i'm really rich

Chapter 183 Live the way you want

Although, compared with peers.

Tang Duoduo has been very mature and sensible.

But in essence, she is still just a child.

She can do laundry and cook.

I will do part-time jobs, and I will also pay for medical treatment for the elderly at home.

And when He Yuan was this age, what was he doing?

Every day besides going to school, I just go home, not doing homework, writing test papers, and reading extracurricular tutoring materials.

Occasionally, I would look out the window, in a daze, thinking about what the university is like, what the outside world is like, and what kind of person I will become in the future.

I also think about the girls in the class and the girls in the school, and weave some colorful memories in my mind that belong to the teenagers.Then take out a small notebook, use paper and pen, and write a youthful world of your own.

To be honest, that kind of life is boring, boring, and not cool at all.

But that's He Yuan's life.

Sometimes when he looks at children of the same age, he also feels very envious.

Especially those who study art and play sports, wear fashionable and beautiful clothes, and say some words that he doesn't understand, but think they are so powerful.

For example, in elementary school, when He Yuan hadn’t learned English, he didn’t even know the meaning of “Love Tiger Oil”. In spite of his own ignorance, He Yuan still has scumbag eyes, with a look of "I understand".

Putting this on children today may not even dare to think about it, but in that era, there was no such developed consultation. What you want to know, apart from watching TV, is to learn and imitate through other people around you.

Even if you want to understand it through books, it is very difficult.When I was a child, the books were very expensive and there were few types. Apart from newspapers and magazines, the only ones that could flow to their county town were some outdated classics.

Moreover, the books at that time were very rigorously woven.

Except for things supported by public opinion, other messy things cannot be published.

It's not like now, when you are in a bookstore, you can buy all kinds of messy books.

But how should I put it.

A person's life is very long.

The once young first love, the goddess of all generations of elegance, married as a woman, and became a very hot yellow-faced woman who stayed at home, took care of the children when she was busy, and quarreled with her husband when she was free.

The school girl who is popular in the whole school and makes thousands of girls scream has become a bald head with big ears and a big belly. When he is free, he likes to drink two sips of white wine, and then recalls his "youth" there with bad breath. male.

It's all very realistic.

On the contrary, those who were unknown in the school before, buried their heads and walked to the front silently.

Just like He Yuan, after returning from BJ, he was able to calmly accept the invitation of his classmates to attend the elementary school reunion, which was absolutely unimaginable to him in the past.

Of course, there is still a big gap from the scene of returning home that he had imagined before.

However, there is a fundamental difference here.

He only dared to think before, but now, he can do it.

Time, and experience, gave him not only failure, but also the "wealth" accumulated in the continuous failure.

These wealth are experience, contacts, persistence, courage to face difficulties and never give up, but not money.

These "wealths" are exactly his confidence.

Some people are poor, not only because of their poor background and bad environment, but also because they are lazy and don't want to change.And some people are poor just because they are too idealistic.

He Yuan is the latter.

If he can be more open-minded, a little more ambitious, and a little less shameless, then He Yuan can rely on these "wealths" to achieve success in a short period of time—the so-called "success" in the eyes of ordinary people. .

Think a little far.

The chicken broth is also thicker.

But this can be completely interpreted, the current state Tang Duoduo is in.

After all, the future is unknown to her.

And what humans are most afraid of is precisely the unknown.

Tang Duoduo was rather confused, and He Yuan suddenly raised such a question, which had a great impact on her.

Although she is usually more individual and independent, she can earn money, and discuss "human nature" with He Yuan, but in the final analysis, she is just a child.

While other children are still going to school, doing homework, hiding every day, secretly playing with mobile phones, having occasional romantic relationships, and having a puppy relationship, she has to face a choice about the "future".

It's not like Tang Duoduo hasn't thought about what kind of life he will live in the future.

Her initial idea was very simple, to save a sum of money by selling mobile phones.Then, she thought of a way to break away from Brother Dong and sell mobile phones by herself to earn more money.

For Tang Duoduo, selling mobile phones through live broadcast is a point to try, because she has seen Dong Ge sell mobile phones in this way and make a lot of money.

However, after talking with He Yuan last time, she dismissed this idea.

