Love revenge: wife's mask

Qin Yijie was stunned, covered his chest and smiled apologetically.

"Although you are also a person here, I can see that you are different from them. At least you are not as fierce and cruel as them."

Bald Qiansan pursed his mouth and smiled. He said disapprovingly to Qin Yijie.

"I'd better tell you about Pushkin first. Pushkin fanatically fell in love with Natalie, known as the" first beauty of Moscow ", and married her. Natalie looked amazing, but she was different from Pushkin's ambition. When Pushkin read her the written poetry, she always covered her ears and said," don't listen! Don't listen! " On the contrary, she always asked Pushkin to accompany her to play and attend some luxurious parties and dances. Pushkin left his creation for this, resulting in high debt. Finally, she dueled for her and died, causing a literary superstar to fall prematurely. "

"Does this... Does this have anything to do with me?" Qin Yijie said in surprise.

"Yes! Of course, it does matter. In Pushkin's opinion, a beautiful woman must also have extraordinary wisdom and noble character. However, this is not the case, and you were beaten and provoked by Xu Rui and his gang at the beginning, so you must subconsciously think that all people here are like him, Therefore, you are full of resistance and hostility to the people here, including me, of course, but after I took the initiative to talk to you, especially now, maybe you think I love to laugh or you think I give you a cigarette, so you start to think that I seem different from others, but in fact, the cage is still this cage, and the people in the cage are still these people, Nothing has changed, but only your own understanding and views are constantly changing. "

Qin Yijie was stunned. He turned around and looked at bald Qiansan seriously. Unexpectedly, someone would say such philosophical words to himself in this cage. Qin Yijie suddenly thought of Huo Cheng and Qiu yaoyang.

There are no simple things and no simple people in the black building.

At least the funny bald man in front of him is not as simple as he thought.

Qin Yijie vomited a mouthful of smoke and said to bald Qiansan calmly.

"Is my change good or bad? Are you different from these people as I imagined, or am I wrong? "

Bald Qiansan narrowed his smoked eyes. Now he looked more funny. He rubbed his eyes and said faintly.

"It doesn't matter whether it's good or bad. What matters is how you overcome these problems. Although prisoners are locked in this cage, no matter what they have done, they are still human in the final analysis. They are no different from people outside. They also have seven emotions and six desires. From a different perspective, the outside world and society are not another cage, Your attitude towards the people here is no different from that towards the people outside. It's just that the people here need to be more troublesome, while the people outside seem to be better handled. If you can handle the relationship here, the people outside will naturally be fine! "

The more bald Qiansan said, the more surprised Qin Yijie was at his good understanding. He also believed that bald Qiansan was not chatting with himself casually, and the pain of his body was funny and relieved. He asked sincerely.

"What do you think I should do?"

"If you want to figure out how to deal with these relationships, you must first figure out why you have different understanding errors about the same people. This is the essence and key of the problem. If you can't solve it, how to deal with the problem..."

Qin Yijie nodded with understanding, but he was still very hesitant and asked eagerly.

"Why do I have such errors?"

Bald Qiansan touched his chin and the meat on his face was shaking again. He smiled and said calmly.

"In interpersonal communication, one aspect of people's characteristics masks other characteristics, resulting in obstacles to interpersonal cognition. In daily life, this ideology often quietly affects our cognition and evaluation of others. For example, some old people don't like the individual shortcomings of young people, or their clothes and living habits, They think that they must be worthless. Some young people will see their friends as lovely everywhere because they admire a certain loveliness of their friends. The so-called "one handsome man conceals a hundred ugly people" is a subjective psychological conjecture. Its mistakes are: first, it is easy to grasp the individual characteristics of things, and it is used to pushing them in general by individual, just like a blind man touching an elephant, with points instead of faces. Second, It links some personality or appearance features that have no internal connection, and asserts that there must be another feature with this feature. Third, it affirms all when it says good and denies all when it says bad. This is an absolute tendency dominated by subjective prejudice. "

Qin Yijie bit his lips and looked at bald Qiansan and asked convincingly.

"Listen to you, I find that I used to have this view..."

Bald Qiansan ignored Qin Yijie's words and continued.

