My beautiful boss and I

Lao Li continued: "so, if you want to prove something, don't let anyone know, or leave traces, do it skillfully. When you're trying to change people, make them feel like you're doing nothing. Things should be put forward unconsciously, as if they were forgotten. Scientist Galileo said: you can't teach people anything, you can only help them to discover. Socrates told his disciples again and again: the only thing I know is what I don't know.

"Therefore, it is wise men's way of self-protection and survival not to let others see that they are smarter than each other If the wood is beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy it; if the pile comes from the shore, the current will flow; if the behavior is higher than others, the crowd will not A real wise man can protect himself in good times and even more in adversity. Those who can protect themselves in adversity are the real masters. "

I look at Lao Li. For him, it seems that he is not in good times now. Is he also protecting himself when he comes here to fish?

I said: "Uncle Li, you said, in times of adversity, how can people better protect themselves?"

"This is also a problem that I have been pondering and practicing." Lao Li said.

"Can you tell me what you have learned and thought?" I said.

"I think there are a few points." Lao Li said: "first of all, we should make good use of" Mimicry "and" protective color " In the animal world, "Mimicry" and "protective color" are very important survival magic weapons. In the human world, there are also "Mimicry" and "protective color" behaviors. The most specific example is espionage. Of course, you are not a spy, and you are unlikely to have a chance to be a spy. But in the jungle of human nature, you need to understand "Mimicry" and "protective color" and learn how to use them Use. Especially when you are weak compared with your surroundings, you should make good use of these two instincts endowed by nature.

"One of the characteristics of mimicry is its immobility. There is a protective color, and still, then no one can help you. Therefore, in the jungle of human nature, in order to avoid unnecessary disasters, you must strictly abide by the principle of "staying still". In other words, you should not make random comments, reveal your intentions, form parties and factions, so that people will "turn a blind eye" to you. Then you can minimize the danger

"I've worked in public security for so many years, and I've handled countless cases. Some people were robbed at home because their houses were so beautifully decorated that people thought they were rich. Some people were robbed in the middle of the night because they were wearing expensive jewelry. This is because they don't know the role of "Mimicry" and "protective color.". Some tycoons go out in thick clothes and take taxis instead of walking. This kind of person knows the secrets of "Mimicry" and "protective color."

After listening to this, I couldn't help but exclaim in my heart that old Li Guo really has two talents. In this way, he is now fishing here, which is the use of this point. Li Shun was recalled from ningzhou by him and dormant in Xinghai, and I can also see the shadow of this point.

"Then, what's next?" I said.

"Secondly, sometimes it's better to engage in some decent" little scams. " Lao Li said: "people can't live without sincerity. Even the most shameless liars have intimate friends and sometimes tell the truth. Similarly, life never really forbids lies. Although lies can't be advocated, you don't have to hate them. Because lies are the common friends of human beings, who dares to say that they never lie. This is a beautiful lie. Of course, malicious lies are rumors, slander, not this In fact, it's much better to tell the right lie in the right place than to hurt the truth. "

Lao Li's words are in my heart. I feel that I have told enough lies to the people around me, Qiutong, Haizhu, and even my parents. The biggest lie is that I told Qiutong, that is to say, I had a dream of floating life. It can be said that this is the biggest lie in my life, the longest one, and the hardest one.

Hearing what Lao Li said, I suddenly felt a lot of comfort in my heart.

Lao Li continued: "to make good use of appropriate lies, we must grasp the relationship between the false and the real. At the appropriate time, we can use white lies to cover up the truth. For example, in order to get a job in foreign trade department, a master of Chinese Department said that he was a graduate of foreign language department. Of course, his foreign language level is really good. After passing five passes and cutting six generals, he got the job. He graduated from the foreign language department, but his foreign language level is very high. If he told the examiners that he graduated from Chinese Department, he would not be able to pass the first level even though he is outstanding among many job seekers. But anyway, competition depends on strength. In order to let your strength be recognized and appreciated, you can use some appropriate lies

"Sometimes, we need to use part of the truth to cover up the lies, so that the told lies can cover up the falsehood, giving people a very real feeling. For example, short stature is easy to give people a sense of reality, because short stature is the fact that the other party can see on the spot, which is a kind of reality. It is usually easy to make others have the illusion that what they say is also true. There is a small young man who likes to say: We dwarves don't talk big. In fact, he is using the short body to cover up the falsehood in his speech

