The Subconscious Mind and the Sixth Sense

Chapter 43 The Greatest Prophet - Prediction (3)
Later, the first young man was a construction worker until his old age, while the other young man became a famous architectural designer through his own efforts.From this point of view, the labeling effect is obvious. It affects the management of people's self-image, and produces great differences in behavior, and even affects their entire life.

During World War II, due to wartime needs, the United States decided to organize prisoners in prisons to fight on the front line.This caused great controversy. It was considered a big joke to send prisoners to the front line. Later, the U.S. government sent several psychologists to train and mobilize the prisoners before the war, and went to the front line with them to fight.During the training period, the psychologists put special emphasis on the prisoners, requiring them to write a letter to their closest relatives every week.The experts asked the prisoners to copy carefully and send it to their dearest ones.The content is uniformly drawn up by psychologists, and it describes how well the prisoners behaved in prison, how they received education, how they reformed themselves, and so on.

The psychologists labeled each prisoner as having performed well and rehabilitated by writing letters to imply, which stimulated the positive beliefs of the prisoners.

Three months later, the prisoners went to the front line, and the result was very surprising. The performance of this group of prisoners on the battlefield was not inferior to that of the regular army. In the battle, they obeyed the command and fought bravely just as their letter said.

It can be seen that the label effect is very powerful.

Negative label means that the label posted is negative information, and what it conveys is a negative evaluation.Each of us has experienced failures and setbacks, and we are more likely to hear negative comments about ourselves from people around us. These experiences and comments will have different degrees of impact on our self-confidence.After several failures, some people put a negative label on themselves, thinking that they are indeed what the "label" positions them to be.In reality, negative labels will also make some college students negatively treat study, work and life.

An excellent baseball player went to the prison to give a speech. He told the prisoners in the prison the story of his growth: when he was a child, he played baseball for the first time, and his father’s face was swollen due to excessive force and unskilled technique. Seeing his father covering his face in pain, he became anxious. He thought he would be scolded by his father, but unexpectedly, his father praised him and said: "Well done, my dear child, it is undeniable that you will definitely become A good baseball player." So, the baseball player loves baseball.However, the second time he played baseball, he broke the glass at home, and his father said to him: "Well played, I saw the shadow of the future world champion!"

The story caused a commotion and wonder, the prisoners whispered, and one prisoner stood up and said: "I have had the same experience as you, but... my father did not praise me, but said angrily: 'You are always Make trouble for me, you will definitely be a little bastard in the future!'”

When a person is drawn to a certain conclusion by others, just like a product is labeled, he will perform impression management, shape himself according to the label, and make his behavior consistent with the content of the label.This phenomenon is caused by labeling, so it is called "labeling effect".The same is playing baseball, being labeled as a "baseball player" and being labeled as a "little bastard" will lead to different psychological cues. In the end, one is a very good baseball player, and the other is a prisoner. Prisoner.

Negative labels can lead to the stereotyping of thinking responses, and stereotypes make individuals hold stable views on certain people or things due to social influence.It is formed by previous mental activities, and it is a tendency to solve problems in a habitual way in people's thinking activities. It is an indirect and general reflection of previous experience and affects people's subsequent mental activity trends. , with relative maturity and stability.Once a stereotype is formed, it is difficult to break, and it will have a great impact on people's cognitive process.

In real life, if we pay a little attention, we will hear a lot of words such as: "This kid can't sing", "He can't cook", "He has no leadership ability at all, he can't be a leader", "He is always timid. ""He's a very depressed person" "She's always so anxious that she can't do anything well" etc.In fact, these words are labeling people, thinking that this person will be like this, and his thinking, behavior, and physical stress response will be very coordinated to make corresponding feeling behaviors.

Each of us will play many social roles, such as children, parents, colleagues, leaders, etc. Therefore, when we were young, we were labeled by parents, relatives, and teachers; when we grow up, we were labeled by colleagues, friends, and customers.

If a person is labeled more positive, uplifting, excellent, and lucky...then he accepts most positive hints and tends to become excellent and optimistic.Conversely, when a person is labeled as negative, unpromising, mischievous, mediocre, etc., his thoughts and attitudes are likely to become negative, which will lead to his later life. It is also easy to encounter more ups and downs.

In life, when someone is labeled as "I am not good at something", this stereotyped thinking will cause him to have a cognitive bias, and feel that no matter how hard he tries, he will not be able to do it.Also, many of us label ourselves like "I think I'm an introvert", "I get sick when I see cockroaches", "I get a headache when I smell leeks"...these self-descriptive words don't matter Right or wrong, reflection can even lead to a better understanding of oneself.However, if used incorrectly, it can be detrimental to personal development.For example, if you label yourself as "I am introverted", you will often unconsciously reduce communication with others, and then become less and less verbal.

