My beautiful boss and I

"What's the matter?" I said.

"If Xiaoxue is Li Shun's own child, the child will suffer." Lao Li said.

"Why?" I said.

"Li Shun is a drug addict Don't you know? Can't you see that? " "When I look into Li Shun's eyes and skin, I can guess that he is a drug addict Besides, he has been taking drugs for quite a long time. "

"How do you see that?" I said.

"When you have my age and experience, you will see it." Lao Li said: "Xiaoyi, remember what I said. Don't take drugs. Once you take drugs, you will die for a lifetime Drug addicts do harm not only to their own health, but also to future generations. "

"Well, I will never." I said.

"I'm afraid Li Shun's business is all underworld." Lao Li said.

I didn't say a word.

"Li Shun is involved in the underworld, taking drugs, and Qiu Tong doesn't know? She doesn't care about Li Shun? " Said Lao Li.

"I know he's involved in the underworld, but I can't I don't know about drugs. " I said.

"Well Poor child No wonder Li Shun's parents can't manage him, let alone Qiu Tong. " Lao Li sighed: "how can a good girl like Qiu Tong promise to be Li Shun's fiancee?"

"Because Li Shun's parents are Qiu Tong's benefactor, Qiu Tong is an orphan since childhood, and has been helped by Li Shun's parents since childhood. In order to repay his kindness, Li Shun's parents asked Qiu Tong to marry Li Shun, but Qiu Tong only agreed." I said.

"Oh That's right. " After hearing this, Lao Li was silent for a long time and sighed deeply.

I was silent again.

"Lao Li and his wife are really stupid and ridiculous Qiu Tong's life is really hard. " After a while, Lao Li said again.

Listening to Lao Li's voice, it seems that he knows Lao Li and his wife.

I guessed in my heart, but I didn't ask Lao Li.

"Xiaoyi, as a friend, I want to have a few words with you." Lao Li said.

"Well You said I look at Lao Li.

"When a person lives in this society, he has to deal with all kinds of people. In order to survive and develop, he may have to make friends with all kinds of people, including good people and bad people Among them, it's particularly important to keep your principles and stick to your bottom line. At any time, don't lose yourself or break through your bottom line. " Lao Li said.

Looking at Lao Li's expectant eyes, I nodded seriously: "well, I remember."

"The society is very complicated, and the people in the society are more complicated. Although people live in different environments and have different cultural levels, they pursue different goals and ideals. But every person has his own principles in his heart. The principle of being a man should be multifaceted. For example, when dealing with study, life and work, everyone will have their own principles. That is to say, there is a bottom line of being a person and doing things. They will do something and not do something. They know what should be done well, what can be done, and what can not be done

"You can't live without principles. Without the principle of life, there will be no yardstick to measure right and wrong. If you don't know what to do and what not to do, it's easy to go astray. Because people have social attributes, everything must be constrained by socially recognized laws and ethics, and can not be separated from society.

"So, I tell you to have principles in life, but these principles also keep pace with the times. With the continuous development of society, the concept is constantly updated, and the demand is also changing to varying degrees. In different social backgrounds, laws and ethics will be different. It may be right to do so in this period, but it is wrong or even illegal to do the same thing in another period. Then, the principle of being a man should be constantly adjusted with the changing society

"It's hard to be a man, even harder to be a good man! Because being a good man has principles, he has moral standards and needs to be tolerant and modest. Forbearance: it's better to think twice when things come to an end. Anger is the most important thing to bear, and misfortunes often arise. Let's not deceive each other. Let's take a step back and be calm. Let's not be Confucianists. Let's not boast when we have achievements. Arrogance is better than arrogance. Looking at many things in the world, we will lose from humility to extravagance. And let's not be trifles There is Taihe in Bainen hall. "

I listened to Lao Li's teaching in silence.

"A man should stick to the bottom line. What is the biggest bottom line? It's kindness Lao Li looked at me: "people have to go through countless temptations in their life. Some people can stubbornly adhere to their ideals. They are considered stupid for a while, but they finally realize that this is great wisdom. Some people can't bear the temptation of violating principles, and finally they know that they have bitten the fatal bait.

"Just like a person who has passed the first step of" never taking drugs "is giving up all his insistence and shaking the dam of his human nature physically. His behavior naturally loses the minimum control and restraint until his evil behavior becomes a habit and he can't go back. At last, he goes further and further until he falls into the abyss Good people become ugly, honest people become hypocritical, beautiful ideals become terrible ambitions, all start from crossing the bottom line for the first time"It's very easy for a person to give up his principle of being a man, but it's very difficult for him to stick to his principle and ideal. But it's just because you can stick to it that you can let the difficulties and pain go away and finally enjoy the happiness of climbing to the top."

I looked at Lao Li and nodded seriously.

