Perhaps most women will feel the same: men who wear thick gold necklaces and bracelets that look like nouveau riche are simply vulgar.If a man knows how to dress, he will add a little decoration to the subtleties such as cuff buttons and bow ties, so that the effect can show the man's taste.

How to see a man from walking posture
A man's heart can be seen from his walking posture. Is this true or false? Is it so suspenseful?
Observing people from the "walking posture" has been practiced in all countries of the world since ancient times.Watching how a man walks, and seeing his psychology from his posture, you will definitely find it interesting.

1. A man with a quick pace

A man who walks in a hurry, no matter whether he has something to do or not, no matter how far or near the place to go to work, even if he has plenty of time, he still walks in a hurry, turning his feet very fast, as if he is afraid of missing the "rush exam".This type of man is a typical activist, most of them are energetic, shrewd and capable, and dare to face various challenges in real life.

For this kind of men, you should try to discover their advantages, such as: particularly strong adaptability, especially the emphasis on efficiency in everything, never procrastinating, etc.

2. A man with a slow pace

These men always walk slowly, just like people often say "for fear of trampling ants to death".No matter how urgent others say, he doesn't seem to care.This is typical realism.They pay attention to prudence in everything, "think twice before acting", and never aim too high. The situation of "a toad wants to eat swan meat" will never happen to this kind of person.

If they are promoted and valued in their careers, it may not be that they have any "background", but the conditions created by their pragmatic spirit.

3. The Man Leaning Forward
Some men are accustomed to leaning forward when they walk and even look like a cat. This is not because they walk faster and need to change the center of gravity of their body to balance themselves. On the contrary, you will find that most of their steps are actually very stable.

Most of these people have a gentle and introverted personality, and they tend to blush when they see beautiful women, but they are modest and generally have good self-cultivation.

They never talk sweetly, and cherish their friendship and feelings very much, but they are usually unsmiling, and when they get along with others, they are also indifferent to "borrowing rice for other chaff", making it difficult to communicate with others.But once they become best friends, they will never change until death, especially when there are disagreements or breakups in love or marriage, they always hold the concept of "I would rather be betrayed by others than I will never betray others".That's why they are often bored with life, because they always suffer more than other types of people, and they don't want to confide in others, and they are sullen all by themselves.

4. Man in Military Pace

Walking is like doing military drills, with neat steps and regular swinging of hands.It looks very contrived to us, but they are so coordinated.This man has strong willpower and is very focused on his beliefs.The goals they choose are generally not affected by changes in the external environment and things.

This kind of men are often the most pleasing to women and the most annoying to women, because once they fall in love with a woman, they will stalk and chase after her.As long as the woman agrees to him, he is willing to pull a rickshaw to pick her up every day.

If this type of people can give full play to their strengths, they will definitely achieve a lot, because their dedication to career is incomparable to other types of people.But if your boss is this kind of person, life will be difficult, and many times you will "walk around without food".Because they are generally more "dictatorial", and sometimes even sacrifice anything to achieve their personal ideals and goals.

5. Pace the man
A man with this gait is very steady.They like to keep calm.They believe that the most important thing in the face of any difficult thing is to keep a clear mind, and do not want to be influenced by any emotional things to influence their judgment and analysis.

This kind of man is respected by others for his rationality and self-control in front of others.They embraced it, but kept it secret.They are usually very careful in doing things, and try to keep their words and demeanor as gentle and gentle as possible, and they absolutely don't want others to think they are vulgar.

This kind of man also feels tired sometimes.In order to maintain their dignity, it is difficult for them to smile in front of others and never show emotion, even a little bit.This is their rule.

They exercise strict control over their physical form.Although others fear them, they themselves feel oppressed when they are alone.Because this kind of person has a deep experience in the world, they generally understand the hardships and warmth of the world very well.

How to see a man by color
Some people say that color is a "barometer" of a man's temperament, so do you know how to deal with a man by "watching his face and his color"?

1. The man in red - the favorite to open the screen

Men who like red are passionate, cheerful, tactful and decent, and very popular.As soon as he gets to know you, he can't wait to leave you a business card or a phone number, and he likes to say "just say something if you have something to say" when leaving.He is a peacock who likes to show off, and he will constantly show his ability and financial resources in front of you in order to win your heart.Because he always likes you, your heart is most likely to be moved by him.

In fact, this kind of man often speaks better than he does, is hyperactive and impatient, lacks composure, and tends to make a lot of money and get little money emotionally.Therefore, when you get along with him, you must listen to his words and watch his actions.