You have accepted many adjectives given to you by others, you are still yourself, and you still have your own sadness, loneliness and joy. When these real sorrows, loneliness and joys come, those labels borrowed from others seem so absurd!

How to do it?It's very simple, use positive cues to affirm yourself and encourage yourself to change.For example, you say that you are average, but the world is full of people like you. If this is the case, what do you have to feel inferior?Although you are ordinary, you have at least one advantage that others cannot match, such as being down-to-earth and not causing trouble.

Blindly labeling yourself and others will make people's attitudes towards things deviate.Don't forget that some deviations are serious, even fatal.We must move beyond the mental cues of labeling, of "stamping" ourselves and others without analysis.If you like to put negative labels on others, it means that you have nothing to worry about; if you accept negative labels from others without filtering, then you are likely to be "effected" by the label.

Similarly, this labeling method of psychological suggestion can also free people from depression and maintain a healthy and happy mood: find a quiet and comfortable environment, relax the body and mind, and make the mood easier to accept positive hints in a calm state.

Imagine that you are in a luxurious and warm celebration banquet, you have everything you dream of, and you are greeted with flowers and applause from everyone; let yourself be completely immersed in the ideal of positive excitement, and fully enjoy the happiness; let all The senses of "sight, hearing, smell, touch, taste" and even the sixth sense are all involved; fully experience the positive emotions brought about by this satisfactory result, experience the confidence, satisfaction, fulfillment and love in it, and this Satisfy with all the good things that come with the result.

Slowly move away from this satisfying outcome so that you can plant the seeds of hope in your own mind.This is the same reason that when we sometimes inject negative emotions into ourselves, it will make us depressed, regretful, restless and miserable.

We must learn to put a positive label on every day, and learn to release ourselves when we are under great pressure, so as to become the happy self we want to truly be. "Being yourself" means being healthier, but the road to "becoming yourself" will not be smooth.It means freedom, but it also means total self-responsibility - "I choose, I take full responsibility".

A person's internal evaluation system is often shaken, and some of the most common obstacles need to be overcome to stay firmly on this path.Because of growing up with conditioned positive attention, we can only show "good", and thus develop many personas.When a person walks on the road of "being himself", he will gradually move away from the unreal self, although there will be a lot of hesitation and concerns.However, as long as there is a clear positive label in my heart, all forces will tend to what I desire deep in my heart.

In short, we should realize that our life is actually a process of continuous improvement, and labeling ourselves negatively will only limit our own development.Regarding the negative labels that others put on us, what we have to do is to let ourselves out of the trap formed by the labels and dare to stick to our beliefs.who I am?What do I really like?what do i want to doWho do I want to be?Furthermore, strive to forge yourself into a real hero.

Follow your feelings: bid farewell to tangled life

[Ordinary people have an external psychological evaluation mechanism, while excellent people have an internal psychological evaluation mechanism. Ordinary people look for the direction of life from the eyes of others.Excellent people look for answers from themselves, always listen to their inner voice, and obey the command of intuition. 】

"Shall we go for lunch together?"

"Okay."

"Then what shall we eat?"

"I'll do whatever I want, it depends on what you want to eat."

"I can do whatever I want."

"Go ahead!"

"Don't be polite, let's talk."

"Japanese food? Hunan food? Sichuan food?"

"KFC? Beef noodles? Or fried vegetables?"

"I don't care, you see."

"I can do it."

"Me too."

"Then you choose."

"I'm whatever."

"I can do whatever I want."

……

A maddening dialogue, but one that people often interpret.

Nowadays, more and more abundant social products have brought more and more choices to people, and we have to face countless multiple-choice questions every day, and more often, these problems require us to make choices.The reason why it is called difficult is not the problem itself, but because there are two or N equivalent choices at the same time.

Choose to eat, choose to shop, choose to make friends...

So, in the face of all kinds of problems, have you ever had such a real experience that you can't trust your own judgment and make a decision?

"I don't know" and "tell me" are the words with the highest rate of export by many people.If the choice is pushed to others in this way, if the other person makes a happy decision, it is okay to be able to distinguish right from wrong, but if the other person is also a household with difficult choices, it will be troublesome.

Many people are often entangled in the choice between A and B, choosing a lover, choosing a job, choosing a place to live, choosing a place to travel... In life, there are often two almost equal choices, and many people often fall into a tangled dilemma. mood.When in a dilemma, there is always a voice saying: "Don't think too much, follow the feeling."

When it comes to feeling, people think it is commonplace, they are quite familiar with it, and they have a comprehensive and clear understanding.

So, do you trust your feelings and follow them?

Jewish philosopher Martin Buber put it this way: You have to start yourself.If you yourself do not go deep into existence with active love, if you do not reveal the meaning of existence to yourself in your own way, then existence will remain meaningless to you.

