FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 31 FBI People Reading Technique: Did He Lie (3)
Lying is the instinct of self-preservation
Although lying is an instinct, it can also be divided into good and evil.White lies are not only harmless, but also promote social harmony and stability, while malicious lies do the opposite.If we can distinguish the essence of these lies and seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, then the lies will all be the truth to us.

When we observe the world carefully, we will find all kinds of deceptions. Even non-speaking animals and plants also lie in their own way-when reptiles on the ground hear your approaching footsteps, they will Immediately lie down on the spot and pretend to be dead; the stick insect on the tree will pretend to be a natural dead branch; the bottle-shaped body on the top of the pitcher plant can secrete a sweet smell, attracting insects to taste the "fine wine", but at the same time this The bottle is also a tool for catching insects, corroding the insects that slipped in... Cheating and lying are the instincts of animals, and human beings as advanced animals cannot avoid it, but compared with other animals and plants, human beings are in this respect. It's just more consummate.

innocent white lie
As the saying goes, "loyal words are harmful to the ears and good for deeds", this sentence reveals the "disadvantages" of telling the truth-too blunt truth makes people uncomfortable.Language is an art, if it is only used as a tool of communication without modification, then this society will become full of contradictions.A lie embellished in order to express the truth is this kind of white lie.

Whether it's with friends, family, colleagues, or bosses, white lies are far more pervasive than outright lies.It is very strange to say that it is also a lie, but people are extraordinarily tolerant of this "white lie".This starts with the creation of white lies—people who appear to agree with another person’s point of view because they don’t want to harm another’s choice or decision.In fact, these words are sometimes ambiguous about right and wrong, but not only are the listeners not disgusted, but sometimes they can hear the "truth" contained in them.These white lies are harmless. Although they can be regarded as "lies", they will not hinder integrity and will not cause harm.

We've all been there: You're going to a friend's party and you pick out a top and pants to match.When you put on your clothes and ask your mother cheerfully, your mother will usually affirm your eyes first.She'll say things like "nice top!" "nice pants!" "nice shirt!", but later she'll say "actually this top of yours could be paired with another pair of pants , that will make you look more energetic..." When the mother finishes these words, we will naturally understand what the mother meant—the jacket and trousers on the body are actually not suitable for matching.The mother's approval and praise at the beginning were white lies. On the one hand, she would not directly deny the child's choice, and on the other hand, she taught the child the correct matching method, killing two birds with one stone.

When a patient is diagnosed with an incurable disease, his doctor will not tell him the truth directly, and his family will not tell him the truth.At this time, as if the doctor and family members had discussed it, they spoke in unison and comforted the sick patient with some white lies—"Your illness is just a minor problem, and you will be fine soon." This kind of white lie can Relieve the patient's psychological pressure, make the patient full of hope for treatment, and finally let the patient spend the rest of the day in a peaceful state of mind.

FBI agents are relentless in dealing with lies, which has enabled many cases to be solved quickly, but they also mistaken some well-intentioned lies as malicious lies due to excessive sensitivity.In the history of FBI investigations, there was once a "thrilling" case. This case had nothing to do with the client, but almost went wrong because of the "white lie" of the client's wife.

There was a fugitive crime incident in Florida. FBI agents came to the place where the fugitives last appeared according to the witnesses' descriptions, but after searching for a long time, they did not find any traces of the fugitives. FBI agents suspected that the fugitives had sneaked into the homes of nearby residents, so they split up and knocked on the doors of the residents.The Mettels are a newlywed couple, and when FBI agents knock on the house of the Mettels, the two are immersed in a sweet world for two.After hearing the knock on the door, Mrs. Mettled hurriedly dressed and went to open the door. FBI agents saw Mrs. Mettelrd's disheveled appearance and asked her if something had happened to her.Mrs. Mettelde was ashamed to tell the detective the truth about her intimacy with her husband, so she stammered that she was not feeling well and had just gotten out of bed. The FBI agent noticed Mrs. Mettel's nervous look and suspected that Mrs. Mettel was hijacked, but he ignored the romantic candles and perfume in the house.After Mrs. Mettel closed the door, the detectives quickly broke in through the window, pointed their guns at the naked Mr. Mettel on the bed, and almost pulled the trigger...

