The Subconscious Mind and the Sixth Sense

Chapter 59 The Deepest Internal Strength—Mind Power (7)
The famous American psychologist Ken Wilber believes that the ego can be happy in temporary attachment, satisfied in imprisonment, and complacent before the screaming fear comes.His point of view really confirms the "ego".

People have the instinct to pursue happiness and satisfaction, but if you really want to let go of these pains, you must learn to live with pain instead of resisting it.Turn the pain into an experience, and after the nirvana of growth, when the pain is reduced to ashes, you can gently brush it away.

"Perseverance" means persistence, obsession, or stubbornness.

Everyone will have the experience of being stuck in something and being unable to extricate themselves, which is said to be "one way to the dark".In fact, persistence is not bad, and many people with this style of behavior finally achieved success.However, what is one step away from "persistence" is stubbornness.And stubbornness is also a very obvious way of expression in "ego".

Two frogs live next to each other, one lives in a deep pool, where it is not easy to be seen; the other lives in a ditch, which has very little water, and there is a road beside it.

The frog who lived in the pond warned his friend, and asked him to change his abode and live with himself, where he would be safer and find abundant food easily.But the frog refused, saying it was difficult to move away from the place he was used to.A few days later, however, a clumsy van drove through the shallow ditch and crushed him to death under its wheels.

Persistence is a good character, and it is the driving force behind many successful people.But "persistence" does not mean "stubbornness".Stubbornness is irrational, and persistence is a decision made after rational analysis.When someone raises warnings about certain aspects in the struggle of life, one must learn to rationally analyze the true meaning of these warnings.Don't give up your goals because of others' wrong persuasion, and don't be stubborn because of the other's kind and correct persuasion.

In psychology, stubbornness is a paranoid personality disorder.Such people are characterized by sensitivity, suspicion, jealousy, high self-esteem, impulsiveness and sophistry, and lack of sense of humor.

Stubbornness is the enemy of interpersonal communication.Stubbornness can be divided into perceptual stubbornness, memory imagery stubbornness, and emotional stubbornness. These psychological phenomena can be combined into one to form a habit. When others break this habit, it will make the individual feel unhappy, uncomfortable, or even distressed. , thus triggering aggressive behavior and showing strong stubbornness.

American psychologist Leon Festinger, when explaining people's obsessive psychology, believes that people will encounter situations where beliefs and reality conflict, which will lead to cognitive imbalance. You will feel uncomfortable, so try to find a way to restore your mental balance.There are two ways to restore balance: one is to admit the facts, and the other is to find a reason to maintain the balance.

For love, if you love too much, you are obsessed.

Heard of many girls who have been caught in a love scam.Onlookers can tell at a glance that the other party has no love for her, but is just lying to her, playing with her feelings, or trying to relieve loneliness, but the girl insists that the other party loves her deeply, so she does not listen to any advice.

Suffering and joy go hand in hand in life, and they are all worth cherishing.Everything changes in order, and if you fail, you will come. Pain is not a punishment, and happiness is not a reward. They are just a taste in life.

A person can let go of the "self-attachment" in his heart, and regard bitter things as blessings and gifts from God for his growth. Even in the face of pain, he will not worry too much.

You must know that in real life, what makes people dizzy is not complicated and trivial work, nor complicated interpersonal relationships, but because they have not figured out what to do, how to do it, and why to do it.If we can develop good work habits, we won't feel so tired.

Let go of "ego attachment", no longer obsessed with fighting for fame and fortune, "do your best and obey the destiny", with this attitude, you will often get results beyond imagination.Accept those complicated jobs, accept those unsatisfactory and troubles, and sort out your mood gently.Accept the reality of yourself and strive for better, but don't demand perfection.Try to appreciate your imperfect appearance, flawed behavior in the world, and imperfect work status.When a person can admit his true colors with peace of mind, he will be extremely relaxed.

Two poor woodcutters collected firewood for a living.When the two found two large bales of cotton in the mountains, they were overjoyed.Cotton is light and expensive, so they decided to go home with cotton on their backs.

Fortunately, the two found another large bundle of cloth on the mountain road home. One of the woodcutters discussed with his companions and planned to drop the cotton and carry the cloth home.The companion shook his head vigorously, he thought that he had already walked a long way with the cotton on his back, and if he left the cotton here, wouldn't it be a waste of all his previous hard work?So insist on not changing the cloth.Moreover, no matter how I look at it, I think cotton is better.So they went back with their own things on their backs.

