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Chapter 20 Understanding the Five Sexual Perversions

In film and television works, the stories involving those so-called "sexual perverts" always seem to be full of dark tones but particularly attractive. Under their "wretched" mentality, there seems to be some unknown pain and helplessness.Is a so-called "pervert" really that heinous?I don't think so.The psychological mechanism hidden under the behavior is the real reason that motivates them to behave differently from ordinary people. Today we will "gossip" about the so-called sexual perversions.

In psychology, "sexual perversion" can be explained by the term "paraphilia".The word is derived from the Greek root para, which means "turned to one side", which very aptly describes the various unconventional "inversions" of the sexual orientation of this type of people.

NO.1: Exhibitionism
McClain is a handsome 26-year-old man who is married with a three-year-old daughter.He doesn't have any formal job and has to worry about next month's rent every day.Because during the ten years from the age of 16 to 26, he was almost always in a cycle of going to prison, serving a sentence, and getting out of prison, but as his daughter grew up, he didn't want to live this kind of life again, and he didn't want to give his daughter life left a shadow.

The reason why McLean was imprisoned repeatedly was neither robbery nor murder, but a strange habit-exhibitionism.According to his own description, in fact, the sex life between him and his wife is very coordinated, but he always feels that it is not as exciting as "that thing".The so-called thing is his strange hobby.He likes to find those slender girls who look under the age of 18 as objects, drive behind them, and then call them to ask for directions at the right time, and expose their naked bodies to them.

His level of aggression was just that, and it never even occurred to him to have anything to do with those girls.He just loves seeing that look on their faces, "I feel like a real man at the moment, you know, seeing that look, from a girl, not a woman's look. That's what I want pursued."

What kind of weird state of mind is this?Why is McClain, who looks humble, polite and handsome, so "nasty"?
Let's go back to his childhood together.

McLean never met his father because he was just the product of a one-night stand between his father and his mother.From the time he was born, his mother hardly came home sober, and drank until she was very drunk every day.And he was moved between foster families because his mother was unable to support him.

There is no good education model, and no one has cherished the existence and value of these foster children. A few of their peers hang out together, and they have an ignorant sex life at the age of 10.At that time, together with his companions, he would force neighbor girls to have sex with them.When he saw the astonished expression in the eyes of the ignorant little girl, he would suddenly feel confident.This is what his childhood left him, and it is also the real reason why he became an exhibitionist in the future.

Almost all people diagnosed with exhibitionism are men, and most of them hope to stimulate unsuspecting women by exposing their genitals and find pleasure in the other party's horrified reaction. None of them is really They really want to show the charm of their body, or in other words, no one is confident enough to think that their body is very attractive and needs to show it in such an extreme way.

Some researchers believe that exhibitionists may be indirectly expressing their hostility to women. Maybe they have been deeply hurt by women, or they did not get the attention of their mothers in childhood.Most of these people are very introverted, shy, lack normal social interaction, and have no fixed job. They have a very low self-esteem in their bones.And by "harassing" the victim in this way, when the victim flees in horror, they will feel that they have finally mastered the active situation, so they become excited and confident.

NO.2: Transvestite
Matt is a 55-year-old plumber with a rugged appearance and a cheerful personality.But he has an unknown little problem, he likes to wear women's clothes.This feeling drove him crazy, and sometimes, he would go out in women's clothes openly.

However, he is a social person after all, and because of his good skills, he is well-known around him, so he must pay attention to the influence.

At home, his wife knew about his habit, but could not change it.He likes to masturbate in his wife's underwear, which she won't tolerate.However, there is no problem in the sex life between the couple, and the relationship is also very good. The wife does not intend to choose to leave Matt for this reason.Still, she told Matt it was disgusting to do so.

Once, Matt still chose to wear his wife's sexy underwear to satisfy his sexual fantasies, but was almost bumped into by his 16-year-old daughter.The couple felt lingering fears, and the wife decided to go to a psychiatrist with Matt for help.

After several consultations, Matt opened up.He said that he grew up in a female-only family with no fatherly love, only an obese mother and five older sisters.Since childhood, their family lived in a dirty and narrow room, and every time they went into the bathroom, they were hung with all kinds of women's underwear.

When he was a teenager, he started masturbating to these underwear, and then secretly wore them on his body because he felt that they were not stimulating.When wearing this kind of clothes belonging to the opposite sex on himself, Matt will have a strange sense of excitement, and he can't resist this temptation at all.He remembered that once, when he was secretly wearing his sister's underwear and looking in the mirror in the room, he was bumped by a sister.His sister screamed and called him "scum", but he was so excited that he started masturbating in front of his sister... It was the most exciting and perfect masturbation act in his memory.

Matt doesn't think there is anything wrong with masturbating in heterosexual underwear, it's just a way for him to satisfy himself, and he doesn't intend to change this behavior, even if it will affect the marriage.

Matt's wife expressed the utmost understanding and tolerance to him. Her only request was that Matt completely "separate" his transvestism.That is, "do it by yourself", no need to greet anyone, and no need to come to your wife to borrow underwear, etc.

A few months later, Matt's wife walked into the consultation room, and she said that it had been a lot easier in the past few months.Matt no longer asked her to keep these things secret, because Matt would pick the right moment to satisfy his own eccentricities.It may be the best way for the wife not to look or think about it.

Transvestites have appeared in many film and television works. They wear women's tight skirts, high heels, black stockings, wigs, and heavy makeup.If you don't speak, some people really look like women at first glance.Most of these people are gay and play the role of women in same-sex relationships.But that's not all transvestism.