This case also reminds us of one thing. White lies have scope of application, and it’s okay to tell ordinary people. But for special groups like the police, you should say something. Not only embarrassing myself, but also bringing unnecessary trouble to the case.

defensive self-preservation lie
One motivation for lying is to protect oneself from harm, to enable oneself to get out of a bad situation quickly.There is good and evil in this defensive self-preservation lie.The research reports of human psychology experts show that the psychological self-protection mechanism generally exists in people's psychological activities, and its function is similar to the physiological immune system.When people are about to or have been in a bad situation for many reasons, they try to lie to get themselves out of that bad situation.The lie caused by this reason, we can call it the self-protection mechanism lie.

In terms of self-deprecation and self-protection, no one can do better than Mr. Lu Xun's Ah Q.Ah Q lived at the bottom of the society, even in the impoverished Weizhuang, he was at the bottom of the bottom. Anyone could bully him, anyone dared to bully him.But Ah Q still had a temper. When others bullied him, he would fight back, but almost every time he ended in failure.When Ah Q suffered a loss in a fight with others, he thought to himself: "Finally I was beaten by my son. The world is really ugly now, and my son is actually fighting me." So he was satisfied, as if he had won.

"The son beats the father", this is Ah Q's self-deprecating and self-protecting lie. He made up this lie and successfully deceived himself so that he could be psychologically balanced.The spirit of Ah Q is to justify things and comfort himself with reasons that he can accept, so as to avoid more serious psychological harm, which is also called "sour grapes psychology" in psychology.

Ah Q's lie is a self-protection lie to deceive himself, and it has no harm or influence on others.But when the police interrogate the prisoner, the defensive lies fabricated by the prisoner for self-protection can be extremely harmful.

Whether in the police station or in the interrogation room of the FBI, there are often some such "old lai".They wrapped themselves in thick lies and thought they were perfect, which brought a lot of trouble to the police's investigation of the case.

In a drug trafficking case, FBI agents brought a criminal suspect with a previous conviction to the interrogation room. FBI agents conducted routine interviews with the suspects for dozens of hours, but to no avail.

FBI agent: "Where were you from ten o'clock in the evening three days ago to around two o'clock in the morning the next day?"

Suspect: "Forgot."

FBI Agent: "Who were you with that night? Are there any witnesses?"

Suspect: "Forgot."

FBI Agent: "Can you show your alibi, like the video from the apartment?"

Suspect: "Unfortunately, the camera in front of my house is broken, and I don't have any video data." (That's exactly what happened)
FBI agent: "Did you participate in the drug trafficking transaction three days ago?"

Suspect (with a long sigh of relief): "No."

No matter what questions the FBI agents asked, he insisted that he had forgotten what he was doing at that time, and said nothing else. Although the wording of "forgot" did not mislead the police, nor did it deliberately confuse the police, but his performance gave FBI agents a headache.Fortunately, through observation of him, the FBI agents judged that he had nothing to do with the drug deal that night, so he was released.Later, the police searched for witnesses through various sources, and finally proved that the suspect did not appear at the scene of the drug transaction on the night of the incident.

During the interrogation, the suspect didn't know that the police were going to ask him about the drug trade, so he seemed very careful, saying "forgot" everything to perfunctory.When he learned that the police were investigating a drug dealing case and determined that it had nothing to do with him, he breathed a sigh of relief and said "no" with certainty.It was also this long sigh of relief that let the FBI agent know that this matter had nothing to do with him, and he was just telling some self-protective lies out of defense.

malicious misleading falsehood
The so-called malicious misleading, as the name suggests, means that the parties deliberately fabricate lies in order to achieve a certain purpose, so as to confuse others.In life, the nature of such lies is very bad. If a liar is for his own self-interest, most of them will be cast aside by others.

