The road from Africa to Europe

Chapter 876 Never Give Up

The reason why the original owner thought so was because she once read a novel (1) in which the heroine was a very stubborn girl.

The background of the story takes place in a civil war, and the time span is not short, from the heroine's youth to youth.The beautiful heroine has been in love with a man since she was in her boudoir, and she chased after him as if possessed by a demon.

She insisted that the man who would never love her because he had a wife fell in love with her. For this reason, she did a lot of things that seemed different from normal people.Including but not limited to volunteering to take care of his wife and children when her sweetheart went out to join the army.

On this point, the heroine still has her own bottom line. Even though she likes the man and hopes that he will fall in love with her, she does her best to help the man's wife and children. Always help each other.

She is the one who is beautiful and attractive, she is the one who doesn't listen to the man's rejection and looks a little selfish, and she is the one who runs around in order to survive.

Originally thought that if she persisted like this, she might get a response from her sweetheart in the end, or she might not get a response from her sweetheart in her whole life, and the story ended tragically.

But no, the hostess met a very attractive man by chance, and the man pursued her affectionately. After she married him, she became a wife, followed by a mother, and gave birth to a daughter.

After the civil war ended, at the end of the story, the heroine found out that the person she had always loved, that is, Bai Yueguang, was not the man she had been chasing after all this time. When she saw the person she had been thinking about all along, she was no longer there. heartbeat.

After careful analysis, the heroine discovered that it was probably because she couldn't love her that she kept beautifying the man in her mind, and gradually deviated from the man in reality.

Although she still has the man's appearance on the outside, the inside is completely the character and thoughts of the heroine's fantasy, which means that she has loved a person who was fabricated by herself for a long time.

After discovering this problem, the heroine finally came to her senses, because she found that her husband who had been married to her for many years was different from her sweetheart in appearance, but they were very similar on the inside.

After discovering this situation, the hostess wanted to live a good life with her husband. You must know that for a while, the hostess still thought that she loved the so-called Bai Yueguang, so she neglected her husband.

Husband and wife get along lukewarm, after all, some people don't care about each other's contribution at all.Fortunately, the husband put all his feelings on his daughter, so the marriage did not end.

But now her husband's most beloved daughter passed away because of an accident while riding a horse. She felt that she and her husband were in the same boat, but she never thought that she woke up too late, and the man had already decided to leave her home.

The man who really loves the heroine has followed the heroine for a long time as her husband, and has paid a lot for her. Even though the two have a daughter, the heroine still only regards him as her husband, not a lover.

Although the man will still protect the strong heroine after he finds out, he starts to focus on his daughter, and the daughter really loves her father until death takes the little angel away.

His daughter died in an accident. After thinking about it, he decided to leave her, because he found that he was too obsessed with getting the heroine's love, which caused him to change and become not like himself, so he chose to leave.

After losing her daughter, the hostess had a breakdown, and after she finished her reflection, she realized that the person who had been supporting her was leaving. At this moment, she was devastated and wanted to tell her husband to start all over again.

But the man was unwilling. What was broken in his opinion could never be restored, so in the end he chose to leave this sad place and start his life anew.

Maybe he will still love the heroine in his heart, but he knows in his heart that she and him have come to an end, and if they stay here, they may become a couple of resentment, it is better to separate early, so that each other can stay a little more beautiful memories.

The heroine is naturally very mad after knowing her husband's plan, what's going on?The man was obviously a good husband a few days ago, but he told her in a blink of an eye that they were going to separate soon!

After repeated failures, she still had to take care of her farm, and finally watched that important man walk out of her life, but she was not discouraged and said: "Tomorrow is another day!"

The original owner at the time felt a little pity when he saw the end, how could this be?In her opinion, the heroine's thoughts have changed, knowing that she has done something wrong, and she can be with her ex-husband and Meimei, why did they finally separate?The finale ended abruptly, and I don't know if there will be a happy ending.

This kind of open ending really makes people scratch their heads. For this reason, the original host discussed the ending with Ling Xiao specifically, and wanted to ask Ling Xiao a question: Did the heroine get back together with that man in the end?

The original owner was still very young when she was reading the book, and she belonged to the kind of girl who was more interested in love, so she hoped that the two of them could get together, after all, they were really a good match.

But Ling Xiao's situation is different. After seeing too many lovers' splitting and reuniting, it doesn't mean that as long as there is love, they will be together.After listening to the original owner's words, she wore a faint smile, and did not agree with the original owner's words, and of course she did not immediately refute the original owner's words.

This is because the original owner’s statement has a certain possibility, and the changeability of human nature makes everything possible. Maybe after some twists and turns, the husband and wife find that it is better to live together with each other, and they have a happy ending.

But Ling Xiao thinks that it is more likely that the husband and wife cannot be together, because the reason why the husband and wife can live together is more due to the man's concessions to his wife.

