The Ball at Your Feet

After taking care of the internal affairs of the national team, Zhao Yaning also ushered in the match between the Chinese team and Estonia. In this game, Zhao Yaning was replaced after playing halftime on the court. And this game, because of Daewoo's goal, finally won 1:0.

Since it was a friendly match, Zhao Yaning didn't put much energy into it. Talking nonsense with the old footballers of the national team can be much more tired than playing ten games. After the game, he barely stopped and returned to France.

It's just that he didn't answer Monaco right away. In Paris, he still has something to do.

"Hello, Mr. Loyle." Zhao Yaning greeted his counselor, and then sat down.

"Hello, Joey. We haven't seen each other for a long time. You went back to play in the national team, right? So, is there anything you want to share?"

Zhao Yaning was silent for a while. Although he knew the occupational regulations of the opponent, he couldn't help but ask. "I have something to say, but these questions are related to my national team. You will not tell. Someone else?"

"Of course not, we have professional requirements, and didn't we just sign a non-disclosure agreement? Joey, I said that lack of trust is a big weakness of your character, have you forgotten?"

"I haven't forgotten, but these words are not the same as before." Zhao Yaning scratched his head and continued, "I have some unpleasant things in the national team. It is a long time and it may take a long time to finish. I hope you have patience."

"I am a consultant and charge on time. Of course I am very patient."

Zhao Yaning smiled slightly, and then began to talk. Mr. Loyle leaned forward slightly, nodding his head as he listened to him.

The story is indeed very long, and what Zhao Yaning said is also very fragmentary, but he continued to say a little bit. It took more than half an hour before he finished what he wanted to say, "That's it. I am troubled now because I don't know whether I am wrong or they are wrong. I hope the national team can play. Achievements, but they are always careless about the performance of the national team. I used to think that they are incurable, but now, I find that they still seem to have some merits. This makes me feel confused, I don’t I know, I ask them to play well, am I wrong or they are wrong?"

Listening to this, Loyle nodded and opened his mouth, "Joy, when you came last time, you said that you want to use NPL technology to analyze. I said first use psychoanalysis to explore the formation of your childhood personality, and then Then use cognitive behavioral therapy to change your behavioral habits. If you want, use motivational techniques to positively strengthen your behavioral beliefs. The past stage was the stage when you knew yourself and knew yourself. You got to know you I began to realize that there is a certain difference between your thinking mode, behavior habits and socially recognized habits, which shows that you have made progress. The next step is the time for you to change your thinking."

"So, do you think I was wrong?" Zhao Yaning asked, "But playing well, this is the most basic and most important thing for football players."

"Joy, first of all, please calm down and listen to me: In theory, each of us has a different understanding of the world. Therefore, in theory, each of us has a subjective understanding of the world. , Not objective. What you say should be and what should not be, in fact, it is just your own personal judgment, and among these things, only those things that have reached agreement with others, that is to say, in each person’s subjective perception There are correct things in it, and you can strive for it objectively. Now, your understanding of the world is in conflict with many people, so it means that you don’t look at this time objectively. As a young person, sometimes you will always Ask, am I wrong or the world is wrong? This kind of problem arises because you live in your own world."

This made Zhao Yaning's eyes widened, "You mean, I'm just deceiving myself?"

"It's not self-deception, but the way you know things. It's purely a certain problem. It's not a big deal. There are problems with the way everyone knows things. Each of us is subjective and absolutely objective. If it doesn’t exist, everyone’s subjective ideas will be different, so there will be conflicts."

"Then how should I resolve this conflict?" Zhao Yaning asked.

"We can look at this issue this way." Loyle laughed, "Your values, the values ​​of Chinese players, and the values ​​of outstanding good players are three different values. Your values ​​are closer to the values ​​of good players, and The values ​​of Chinese players are different. Right?"

"Yes." Zhao Yaning nodded.

