In your 20s, you must understand the wisdom of success

Chapter 7 Success Qualities (1)
(Chapter 1 Thinking—Adding Oars to the Boat of Life
In the meeting room of a famous company, a group of handsome young people are sitting.Most of them graduated from prestigious schools with a good academic background, and after the first four rounds of written tests and interviews, they finally walked into this place that everyone yearned for. However, not all of them could stay.

Many people began to show the interviewer their achievements and visions for the future. In fact, many people have already regarded themselves as leaders.The interview time for each person is half an hour, and the final result will be available in the afternoon of the same day.

When the person in charge of the human resources department announced the interview results, many people began to complain, surprised, and even cursed that the interviewer had no vision.At this time, a senior came out and said something like this:

In fact, if you can walk into this meeting room, it means that your abilities are very good, but what we are mainly examining today is not ability, but quality.From whether you can show up on time, to the language you use when communicating with interviewers, to your performance when we make announcements, these are what we care most about.

Personal qualities, in ordinary life, we often don't care or value them.But it is this intangible factor that determines whether we can be appreciated and truly recognized by others in the end.

How can one maintain creative joy in life, feel things thoroughly, think big, and approach things with precision, clarity, and order? — that is thinking.

thinking is a deep force
An American engineer and an American logician were close friends.Once, the two met to visit the pyramids in Egypt.After arriving in Egypt, the logician stayed in a hotel and wrote his travel diary.While the engineer was wandering in the streets of Egypt, he suddenly heard an old woman's cry: "Sell cats, sell cats!"

The engineer followed the sound and found a black sculptural cat next to the old woman, priced at $500.The woman explained that the toy cat was an family heirloom and had to be sold as a last resort because her grandson was seriously ill in exchange for hospital treatment.The engineer raised the cat with his hand and found that the cat was very heavy and seemed to be made of black iron.However, the cat's eyes are pearls.

So the engineer said to the old woman, "I'll give you $300 to buy just two cat's eyes!"

The old woman thought about it for a while, and agreed.The engineer returned to the hotel and happily said to the logician, "I bought two huge pearls for only $300!"

When the logician saw the two big pearls, they were worth more than $300, at least thousands of dollars, so he asked his friend what was going on.When the engineer finished explaining the reason, the logician hurriedly asked: "Is that woman still there?"

The engineer replied, "She's still sitting there. Want to sell that black iron cat with no eyes!"

After hearing this, the logician hurried to the street, gave the old woman 200 dollars, and bought the cat back.

When the engineer saw it, he laughed and said, "You, spend $200 to buy an eyeballless iron cat!"

The logician sat alone and fiddled with the iron cat. Suddenly, he had an idea and scraped the iron cat's feet with a knife. When the black paint fell off, a golden trace was revealed, and he cried out happily. : "As I expected, the cat is pure gold!"

It turned out that the owner who cast this golden cat was afraid that the golden body would be exposed, so he painted the cat's body with black paint, just like an iron cat.In this regard, the engineer regrets it very much.At this time, the logician turned around and said to him with a smile: "Although you are very knowledgeable, you just lack in-depth thinking, and your analysis and judgment are not comprehensive and in-depth. You should think about it carefully. It's made of pearls, so the whole body of the cat is made of cheap black iron?"

As logicians say, thinking can bring wisdom, wealth, and the joy of thinking.

The power of thinking is huge. Zhou Enlai praised the power of thinking as: "Thinking, thinking, magic and ghosts communicate."

Why is thinking so powerful?Because it makes people follow everything in thinking, and rely on actions to lead things to the results we want.

It is not surprising that an ordinary person can go from mediocrity to greatness.He just adjusted his thinking angle in time, changed his way of thinking and behavior before others noticed and thought, and took action in a timely and realistic manner.

There is a familiar saying from Harvard University: "A day of thinking is better than a week of recklessness." If we want our actions and lives to be more powerful, we need to think positively.Positive thinking is a mindset that allows us to seek the best, most favorable outcome when faced with a situation of vulnerability.In other words, there is hope in the pursuit of a goal even when it is difficult.Facts have also proved that when you think on the bright side, you may gain the positive power to achieve great things.Positive thinking is a deliberate process, a subjective choice, and a sign of being proactive!

develop your ability to think
We all have the ability to think, analyze, store a large amount of knowledge, develop wisdom, evaluate, and combine knowledge in various ways, but these abilities have not been really developed. According to scientists, like Einstein, Socrates and Edison geniuses, they only used less than 10% of their brain power.

How to use and develop your thinking ability?The following methods are available for you to try:

1. Cleanse your mind.Filter out all uncertain and self-defeating thoughts, and always think in positive, affirmative ways.

2. Alertness training.Your mind will mature with training, keeping your "mind radar" working.

3. Develop your understanding and allow yourself to do some new combination games.

4. "Feed" your mind.Read, listen, and observe everything, and make sure your mind has input at all times.

