The road from Africa to Europe

Ling Xiao nodded after hearing this. The women in Kyushu are so smart and capable. Even under the suppression of the three obediences and four virtues, there will still be some outstanding women who appear in history with shining postures. They are all talented in research, but most women don't have the opportunity to show their strengths, because they are enclosed in a frame around the family and are men's accessories.

With the collapse of the feudal monarchy, the anti-feudal banner was raised, and women got more opportunities to go out of the house. In the past few decades, more brave women have appeared, and many women who have walked ahead have sacrificed their lives. But to protect their motherland, they gave up everything including their lives, no worse than men.

During this process, some women began to think about what women should do, and they also uttered a cry for equality between men and women. Progressive men also supported this idea, so the status of women was greatly improved.

After the founding of the People's Republic of China, more women began to receive education. This development will allow more women to know that they are human beings just like men, and are no longer just vassals of men. This is a kind of progress.

But Ling Xiao is very clear that more education does not mean that people's minds will immediately accept fresher theories. There are still too many problems to be solved in people's minds, such as women's three obediences and four virtues. Virtue still pops up from time to time to imprison the hearts of women, and women's abilities are still belittled in many places.

There are definitely still some women who feel that even if a woman has received a corresponding higher education in her life, it is only for the purpose of marrying well. As long as a woman marries a good man, everything will be fine.In order to achieve this goal, the theory of the innocence of true love is often used, saying that marriage does not come first, and only when they love each other is a real couple. The party who was not loved originally is a third party.

ha!hehe!This logic is really eye-opening, that is, in the eyes of some people, if one party in the marriage changes his mind, then as the third party, not only is not guilty, but he can also rely on the theory of true love and innocence to force his wife to give way.If you don't let it mean that the original partner doesn't know how to flatter you, if you don't let it you need to be knocked down and step on ten thousand feet! ! ! ! !
Ling Xiao absolutely doesn't like that kind of person, and the third party doesn't care about the position of being a woman at all, and doesn't even think about women helping each other. They only want to pick peaches by themselves, get the greatest benefit, and don't hesitate to hurt the same sex. In order to get rid of the crime, they put a big hat on the most injured person that is difficult to refute. The case of Tangmei Lin is a microcosm of it.

Isn't her man just marrying another wife?Don't say that you don't have feelings for the original spouse. As long as the original spouse can keep the house, it is worthy of the husband's admiration, instead of arbitrarily labeling it as a feudal remnant.

Among them, there are definitely women who think that they want to marry a good man, so they break up other people's couples, and even make trouble for the original spouse, saying that the husband and wife have no common feelings, and saying that feudal remnants—arranged marriages, in the end, are not for the original spouses. hat?

Full of love and against feudal remnants, what is love?According to the scientific research of later generations, the love between men and women is caused by hormones, but the hormones between men and women can't last long, and will eventually dissipate, so can the man fall in love with another woman again?
What is the feudal remnant?Haven't all the grandparents experienced arranged marriages?If you feel bad, you can improve it, instead of labeling it across the board.Also, did everyone go home and let their parents divorce one after another, after all, it was an arranged marriage and it needed to be dissolved!
In fact, Ling Xiao thinks that women like Tangmei Lin are role models among women. They also do what the pillars of the family have to do, and try their best to bring their families to live. They really manage to live without relying on men, which is very attractive. It's totally wrong for women who are so young to be labeled as remnants of feudalism!
There are also those men who think that the original spouses are old and ugly, that they have no cultural knowledge, and that they do not have the ability to be diplomatic with their wives, so they change their minds, and they change their minds when they change their minds.

The reason for the change of heart is so fresh and refined!Some people think that the sheep dung eggs are no longer sheep dung eggs because they are covered with a layer of chocolate.hehe!
From these behaviors alone, it can be seen that the road to real women's awakening is long, and some people will cover up their thoughts, seem to have the same idea as others, but actually have another idea in their bones, and it is impossible for outsiders to fully perceive it.The other party took the opportunity to spread his thoughts in private, so there may be repeated situations on the way for women to awaken.

This is why Ling Xiao hopes that the original owner will not forget her original intention and insist on being an independent woman. She can completely make herself a role model for women.

Ling Xiao really hopes that more women will stand up, rely on their own strength, inherit the ideas of their predecessors, can truly achieve equality between men and women, and strive for equal treatment of genders in all aspects.

She understands that the road to women's equal rights is long, but there will definitely be more women awakening, because she knows that women in Kyushu will go out of their homes, and they may appear in various industries, including but not limited to women with higher education , There are many, many women who work in other positions, even if their education is not high enough, but they rely on their own strength to live.

Of course, the idea that it is enough to marry a good man will exist for a long time. There will always be people who want to take shortcuts, and a winner will attract countless imitators.

You must know that the winner will show off every day after living a good life, which will lead to more people wanting to do so, so the real awakening of women is a long way, and you must know that old ideas are not easy to clear.

There is also human nature that prefers comfort. If you can lie down and win, I am afraid that many, many people will be willing to lie down and win. Who wants to be busy all day long without getting much money.

Of course, there are too few people who can win by lying down with money, and it is impossible for most people to win by lying down.Moreover, being rich does not mean being rich for a lifetime. There are not many big families that can stand tall in the world. The ancient "Mozi" said: "Officials are not always expensive, and people are never cheap."