Such a thing happened in a certain university: A and B are roommates in the same dormitory, they have a good relationship, and their academic performance is equally high. A was hospitalized for a period of time because of appendicitis, and she couldn't keep up with her studies. When she was discharged from the hospital, she asked B to help her with homework. Because B wanted to get the special scholarship this time, she was planning to use the opportunity of A's illness to throw away A's grades, so she had an evil idea, and when she was helping A with homework that had fallen behind, she deliberately explained some wrong knowledge and said Wrong exam room.On the day of the test, A took a long time to find the test room, and on the answer sheet, he also followed B's explanation, which was full of mistakes.The final result can be imagined, B's treachery was seen through by A, and A almost strangled B to death in the dormitory in a rage.

Malicious misleading lies are commonplace in the investigation process of the police and FBI. No one will obediently tell the truth that they deliberately conceal. This requires the police and FBI agents to expose these lies with their own people-reading skills up.

During an FBI investigation, agents believed a dangerous fugitive armed with a gun might be hiding out at his mother's house. FBI agents knocked on the door of the old woman's house, and after showing her ID, they began to ask a series of questions.

FBI agent: "Is your son at your house?"

The old woman touched the necklace around her neck and said, "No, he's not here."

FBI agent: "Do you know where he is now?"

Old woman: "...he might be in Los Angeles. By the way, when he called me last month, he seemed to be in Nevada..."

FBI agent: "Are you sure you haven't seen him in a while?"

Old woman: "Well... I'm sure, I haven't seen him in a while."

FBI agent: "Does your son sneak into your house while you're out?"

The old woman touched the necklace around her neck again, and said, "No, he probably won't sneak in because he doesn't have a key to the house... I just changed the lock a while ago..."

After the FBI agent finished questioning the old woman, he immediately applied for a search warrant to the headquarters. After careful inspection, FBI agents finally found the fugitive hiding in a secret room in the old woman's house.

Malicious misleading is not always harmful, and sometimes it is a self-protection defense. The purpose of the liar is to divert the other party's attention to reduce losses.

For a professional woman, nothing is more painful than being on night shifts and walking at night.There are potential safety hazards in walking alone at night, and Xiao Wang, a 23-year-old Shandong girl, is in danger.At about two o'clock in the morning that day, she was walking home from the night shift, and when she was about to enter the alley of the community, two strange men with knives suddenly appeared beside her.

"Hand over all the valuables!" the man with the knife said to Xiao Wang viciously.

Xiao Wang was terrified at the time, and she didn't have much money with her.She took out all the money on her body, but it was only a few dozen yuan.

The man with the knife approached Xiao Wang's neck with the knife and asked her to take out all the hidden money, otherwise he would kill her.While Xiao Wang was afraid, he thought of a way to save his life.

Xiao Wang calmly told the gangster that he had no money on him, but he had money at home, and he had just withdrawn cash from the bank.The gangsters were very excited by this news. They took Xiao Wang hostage and told him to go home to withdraw money.

Xiao Wang's family didn't have much money, and because she lived alone, she couldn't bring the criminals home.She just made up a lie to mislead the gangsters.While calmly persuading the gangster to rest assured, she led the gangster to the main road around the corner.Xiao Wang used to observe carefully when she was off the night shift. Whenever she was approaching the door of her house, she would meet a group of policemen who were patrolling at night.Her plan at this time is to walk to the main road and let the patrolling police see her as soon as possible.

When Xiao Wang appeared at the intersection of the main road with two gangsters, he happened to bump into a patrolling police car.When the police discovered Xiao Wang who was being coerced, they turned off the police lights, quietly surrounded the gangsters, and finally arrested the gangsters without any precautions.Xiao Wang's lies misled the gangsters, but saved his own life.

Here is a friendly reminder to those who are often on night shifts and walking at night: Many studies have shown that the best way to avoid gangsters attacking and robbing is to swing your arms and walk quickly with your head held high.This way of walking will convey a "confidence" signal, and this "confidence" signal will make them dare not attack you easily.

When dealing with paparazzi, many celebrities will also make up some malicious lies to mislead the paparazzi, such as making up their own addresses, their relatives and partners, etc.Most of the stars said that they hated the stalking of some paparazzi, and they had no privacy and personal space in front of them.And the best way to get rid of their stalking is to lie.Although these lies have contributed to the media's false reports and unreasonable speculation, they have bought me a little privacy and space.

