The road from Africa to Europe

The boy looked unwilling at the moment, and he didn't understand why his grandparents let his mother go. The family has had a hard time these years, but they have always been very harmonious, especially the mother, who did the most and ate the most. Poor, good things are left to the old and the young.

She thought that she would treat her mother well after her father came back and found out. She was the one who supported the family all these years.The result was just the opposite, the child hated his father a little bit.

It is because of him that the hard-working mother has nowhere to go. As he has lived with his mother for many years, he is more emotionally inclined towards her mother. It should be that he cannot accept the current reality from the bottom of his heart, but in the future he will know that reality is reality, even in his heart. If you don't accept it, it won't disappear.

Ling Xiao naturally paid attention to the hatred in the boy's heart, and felt that this child needed some guidance, because this child was smart enough, and being smart meant that he would not accept his fate, and it was hard to say whether it would cause many things.

After thinking about it for a while, Ling Xiao decided to intervene. First, he must wake up cousin Lin. This is because Ling Xiao knows how hard-working and capable women are in this era. They also love their children and endure all humiliation and suffering for them. , Knock out teeth and blood throat.

I hope to use Tangmei Lin's experience to help women in similar situations, so that more original partners can have a better start instead of becoming the final loser.The reason why he thinks this way is because Ling Xiao knows that this is definitely not an exception.

Just like the talented students who studied abroad in the early years insisted on divorcing their original wives, now there will definitely be a wave of men who divorced their original wives one after another in the past few years.Men don't feel that they are wrong, but they feel that they are doing right.

Those men have legitimate reasons for asking for a divorce: they say that they haven’t seen their original spouse for many years, and they have long since lost the relationship between husband and wife. The previous marriage was an arranged marriage.

But is this really the case?Those women worked diligently in their husband's house to support their families just like Lin cousin. It can be said that they regarded themselves as old scalpers, and finally let the family survive. They did this for several years, maybe even more than ten years, but they were rejected. Kicked off as an anti-arranged marriage, after all, the original partner was treated as a burden and discarded.

Didn't this fucking treat original partners like Lin Tangmei as rag girls?They are the ones who work hard to support the family, and they are the ones who provide for the parents-in-law, but they turn around and complain that they are not educated enough, don't know how to dress up, and are not qualified to stand with their former husbands.

hehe!In the final analysis, it was bullying them for not having studied, bullying them for being too honest, and in the end they were robbed of the final fruit of victory, leaving behind a reputation that could not be on the stage.

Ling Xiao absolutely couldn't see it, why would he treat those honest original partners like this? If this continues, who would want to be an honest person?Those operations are absolutely not giving honest people a way out.

Many of the original spouses in this wave of divorces have taken the most difficult path for their children: Why did they do this without leaving home?Women are not willing to suffer, as long as they are human, who would not want to live happily?
Because women find out that their children may encounter stepmothers after being divorced, not to mention stepmothers may also be good mothers. In fact, the probability of children meeting good stepmothers is too low.

You must know that raising a child is really troublesome, because the child will cry and make trouble. As a stepmother, you may be said to be harsh on the child if you manage it, and you will be said if you don’t care about it. Therefore, it is difficult to be a stepmother.

When children are young, the probability of bears is relatively high, so even a woman who originally planned to be a stepmother may be angry and unwilling to be a stepmother.When the stepmother has her own child, she naturally likes her child more, which will soon show in her life.

Will the original child be angry?The original situation was not good, but now it has become worse, and more conflicts will appear and erupt, and stepmothers will even look down on stepson and stepdaughter.Therefore, stepmothers who don't rub their children are rare good stepmothers, and most common stepmothers don't like the children in front of them.

And as the mother of the child, she should also know this truth, so she is reluctant to part with her child, and would rather endure hardships by herself to protect her child, which is why there are cases of divorce and not leaving home.

What does it mean to divorce without leaving home?That is to say, the original partner is no longer with her husband, is no longer the husband's wife, and is no longer a member of the husband's family, but still lives in the man's family.Well!Instead of living with a man, it is impossible for the ex-wife to live with the second-wife. Generally, the original spouse lives in the man's hometown.

That is to say, the original spouses are no longer the wives of the man, but they are still the hard-working scalpers in the man's family. They have to take care of the ex-in-law's pension for the man who works and lives in the city, and also raise their own children.

Stupid or not?Ling Xiao only had this idea after knowing the so-called divorce and not leaving home, what kind of GOU fart not leaving home?This is completely exploiting the divorced original spouses.

This kind of behavior will liberate the man. Originally, he had to take care of his elderly parents. You must know that providing for the elderly requires money, time and effort, and it is the most tiring thing.

As a result, the original spouses stay in the man's hometown, while the man lives in the workplace. The men don't need to take care of their parents, nor do they need to support the children born to their former wives. At most, they can give some living expenses every month, which is a perfect solution. The hardest problem to solve.