After being treated coldly by his wife time and time again, and losing his favorite daughter, even if he stayed, he would not give in to his wife even if he was heartbroken by the ups and downs. The foundation of family harmony once collapsed.

There is a good saying: It is easy for two people to fall in love, maybe it is just a glance at each other, maybe it is because of something that makes two people fall in love, but after they are really together, they will find that it is too difficult for two people to get along.

There are many reasons for two people to have a bad life. This situation comes from many aspects such as family, individual, and society. Marriage is indeed a matter of two people, but it is not entirely a matter of two people. Love alone is not enough to support a marriage.

Because two people in love have a kind of filter for each other, which magnifies the advantages and blurs the disadvantages. When the love gradually dies, they will find that the filter is broken, and they gradually look down on each other.

Especially for people like the heroine who still miss Bai Yueguang in their hearts, marrying someone other than Bai Yueguang depends on the other party's fulfillment and concession.

Regardless of whether the other party is a man or a woman, if something goes wrong, it will overturn. After all, no one wants to be someone else's supporting role forever in their own life, and prefers to be the protagonist of their own life.

It can be said that the heroine's behavior of never forgetting Bai Yueguang is a relatively deadly behavior in marriage: married people still miss their ex or Bai Yueguang, and compare it with their married lover from time to time.

This kind of so-called various comparisons is completely unfriendly to the incumbent. You must know that the breakup of lovers often means that there are big differences between lovers, which eventually lead to separation.

Including those lovers who are still in love with each other, but finally broke up due to various reasons, the relationship will naturally break up, and breaking up means the severance of the previous relationship.

Now that you have severed the relationship, don't think about your ex. You didn't seize the opportunity to be together when you were together before, so you don't have the opportunity to pick and choose after marriage. Married people directly lose the opportunity to turn back, unless divorce becomes single person.

Why do many people feel that their ex is very fragrant?It is largely due to the time filter. After a long time, the disadvantages of the predecessor will be blurred, leaving only full advantages.

The incumbent is more sad, first of all, the trivial things after marriage will polish the love of the incumbent a little bit, and because of being too close, he lost the filter, and found the more real side of the incumbent.

For example, I used to think that my wife was a so-called fairy who didn't need to eat, drink and sleep, and waited to live together, only to find that a fairy couldn't be a fairy, but just a mortal.

So some people feel that they can't bear it. Why does it feel like they have lied to themselves, the fairy who said good?joke!If she is really a fairy, why marry a mortal?
The same principle also applies to the female party. Before marriage, you should keep your eyes open and take a good look at it. After marriage, you should not pick things up. No one is perfect, so why insist that the other party is perfect?

If you didn't break up at the beginning, the ex would become the incumbent, the disadvantages would gradually become apparent, and the benefits would not be visible. In this case, it is found that the two are likely to drift apart.

So regardless of whether it is the ex or the current one, the most important thing is to recognize yourself, not force your partner to do things you don't like, and live in the present.

This is also the reason why Ling Xiao is not optimistic about the couple. Once the person who has been giving in is unwilling to give in again, the woman will naturally not accept this change, because she is spoiled by the man and cannot understand the man's approach.

Ling Xiao, who thought about it for a while, told the original owner what he thought: that man's temperament belongs to the kind of person who would try his best to complete it as long as he made a decision.

Then if he is determined to leave, he will insist on doing what he wants to do. That man is a person who likes to wander like the wind, and he loves a kind of freedom more.

For the sake of the heroine, he stayed in one place for a long time, until he realized that he was not like himself.After he wakes up, he will leave when his daughter still loves the heroine after her death.

After that, he will become the wind again, I'm afraid there will be no one who will let him stay.She and him may meet again after many years, but it is more likely that a farewell will be a farewell forever.

And the reason why Ling Xiao let the original owner read that famous book is to let the original owner understand some truths. After all, all the characters described in this book are lifelike, and as a reader, you can analyze the character of the characters.

Among them, the heroine is the most impressive female character. She is a person with a strong personality and is also very resilient. When facing a strong enemy, she fights back and never gives up.

What impressed everyone the most was the sentence the heroine said at the end of the book. I believe that even if she can't get back her ex-husband in the end, she will live a good life. This is what Ling Xiao wants the original owner to learn.

As the saying goes: things that go wrong are often eighty-nine, but you can say nothing to others (2).In the face of unsatisfactory things, you must face everything with a brave and serious attitude, and you must never give up the courage to live.

Thinking of the original owner here, he was even more relieved, and with a slight smile, he said, "Actually, I know one thing. Although the two old men and I are related by blood, we have never lived together, and we are not familiar with each other at all."

Speaking of this, the original owner shrugged his shoulders slightly. Even if the two elderly people just don't want to go for a test with her and don't want to admit that they are related by blood, she is not afraid, because she really tried her best and is willing to bear all the consequences.

Today's two old people are a little embarrassed, because they found that the idea just now was a little too much, she is still a child, as elders, they shouldn't care too much.

