The Perfect Hidden Marriage

  558, unrequited love 98, what is the purpose of getting married?

   "Ode to Joy? What is that?"

Xiao Jinghuan asked curiously, feeling like a song.

  "An urban female workplace drama. Have you never watched it?"

   Ximanli was surprised:

   "It was very hot when it was first broadcast."

"Uh, no, I have been abroad for the past few years, so I have never chased domestic TV series. In fact, after the age of twenty, under normal circumstances, I rarely watch videos. If I want to watch, I only watch crime documentaries. Well, you should tell me first, why is that song Xiaoyan alone?"

  Xiao Jinghuan followed along and asked, wanting to know who he was compared to.

  It was these few words that made Xi Manli truly feel the difference in life and culture between her and Miss Xiao Xiao, how huge, but she still gave a detailed introduction:

"That's a girl from a rich family. The second-generation rich girl is very playful and has some ability. She dares to love and hate. If she sees a certain man, she will stalk her, but the cultural connotation is not high. It depends on people. But the thief was precise, spoke straight, and looked down on Fan Shengmei, another leftover migrant female who lives on the same floor.

"Because in Qu Xiaolang's eyes, Fan Shengmei is the kind of woman who wants to pinch people and dream of becoming rich and handsome. She tried her best to sharpen her head and wanted to squeeze into the so-called upper class circle. Qu Xiaogang In private, it is called Lao Nu.

  "This cannot be said that Qu Xiaoyan is mean, it can only be said that it is a sharp collision of two cultures. Different social levels have different cultures. This is the naked reality.

  "The best thing about this TV series is that it has a strong sense of substitution. The five girls are shaped, each with its own characteristics, no one is a bad person, and each has its own life helpless..."

  Xiao Jinghuan listened, and seemed to understand why she was so emotional, so he pointed out:

   "Sister Xi, let me tell you, I am not a Qu Xiaoyan, and you are not that fishing girl.

  "Then, let's talk about what is fishing women?

  "The so-called "fishing for women" refers to women who abandon their dignity and exchange their soul and body for money.

  "I have to admit that there are quite a few such women in today's society.

  "But, sister Xi, you are not, and you can't have a sense of substitution in this aspect.

"I heard my mother say that you have been in the group for so many years, and have never been in a relationship... You have been working hard and have always been my mother and my brother Changning's good helper. If you are that kind of person, my mother would have You are fired.

   "My mother is strict about people and employing people."

  Such affirmation makes Ximanli very heartwarming, but:

"I really value material life. This is a fact. Otherwise, I would not hesitate because of Xu Chen's marriage proposal. I should have agreed. Xiao Xiao, you won't look down on me for this reason! Find a man who pays attention to material things, even if It's not a fisherwoman. If you care about it seriously, it's always a little money worshipper."

  Xiao Jinghuan shook his head and emphasized:

   "No, this can't be regarded as worshipping money. It can only be said that after getting older, it is more realistic to look at anything.

  "Unlike when you were young, you think love is the most important thing. You can stand aside and compromise. In the end, it's easy to be stabbed by the reality of love.

   "In fact, this reality is just a kind of growth process in life.

  "When you get older, you will look for a man in many ways to consider your future development. If the partner’s conditions are fair, you will consider whether the quality of life will decline if you get married in the future and if you have children.

   "So, I think it's normal for you to have this kind of thought.

"Water flows to lower place, man goes to higher position.

   "It can only be said that it is caused by your work circle.

  "I'm a woman, and I hope to marry someone who looks good to me... This man not only has to worry about his food and clothing, but he also has to treat himself wholeheartedly.

   "I think this is what many girls think before they get married.

  "Just ask, who wants to marry a man, the end result is that he will marry and be a free nanny for a lifetime, and make himself so old...Everyone wants to be loved and spoiled..."

  Like her, she has watched a lot with her boss, has a broader view, and has a broader vision. It is inevitable that she will be high and low.

   Ximanli felt that these few words had come to her heart, and she sighed unconsciously:

"Yes, for women, why do you marry a man? I just want to be able to rely on and have a stable life. If this man cannot give himself stability, but may become his own burden, then why marry? It's also pretty good."

  Many leftover women, that’s how they come.

   "Yes, yes, in fact, what we should discuss is why we should get married?"

  Xiao Jinghuan suddenly clapped her hands and screamed, thinking that this is the most important point of study, and immediately changed the topic:

   "Sister Xi, what do you think is the purpose of getting married?

