Siheyuan: Start with Security

This is just because they are too weak, not emotionally weak, but weak because they are bullied and dare not resist.

It's like the boss who is in a bad mood and educates the executives. After the education, the mood will be much more comfortable, and it is impossible to be depressed.

When the executives are scolded, they scold the employees, and the mood is relieved, and they can continue to think about how to manage the employees.

When an employee is scolded, he must be in a bad mood for a day. If he doesn't vent it, he will think too much after scolding for a few days and half a month, and he will become depressed after a long time.

Of course, these are only employees who have a family and a career. Those who are not married and have no pressure just quit, and naturally they will not be depressed.

And those who are married and have children can’t vent their anger by swearing at others, so they can only go back to educate their wives and children and beat them with words. They just feel that they are doing it for the children’s good. Child, let him be sensible.

The child grows up slowly under such circumstances every day, but his emotions cannot be vented.

After all, everyone has someone who is weaker than themselves, and they can be taught to vent, but children don't, they can only endure it day by day, and many people are depressed.

But most people will only think that they are hypocritical, crying and sad for no reason at all times. In fact, this is depression.

In fact, it's not true, children also have outlets, just like school bullies who always bully you.

These people are basically not caring enough for their families, and they beat and scold them at every turn. They don't get to vent their emotions, so they go to school to bully honest people, and they feel much happier.

Don't you see, the punks in school are basically extroverted when they grow up, and few of them are depressed.

However, children who are good at studying, or who are more honest and often bullied, are more introverted or feel uninspired. In fact, these children are a little depressed.

After all, I have been educated by my parents at home since I was a child, and I have been educated by bullies in school. It is okay to express these emotions, but if I keep them in my heart, everyone will collapse.

Maybe sometimes when you are happy, you don’t want to, but when you are alone, when you are unhappy, all the sad things are at this moment, and when you think about it again, it is easy to do things you can’t think about.

In fact, in the eyes of many people, depression is not considered a serious illness until it reaches a deep level. Even if it goes to a deep level, it only hurts yourself, and no one cares about it. Instead, they will say that the other party is hypocritical.

Thinking of this, Yang Chen couldn't help but shudder, luckily he figured it out early enough.

When I have a child in the future, I will definitely not spread negative emotions to him. Even if I spread it to others, it is better than letting the child hold it in my heart and feel uncomfortable.

After all, everyone is an independent individual. As long as you are sensible and scolded by others, you will remember it in your heart. If you are delicate in your heart, it is easy to fall into the root of the disease.

Also, in the future, no matter whether you have a son or a daughter, you must take good care of it. It is impossible for me to use the idea of ​​raising a poor son and a rich daughter.

He had friends before, and his family was also very rich, but his parents believed in this sentence and raised him poorly since he was a child. Compared with people and children, I also have low self-esteem, and I can't change it no matter how I change it.

The low self-esteem that has been cultivated since childhood, can you just change it?

Yang Chen couldn't help but feel a little speechless, and he didn't know who spread the phrase, "The rich raise a daughter, but the poor raise a son."

Let many people who should be outgoing, cheerful, optimistic and generous, look like they are young and young and should be confident, but have low self-esteem and become a dick, even if their salary is higher than that of their parents.

Some people even have two or three thousand a month, but they are not as confident as the other one or two thousand. They are all the same age, and the salary difference is dozens of times.

Although there are still some ordinary and confident men, but because of their low self-esteem with other ordinary men, they are called Puxinnan, which has become a derogatory term.

Forget it, Yang Chen shook his head, he just needs to educate his own children well in the future, anyway, his children will definitely not be like this in the future, it's useless to care so much, this is a general trend, he can't control it, just care about his own family.

And to put it bluntly, my child is destined to be a leek harvester in the future. It is good for others to educate them this way. In the future, when other people's children feel inferior and dare not be with the girl they like, their own children can gallop freely.

Looking at Xu Damao again, Yang Chen didn't bother to talk to him anymore, he reached out his hand to take out the money from his pocket and handed it to Yan Jiecheng and the two, then turned around and left.

Xu Damao was left wondering why he was shaking his head.

But after thinking about it for a moment, he hurried home. He had to clean up the gold on his body, and he was not in the mood to think about anything else for the time being.

But he didn't know that immediately, the bad luck of his life would happen to him because of yesterday's domestic violence against Lou Xiao'e.

And after Yang Chen left, he didn't go to work, and went directly to find Xu Damao's tools. He had to get Lou Xiaoe and Xu Damao to divorce as soon as possible.

After all, I promised Lou Xiaoe, so I can't break my promise.

Chapter Two Hundred and Eight

The next day, after arriving at the factory, Yang Chen specifically told Guo Shuanglong and the others to pay attention to Xu Damao's movements.

For Guo Shuanglong and the others, Yang Chen was very relieved. After talking about it, he didn't care, and slowly waited for the opportunity.

Time flies.

Soon, two days passed.

At noon that day, when Yang Chen was eating in the cafeteria, he got news from Guo Shuanglong. He saw Deputy Factory Manager Li and asked Xu Damao to go to the office.

Yang Chen immediately thought of it. In the morning, Deputy Factory Manager Li also asked him to go to the State Guest Hotel with him at night.

Did Xu Damao go too?Thinking of this, Yang Chen had an idea, and without any entanglement, he went directly to Deputy Factory Manager Li's office, saying that he had something to do, so he wouldn't go at night.

Although Deputy Factory Manager Li tried his best to invite him, he was still rejected by Yang Chen.

