let go of that director

Chapter 340 Learning from the boss

"Survival value? What do you mean...power, money, and status?"

Li Chengyou smiled: "It can be understood in this way. Power, money, and status are actually material guarantees and safety guarantees for women. In the words that women often say, it is...a sense of security."

"understood."

Cui Xianzhen nodded: "Material guarantee means a worry-free life. Everything depends on money. As for safety and security, in other words, if there are dangerous men, there are pitfalls."

Li Chengyou couldn't help laughing again when he heard this.

Although what Cui Xianzhen said was vulgar and explicit, it had to be said that it was indeed the truth.

The so-called sense of security that women often emphasize, cuts through the surface and analyzes the essence, and its essence is to have no worries about food, clothing and personal safety.Of course, on this basis, things like comparison, vanity, and face are additional added value.But its core part is still in material guarantee and safety guarantee.

This is also why women look down on those worthless men, and why women have a strong mentality.

If men's conditions are not even comparable to women's, and they cannot provide women with material guarantees and safety guarantees, then why should a woman find a man, since she can protect herself, why should she depend on others?

Men look to life, women look to death.

A woman's instinct determines that, compared with a man, a woman has more desires, is more sincere, and is more greedy for pleasure.

And if you are greedy for pleasure from the heart and don't know how to control your desires, you can easily put yourself in danger. This also leads to the need for a woman to have a guarantee to solve her problems, and the greatest role of a man for a woman is also That's it.

As for the emotional value and physical value that men provide to women, these are all secondary needs.

Otherwise, there would not be any concubines in ancient times, and in modern times they will be called mistresses and mistresses.

What these aunts, mistresses and third wives are looking for, as well as those female stars who are adopted or unspoken rules, what they need is only the material satisfaction and security provided by men.

Therefore, the value of survival is the first value and the first competitiveness of a man.

The same is true for men and women.

The greatest value of a woman to a man—Let’s not talk about it when there was no ethical concept in ancient times, after all, there was no concept of family father and son—but as far as the current ethical society is concerned, the core value of a woman is indeed reproductive value.

of course.

The so-called fertility value is not just as simple as reproduction, but also includes the optimization of genes such as appearance, as well as the education of the next generation and so on.These require women to meet the requirements in terms of appearance, knowledge and wisdom.

In addition, women also need to ensure the purity of a man's blood, which is the basis for maintaining a marriage relationship.

Most women can tolerate men cheating, but men rarely tolerate women cheating.

The fundamental reason is that men and women have different core values ​​for each other.

The core value of a man is the value of survival, as long as this value is not shattered, there is a basis for survival.

The core value of a woman is the reproductive value, and derailment makes this value unreliable and unstable. Once this value is shattered, the foundation of existence will also be shattered.

Therefore, compared with women, men are more intolerant of cheating.

Simultaneously.

Whether it is a man or a woman, when choosing a partner, they will also compare these core values ​​and choose the best. Only when their own conditions do not meet the expectations of the other party will they be screened at the next level.

Compared with women, why are women upward compatible and men downward compatible?
This involves another physiological advantage of women, which is also the biggest and core advantage of women, that is, reproductive talent.

Just like the daughter country in "Journey to the West", no man can still have children after drinking the water in the mother-child river.

According to modern genetic theory, the combination of xy chromosomes is a boy, and the combination of xx chromosomes is a girl.

It can be said that even if men are extinct in theory, women's reproductive talent can still guarantee the continuation of genes, but this kind of continuation is all women, and the race is too single.In nature, this kind of parthenogenesis also exists.So men are not indispensable.

And this kind of inborn defect has led to, compared with women, men have a great sense of crisis instinctively.

This is why men are born with a natural bias towards rationality.

Because there is no golden finger of fertility talent in physiology, men are not indispensable, so men are born with a sense of crisis.Compared with men, women's sense of crisis is much smaller.Women's reproductive talent guarantees women's right to survival under certain conditions.

Just like during ancient wars, hostile forces often killed all men, while women relied on their reproductive talents to gain a chance to survive.

This is true even in peacetime and in modern society.

A man is poor and ugly, basically no woman will look down on him, and there is a high probability that he will be a bachelor for a lifetime.However, even if a woman is poor, even if she is ugly, or even demented, she can still find a man to support her by relying on the golden finger of reproductive talent.