"Just like what happened just now, I guess your impression and view of Xu Rui are extremely poor. Or in your heart, you can't find anything else except ferocious, violent and cold-blooded. Even the people around him have the same characteristics as others. This is the key to the problem... You deny everything because of one thing, Among the things you can't see, there are often things you need to use... "

Qin Yijie suddenly felt that bald Qiansan seemed to have become his own life-saving straw and said excitedly.

"Teach me. If it were you, what could you see and how would you deal with this problem?"

Bald Qiansan shook his head, smiled blandly, and said meaningfully with the ashes in his hand.

"Someone is sheltering from the rain under the eaves. When he sees Guanyin walking by with an umbrella, he says: Guanyin Bodhisattva, let's spend some time with all sentient beings. How about taking me for a while?

Guanyin said: I'm in the rain, you're under the eaves, and there's no rain under the eaves. You don't need me to spend it. The man immediately jumped out under the eaves and stood in the rain: now I'm also in the rain. Is it time to spend me? Guanyin said: you are in the rain, I am also in the rain, I am not drenched, because there is an umbrella, you are drenched, because there is no umbrella, so it is not me, but the umbrella is me. If you want to spend, you don't have to find me. Please find your own umbrella! Second days later, as like as two peas, he went to the temple and asked for the goddess of mercy and walked into the temple. Only then did he find that there was a man who was worshiping the statue of Guanyin. The man looked exactly like Guanyin. The man answered: I am Guanyin, and the man asked: then why do you worship yourself?

Guanyin smiled and said, "I've also encountered difficulties, but I know that it's better to ask for others than myself..."

Qin Yijie frowned and thought about the story of bald Qiansan. Subconsciously, he pointed to himself and said blankly.

"I... you mean I have to solve this problem myself, and no one else can help me?"

Bald thousand three smiled and nodded calmly.

"Of course, you have to rely on yourself to solve the problem. No one can help you, but I can remind you."

Qin Yijie stood up with an open mind and looked at bald Qiansan with urgent eyes.

"It seems that many people are teaching me all kinds of different principles these days. It seems that you should be another person who wants to teach me..."

Bald Qiansan also didn't refute Qin Yijie's words. He raised his finger and pointed to Xu Rui standing not far away. He calmly asked Qin Yijie.

"Now that Xu Rui has focused on you and the contradiction between you has been intensified, I believe he will never give up. Tomorrow, the day after tomorrow... As long as you can, the situation you encounter today will repeat every day, and I'm sure the situation will become more and more serious. You have two choices, either give in... Or fight with him all the time, Which one would you choose? "

Qin Yijie didn't even think about it. He answered firmly.

"I will never give in!"

"It seems that I've asked a lot of questions about this. You know it's hard and soft. Ha ha... Well, since you're going to continue to fight with Xu, you must first find out where his weakness is."

"I don't know him at all. How can I know his character, let alone his weaknesses."

"That's not necessarily true. Understanding a person actually has nothing to do with the length of time. Sometimes a person's words, deeds and even every move can expose his weaknesses. Physically, you are obviously at a disadvantage, so you can't get any advantage by directly confronting Xu Rui. Instead, you will deceive yourself and others, so you must start from other places, Start from Xu Rui's weakest link. "

Qin Yijie frowned and thought, but he still didn't understand.

"This Xu Rui is also my first time to see him today. I really don't know what his weakest link is."

Bald Qiansan ignored Qin Yijie's doubts, smiled and said.

"Then think about everything that has happened since you came in. Who are the people in the cage in the black building? You must know now that these people are people who put life and death aside, that is to say, there is nothing to worry about and fear, but because of this, these people often look down on people in other prison areas, Because in their mind, you are not at the same level as them at all. In this regard, they have a sufficient sense of superiority. Therefore, these people will only despise and disdain your appearance, but at least they will not be difficult for you, because if they do so, it will only show that they care about your existence, and subconsciously reduce themselves to the same level as you. "

Qin Yijie put out the cigarette end on the ground and said angrily.

"But... You can see what happened just now. I didn't do anything and didn't even say anything. Xu Rui took the initiative to pick things up. This is completely different from what you said..."

Bald Qiansan's smile became very deep, and his voice said softly and calmly.

"That's because this happens to be Xu Rui's weakness. It's because he has such weakness that he will do so."

"... the purpose of his doing this is..." Qin Yijie turned his eyes and thought for a while, suddenly raised his head“ He wants to prove himself in front of others! "