"So you don't have to worry about my intentions. As a junior, I just want to confirm whether we are really related by blood. If the two of you are not willing to confirm, I will not force it.

I can basically determine the relationship between each other, but there is less scientific testing.So I will still visit the elders every once in a while, and will not disturb the old man's retirement life. I hope that the elders who are used to living a peaceful life will not feel disturbed because of my arrival. "

The two old people felt that they couldn't bear the effort, because the other party was doing so well and wanted to say something, but they couldn't say it for a while because they were too excited.

"Of course there is one more thing. Although I want to see the two elderly people, I also want to take good care of them, but because I have a job, I have to attend classes and write papers, so maybe I don't have enough time.

So I want to leave a phone number for the old man, in case there is anything, you can call me.After all, you are old, and you need someone to take care of you if something happens.Even if I can't make it through, I can find professional people to take care of me. I have the financial strength. "

The two old people were a little shocked when they heard this, and then they were very pleasantly surprised. Has the granddaughter found a job?And it's really great to hear that she means to be a teacher, which they never thought of.

You must know that the granddaughter seems to be in her early 20s. They thought they were going to college, and they were thinking about whether they should find someone to get along with and let the granddaughter find a good job. Don't be like her mother.

After all, their daughter can be said to be the old group. Unexpectedly, the granddaughter who has not seen for many years is completely different from the mother. She is so good, but I don’t know where to teach?

It’s good to be a teacher, but it’s also very tiring to be a good teacher. This is their experience after being a teacher for decades. It takes a lot of effort to educate every student well.

They also know that not only is it tiring to be a teacher, it is not easy to do every job well, and it takes a lot of energy. There is a saying that goes well: labor is the most glorious.

As a woman, my grandmother was very happy. A woman must have the ability to earn money by herself, otherwise she can only depend on other people to live like a dodder. When she suffers in the future, she will know how humble she is living.

They were naturally very happy about this. From their point of view: no matter they are men or women, they have to rely on their own ability to make a living. Although they are not very familiar with their granddaughter, they still hope that she will live well.

"Why are you also a teacher?" the grandmother said, she was surprised at the moment, she really wanted to know where her granddaughter works, do you need their help?
"Yes, I like to study mathematics, and later got a Ph.D. I would like to be a teacher. I joined K University after I came to this country not long ago."

"K is big?" Grandma exclaimed suddenly, K is big!They looked at each other with surprise in their eyes, they never thought that the other would become a university teacher.

The original owner nodded with a smile, and said in a harmonious voice: "Yes, my tutor gave a recommendation, and I went through an interview. I passed the school's interview and I have taught for a semester. It's just a distance away from here, so I can do it if I have something to do." Call up."

The two old people felt very tired at the moment. The granddaughter's visit made them surprised for a while, and happy for a while. The two old people couldn't bear the multiple changes in their relationship, so their faces were a little ugly.

Ling Xiao noticed it, and she reminded the original owner to leave temporarily and let the two old people have a rest. After listening carefully, the original owner found that the old man was indeed tired, so he stood up.

"Because I was anxious to see the two elders, and I forgot that you are getting old. It can be seen that the two elders should be tired. Take a good rest first, and wait for the two elders to rest. Call me and let me know. I will come to see the two elders again."

In fact, she was also a little tired. This time, she didn't find a place to stay. Now she should find a big hotel to stay. She was a little too nervous to recognize her relatives, and needed to take a good rest.

If the other party insists on denying it, she will be a little sad if others pay attention to the two old people, but this will not stop her from working hard.If you are sad, let yourself be busy and forget about being sad.

The two old people were taken aback after hearing this, feeling that their granddaughter was walking too fast.Looking at the phone number handed over by the original owner, the grandmother took it with trembling hands, "Hey! Okay! I will call."

At this moment, she really wanted her granddaughter to stay, and lived in her daughter's former boudoir. You must know that although they locked it, most of the things inside remained unchanged.

It’s just that I quickly remembered the problem. Although it was covered with a protective cover, I didn’t clean it for a while. I’m afraid there was a lot of dust in the house, and it could be seen that the granddaughter’s clothes were not worn by ordinary people. I’m afraid I’m not used to it. .

If the original owner knew that her grandfather thought so, she would be dumbfounded, because her clothes were really not so-called big brands, but made by Ling Xiao for her. They looked very high-end, but they were actually made by themselves.

Of course, it is undeniable that the material of the clothing is very high-grade, because the original owner is also very rich, and Ling Xiao chooses more natural materials for the clothing, which is indeed not very cheap.

It can be seen from this that the gap between the original owner and the two old people cannot be eliminated immediately. There is also the reason of their daughter and the reason of their first meeting. They are not familiar with her at all.

　(1) "Gone with the Wind"

　　(2) Poems by Fang Yue from the Song Dynasty
　　
　
(End of this chapter)