2. Black man——raised in the deep palace and difficult to recognize
Men Who Like Black is a western philosophy book in the 18th century, which is profound and difficult to understand.He has an introverted personality, doesn't speak much, and is often thoughtful.He doesn't show his heart easily in front of you.He is very seductive to you because you want to know him so badly.But he always looks like he doesn't know what he is in front of you, cold and profound.But once he says "I love you", then congratulations, he is really in love with you.

If you fall in love with this kind of man, you have to work hard and take the initiative to offer love.Because this kind of man, in terms of career and love, without Bole's attention, is often "raised in the deep palace and hard to know".

3. The gray man - the old fisherman in the sea of ​​love

Men who like gray know how to play with their wrists best.On the one hand, he is elegant and hidden, like a Middle Eastern beauty wrapped in a veil, or a goddess peak in misty rain, which makes you feel mysterious; on the other hand, he is humorous and generous, decisive and neat, and quite manly.This kind of man not only makes you have the desire to "lift the veil to see the truth", but also his concentration and special taste make you feel elusive.Just when you are happy for him and worried about him, he may be in a state of "watching the fire from the other side".In fact, he is an old fisherman in the pool of love, and he is patiently grasping the measure and the heat, quietly waiting for you to take the bait.

4. The white man - the chameleon in love
Men who like white are suave, romantic, and exquisite, and they are the central figures in the public.But he is very disguised, because he will definitely not be as simple as a blank sheet of paper, allowing you to see everything at a glance.On the contrary, men who like white have too many secrets in their hearts.Reflex psychologists believe that men who like white want to use white to express their innocence.In fact, he is deliberately dressing up to hide his inner secrets, so that you think he is innocent and cute.Therefore, you must know that although white paper is most suitable for splashing ink and expressing emotions, white is also the easiest to be stained with any color.

5. Blue Man—Love Loach

A man who likes blue is like the blue sea, full of waves and waves, full of emotion, wide range of interests, and full of romanticism.He uses just the right amount of charisma to capture your heart and make you fall for him before you know it.But this kind of man tends to "eat what is in the bowl and think about what is in the pot". Once you fall in love with him, he will try to get out.This kind of man is "love loach".Some people assert that more than 50.00% of men who like melancholy blue are "Chen Shimei".This sentence may not have a scientific basis, but it is very popular.Therefore, when interacting with this kind of man, on the one hand, you should not be disturbed by this assertion; on the other hand, you also need to be wary.

6. Colorless man - a glass of boiled water

A man without a specific color preference is like a glass of boiled water, bland, without characteristics, and has no specific choice in emotion.However, this kind of man does not require you to measure and be wary of him.Once he has you, there is no "she" to ask for.The downside is that you may lack a little romance and fun.This is exactly the characteristic of boiled water. Although the taste is average, it is the most natural and healthy.

How to see a man from the drinking table

From the attitude of a man towards a woman at the wine table, you will know what kind of man he is.

1. A man who desperately persuades you to drink, lest you will not be drunk, and wants to see you drunk
This kind of man is usually unfavorable, first of all, he has no grace, and second, he must have plans for you, either for money, or profit, or sex, or a perverted psychology: he likes to watch women get drunk.Either way is not advisable, this kind of person cannot be a friend.

2. A man who doesn’t persuade you to drink, and doesn’t care how much you drink
In his opinion, there is no gender on the wine table, only the amount of alcohol, drink as much as you can.He often did his best himself, but rarely got drunk.This kind of man is often quite sensible and can be cited as a friend.You can learn a lot from him, or be a good business partner.This kind of man is a sensible man and is trustworthy.It’s just that your relationship is often like tasting wine, just a taste, if there is no fate, there will never be a story between you, it will be plain; if there is a fate, it must be an earth-shattering love.

3. A man who will not persuade you to drink, but pays attention to your every move
He doesn't want you to drink too much in his heart, but it's hard to show it in front of everyone.His eyes will follow you and care about you.This kind of man is a man of temperament, and he may still like you very much.If you like him, you can naturally associate with him, and often a beautiful story begins here.He will spoil you and love you, but he will not interfere with you roughly and give you full freedom.But if you don't like him, stay away from him.He is a good man, don't hurt him.

4. The man who not only refuses to persuade you to drink, but also stops you from drinking
Of course, this kind of man has a certain friendship with you, or has a good impression of you.This kind of man is very graceful, he would rather get drunk than let you drink too much; he would rather offend his friends than make a woman wronged.Such a man is of course worth dating, he is very personable and heroic, but don't fall in love with him.He is just suitable to be a big brother, and will definitely give you some help at certain times, but as a lover, you will be very tired.

5. A man who drinks very little but likes to drink, gets drunk when he drinks, and makes a lot of ugly faces when drunk, even a man who touches you

(End of this chapter)