The daughter of the splendid good fortune is respected

Chapter 949
Xiao Mingyu sighed, when she talks to Zhou Gan now, she still has to be more or less cautious about the change of Zhou Gan's status, she can no longer be as casual as when she was in the palace.After all, he is the emperor, and there are always people around to serve him.If you don't pay attention and lose Zhou Gan's face in front of others, it will be really bad.It is inevitable that there is a subconscious lack of respect for Zhou Gan's power. In daily life, Xiao Mingyu pays great attention to some details, such as address, tone, and attitude.

But Xiao Mingyu didn't want the relationship between the husband and wife to become like that of an ordinary emperor and empress, respecting each other like guests.I don't even want to have many more women in the harem.

Xiao Mingyu was thinking and reflecting on what she should do to get everything done.How can we continue to maintain the relationship between the two and keep the basic situation unchanged.This requires thinking, wisdom, and patience.

Xiao Mingyu seldom went to Zhengyang Palace, after all, it was a place to deal with political affairs.He rarely went to the Nuan Pavilion, even when Zhou Gan was in the Nuan Pavilion, there were probably no outsiders there.But occasionally Xiao Mingyu would make a snack and deliver it to Zhou Gan himself, especially when Zhou Gan was busy with political affairs and forgot to have lunch or dinner.

In order to keep life so ordinary, Xiao Mingyu will also arrange some small programs to add some color to each other's lives.As long as Zhou Gan came over, Xiao Mingyu would take the time to talk and chat with Zhou Gan, guiding Zhou Gan to express his boredom and dissatisfaction with the government.The husband and wife have a lot to discuss with the government, and in this way, they have deepened their relationship and trust with each other.

It was also for this reason that every time Zhou Qian finished dealing with political affairs, the first thing he thought of was to come to Fengyi Palace, to come to Xiao Mingyu's side, and let Xiao Mingyu talk with him.

Doudou, the little devil, once asked Xiao Mingyu suddenly, "Is the queen mother afraid? Is she afraid that the father will have another woman?"

When Xiao Mingyu heard these words from the mouth of Doudou, who was only a few years old, his mood was hard to describe, but in short, his mood was very complicated. "Why do Doudou say that?"

Doudou tilted her head and thought for a while, "Because I was a little nervous when I saw the queen mother, and cared about the emperor's appearance. My son also heard that after the emperor's filial piety, there will be a draft in the palace, and there will be many women. Entering the palace. And even if there is no draft now, there are quite a few good-looking maids in the palace. Many of them are thinking about how to make the emperor look differently. Is the queen mother nervous about these things?"

He is really a kid, he is young, and no one taught him these things, so how could he understand everything.Xiao Mingyu beckoned, let the child come closer, and then said with a smile: "Doudou, you have seen the appearance of the matter, which is rare at your age. For this, the queen mother will praise you. But you only saw the appearance. As for the deep-seated reasons, you must have never thought about it. Today’s mother will tell you. A person’s happiness does not depend on what others give, let alone what God bestows, but on personal efforts. Learning requires management, handing in Friends need to be managed, and marriage needs to be managed even more. Think about it, two people who are not familiar or do not know at all will suddenly live together one day. You have this or that habit, she has that habit, There will be many differences between the two. But since we want to live together for the rest of our lives, you can't tolerate me, and I can't tolerate you, arguing about trivial things all day long. If that's the case, this life will not be able to go on. At this time, tolerance and management are needed. By tolerant of each other's shortcomings and managing life with heart, the husband and wife can live in harmony and beauty, and the conflicts between the two will gradually decrease."

Xiao Mingyu paused, "Of course, there is another situation in life, that is, one party, most of them are tolerant and compromised by the woman with no bottom line and no principle, while the other party goes its own way and never considers the other party's feelings, as if all tolerance and compromise are in vain. It is a matter of course. In the long run, will the compromised party be happy or happy? She will not be happy. This kind of worry or even distortion will even affect the child, causing the child to have extreme views on certain things. Such an example, I think you have seen it too."

Doudou digested Xiao Mingyu's words, "My son understands what the queen mother said."

"So, the relationship between husband and wife needs to be carefully managed by both parties. Now your father is an emperor, working hard on state affairs all day long. Therefore, many family affairs must be considered by the mother later. You said that the mother is nervous, which is actually true. The queen mother is indeed nervous. But it's not the woman you mentioned, but the queen mother can't keep up with the changes in your father. So the queen mother must regroup to manage the relationship between our husband and wife and manage our lives. Understand Is it?" Xiao Mingyu said softly.

Doudou nodded, "My son understands, the mother has worked so hard."

Xiao Mingyu laughed, "It's not hard. After taking this road, you have to bear these pressures. The status has changed, and the mentality must naturally be adjusted. The mother is not a stubborn person who does not know how to make progress. On the contrary, the mother is very willing to reflect on herself. deficiencies, and strive to improve.”

"The queen mother is so kind."

Xiao Mingyu hugged Doudou, "As for the draft you mentioned, there are things about those women. At least there is no such thing at present. And the draft is not just a draft. Every woman who wants to enter the palace for the draft represents a woman behind her. The interests of the family or a certain party. Do you know why there are so many people in the court who are dissatisfied with the queen mother?"

Doudou looked confused.

Xiao Mingyu said, "It's just because those people can't get even a little benefit from the mother's dominance of the harem. Or the benefits they get are too little to meet their expectations. So they want to oppose the mother. Because the mother has your four brothers, So they knew very well that they couldn't shake the queen mother's position. So they came up with another method, that is, the draft. Send women with relevant interests into the palace, and share the favor of the queen mother with your father, so as to gain Corresponding interests. The courtiers said that the Tian family has no personal affairs. To a certain extent, this sentence is also correct. Because the harem and the court are always inextricably linked. For example, the mother is in contact with the Han family , the Liu family, the Xiao family, and even the officials of the Zhongzhou line, they all consciously leaned over and became the queen's faction virtually. Therefore, many people in the court would oppose the mother's queen because of the uneven distribution of benefits. People in this world, Don't worry about being few, but about unevenness. The selfishness of the human heart is fully reflected in this matter."

Doudou frowned lightly, "These things are so complicated."

"For you now, these things are naturally very complicated. You don't need to understand these words that the queen mother said now. Keep it in your heart, and when you grow up, you can read it again and recollect it. Maybe then you will understand What does the queen mother mean by these words?"

Doudou nodded, "My son understands. The son will always remember what the mother said. The son has not finished his homework, so the son will leave first."

(End of this chapter)