After traveling through so many worlds, Ling Xiao has seen the rise and fall of many families. There is a poet who said: In the old days, Wang Xietang, the former swallow, flew into the homes of ordinary people. It was glorious for many years, and the family that even the emperor looked down on finally disappeared in history. in the long river.

Ling Xiao, who has learned a lesson from this, has only one thought in her mind: she must work hard to save herself, instead of relying on the strength of others. Once she gets used to relying on others, she will never learn to work hard on her own.

Cousin Lin was very envious when she saw the conversation between the original owner and Ling Xiao. She had to think of a question: If it was changed to the cousin, would the man dare to abandon the cousin directly?
Men dare not? !Looking at the cousin's appearance, she has an intelligent and beautiful appearance, and a noble temperament. The man is reluctant to part with it. After all, he is too weak.

Thinking of this, cousin Lin suddenly lost her appetite. Why are there so many differences between her and her cousin?After thinking about it for a long time, she felt that the big reason was that her cousin had received a new type of education, and she didn't have much education, and she could only read a few words, which caused the gap between them to be too large.

At this moment, Tangmei Lin envied her cousin very much, but she didn't hate her cousin, nor did she feel that her cousin's education was a matter of hatred in her heart, and then she wanted to plot against her cousin so that she could never recover. No such nasty thoughts.

At this moment, she is thinking about what is the biggest gap between her and her?It is whether the two of them have received education. Thinking of this, she looked at her children and secretly decided in her heart that no matter what, her children should receive education.

Her children already have a much lower starting point than half-brothers. If there is no relevant education, they may end up like her, and eventually become a person who can be abandoned at will. She does not want her children to be abandoned. to this point.

This is the child she gave birth to with all her efforts, and she will surely have a better life. Thinking of this, Tangmei Lin gritted her teeth and held back the tears she wanted to shed.

"Mom! Don't cry, Dad doesn't want you, we want you." The boy among the two children raised his head and said.In his heart, his mother was more important than his father. That man had never appeared in the family life for several years, but now he wanted to drive his mother away. He was determined to stand by her side.

Ling Xiao couldn't help smiling, this child is good, "Look, there are such good children who miss you, and your sacrifices are not in vain. You can't lose the courage to live for them. Do you know? There is hope only when you live.

As for your suffering?Who is not suffering in life?There is a poem by a poet who said: things that go wrong are often eighty-nine, but they are no different from the speaker. (1) Including your cousin, they look beautiful, but they have actually suffered a lot, and they will not suffer less in the future. "

The original owner couldn't help but feel sad when he heard this. This is really the case. If something bad happened at the beginning, the trees in front of her grave might be mature (2). There are still many things in life. Such a smooth sailing situation is really rare.

Tangmei Lin didn't expect that the cousin who looked beautiful would also suffer a lot, couldn't she?It seemed that the cousin lived younger than her, but soon remembered that the other party did not need to lie.

"Sister Seventeen, if I hadn't paid attention, we, brother and sister, would have died several times long ago. In foreign countries, we even encountered people pointing guns directly at them. Fortunately, nothing happened in the end. Everyone has their own difficulties. .” said the original owner.

Tangmei Lin's eyes widened. She never thought that her cousin would be shot. If she said so, her life might be very dangerous. She wiped away her tears and responded with a sob, "Well, I will live a good life. .”

At this moment, she had a little more thought in her mind, she wanted to live a better life, instead of living like a scalper and being killed by others in the end.

One of the things she is most worried about now is the custody of her children. She said: "Thanks to the two children who have been with me all these years, I am reluctant to part with these two good children, but according to the rules, the children belong to the man."

Ling Xiao shook his head and said: "Who said that the child must follow the man? He said that your marriage is an arranged marriage, so his remarriage is an anti-arranged marriage. Then I also said that men and women are equal. Men should have the rights, and women should naturally." have.

You have been taking care of the children alone all these years, why can't you continue to raise the children?You can absolutely ask for the child to be given to you. This is to better protect the interests of the child. Isn’t there a saying: I would rather be a beggar mother than an official father. I believe that a man should hand over the custody of the child for the sake of the child.This reduces the responsibility of being a father, and also reduces the burden on the children's grandparents. "

After turning her eyes, she said: "Why does a mother risk her life to give birth to her own child, but she has no right to raise it, but can only give it to the man? This situation is absolutely wrong. Since men and women are equal, it is the same to follow the father and follow the mother. the same."

Ling Xiao's words made the original owner applaud. There are some flags in these words, but they are definitely convincing. At least let the man not think that the Lin family are country people who don't know anything, and can be fooled at will.

In addition, she also thinks it would be better for the children to follow their mother, man?How careless, even as a father, he often pays little attention to all aspects of life.

In particular, remarried men are even more unreliable, and are often deceived by the rumors, so that the victim lives very hard, and the father either cannot see it, or keeps helping the second wife deal with the child.

In life, mothers are often more concerned about their children, and they will find some problems. Even if the cousin gets married again, she may be a little more negligent to the children, and it can be discovered early. You must remind cousin Lin, as a parent The best thing is to keep the bowl of water as flat as possible.

(1) Poems by Fang Yue from the Song Dynasty.

(2) It takes about 15 years for a pine tree to mature. Of course, the longer the time, the better it will grow.