Divorced ex-wives are often the most tragic ones. Not only do they have to bear the original responsibilities, but they also have no status in the ex-husband's family. The ex-daughter-in-law has no relationship with the ex-husband's family, so naturally they have no status.

In fact, I am afraid that the elders of the man will feel that their family has taken in the original spouse who has nowhere to go. Then the original spouse needs to be grateful for the kindness of the original spouse. The original spouse will be reduced to unpaid nanny without knowing it. , When you get old, you have to live on the conscience of your children.

But it's hard to say how much a child's conscience can have.
This is because people compare with each other, and as the children of the ex-wife, the most common reference is the children born to the wife in the back. The ones in front are old farmers, and the ones in the back are urbanites.

Children do not have much utilitarianism because of their age when they are young, but as they get older, they will have more desires when they grow up, but they are not so pure. The old mother's efforts may not necessarily be rewarded, but may will be sneered at.

Especially when the children grow up and have small families, problems will arise one after another. If someone with a heart instigates them in the middle, the children may lose their mentality.

When the child finds that his own problems cannot be solved, and his half-brothers and sisters have no such problems at all, he also finds that the reason for this is that they are not the same mother as the half-brothers and sisters, and the biological father cares more about the children of the stepmother .

Some people learn from the painful experience and are eager to establish a good relationship with their father, thinking of relying on their father's relationship to live a good life, and may even flatter their stepmother.It turned out that his behavior was a clown in the eyes of the stepmother, so he would naturally be even more unhappy.

At this time, the original spouses are often rejected by their children because of their incompetence. If one day the children do not get any benefits from their father, will they vent all their anger on their mother?Or do you think it's because the mother-in-law is incapable of keeping her husband together, and that's why they can't live a good life?

Just because they are unwilling to face this gap: why are the children of the same father, but have completely different living environments?One day women like Cousin Lin may find themselves hated by the children they worked so hard to grow up with.

This is also why Ling Xiao said that divorce and not leaving home is the most difficult path for those original spouses. They gave up the chance to remarry and devoted everything to their children. Instead of being recognized by the children, they were spurned.

In the end, everything for them was just a cruel joke, they failed completely, and in the end their children gave up on them, living without self or future.If this is the case, the original spouses who were left behind lived too humble and miserable lives in their lives.

The most ridiculous thing is that if the original spouse and the ex-husband stand together during the divorce, you will find that the younger original spouse is often older than the man you are, because for many years a woman has shouldered the burden of a family, which makes them lose their femininity. Some beauty and charm.

It is also for this reason that many people think that it is normal for a man to divorce. This woman has lost the advantages of a woman. She is dark and old, and she is really not suitable for a man.I completely forgot that without the hard work of the original partner, how could there be a stable rear of a man?
This is also the reason why Ling Xiao would intervene. She really didn't like that kind of man. She actually abandoned her wife and children when she was living a good life. Scum!

The biggest victim of the marriage breakdown this time is not only cousin Lin, but also the two children. I don't know if the children will be hurt for life?Many people spend their lives healing childhood suffering.

Thinking of this, Ling Xiao secretly sighed, and reached out to stroke the little boy's hair.I'm afraid that this child will be excluded a lot in life, especially when someone said just now that there is no father. Some adults must have said something similar in private, and the child said it after hearing it. The child is not sensible, but he said it It hurts even more.

This child is living too hard, I am afraid that he will be isolated and attacked by children for a long time, not to mention the simple and honest folk customs in the countryside, in fact, there are often situations of bullying and fear of violence in the countryside, just like Lin cousin's family, the pillars are always outside, so the family is in the village The status is definitely not high.

The children are called wild children, but they have nothing to do with each other, just because there is no man in his prime at home, even if they are scolded, they can't come to the door.After finally winning the final victory, he found that his so-called father married another person, which was tantamount to giving the family a blow. No wonder he felt extremely sad and indignant, and even hated his own father.

Thinking of this, she directly awakened Lin Tangmei from her self-pity, looked into Lin Tangmei's eyes and said, "I probably know about your situation, has your man not been heard from these years? He didn't die outside. , but survived on the battlefield because he was promoted.

It’s just that when he became an official, he felt that he was educated and had no common language with you, so he said that his marriage with you was an arranged marriage, asked to dissolve it, and married another beautiful wife. "

Tangmei Lin's eyes couldn't help but widen when she heard this, because Ling Xiao's words hit the target, so she blurted out a sentence later, "How do you know?"

"Isn't it just those words? That's all that man can say. He doesn't have a common language with you, and he can't go anywhere. Therefore, he needs to find a more suitable woman to be his wife, haha! How much common language there is."

Speaking of this, Ling Xiao sneered, followed her to look at cousin Lin, and asked, "What I want to know is your thoughts, do you want to continue that marriage?"