"Xiaoyi, between wolf and dog, if you are allowed to choose one of them, which one would you like to choose?" Lao Li said.

I did not hesitate to answer: "I choose to be a wolf."

"Why did you choose to be a wolf?" Lao Li looks at me with a smile.

"In order to seek freedom, wolves prefer to have independent personality and free thinking. They run on the grassland every day, hunt cattle and sheep wantonly, and enjoy all the delicious food provided by nature as much as possible. After eating, they lie on the grassland and enjoy the sunshine and free air. They are the masters of the grassland and have dignity.

"But when the cold comes, they must learn to resist the cold of snowstorms, learn to look for prey under the thick snow, often endure the pain of hunger, and worry that they will die of starvation at any time. Wolf's life is half sea water, half fire

"But the dog's life is just the opposite. Usually, the dog can only eat the leftovers left by the owner, and is yelled by the owner to work everywhere. There is no freedom, no dignity, and only begging for mercy. The dog's life is guaranteed. Although it never eats any delicious food, it doesn't worry about starvation and freezing when winter comes.

"The dogs are grateful for their master's fart protection and swear that they will remain loyal to their master for the next life. Even if the master beat and scolded the dogs wantonly, most of them dare not say a word, because obedience and obedience are the marks of dogs. It's the dog's label to compromise. For the sake of a stable job and a fixed ration when you are old, you have recognized everything. " I said: "so, for me, I would rather be a proud wolf than a pitiful dog."

"Well said." Lao Li looked at me with approval: "the choice between wolf and dog shows the basic bottom line of your principle of being a man I just told you that we should have principles in our life, not rigid. We should always consider the relationship between principles and development.

"Sometimes, if there are too many rules and regulations in life and we have formed the inherent behavior habits, we may restrict our thinking, make people lose the spirit of pioneering and innovation, and even make our thinking rigid, which makes it difficult to adapt to the constantly developing and changing social environment. Therefore, while abiding by the principles of life, you should make appropriate adjustments at any time, so that your principles of life can always meet the requirements of the times. Don't let the principles restrain and prohibit your own thoughts

"What's more, when we set our own principles, we should be reasonable and practical. People always have to have a little spirit, can not be without the pursuit, but to make themselves feel that the goal can be achieved through efforts, if the breakthrough of this principle. So, too much pressure is to make yourself a burden, which will become a heavy burden.

"To be a man, whether it is the principle of being a man, or the goal and ideal, the ultimate goal is to be happy. Only in this way can we reach the highest level of happiness in life. If we live too tired, we will never be happy I say these words to you today because we are friends. I want to say that no matter what kind of environment you are in, I hope you can be a good person with a bright future and worthy of your conscience. "

I looked at Lao Li gratefully: "Lao Li, thank you for your teaching. I will remember your words firmly These words will benefit me all my life. "

"In your life, you should learn to forgive a lot of people, including Li Shun, who are not good to you and who make mistakes to you. Although he must have done a lot of bad things, he may have done something wrong to you."

Lao Li said meaningfully: "sometimes, we are willing to forgive a person, not that we are really willing to forgive him, but that we are not willing to lose him. Forgiveness doesn't always mean that you are wrong, it just means that you are more broad-minded and cherish the relationship between you It's the same with making friends and love Love is not looking for a perfect person, but learning to appreciate an imperfect person with perfect eyes. Single mindedness is not to like one person all one's life, it's to like one person wholeheartedly

Listening to Lao Li's words, I can't help thinking of Li Shun and Dong er

I don't know how to feel. When I get close to my heart, I can listen to the beating of my heart. When I get close to my emotion, I can feel the passion of my emotion. When I get close to my dignity, I can experience the nobility of my dignity. When I get close to my tolerance, I can experience the broadness of my tolerance. As long as you can capture the beautiful world in your heart, you will always keep it.

Overlooking the vast sea, I think of the words of a monk Yunyou who met me on the road when I was wandering last year: the cultivation of human beings should be as steady as the mountain, as tolerant as the mountain, as lofty as the mountain, as patient as the mountain; the virtue of human beings should be like the flow of water, as clear as the water, as deep as the water, as broad as the water; the ambition of human beings should be as lofty as the sky, as clear as the sky, as boundless as the sky People's utensils should be as thick as the earth, as ingenious as the earth, as solemn as the earth, and as harmonious as the earth

"If you don't like others, it's because you don't have enough self-cultivation. At the moment when people are angry, their IQ is zero, and it will return to normal in a minute. The key to human grace is to control one's emotions. It's the stupidest way to hurt people with your mouth. " Lao Li also said, "we can avoid an elephant, but we can't avoid a fly. In our life, it's often small things that make us unhappy Learn to control your attitude and emotions, or you will be controlled by them. It's not enough to let others forgive you. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself. "I nodded: "well..."