5. Cultivate curiosity.Ask questions and do research that you don't understand, develop your imagination.

6. Organize your thoughts.Practice what you already know and discover what you don't know.

7. Have an open mind and never regard any idea as useless.Listen to advice from people whose views differ from yours, anyone has something for you to learn.

8. Practice objectively and always be willing to ascertain an opinion that differs from yours.

9. Train your mind to work for you.Let your mind do what you tell it to do, and it does it when you tell it to.

10. Cultivate common sense, the real wisdom is to apply what you have learned.

Keyword perception: thinking

When you live a life devoid of reflection and reflection, simply coping with the circumstances of your life without trying to find a deeper meaning, your life loses meaning and value, and you lose the ability to live independently.When you lack introspection, you don't think deeply about important questions and draw insightful conclusions about yourself and the world in which you live.You just stay on the surface of life, dealing with endless affairs, surrounded by information explosion, always busy.We should always think about it, equip a paddle on the voyage of life, grasp the direction, and provide inexhaustible power for moving forward.

Thoreau said: "One thing I know to be true is that the mind is a sculptor, it molds you into what you are to be."

(Chapter 2 Cherishing Time—Small Time Can Make Great Causes

It is an unalterable truth that a moment is worth more than a year.The length of time is not directly proportional to the importance and value.Accidental, unexpected 5 minutes may affect your whole life.But who can predict when this important moment will come?Cherish your piecemeal time at any time, and you can also achieve your career.

Learn to make good use of piecemeal time to gain time

Mr. Zhu Ziqing wrote in the prose "Hurrying": "When washing hands, the days pass by the sink; when eating, the days pass by the rice bowl; In a hurry, when I stretch out my hand to hold it back, it passes by my withholding hand; when it is dark, I lie on the bed, and it strides over my body and flies away from my feet, nimbly. I opened my eyes and saw the sun again, and another day had slipped away. I covered my face and sighed. But the shadow of the new day began to flash away in the sigh.”

There is such a young man who spends more time going out than at home, sometimes by train and sometimes by ship, but no matter where he goes, he always carries a pack of books with him for reading at any time.He can use the bits and pieces of time wasted by ordinary people for self-study and reading.As a result, he has considerable insights into history, literature, science, and other important knowledge of various countries, and he has become a learned person, which has contributed to his success throughout his life.However, most people waste their precious little time, even doing things that are harmful to the body and mind in that time.

From how a person uses his spare time and how he spends his time in winter evenings, one can predict his future, and we can see whether he has the spirit of self-improvement and seeking progress at any time.Making full use of spare time is a sign of a person's excellence, and it is also a sign of a person's success.

As long as a person can use the limited piecemeal time to study, he will always achieve great achievements, but on the contrary, many people waste these free time, and in the end what awaits him will definitely not be success.

Ouyang Xiu, a famous writer in the Song Dynasty, was a master at squeezing time.He said that he pays special attention to using the "three ups" when reading, that is, "immediately, on the pillow, and on the toilet".The ancients mostly traveled on horseback, so the "immediate" time is the time Ouyang Xiu used to read; "on the pillow" refers to the time before going to bed, and Ouyang Xiu often reads at night; and "toilet" refers to the time to go to the toilet.Of course, from the perspective of health and hygiene, Ouyang Xiu's approach may not be scientific, but his attitude of cherishing time and diligently studying is worth learning.

In terms of squeezing time, the famous mathematicians Yang Le and Zhang Guanghou are also our models.In order to save time for reading newspapers, they listen to the news on the radio during mealtimes; in order to save time for meals, they use small bowls to drink hot porridge.Such a squeeze of time is really a race against time and time.

Some people accumulate the time they have squeezed out to study together - use the scattered time during the day to finish the daily chores that should be dealt with quickly, so the time for studying at night is squeezed out.Among all the study time that can be accumulated, the time in the morning and evening is the best, because these two periods of time are longer and more complete, the environment is quieter, and the mind is clearer, suitable for reading, thinking, and studying problems.Therefore, the ancients had anecdotes such as "A day's plan lies in the morning" and "Wearing the chicken and dancing"; there were also books and articles such as "Essays under the lamp" and "Night reading".

In the car, while waiting, it can be used for studying, for thinking, for briefly planning the next action, etc.Maximize productivity by devoting odd hours to odd jobs.Make full use of the fragmented time, maybe there is no obvious feeling in the short term, but over the years, there will be amazing results.

Mr. Lu Xun "used the time that others used to drink coffee on writing".

Darwin said: "I never thought that half an hour was an insignificant, very small period of time. The way to get work done is to cherish every minute."

During the Three Kingdoms period, Dong Yu was a scholar. He told those who came to him to study to "read a hundred times" before they could "see their own meaning."When a scholar complained that "there is no time", he replied: "You should take 'three mores', that is, 'winter is more than years, night is more than day, and rain is more than sunshine'." To make full use of the cold winter, Study late at night and on rainy days.In ancient times, people already knew to use their spare time to study.The pace of life of modern people is getting faster and faster. Many people often feel that they are short of time and have no time to do many important things.And Mr. Lu Xun once said: "Time is like water in a sponge, as long as you want to squeeze it, there will always be some." In fact, this is exactly the case.