People often confuse perception with sensation, but in fact, the two are vastly different.Sensation is the reflection of individual properties of things acting on receptors, and the reflection of single information.Perception is the overall reflection of multiple attributes of things acting on receptors. It is the mind that integrates and organizes sensory information to form a relatively stable and clear image.

Perception is subjectively processed, relying on conventional thinking and ideas, relying on previous experience and habits, and relying on stereotyped psychology to process and integrate various sensory information, and finally form a complete image.It is formed by the direct action of things on the receptors.

Most people tend to agree that one must be a rational person, and the feeling is unreliable.So, if you want to be an excellent person, is it really not advisable to follow your feelings?

In fact, "follow the feeling" is indeed a mental model of excellent people.Whether you believe it or doubt it, some people who "follow their feelings" will often walk out an amazing and unique path.

Ordinary people have an external psychological evaluation mechanism, while excellent people have an internal psychological evaluation mechanism.Excellent people look for answers from themselves, always listen to their inner voice, and obey the command of intuition.Ordinary people look for the direction of life from other people's eyes and mouths, seek support from other people's evaluations, reject or ignore their inner experience and feelings, and easily get lost in the meticulous and wavering rationality when making decisions.The difference between ordinary people and excellent people comes from the source of will motivation.

The famous American psychologist Maslow found that being able to follow the lead of feelings is a typical characteristic of "self-actualizing people", "they can easily see reality, and they are similar to animal or child-like receptivity and spontaneity. , indicating an extraordinary self-awareness of their impulses, desires, opinions, and subjective responses."

People who are open to themselves are also open to others and the world.Such a person, Maslow said, "is capable of appreciating again and again, with awe, joy, wonder, and even ecstatic ecstasy, the original goodness of life with exhilaration and innocence, Saying can be trite and boring."

The famous American psychologist Ken Wilber said in his book "One Taste": "Spirituality is not a theory, but a living experience." This point has been directly pointed out by Zen Buddhism.Zen Master Huangbo Xiyun of the Tang Dynasty said: "All Buddhas and all sentient beings have only one mind, and there is no other way. This mind has never been born or destroyed since the beginning. It is neither green nor yellow. Existence or absence, regardless of old or new, neither long nor short, neither big nor small, beyond any limited number of famous quotes and traces, treat it with the body, and be good when you think about it."

The objective things in this world are there in the first place, but people live different lives. In fact, it is the feeling of the world formed by their own thoughts.

If a person follows his truest feeling and begins to be himself, he will find that besides hostility, greed, and anger, he also has love, tenderness, consideration and cooperation; besides laziness and indifference, he also has passion, enthusiasm , Curiosity... If he can experience these complex emotions of himself in an intimate and accepting manner, he will approach the real world.

Perception is the organic synthesis of multiple senses, and it is our psychological organization and interpretation of multiple sensory information.Our concept of a tree is a kind of perception, and the concept of a car is actually a kind of perception. These perceptions are independent individuals that combine multiple senses organically.We clearly feel the perception, so we should trust the feeling even more.Don't be limited by the judgment of others.Please follow your passion, follow your heart, they will take us where we want to go.

When we are helpless and confused, we might as well ask ourselves how we feel, and try to listen to our inner voice, what is the most real need of our deepest self.After asking yourself, you will have your own answer.

Telepathy: Can only be understood, difficult to explain
[Telepathy is ubiquitous in intimate relationships, and it happens so often that people often ignore its existence. 】

Words such as "telepathy" and "special function" often appear in movies and science fiction books. People are surprised by the visions beyond the scope of thinking, and they often fantasize that if they really have such special functions, What will happen to your own life?

So, does the magical special function of "telepathy" really exist?
Skeptics firmly believe that this invisible and intangible thing is just a fantasy in people's consciousness and is completely unreliable.

In fact, it is not that things that cannot be seen or touched do not exist.Everything in the universe contains energy that cannot be estimated by human beings. More surprises and mysteries are just waiting to be discovered and transformed, and those incredible existences cannot be absolutely denied.

The same goes for telepathy.Before psychologists have given a relatively scientific explanation for this phenomenon, many people think it is a superstition.However, people's attitude towards it is no longer as repulsive as before.

Many pairs of twins have said that they can communicate with each other and convey their emotions without words.The U.S. government hired a telepath in an attempt to gain intelligence telepathically...

So, are these phenomena just mind games, or is telepathy a real thing?
According to research, most of the interesting legends of telepathy so far come from identical twins.However, no one has been able to prove that their experience was not a coincidence.During the 2009 college entrance examination, a rare and interesting incident occurred in a school in Wujin, Jiangsu Province. Six pairs of twins were "high school" together, and the test scores of the six pairs of twins were basically the same.Some twins often make the same choice at different times and environments; some twins often sing the same song or even the same line without warning; some twins often write the same choice when writing a composition. Question... such a phenomenon is very interesting.

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