After all, I finally found an opportunity, so naturally I couldn't let it go so easily, this time I must make Xu Damao lose his skin.

After saying goodbye to Deputy Factory Manager Li, Yang Chen ran out of the factory in the afternoon.

He was going to arrange it again, so as not to miss anything.

On the other side, in the state-run hotel, Xu Damao was sitting in a box at this moment, currying favor with Deputy Director Li.

In the past, although he often boasted that he had dinner and drinks with Deputy Factory Manager Li, he really didn't have a few times together.

Before, deputy factory manager Li called him because he wanted to arrange for him to show movies to distant relatives, and Xu Damao knew it well.

But to his surprise, his current reputation has been ruined in the rolling mill, and Deputy Director Li will invite him. It seems that Deputy Director Li still values ​​himself very much, so he must perform well today.

If he can get into the eyes of deputy factory director Li and arrange a half-time job for himself, then Yang Chen is a fart?

Thinking of this, Xu Damao's heart was so excited, he stood up directly, raised his glass and said:

"Director Li, leaders, I am Xu Damao, it is my blessing to be able to drink with you tonight, it is my ancestral grave that smokes, I respect each leader."

After finishing speaking, Xu Damao drank it down in one gulp, that's a heroic one.

However, no matter whether it was Deputy Factory Manager Li or other leaders, they just took a sip and didn't even touch a drop of wine. They really didn't give Xu Damao any face.

Xu Damao couldn't help being a little bit aggrieved, but he has always been very thick-skinned, so he didn't take it seriously. Seeing that everyone ignored him, he still said with a smile:

"Leaders, I have a big rule when drinking, one big, three small, twenty five ten."

"What kind of rule is this? Why are you one big and three small?"

Deputy Factory Manager Li couldn't help being a little curious. He had been drinking for so many years, but he had never heard of such a rule.

Seeing Deputy Factory Manager Li stomping on him, Xu Damao breathed a sigh of relief, and quickly flattered him:

"It's big, it's the leader. What is the leader? That's God, not only my God, but also the God of all the employees in the rolling mill."

"What nonsense! And Director Yang!"

Deputy Factory Manager Li said pretending to be dissatisfied, but he was very happy in his heart. This Xu Damao is a talent, why didn't he see it before?

"Hey, Director Li, I made a mistake. I'll punish myself with a glass of wine." Xu Damao is so smart, he naturally saw that Deputy Director Li was offended, but he apologized quickly and drank a glass of wine.

"Forget it this time." Deputy Factory Manager Li persuaded him righteously, and then asked pretending to be puzzled:

"Does San Xiao also mean that?"

"It's not." Xu Damao shook his head and said with an apologetic smile:

"Sanxiao means that if a big man drinks one cup, a small person like me, Xu Damao, will drink three cups. This is Sanxiao!"

I have to say, this sentence is in place, Deputy Director Li's eyes on Xu Damao have changed, this young man seems to really respect himself.

However, Deputy Director Li wanted to test whether Xu Damao really respected him, or whether he had other purposes, so he asked again:

"What if I drink three times?"

"Three three wins nine, if the leader drinks three cups, then I will drink nine cups."

Without hesitation, Xu Damao immediately said with a smile, his expression was like that of a dog.

It has to be said that if Yang Chen hadn't traveled through time, Xu Damao would undoubtedly be the protagonist of the courtyard. Not only is he a villain, but he can bend and stretch, and he can live comfortably. It can be said that he is a leader in this era.

It cannot be denied that in the original drama, the two best women in the courtyard, Lou Xiaoe and Qin Jingru, were both married to him.

In addition, Qin Huairu was not clear with Xu Damao in the early stage, and there were even other women who were not broadcast in the show.

Unfortunately, he is just a peanut.

"Are you sure? Can you drink?"

Deputy Factory Manager Li asked curiously.

"Of course I can. I will drink as many glasses as the leader toasts. This is what I should drink."

Xu Damao immediately patted his chest and promised.

Since he wants Deputy Factory Manager Li to value him, he must show an attitude. Even if all the stomach acid is vomited today, he must have a future.

Some people must be wondering, why is Xu Damao dreaming if he can get a future after just a drink?

It’s actually not. It’s normal for Xu Damao to think this way. It’s an unspoken rule that real men who drink alcohol are popular now. Even in about 10 years, the general environment will be that people who drink a lot will be more likely to be promoted.

But slowly, this kind of unspoken rules in the workplace is not as much as before, but it is still the case in many industries.

"Okay, since that's the case, then Xu Damao, I'll toast you."

Deputy Factory Manager Li raised his wine glass and said with a smile.

"Okay, the leader respects me this cup, then I will drink three cups."

Seeing Li's toast, Xu Damao quickly stood up, lowered the wine glass, touched it carefully, and then drank it down.

Immediately after the second cup and the third cup, my face was a little reddish after drinking.

He quickly picked up the chopsticks, just about to pick up a piece of food, took a slow bite, when another leader next to him offered a toast:

"Xu Damao, come with me."

Xu Damao could only put down his chopsticks, and quickly raised his wine glass to clink again.

Afterwards, the leaders one after another offered Xu Damao wine.

Naturally, Xu Damao didn't dare to refuse. Since he drank with one of them, the rest of the leaders would not drink, and he would offend a lot of people.

Soon, Xu Damao drank two catties,

And the people at the dinner table were almost drunk, so they ignored Xu Damao and chatted with each other for a while, then seeing that it was getting late, they all fell down and didn't turn around and leave.

After everyone left, Xu Damao fell to the ground as soon as he stood up by himself, which lasted three or four times.