He Yuan gave her an example, gave her an analysis, and told her that this is only a short-term sales method, but it is not suitable for the long-term, and it cannot go far.However, Tang Duoduo felt that what He Yuan said made sense.

She also felt that, He Yuan said, going to school, meeting more people, and doing business with acquaintances seems to be a good choice.But He Yuan told her that the mobile phone has been sold for so many years, and everyone who should have a mobile phone already has it. So, how long can this business last for her?
So sometimes Tang Duoduo felt that He Yuan was really annoying.

Because he can always cite all kinds of examples to tell you that this matter is not good. It can be done in the short term, but it cannot be done in the long run.

However, Tang Duoduo had to admit that what He Yuan said made sense.

But this doesn't stop her from hating He Yuan.

She is just a child, how can she have so much knowledge, so many plans, to try other things.She only knows how to sell mobile phones, and take pictures—she won’t take pictures in the future. She used to be young and didn’t know much about shame, but now that she’s older, when she thinks of herself wearing that kind of clothes, Standing in front of a stranger, Tang Duoduo felt her cheeks burn.

After being with He Yuan, he seems to have cultivated himself, instead of filling himself with chicken soup.I didn't expect that if I didn't make a move, it would be nothing, but if I made a move, it would be a bomb.

However, do you like BJ?
In all fairness, Tang Duoduo wanted to say he liked it.

Although I have only been to BJ once, Tang Duoduo's impression of BJ is really good.

The city there is so big, the roads are so wide, especially the shopping mall, which is big and beautiful, and there are many things in it that you can't see or buy in small counties—not to mention online shopping, Tang Duo Duo used to be busy selling mobile phones to make money, so she didn't have time to surf the Internet, not to mention, she had to save all her money, which would be used for business or buying a house in the future.

She has always wanted to have a small house of her own, so that she would not be locked out because sometimes it was too late to go back.

In BJ, she has been to many places, lived in luxurious hotels, and spacious and bright houses.I have eaten all kinds of food that can only be seen on TV, and I have also received all kinds of beautiful clothes and shoes bought by He Yuan for her.

Tang Duoduo felt that she had lived for more than ten years, and she had never been as happy as those few days. It was like becoming a princess and living in a castle that she couldn't even imagine in her dreams.

Yes, Tang Duoduo never dreamed of this kind of life before.

So she quickly returned to reality.

Then, what is Tang Duoduo like in reality?

A little girl whose father doesn't love her and her mother doesn't love her.

A girl who has no grandpa and has a group of white-eyed wolf relatives staring at her property.

A female junior high school student who was squeezed out by classmates, looked down upon by teachers, and even bluntly said that she was "selling" outside and was taken care of by men.

Ah.

In fact, Tang Duoduo was really, was asked if he would accept nurturing, and he could make a lot of money.For this kind of person, Tang Duoduo chose to treat this kind of person coldly, and didn't bother to talk to him at all.

Although sometimes she also thinks, hey, I am a girl, and I am still so young, why do I have to live so tired.How can those people, who are not as sensible as her, not as beautiful as her, or even work as hard as her, live so happily?

She was still a little reconciled.

However, this is just thinking about it, and she doesn't dare to do it.

Don't look at Tang Duoduo who is usually quite bold, daring to do business, skipping classes, and even daring not to take exams...but there are some things she dare not do.

Tang Duoduo knew that if he wanted to live a life like BJ's, he must have money, otherwise, BJ would actually be more sad than his hometown, and then he would live in a gloomy, cold basement instead of a big house or a luxury hotel.

So, when He Yuan suddenly asked her that, her mind was in a mess.

Emotionally, she really liked the life of going to BJ that time; but intellectually, Tang Douduo knew that the main reason why she felt that it was a dream that time was because there was no pressure from money.

In other words, if you have money, you will have a good life in BJ. From this point of view, she likes BJ very much.

If you don't have money... what's the difference from being in your hometown?
"Look, since you have to work hard anyway, why don't you stop working hard, leave this small city, go to a big city, and live the life you want? After you have seen the outside world, really, you are willing to stay. Is it in this small place?" He Yuan looked into Tang Duoduo's eyes and said every word.

Everything is afraid of comparison.

