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Fang Tianxing can see that in the whole process, Artest is still trying to control his emotions as much as possible, and does not have too many positive conflicts with Xu Xin, but his emotions have been generated. In contrast, Xu Xin seems to have begun to apologize and admit her mistakes, but her way of speaking is not convinced. She is not satisfied with Artest's preaching.

But the way men and women communicate is not the same, Artest thought that this is in communication. However, it's just venting your emotions. It's similar to moral kidnapping. Originally, one's mood is unstable and one's laziness is the first, but he forces the other party to conform to his own attitude in the way of the victim.

Finally, Xu Xin said in a blunt tone, "well, I'm wrong. I'll change it later."

"Admit your mistake and go for a snack like me. If I do something wrong to you one day, I will only tell you, I'm wrong, what's your reaction. For example, I told you how I felt, but you are beating the king. Can I do the same to you in the future? " Artest said discontentedly.

At this point, Artest immersed in their emotions, and Xu Xin's mood is also a little strained. As a result, Artest felt very tired to communicate with Xu Xin.

This kind of dialogue, Fang Tianxing believes, will happen to many couples. Artest communicated with his girlfriend with emotion, and did not use the things he usually created in network literature to ease his emotion. On the contrary, they turn what they have learned into weapons and make themselves stand at the commanding height of morality.

Including usually we see a lot of emotional articles, emotional methods, skills are also like this. Many times, many people turn these things into their own weapons. However, this knowledge is not a spear, nor a sword, nor a life-saving straw that you can grasp when there is a problem, nor a weapon to protect yourself absolutely right.

It looks more like children's usual means when they quarrel. And even if we are in communication, the core of the argument will stay in the right and wrong of the event, ignoring the feelings of each other when it happened.

There are few real right and wrong things between men and women. What we need to review and discuss is the feelings of the parties, not the event itself. Bear in mind that when describing feelings, the parties themselves are dealing with emotions autonomously. When we go back to the event itself, it's easy to make conflicts and emotions intensify again, so that we can't communicate smoothly.

Fang Tianxing said to Artest: "brother, you should say that. You have to tell Xu Xin that you apologize for the unhappiness you have caused by not dealing with your emotions properly. I am so much older than you, I feel your love and respect for me, but I am so selfish, standing in my own position to think and put pressure on you. Sorry, in fact, my emotional source is mainly because I miss you. I want you to accompany me instead of others. I'm shy and don't want to say such words to you directly. I'm sorry for your misunderstanding. "

Fang Tianxing was very touched by what he said to Artest. When men and women get along with each other, there are always contradictions. Secondly, they respect each other's opinions.

Has the final say that boys should be active in their emotions and learn to lead girls, but don't always say what you want, you should learn to ask the other side's initiative.

Being able to listen to each other's opinions and adjust your behavior according to them is a kind of tolerance.

Girls value one thing very much in their relationship, that is, enough respect and love. If you can't respect each other's opinions and put them into your decision-making process, then you won't tolerate each other.

Tolerance is not just that there is a quarrel, I do not care about you, such tolerance is the simplest, the shallowest tolerance.

Because when you say that, in your heart, this person is not an equal object of communication, but a person you don't care about at all. You are communicating with her with a sense of superiority.

Real tolerance is to be able to take each other into consideration, two people can communicate equally together, you can listen to each other's opinions, respect and try to identify with each other's ideas.

Tolerance also means respect for the weaknesses of the other party. Here I use respect. Pay attention to the difference.

The tolerance here is the real understanding and acceptance of the imperfections of the other party.

Never feel that some problems are caused by someone else's problems, and they can be solved by changing someone else, because changing someone often means the emergence of new problems, and you can never have no problems.

When it comes to tolerance, we all feel that we are at a loss. If we pay more, we will be at a loss. But this idea is wrong.

You are in the relationship between two people. In this relationship, each of us makes efforts to make two people better. This is a bigger thinking pattern.

If you are tolerant every time, what you think is that I gave in this time, and I made some sacrifice. Until you can not tolerate, all the discontent can no longer be suppressed.

But if you are thinking, I am working hard for our relationship, then your tolerant attitude will be very positive and healthy.

If everyone can regard the effort in their own feelings as the effort for the sake of relationship rather than sacrificing themselves, then I believe you will have less resentment when you are tolerant of each other.

After Fang Tianxing's words, Artest's problems are solved. He says goodbye to Fang Tianxing and apologizes to Xu Xin.

Fang Tianxing watched Artest leave, his heart is also a lot of emotion, many times the relationship between anyone is composed of emotion, but to maintain emotion, we must use appropriate methods.

Sometimes, improper methods will make the real situation just opposite to one's own wishes, just like people's life. People want to pursue the life they want, but always find that they do not.

Some people will give up their ideals and pursuits if they can't bear the blow. But many times the wrong way, too high expectations will make things simply will not succeed.

Only calm down, serious thinking, the use of things in line with the development of the method, in order to make their true progress towards success. Artest's incident this time makes Fang Tianxing have a lot of feelings about network literature. Many times, some network writers confide what they want to say, and they don't care about the readers' feelings at all.

The market reaction of such works is always very low. The author will only improve the depth of writing from his own subjective point of view, but the market does not accept such efforts.

As a result, such writers tend to abandon themselves, lose the motivation to continue writing, and finally have no choice but to give up their ideals.

Fang Tianxing hopes that his works can be close to the masses, close to life, help people solve problems in life, seek truth from illusion, and pursue the true truth.

In fact, the truth is constantly changing. Many people say that reading is useless. What's more, such people not only haven't read many books, but also don't have enough life experience. In their life, they are still in a very self and naive level: how to find a good job, how to live better, what can make them happier, and how to work more efficiently.