In fact, most transvestite men are normal sexual orientation, they have a family or regular girlfriend.And they like to wear clothes of the opposite sex because they need to use these clothes to stir up fantasies and meet additional sexual needs.For example, they may fantasize about caressing a sexy woman, or imagine that they are a plump woman by wearing lingerie.For outsiders, this small hobby of transvestites is hardly discovered, and they will not try to harass or attack others. They prefer to indulge in their own world.

NO.3: Pedophile
The word pedophile comes from the ancient Greek word "paidos", which means child.A distinctive feature of people with this type of addiction is that they have periodic, urgent sexual fantasies and desires for children, and they are persistent.The criteria for clinical diagnosis are periodicity and persistence.Some people may "harass" children on a whim out of curiosity. This does not constitute pedophilia, but it will also cause harm to the harassed.

In many people's minds, those "perverts" who are obsessed with children seem to be those "dirty old people" who hang around the school gate in dirty clothes. In fact, many pedophiles are middle-aged men. , They have a certain social status and identity, and they also have their own families and children.But they will still "harass" the children of neighbors or relatives in order to satisfy their strange desires.

Some pedophiles just like to get close to children, caress their underage bodies, or expose their organs to children and lead them to touch them.Such people often use the banner of "education" to let children who can't tell the truth satisfy their perverted psychology.

Some pedophiles are even more serious. They will sexually abuse children and cause inevitable psychological and physical harm to children.

Why do normal people become pedophiles?The process is very complicated, and there are cases where pedophiles are usually shy, socially ill-suited, weak men.They have many problems in dealing with the interpersonal relationship between adults, and turn to children to find some kind of satisfaction.In addition, this may also be related to childhood sexual experiences. For example, some people have suffered sexual assault in childhood. This kind of injury has not been remedied and corrected in time, and eventually they themselves developed into pedophiles.

In the United States, almost [-] children are sexually abused and abused every year, and those who hurt them are often not strangers, but elders around them, parents’ friends or neighbors, etc. After gaining the children’s trust, these people , but exploit this trust to harm children.The most heartbreaking thing is that the shadow of children being hurt in their youth is likely to accompany them for a lifetime, affecting the formation of their personality and judgment on things.This is one of the reasons why society needs to pay more attention.

NO.4: Sexual masochism
There is a famous Australian novelist named Leopold Saker Mosock. His novels have been on the cusp of controversy for nearly a hundred years, because the themes of his novels are always Can't do without men who find sexual pleasure through being abused by women. The term "masochism" is also derived from his novel.

The so-called sexual masochism, I believe it does not need to be explained, refers to those who need to be abused to achieve orgasm or satisfy sexual fantasies.Most of them like to be tied up, whipped, insulted, whatever it is, and in this process of stimulating self-esteem and painful nerves, they will get an unimaginable sense of satisfaction.

Most masochists say that this kind of pleasure and satisfaction cannot be achieved through pure fantasy.I mean, if they just lie on the bed with their eyes closed and imagine themselves being whipped, it seems completely unsatisfying. They have to come to the real thing, and they have to experience the pain and humiliation first-hand to find pleasure from another angle.For example, the opposite sex in front of you is beating yourself fiercely, while abusing yourself with filthy language, and you must grit your teeth and show a fierce look. If you reveal some tenderness or reluctance, it will not be fun... Isn't this a bit "more serious"? The feeling of being miserable is more comfortable”?
Such patients are usually men, and the people who cooperate with them are usually prostitutes who buy out at one time, or lovers or wives who have a habit with them, but it is very rare for a wife to take on this role.In the movie "The Bank Robbery", among the photos hidden in the bank safe that cannot be made public, isn't there a naked "photograph" of senior military leaders visiting nightclubs to find prostitutes to whip themselves?

In the United States in the 20th century, some sexual masochists came up with a more novel "play method", which is called "hypoxic masochism" in psychology, specifically by suffocating themselves and entering the brain's transient In the state of hypoxia, find unparalleled pleasure from that "moment of dizziness".Looking at this text description, it seems to be quite fresh and exciting, but it is far from that.Who is a normal person thinking about how to deprive himself of oxygen, or find a woman to strangle himself to death?

Although many people are able to guarantee to stop this kind of abuse before they lose consciousness, there are also many accidents, and patients suffocate to death due to poor time control.

NO.5: Sexual sadism
If there is sexual masochism, of course there is sexual sadism. Coincidentally, this name is also derived from a novelist. He is the notorious Marquis de Sade in France in the 18th century. This gentleman is different from the previous one. He always likes to describe the stories of those who get pleasure from abusing others, and vividly describe the scenes of inflicting pain and bullying others.

Sexual sadism is also cyclical, and what this type of person needs is to complete his own sexual arousal by causing pain to others.When the other person's performance is more painful and unbearable, they will be more excited until they reach orgasm.

From this point of view, masochism and sadism are complementary, and it would be a good idea to cooperate with each other.But in fact it is not the case. Although normal people have more or less desires to be masochistic or sadistic in their subconscious minds, this desire can be suppressed through rationality, or they can have sex only through fantasies in their heads. Awakening, doesn't need to unfold through real "abuse".However, such patients cannot use the normal arousal mechanism. They must "practice" in order to have the possibility of finding pleasure.

The difference from sexual masochism is that sexual sadism patients are mostly aggressive because they intend to make others feel painful. Of course, most of them will not attack strangers on the street, or stalk and then torture and kill, etc. (And that's just a handful of psycho killers.) However, they are likely to be irrepressibly sadistic with whom they have sex.Maybe they can restrain their wives, but this kind of impulse needs to be vented, and many people will look for outlets in prostitutes.

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