"We often hear people complain about other people or their friends. We don't know what they say is true or false. In fact, in our daily life and work, people always talk falsely, falsely, falsely and falsely. We need not pay too much attention to some truths, and we need not investigate some falsehoods. We need to make clear the major and minor ones, and grasp the overall situation. Only in this way can our career develop steadily. "I nodded: "Uncle Li, what you said is wonderful So, how to use the right lie properly

Lao Li laughed: "there are two tips to master: one is to be firm. When you speak, you should be firm in your tone and firmly affirm or negate it, which is more powerful and persuasive than the unclear tone. When you speak, you should look authentic and confident. For example, when you are running for election, you often use phrases like "what I say will come true" and "I will never let you down.". After hearing this confident and firm statement. I'm gradually convinced by you.

"On the contrary, words with weaker tone are less persuasive and less authentic. In addition, sometimes we need to borrow other people's words and turn groundless words into groundless words to gain the trust of the other party. If you don't get the information or intelligence directly from you, you deliberately say the sentence "I also heard it from some way" first, and then say what you want to say like a piece of information, people will easily believe it, so as to achieve your goal The second key is that the meaning of drunkard is not wine. "

"Drunk man's intention is not wine?" I'm a little confused.

"Yes, you have to learn to let the other party accept the negative content in a way that seems to advise the other party. In this way to gain the other party's trust, to achieve your goal, this is the skill of advice, but also the specific use of lying skills Lao Li said: "it's always easier for people to accept advice from people who understand their own worries and feelings, and it's easy to have a feeling that they hate to see each other too late. Therefore, you should first hide your thoughts in your heart, pretend to be indifferent and listen to each other, and listen to each other's dissatisfaction and troubles.

"After the other party has let out all the words in his heart, he can speak to the other party in an understanding tone, making the other party feel that you are thinking for him, and making him have an open mind. When this kind of psychology appears, even if you put forward the content that is not good for him, the other party will easily accept it. This is your real purpose, and advice is just a skill for you to gain the other party's trust and achieve the goal, which is called drunk man's intention is not to drink. "

I nodded. I could not help admiring Lao Li. He really had two skills.

"Anything else?" I watched Lao Li with a strong thirst for knowledge.

"The last point is to show weakness in case of strength, and show strength in case of weakness." Lao Li said: "of course, human beings have innate strength and weakness as well as acquired strength and weakness, but because human beings have wisdom, they can skillfully obtain the opportunity to survive in the jungle of human nature through learning and experience accumulation, and strive for a favorable position for themselves by showing strength or weakness

"Showing weakness when you meet a strong man means: if you meet a strong man with strength, and his strength is obviously higher than you, then you don't have to compete with him for face or morale, because once you meet a strong man, it is possible to destroy him, but the possibility of destroying yourself is very high. Therefore, you may as well show weakness to defuse the other party's wariness.

"To bully the weak with the strong is not to win. Most of the strong don't do it. However, there are also some aggressive habits of the strong bullying the weak, so showing weakness can also make the other party confused about you, and reduce the effectiveness of the other party's attack. Once his attack fails, he may stop, and you will get the space to survive, and reverse the two situations, and he will never dare to move you. As for whether or not to fight back, you should carefully consider, because you will also have damage when you fight back, and this interest needs to be evaluated. What's more, it may not be able to beat the other side

"Showing strength in case of weakness" means that if you meet an opponent who is weaker than you, you should show your stronger side. This is not to make him submit to you or satisfy his vanity or superiority, but that the weak generally have a kind of mentality and are not willing to be the weak all the time, so he will look for opponents around to prove that he is also a strong one.

"If you show weakness in front of the weak, it will lead to the other party's killing opportunity and increase unnecessary trouble and loss. Showing strength can make the weak afraid and retreat in the face of difficulties. Therefore, the demonstration here is defensive, not aggressive, because aggression will also bring you losses. If you make a wrong judgment and meet an opponent who meets the demonstration, you will not be very miserable

Lao Li's words fascinated me. I couldn't help admiring Lao Li. It's Lao Jiang who is really hot. He has real combat skills and experience.

I feel very benefited from it.

I suddenly feel that Lao Li is a strong man, a real strong man.

At present, he seems to be practicing his own theory.

However, I was a little confused. How could a master who was so smart and knew how to devise strategies be taken down from the position of public security director? He is now taking such superb skills to save himself, can realize his intention? Can you protect yourself in the end?

At this time, I suddenly think of a sentence: strong in more strong in the hand!

And I don't know who the winner is.