If Tang Duoduo has always stayed in her hometown and never went out, then she may always think about how to survive in her hometown, how to buy a house, have a stable job, get married, have children, and raise children to grow up , caring about milk powder, caring about school district housing...

Most people who live in third- and fourth-tier cities come here in this way.

Needless to say, people nowadays are rich and can travel, and even people in small counties can go abroad and travel around the world.

Traveling to a place and going to work and live in a place are two different concepts.

People in the past traveled far away to study, to "read thousands of books and travel thousands of miles", but now people travel...mostly just to pretend.

I was tired of being with my mobile phone all the time, went to a few night markets, checked in a few Internet celebrity restaurants, and thought I had grown a lot. After returning to my hometown, what kind of life should I live every day, or what kind of life I should live.

He Yuan once asked several friends if such a life is interesting.

There are so many times every year, spending so much money, suffering so much, going to a completely unfamiliar place, just to take a few photos, post a few Moments, and brag a few words to your friends, what is the meaning?
My friends are very surprised, what is the meaning of this, as long as I am happy.

Then, they would turn around, pat He Yuan on the shoulder and say: Young people, don't live so tired, be happy when you should be happy, relax when you should relax, and learn to enjoy yourself.

To be honest, the point of view they said is actually not a big problem.

The only problem lies with the speaker.

If a person's family is rich, or they can earn a lot of money, then there is nothing wrong with them spending money and time to enjoy themselves.But if some people have a difficult family, they only get a salary of two or three thousand yuan a month, and they still think about how to spend the money all day long, and how to pretend to be aggressive in front of friends...

He Yuan felt that this kind of person was already terminally ill and hopeless.

"I... I'm afraid I won't be able to do it..." Tang Duoduo's lips were almost bitten, and her small face was troubled, "Besides, I don't know what to do."

For Tang Duoduo, the proposition of He Yuan is too big.

Go to the big city and live the life you want...

What does it mean to go to a big city, and what does it mean to live the life you want?

Moreover, what exactly is the life I want, is it a big house, a stable job, or...

Tang Duoduo's mind was in confusion, almost subconsciously, she felt flustered.

He Yuan knew her current state by looking at her expression.

Because of this situation, it often happened to him before.

In daily life, people always think that they know themselves well.

If you ask him, what do you want now, it may be a game console, a book, a car, or an apartment. For children, it may be just a set of skins in "Glory of the King".

Well, there are several children in my family. The poor ones have no money to buy clothes. They need the support of kind people. The money can be transferred to me through WeChat, or rewarded with an Android phone. There will be channel vendors in the middle to make the difference.One of them is very obedient and sensible. I want to spend a few hundred dollars to buy him a new dress to make him look more handsome.

what?
What descendants, what golden shooter suit, I don't understand at all.

Far away.

Using the method of "answering questions", you can easily check whether you have a clear understanding of your future.

A: What do you want.

B: I want a house.

A: What kind of house do you want?

B: As big as possible, preferably a villa, which is more comfortable to live in.

A: Have you thought about where to buy this villa?

B: Where did you buy it... I don't know, maybe it's in my hometown?
A: Why do you want to buy it in your hometown?
B: Because I will live here in the future, and the house in my hometown is relatively cheap, and I can't afford it in other places.

A: Have you ever thought about how much a villa costs?

B: How much is it?About a few million.

A: How many million are several million.

B: Two to three million?do not know much.

A: Well, do you have so much money?

B: No.

A: If not, how do you buy a villa? Will your family support you?

B: My family doesn't have that much money. I probably...can earn it by myself.

A: How to earn.

B: After I come out to work, go to work.

A: How much salary do you get when you go to work?
B: How much?I don’t know, maybe five or six thousand a month. When my brother came back last time, he said that his monthly salary was five or six thousand. I should be able to achieve it.

A: Then have you thought about how long it will take you to earn a salary of five or six thousand.

B: Maybe... 26 seven?
A: Well, with a salary of 200 to [-], and a house price of [-] million, how long will it take you to afford a house without financial support from your family.

B: ...not counted.

A: Based on the house price of 200 million, 333.33333 a month, even if you don’t eat or drink every month, and save all the money, you will probably need 330, briefly, 27 for three months, 28, which is [-] It takes about a year to afford this villa.Based on the down payment of [-]%, it will take eight years.

