Sweet Military Marriage: Mr. Jing, Please Spare Me!

Su Hong Shan then spoke with a firm voice, "That is how people make use of the netizens, the public, the media, and our instincts to get what they want."

Then another fan voiced out his opinions, "Since their affairs are made known to the public, don't we have the right to comment on them? Whatever that is on the internet would mean that everyone knows about it, so why can't we critique them?"

"Let me ask you a few questions before I get to that. Do the cheaters have the right to seek for forgiveness?"

Some of the fans shook their heads, while others nodded.

"Yes. They have the right to ask for forgiveness no matter we like it or not. Now, do the cheaters have the right to demand forgiveness?"

Everyone shook their heads when they noticed the difference in meaning between the two questions.

"That's right, no. They don't have the right to demand forgiveness, but they can ask for one if they truly realized that they were wrong. Now, here comes the interesting part. Do we have the right to forgive them?"

The fans shook their heads, and Su Hong Shan smiled satisfyingly as it seemed like the fans finally understood things.

"That's right. We don't have the right to forgive them because only the people they cheated on have the right to forgive them. Now, can their friends and family help them to ask for forgiveness?"

"This is a little complex because their friends and families are not exactly part of their problems. So, they cannot comment on whatever that had happened between the couple. However, if the person that cheated is truly trying to make amendments, and the friends and families are around to see that change, then wouldn't it be a good thing to help the couple a little?"

"Now, do their friends and families have the right to make any decision for them?"

Once again, everyone shook their heads.

"That's right once again. Their friends and families cannot make any decision for them. Of course, all of us would want their friends and families to support them. However, their friends and families are not them. They don't know what kind of feelings they truly share. They don't know how they truly feel. Can anyone of you pinpoint exactly how many percent of their emotions are filled with anger, sadness, or other feelings? I am sure not. You would probably just say they are very sad and angry, right?"

Then another fan asked anxiously, "What if we know that they are making a foolish decision to forgive or not forgive them?"

"Excellent. I was waiting for someone to ask that question. Now, let me ask you this. How do you know that they are making a foolish decision?"

The fan then answered, "Because the person is bad, and they cheated."

"What if the person that cheated is bad on the outside, but good on the inside. However, they need to go through some things in life to bring out that goodness. What if their decision to forgive or not forgive could lead them to a better ending than you expected."

The fan then answered, "How would we know which would happen? We wouldn't know what the ending would be because we can't predict the future."

"That's right. We wouldn't know. That's why that's their life. Yes, we can help them. We can give them advice. However, ultimately, life is theirs. No one has the right to say that I am making this decision for you because you are making a foolish decision. You will thank me in the future for making this decision for you."

Some of the fans' faces lit up because of the familiar lines, and Su Hong Shan laughed.

"Very familiar, right? The all so typical lines of rich families when the parents or grandparents make decisions for their children's marriage."

"Not just rich family though, sometimes, even those from poorer families face such problems. The elders in the family love to say things like this. I forbid you from marrying that nobody! You should get married to the girl from the other family! She is kind and gentle and brought up in a well to do family! What can that nobody do for you?! She cannot help you with your career, and she wouldn't bring you happiness! She will only be your obstacle to success! If you marry the girl from the other family, she can help you with everything you want, and you two would be the best couple! You will regret it if you marry that nobody! I am making this decision for you because I am thinking in your best interest! You will thank me in the future when you succeed!"

"These are the words that most of us despise the most, right? Because the parents are trying to control our lives and think that whatever they do is the best for us when they don't know what we truly want. Our happiness lies in our own hands. Not our parents' hands. Now, the parents would say that we are not filial and then they would say 'If you want to marry her, you would have to wait till I die!'. How would you feel if you were them?"

Everyone remained quiet, but one of the fans answered honestly, "As the child, I would feel very angry and, at the same time, helpless because they are the people who gave me life. I don't want to go against them and make them angry. However, I still want to have the chance to fight for my own happiness."

Upon hearing the answer, Su Hong Shan smiled even more brightly, "That's right, they are the people who gave us life, but our life is still ours to live. We did not come to this earth for them. We did not come to this earth to live the life they want for us."