The weather was not good, and it rained heavily halfway, and there was no shelter from the rain in the open space.To make matters worse, the cotton on the woodcutter's back was too heavy to carry because it had absorbed the rainwater.In the end, he had no choice but to give up cotton and go home empty-handed, missing a good opportunity to make a fortune.

The enlightenment of this story is that at every critical moment in life, we must use wisdom carefully to make the most correct choice. Make the right choice with an open mind.

In the face of stress and depression, it is difficult to release yourself. You might as well put down the work at hand temporarily and take a walk in your spare time. Short-distance travel is an effective way.You can also make more positive and optimistic friends.You know, if a person is always in contact with dull and melancholy people, he will also feel that he becomes very dull and melancholy after a long time.If you make more positive and optimistic friends, you will become an optimistic and charming person in a long time.People's looks and attitudes are like measles, they are extremely contagious.Happiness and joy will help you hold up an umbrella of optimism and help you easily resolve various pressures from life.

In the face of sorrow and pain, it is difficult to release yourself, so you might as well talk about your troubles to your friends openly.If you prefer to face it alone, then find a quiet and beautiful place and let your emotions fully release.For example, choose to cry loudly, shout loudly, or run or jump, unload the burden of the whole body and release the depression in the heart.Among the green trees and green mountains, in the rivers and seas, let all the pressure go with the wind.

If we can live in the moment, let go of "self-attachment", and develop bodhicitta and compassion, life will always be a beautiful spring.

Spiritual Living: Spirituality is the Antenna of Perceived Happiness

[Spirituality is not a magical term.Spirituality is the ability to discover love.When you have this kind of love, you will embark on your own spiritual path. 】

In the era of competition, there are hustle and bustle everywhere, material desires confuse the people who are ready to move, and people are impetuous and depressed.The heart is dusty, eager to break free, hoping to have a kind of power that can break through the shackles, let the heart find peace and experience happiness.

This power is spirituality.

Spirituality is not a magical term.

On the original way, we have given spirituality so much sacredness that we can only look up.In fact, it is not far away, it is in the world, in our hearts.Spirituality is the ability to discover love.When you have this kind of love, you will embark on your own spiritual path.

Spirituality can bring many benefits to people's lives, both emotional and physical.Cultivating one's spiritual life can give people a sense of purpose, enhance enthusiasm for life, get rid of boredom in life, and obtain inner satisfaction and a steady stream of happiness.

The process of pursuing spirituality is a journey of self-discovery.In such a process, we will constantly discover who we are and who we want to be.Only by having a clear understanding of yourself can you truly free yourself and release yourself, and constantly surpass yourself.

Ken Wilber, a famous American psychologist, believes: "Retreat is a matter of spirituality rather than religion. Spirituality is related to real experience, it is not just belief; God is the foundation of all things, not anthropomorphic The patriarchal image of the patriarchy that calls us to awaken to our true larger selves, rather than praying for our ego. It calls to exercise our awareness, not to follow the moral dogma of the church, such as not drinking, smoking, or Sexual indulgence. It requires each of us to find God in us, not to find out what this church or that temple has done.”

Spirituality is so miraculous that there have been practitioners since ancient times.

"Zhuangzi Qiushui" records: One day, Zhuangzi was fishing in the eddy water.Two officials appointed by the king of Chu came to hire him and said: "My king has long heard of Mr. Wang's virtuous name, and he wants to be troubled by state affairs. Mr. Shenwang came out of the mountain happily, thinking that the king will relieve the worries, and the bottom is to benefit the people." Zhuangzi ignored the pole and was indifferent Said: "I heard that there is a tortoise in the state of Chu, which was three thousand years old when it was killed. The king of Chu treasured it in a bamboo box, covered it with brocade, and enshrined it in the temple. May I ask the second doctor, is this tortoise rather After death, leaving the bones is expensive, or would you rather sneak and tail in the muddy water while alive?" The second doctor said: "Of course I would like to walk in the muddy water while alive." Zhuangzi said: "You two doctors, please go back! I would also like to drag my tail in muddy water."

Zhuangzi behaved like this, indifferent to fame and fortune, so he had no worries, and thus became a free and easy man, without being entangled in the mundane world.Therefore, while being indifferent to fame and fortune, it also enriches the inner world, which is also a kind of spiritual cultivation.

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