"So, your conflict, in the final analysis, can be attributed to a conflict of ideas." Loyle said, "The Quran says that if the mountain does not come, I will come to the mountain. NLP technology believes that everything has There are at least three solutions. We will use NLP technology to solve it. Faced with this problem, you also have multiple problems to solve. You don’t want to change yourself, then you can also change the ideas of others."

"How to do it?" Zhao Yaning asked puzzled.

"Human ideas are not static. You can influence others through your abilities. You mentioned earlier that you are now the captain of the national team, right?"

Zhao Yaning nodded.

"Then you should try to use your ideas to influence others. If you can let them get the same values ​​as you, will the matter be resolved soon?"

"But, sir, my reason for coming here is to make myself better...what does changing others like this have to do with my own growth?"

With Zhao Yaning’s question, Loyle nodded, “I’m glad you asked that. This shows that you value yourself and you start to hope you become better. This is a good thing.”

Praising him, Loyle continued, "In NLP technology, human perception is divided into three internal sensory types: visual, auditory, and sensory."

"Generally speaking, visual people value self-expression, color, liveliness, loud voice, straightforward personality, athletes, most of them are this type of person. And auditory people, most of them value words and Voice expressions, people who speak rhythmically, do things in an orderly manner, and are prepared. Generally speaking, these people generally read more and do things more meticulously, and there are more successful people among them."

"Then what kind of am I?"

"The third category is the sensory person. The perceptual person is characterized by less speech, poor language skills, hopes to be cared for, respected, and attaches a high degree of importance to their own feelings, honors, and talks. I like to use words related to values, and to blame others, not blaming others’ abilities, but more on attitudes..."

"This is indeed me." Before finishing speaking, Zhao Yaning interrupted Mr. Loyle with a wry smile.

"When you came last time, you said that your coach wants you to change your personality. I guess he wants you to change into a visual person. After all, on the football field, people who value self-expression and have straightforward personality are It’s more acceptable. But the reason why I didn’t immediately strengthen you positively and let you change your personality is because I think you should become an auditory person rather than a visual person. A visual person, You are born with thick lines and do not pay attention to details. I think that will not be what you want. You are eager to succeed, so I hope to be able to guide you into a person who has enough self-awareness and can conduct self-reflection and promote self-improvement. people."

"Thank you, sir." Zhao Yaning scratched his head and said, "but what should I do to be able to grow by myself?"

"Didn’t I tell you? To solve the problem. When you tried to solve the problem in different ways, your perception changed along with your behavior. Persuade your teammates to try to use words and plans. Do things, rather than do things according to your own feelings, this is my advice to you. If you start to be organized and organized, and make planning a part of your life, UU Reading www.uukánshu Com, you will really grow up.” Loyle waved his hand, “I personally don’t like to give people special and targeted psychological training. I think this kind of training from life is right. People are more helpful. We can do it for a while, if it doesn’t work, I will adjust your treatment, okay?"

When the conversation came to an end, Loyle looked at Zhao Yaning and said, "I hope you can play a few good games. Although I am not a fan of Monaco, you played really well."

"Thank you, sir." Zhao Yaning nodded.

"Are you going to be Monaco now?" Loyle asked again.

"No, I still have something to visit a friend." Zhao Yaning hesitated and said.

"Girl?" Loyle laughed.

"Sometimes I really doubt that you can read minds."

"I won't, but I will observe your reaction. And I judge, it should be a very beautiful girl you like?" Loyle patted his head, "And, you seem to have any concerns. She is not your girlfriend, is she?"

"I have a girlfriend... Maybe this can be discussed as our next topic." Zhao Yaning scratched his head and said.

"Okay, but I can give you a piece of advice right now. One minute is enough." Loyle looked at him. "The problem of youth is much easier to solve. I just tell you one sentence is enough: What kind of girl you like is not only the choice of your love, but also the projection of your personality. First love is generally a projection of your purest personality. And beautiful women are generally some of your own beautiful wishes Projection. Remember, this is not just a matter of your love, but also a matter of your personality."

These words made Zhao Yaning stunned for a long time, not knowing how to speak.