Absurd lies to shirk responsibility
Fabricating lies in order to shirk one's responsibility is worse than maliciously misleading fabricating lies.Scientists have found that when people shirk their responsibility for something, the lies they fabricate are very ridiculous. They may plant the blame on others, or they may blame other objects or nature.

A fire broke out in a building in the United States, and a firefighter Thomson died in the fire. FBI agents intervened in the case, but they were not investigating the cause of the fire, but the death of firefighter Thomson. FBI agents initially suspected that the death of the Thomson firefighter was likely caused by the negligence of others.

FBI agents invited the other two firefighters, Captain Jericho and Keller, who were on the same team as Thomson, to the interrogation room.FBI agents questioned, Jericho was more emotional, while Keller was very calm.When the two described how Thomson suffered an accident, there were subtle differences in their descriptions.

Jericho yelled at the FBI agents, who repeatedly emphasized that Thomson's death was an unfortunate accident and not a shameless conspiracy.According to his description, the fire on the fire floor was so intense that they lost their way after entering the floor. Not only could they not confirm the location of the survivors, but it was also difficult to judge their own location.As time went by, something even more terrifying happened. The rope that tied the three of them together was caught by something in the thick smoke, no matter how they struggled, it was useless.It turned out that the rope was pinned down by the falling ceiling, presumably due to a sharp piece of metal inside the ceiling, the rope was eventually cut and he lost contact with the other two teammates.After desperately rushing left and right, he finally found an open window and pulled Keller, who was about to faint, to the window, and they were finally rescued.

FBI agents noticed that Jericho's description was inconclusive. He kept emphasizing the fire and smoke, which made him unable to see anything. He also speculated about the accident.But then Keller's description is a little clearer.

Keller said with certainty that the rope of the three-person echelon was caught by a burnt and deformed doorknob, and they couldn't get rid of it no matter how hard they struggled. When the three of them broke free together, the ceiling above their heads fell down again.There is a section of iron sewer pipe in the ceiling, so it is heavy and sharp. Under the double action of heavy pressure and sharp blade, the rope connecting him and Thomson to Captain Jericho was cut.As for how he was separated from Thomson, he said, "I think it was also cut by a sharp object."

At first glance, there is basically no difference between the descriptions of the two, but in the eyes of FBI agents, there are very clear differences - Jericho's description is vague, which is more in line with the fact that there was a lot of smoke and fire at that time. I couldn't see what was happening in front of me.But Keller's description is very clear - the ceiling fell, the sewer pipe broke, the rope was cut.

The FBI agent asked Jericho how he knew it was the ceiling and the broken sewer pipe that fell. Jericho said that he heard what Keller said after he came out, and he didn't see it clearly.When he got Jericho's words, the FBI agent already had his own inference in mind.

The colleague in charge of the evidence test brought the test report of Keller's knife.After testing the knives, it was found that there were rope fibers on Keller's knives, and some of these fibers were still carbonized.This test report basically confirmed the speculation of the FBI agents-the rope was cut by Keller with his own knife, not the "ceiling and broken sewer pipe" in his mouth.

In front of the test report, Keller couldn't explain the reason why there were rope fibers on his knife. He had to admit his selfishness and dereliction of duty.

The truth of the matter is this: Jericho, Keller and Thomson were connected by a rope and rushed into the fire to save people, but the rope between Keller and Thomson was hooked and could not be untied.A few seconds later, smoke filled the corridor, and they couldn't see anything.Jericho is trying to find a way to get the three of them out of trouble together, but Keller is already scared out of his wits.He took out the knife, and originally wanted to cut the rope between himself and Thomson, but turned his head, and cut the rope connecting himself with Jericho by mistake (the reason why Jericho felt something was pressing the rope, precisely because Keller pressed the rope to the ground and cut it).When Keller found that the rope was cut wrong, he quickly cut the rope behind him, and then ran in the direction of captain Jericho.Thomson's death was the serious consequence of Keller's dereliction of duty.

(End of this chapter)