  "Look at all these beings, one by one, children who don’t know anything have grown up. Eventually, most people have to enter marriage. Anyway, at this age, not getting married becomes a strange thing."

   "Are you forced to marry too?"

   Ximanli asked infrequently, and immediately followed up on the topic.

   "Yes... So, I was thinking, why do people have to get married?"

Xiao Jing sighed happily, "Sometimes I think that getting married is to give two people a righteous reason. You sleep with me and I sleep with you. One more marriage certificate is just one more yoke of morality and responsibility." ."

   Ximanli listened and expressed her opinion:

   "Yes, marriage, you have to talk about the bottom line of morality, you have to talk about responsibility, so it is sacred...

  "I think that getting married means two people who are in harmony with each other. They have a more consistent goal. They are willing to participate in their lives, and allow themselves to be controlled by the other, and to accompany each other through the process of life.

  "In this process, we have to be responsible to each other, and even more importantly, never give up. Whether rich or poor, or suffering from disease...

"Because it takes a lifetime, and because people in this world, there are so many individual differences, and because women's youth is limited, so when women choose marriage, they always hope to find a good condition. Because women have to bear the pain of childbirth. If this man is not good enough and is not good enough for herself, then why should she suffer this physical pain and give birth to the other person?

  “So, getting married is the process of finding a person who is right for you, treats yourself well, shares ups and downs, raises children together, enriches life, and strives for life.

   "Yes, that's it. A good material life is a need, but it can't be too demanding, because the spiritual life is more important: only those who can talk can help and accompany each other for a lifetime..."

  Xiao Jinghuan finished listening, knocked on the desktop, and smiled at her: "Look, see, do you still need me to analyze it for you? Actually, you have a pretty good idea!"

   Ximanli was startled.

  Xiao Jinghuan continued: “Now, let’s go back and talk about your mate selection standards that are high or low!

"Let’s put it this way, men in our circle are usually sharp. People who want to have fun, a lot of votes, who want to find a suitable woman to live, yes, but their conditions They are usually very tall. As for you, you can only be regarded as a marginal person. It is difficult to get into their eyes."

  In her opinion, Ximanli’s conditions are average. Such women are not particularly prominent. In this circle, a lot of them are really ordinary:

   "So, it's really important to find your own position.

  "If you want to be rich in the second half of your life, or you can take the risk of mixing in this circle, there are good mixes, bad mixes, bad mixes, bad reputations, and many others.

  "If you want a safe home, find a safe man.

  "This person is what you just said, who is suitable for you and treats yourself well. When you find this kind of man, the material standards naturally have to drop.

   "However, to be honest, material life is really not very important sometimes. Because material can be created by itself. It does not necessarily depend on the man's giving.

  "Just like our family, my dad, my mother, they have countless wealth, materially, they lack nothing, but they don't have a complete home.

  "My dad was rich for a lifetime, but he was poor during his marriage. His only wish so far is to have a close wife in his later years, so that he can live comfortably and comfortably.

"So, think about it, if the man who proposes to you is a man who makes you feel at ease, then accept it and fight together, it is better than shutting yourself in an illusory circle, and finding someone who may never A man who satisfies himself is much stronger..."

   Ximanli listened quietly, and suddenly understood her heart.

  In fact, with her, all she wants is stability.

  If she only wanted to make money, she would not stay in this position for so many years. After having been with Chairman Jin for so long, she went out to meet her, and some rich people also secretly expressed that they wanted to develop with her. Of course, this kind of development was mostly just a transaction between the body and money, and she hadn't been moved by it. , Isn't it because she is cherishing the truth, waiting for the stable person who is worthy of her contribution?

Maybe Xu Chen is not good enough, but he is stable and, indeed, allows her to have a home in Shanghai. He liked her more than ten years ago, and still cares about him more than ten years later. Such a loving man can still have something for her. What can be picky?

  She had an epiphany: "A word that shocked the person in her dream. Xiao Xiao, I know how I should choose."

  Xiao Jinghuan listened, and smiled lightly: "Then I will congratulate you first: it is not easy to find a wishful man."

   Ximanli nodded: "It's really not easy. If it's a wish, you have to live on to know. Xiao Xiao, now, I have another question to ask you."

  Xiao Jinghuan saw that she asked very solemnly, feeling that her question was very important, so she had to answer immediately:

"what is the problem?"

  "How would a girl born like you pick a husband?"

   Ximanli brought the topic to her.