It seems that fragmentary time can really accomplish great things.

There is no time you can't use, only time you don't use.

Similarly, if you feel that you lack free time to think about problems, you might as well try to squeeze out ten minutes of thinking before going to bed every day. Once a habit is formed, it will be easy to stick to it for a long time.

Get 20% of achievements 80% of the time

Most of a person's significant achievements, including most of the value that a person displays professionally, intellectually, artistically, culturally, or physically, are achieved in a small period of time on his own.There is a great disequilibrium between what is created and the time spent creating it, whether that time is measured in minutes, minutes, days, weeks, months, years, or lifetimes. measure.

Expressed in the 80/20 rule: 80% of the achievements are achieved in 20% of the time; conversely, only 80% of the value is created in the remaining 20% of the time.80% of the happiness in life occurs in 20% of the time, that is to say, in the other 80% of the time, only 20% of the time is happy. The conclusion of the 80/20 time rule is that a small fraction of all our time is more valuable than most of the rest.If we make good use of 20% of the time, we will find that this 20% is inexhaustible.The so-called piecemeal time is included in this "20%". If you don't waste the piecemeal time in this "20%", you can win 80% of your achievements.

We often say, "Oh, there's only 5-10 minutes until dinner, and I can't do anything." But in fact, how many people in adversity and ill-fated people have made full use of these things that many of us can easily do? The time wasted, thus building a monument of life and career for himself.Those squandered hours, if used effectively, can make you stand out and become a great person.

Einstein once organized the nightly meeting of the prestigious "Olympia Academy of Sciences". He was always willing to hold a teacup with the participants, drink happily, drink tea and talk.Einstein used this leisure time to exchange ideas with people, making use of these seemingly more ordinary times.Later, some of his ideals and ideas, and some of his scientific ideas, were produced during the time of drinking tea.

If a person can effectively use even one minute and one second, he will definitely win in the same time race as Einstein.

All these examples tell us a truth: in order to be successful, we must make good use of leisure and fragmented time.

Keyword sentiment: Cherish time
Time is infinite and life is limited.In a limited life, those who know how to use fragmentary time to extend the time will have more capital to do things.

We have as much time as Bill Gates, why can't we be as good and successful as he?A few minutes, a few hours, such piecemeal time determines the gap between excellence and mediocrity.

(Chapter 3 Punctuality——Punctuality is the greatest courtesy
Punctuality is keeping promises to time, respecting one's own life and the lives of others, and a simple way to impress others.Punctuality is credit and the greatest courtesy.

keep your promise
The German philosopher Kant planned to visit his old friend Wilhelm Peters. Before leaving, he wrote to Peters, saying that he would arrive before 3 o'clock in the morning on March 2.

Kant hired a carriage on the morning of March 3 and went to Peters' home.The old friend's family lived on a farm 2 miles away from the town, separated by a river from the town.When the carriage came to the river, the careful coachman told him that the bridge was broken and he could not cross the river.

Kant got out of the carriage and looked at the bridge. It was indeed broken in the middle.Although the river was not wide, it was deep and frozen.

"Are there any other bridges nearby?" Kant asked anxiously.

The coachman replied, "Yes, sir. There is another bridge six miles upriver."

Kant glanced at his pocket watch, it was already 10 o'clock.

"If we're going to get to that bridge, when can we get to the farm at our normal pace?"

"I think it was about twelve-thirty."

Kant asked again: "If we pass the bridge in front of us, when can we reach it at the fastest speed?"

The coachman replied: "It will take 40 minutes at the fastest."

Kant ran to a dilapidated farmhouse by the river, and politely asked the owner, "How much do you want to sell this house?"

The peasant woman was taken aback: "Why did you buy such a shabby house?"

"Don't ask why, are you willing or not?"

"Then give 200 marks!"

Kant paid the money and said: "If you can immediately remove a few long logs from the broken house and repair the bridge within 20 minutes, I will return the house to you."

The peasant woman called her two sons and asked them to repair the bridge on time.

The carriage crossed the bridge safely and galloped on the country road. At 10:50, Kant arrived at his old friend's house.

Peters who was waiting at the door said happily: "Dear friend, you are really punctual!"

In the days when Kant met his old friend, he never mentioned to him the experience of buying a house and demolishing wood to cross the river in order to be punctual.

Later, Peters overheard the peasant woman talking about it, and wrote a letter to Kant with emotion.The letter said:
"You are too polite, and you are still punctual as always. In fact, it is forgiveable to be late for a date between old friends, not to mention that you have encountered an accident."

Kant, who has always been meticulous, wrote this sentence in his reply to an old friend: "In my opinion, in a certain sense, punctuality is the greatest courtesy to old friends or strangers."

Punctuality is to keep promises and arrive where you want to go on time, no exceptions, no excuses, at all times.If you don't show respect for other people's time, don't expect others to respect your time.If you are not punctual, you have no influence or moral force.A punctual person wins everyone's favor.

(End of this chapter)