save the bachelors

Chapter 4006: Life is like a journey

"Solve, how to solve it?" Feng Xuejiao asked puzzledly.

"Find an opportunity to bring them together and ask them directly whether they can still live together and whether their marriage can continue. If they can, then they should live well. If not, then they should part ways amicably." Xiang Nan replied.

"Otherwise, quarreling every day and every night is like cutting flesh with a blunt knife. If you are not feeling well, your mother is not feeling well, your father is not feeling well, and no one is feeling well, then all three parties lose. It's better to just break up and live happily ever after."

"You want my mom and dad to divorce? How can that be possible? No, absolutely not." Feng Xuejiao was stunned and waved her hands repeatedly.

  "Since you don't want to solve this matter, you can only persuade yourself not to care about it." Xiang Nan nodded and said, "In fact, think about it, starting from today, how much time can you and your parents spend together?

There was still one year left in high school, and your mom and dad didn't come home more than a few times a month. Even when they came home, you were busy studying, and you only saw them at dinner.

I assume they are at home five days a month, and you eat two meals with them, each meal lasting fifteen minutes, which is only two and a half hours a month, and thirty hours a year. Even if you add in the winter and summer vacations, the time you spend together doubles, but it is still only sixty hours, which is two and a half days.

When you go to college, you can only go home during the winter and summer vacations. When you go home, your parents are busy with work, so the time you spend together is still very little, almost the same as when you were in school.

The winter and summer vacations are four months long, two and a half hours per month, four months is ten hours. Four years of college, forty hours, is only a day and a half.

After graduating from college, you have to stay in another place to work, and you can only go home during the Spring Festival, Labor Day, and National Day. After returning home, you will not be with your parents all the time, and you will have to meet with classmates and friends. Then you will have even less time to spend together.

In a few years, you will get married, and you and your husband will have to discuss whether to go to his house or yours during the holidays. If you each get half, the time you spend with your parents will be halved.

I roughly estimate that the time you and your parents are likely to spend together in the future will not exceed two months at most, which may even be shorter than the time you spend with your classmates.

They are destined to fade out of your life. If that's the case, just treat it with a normal attitude. Don't always worry about gains and losses and make yourself at a loss. "

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Hearing Xiang Nan's words, Feng Xuejiao, Wang Di and Huang Shu were all stunned.

In their hearts, parents are the people closest to them and they can never be separated.

But according to Xiang Nan's calculation, in the next few decades, the time they spend with their parents may only add up to a few months, which makes them almost like strangers.

They really didn't want to believe Xiang Nan's words, but for a moment they didn't know how to refute it.

"Qin Li, your calculation is wrong. I will only have a few months to spend with my father and mother in the future?" Feng Xuejiao asked in disbelief.

"Although it's hard to believe, this is indeed the law of life." Xiang Nan nodded and said, "Just like in nature, every young bird will leave its nest after it grows up. Every beast will have its own territory after it grows up.

After they separate from their parents, they rarely have the opportunity to see them again. We humans are also animals and follow the same rules.

As we grow up, our parents are bound to play a smaller and smaller role in our lives. When we are young, our parents are our gods, our lives revolve around them, and we cry when they leave for a while.

Nowadays, no one will cry when parents are away for ten days or half a month. When we grow up a little bit, we go to college and enter the society, and we don’t go home for half a year. When we grow up a little bit more, get married and have children, and have our own family, we contact our parents even less. It is rare to call them once a week, and go back home on May Day, National Day, Spring Festival, etc.

So we can't ignore our parents, but we don't have to take them too seriously. It's like the sky will fall once they leave. After all, we have grown up and are no longer children. "

"That makes sense." Huang Shu nodded.

Feng Xuejiao thought for a moment and felt that Xiang Nan was right.

She always felt that her parents were inseparable and indispensable.

But in fact, she didn't spend much time with her parents in recent years. Especially in the past six months, her mother started to do business and often didn't come home for ten days or half a month.

Moreover, she was getting more and more used to the absence of her mother at home. She didn't miss her mother much when she left for ten days or half a month, and even thought it was better for her not to go home, because they would quarrel anyway.

Unlike when she was in kindergarten and primary school, she would go to her mother first after school. The happiest thing for her is to watch TV, go to the park, and go shopping with her mother.

"Life is like a journey, and I am just a traveler." Wang Di suddenly sighed, "We are all like this, all travelers, destined to get off when we reach our destination, and no one can accompany anyone to the end."

"But I want to sit with you till the end." Feng Xuejiao burst into tears upon hearing this.

She is always full of emotions and easily excited.

"We all want this." Xiang Nan sighed, "But it is destined to be impossible."

Friendship is temporary. No matter how sincere, pure and strong the friendship claims to be, it cannot withstand the erosion and baptism of time.

"Yes, all good things must come to an end. It's also written in the middle part of A Dream of Red Mansions that the Grand View Garden is so beautiful, and the Twelve Golden Hairpins are so wonderful, but in the end, they cannot escape the cries of thousands of beauties, and the eternal sorrow." Wang Di nodded.

"I don't want this. I don't want to be separated from you." Feng Xuejiao cried even harder when she heard them say that.

"Okay, stop crying, Jiaojiao. Aren't we all here now?" Huang Shu saw this and quickly hugged her.

"Yes, it's meaningless to think so much now, because we never know what will happen in the future." Xiang Nan also advised, "The future can still be expected, but the past cannot be brought back. The most important thing is to seize the present. As long as we get along well now and live every day meaningfully, then even if we separate in the future, we will leave the best memories in each other's hearts."

"Qin Li is right." Wang Di nodded, "Feng Xuejiao, stop being so hypocritical."

"You're so annoying. I'm just being so hypocritical. " Feng Xuejiao sobbed.

"Okay, okay, stop bickering." Xiang Nan waved his hand and said, "You were so busy chatting that it's already two o'clock and you haven't written a single word. Hurry up and take out the test paper to do it. If you don't pass the college entrance examination, what's the point of talking about 'prospects' and 'future'?"

After hearing what he said, Wang Di, Huang Shu and Feng Xuejiao all nodded, then took out their test papers and started doing them.