B: ...It will take so long.

A: In your hometown, is the salary of [-] a month a lot?

B: It shouldn't be much, most people's salary seems to be only two or three thousand.

A: If it is two to three thousand, then you will have to double the time, that is, without eating or drinking, it will take 16 years to save enough for the down payment.

B: ...

A: So do you still want the villa?

B: I want to.

A: If you want, what do you want to do.

B: ...Go to other places to work, and after earning money, go back to my hometown to buy a house.

A: Are you sure? If you go to another place, you have to rent a house and eat out, and you may not be able to save much money.

B: ...

A: In that case, are you sure you want to buy a small villa?

B: No more.

A: Then what do you want.

B: Let's buy a small house.

A: What a small house.

B: This... at least one hundred flat.

A: Well, for a small house of about [-] square meters, what is the current house price in your hometown.

B: How much?Probably, more than 1...

A: More than 1, a house of 100 square meters is [-] million. According to the figures just now, it will take you eight years to get the down payment.

B: ...Forget it, I don't want it anymore.

He Yuan has discussed these issues with many people.

Of course, most of the time, he asked about work.

It can be said that many people feel that they have very clear things they like.

But in He Yuan's view, they just don't know the price they have to pay to get these things.

Of course, some things are smaller and easier to implement.

For example, for boys, they may want the skin of a game character, a mobile phone, or a computer.

For girls, it is good-looking clothes, lipsticks of various colors, or a luxury bag.

These things, for an adult with a stable income, can be achieved in a dozen days or even a few months.

In the area of ​​sales, there has always been a saying that "women's money is easier to earn", which is not unreasonable.

Because there are many things that girls need, such as lipstick, bags, a delicious meal, or a trip, these things are relatively easy to get, and every time they get them, they will have a pleasant "satisfaction" for women This kind of "satisfaction" is not sustainable, but because it is too simple, she can keep getting this kind of pleasure.

So in daily life, you can see that girls can't help but "buy, buy, buy".

What they buy is not actually a thing, but the spiritual joy when they get this kind of thing.

For men, their desires are much smaller.

Of course, it's not that they don't want to buy, buy, buy, but that compared with the trivial things in daily life, there is a hurdle that men can't get around when they grow up-that is the house.

Whether a man is successful or not is judged by a completely different standard than that of a woman.

A man's success lies in his house, car, career, and so on.

Instead of a few lipsticks and a few bags, they can be satisfied.

Women don't have this concern, because everyone is telling them that buying a house is a man's business, and they only need to be responsible for their beauty.Therefore, what they absorb is the short-term "timely consumption pleasure", while most of the men are "delayed sexual gratification".

Many people really don't know what they want.

They may be able to say something, but they don't know the meaning behind it.

For example, if you want a house, you actually want a sense of security; if you want a free and easy job, you actually want to achieve financial freedom.

Just like Tang Duoduo, she wants a house, because in this way, she won't be turned away for coming home late... In other words, what Tang Duoduo really lacks is a sense of security , is a harbor that can shelter her from wind and rain.

If she has a pair of parents who treat her very well and can open the door for her anytime and anywhere, then maybe her need for a house is not so urgent.

And even if they know what they want, most people don't know how to get these things.

Let’s take buying a house as an example. You need money to buy a house. Where do you get the money?

I won’t talk about those who have money in the family, but if they don’t have money, how to earn, what kind of industry to engage in, what to do, how many years to work, how much money to save every year, what to…

Tang Duoduo didn't understand these things at his age.

Even many adults live in a muddle by themselves.

Some of them did it, some didn't; many of them did it, but they didn't know how they did it. It seemed that when the opportunity came, they worked hard and succeeded.

As for why the opportunity came, why he could seize it... who cares?

He Yuan used to live in a muddleheaded way. It wasn't until he started working that he gradually developed his own thinking ability. He wanted to find out the deep-seated reasons behind many things: how did this happen, why did it happen.

It's like a philosophical proposition: who am I, where do I come from, and where do I go.

He Yuan didn't expect Tang Duoduo to live a sensible life like himself.

But there are some things that Tang Duoduo needs to choose by herself - what kind of life does she want to live like.

(End of this chapter)