So compared to men, women really have golden fingers.

According to the theory summarized by Lee Seung-woo, people have two instincts, namely survival instinct and hedonic instinct.

Compared with men, women's reproductive talent determines that they have a higher right to survive than men, and the sense of crisis of survival is much smaller.

That's why women are more inclined to enjoyment and sensuality.

This is influenced by their fertility.

The reason why women are so strong, and why they emphasize the sense of security, is also because they are influenced by their instincts. ——Tell them subconsciously that only by solving the problem of survival, ensuring material and personal safety, and having a backing, can they pursue their desires and enjoyment without pressure.

And the same is true in society.

The survival pressure that men bear is much higher than that of women.

Compared with men, if women have less desires and have men in front, they can really enjoy life far more than men.

As for men, compared with women, without this golden finger is not indispensable—especially for individual men—so men have a stronger sense of crisis in survival, and they are more inclined to life and rationality. .

Because if a man is emotional, it will only reduce his survival rate.

Survival is the first instinct of human beings.

Men have to be rational.

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"Brother, what are you thinking, you think I'm wrong?"

Li Chengyou was a little distracted when Cui Xianzhen's voice suddenly sounded in front of him. He came back to his senses for a moment and smiled at Cui Xianzhen. Li Chengyou shook his head and said, "No. I was just thinking about how to explain it to you."

After a slight pause, Li Chengyou looked at Cui Xianzhen and said again: "Just now, Xianzhen asked me why I broke up with you Ji Yunnua. In fact, after talking about it now, you must be able to figure out the inner reason. Some." After a pause, Li Chengyou said, "Just like the two girlfriends you dated before. In fact, for women, most of them only put the survival value of men first when they get married. .”

"The rest of the time, when in love and after marriage, what women value more is whether a man can provide them with emotional value. This emotional value includes many things, such as loyalty, companionship, obedience, nostalgia, romance, affirmation, etc. .As long as the emotional value provided by men does not meet their expectations, then women will be disappointed, will complain, will be unwilling, and will feel resentful."

"But you have a certain understanding of my situation. I can't be consistent with Zhiyun, and I don't have the confidence to provide her with the emotional value she needs. In other words, I don't have the confidence to provide any woman with enough emotional value. The emotional value they expect. Because the emotional value women expect is that men put them first, take them as the center, and love them with no complaints, no regrets, infinite tolerance, and no consideration for anything in return.

Honestly, I don't know if other men can do it, but I know I can't.

I love myself more than women.

This is true of other women, and so is Ji Yun.In my mind, they can never come first, so I can never live up to their expectations.

When expectations are not met, women are disappointed.

This point, Zhiyun has actually shown it before.

Women all want to be sought after, and they also want to be held in the palm of a man.I don't know if the boy you met Jiyun drinking coffee with this time is the same guy I met last time.

But from the two performances before and after, it shows that Ji Yun is actually unwilling.

As for people, if they are unwilling, they will bury resentment, if they have resentment, they will regret it, if they have regrets, they will regret it, and if they have regrets, once they are stimulated or suddenly impulsive, they will easily make mistakes.

On the other hand, women are emotional, and they are impulsive creatures who can easily get dizzy.

You said that if you foresee the result from the beginning of the development of a matter, you know that this will be an inevitable mistake, and there is a high probability that it will happen.

Xianzhen, if it were you, how would you choose?

What's more, Zhiyun is not just an ordinary woman. The relationship between our two families is there, and the relationship between the two of us is more complicated, involving too many people. Aunt, Zhixiu, Jisu brother, too many complicated personnel involved.

As for me, I am relatively selfish. I can make mistakes, but I don't allow Jiyun to make mistakes.But I can't really control her, and I don't want her to live an unhappy life. After marrying me, it's like being in purgatory, suffering physically and mentally.

So I thought about it carefully.

Why bother?
People who want everything will get nothing.People are too greedy, tired of themselves, and tired of others, it's better to wind up and forget each other in the rivers and lakes.

This person, if he is not greedy or paranoid, his life will be easier and his life will be more fun.

Don't you think so, Hyun Jin? "

Choi Hyun Jin: "..."

Hehe smiled and nodded in response.

If it was two years ago, he would have refuted Lee Seung Woo.But now, with money, he can also experience Lee Seung Woo's happiness.

As for men, they are kind-hearted. When they have money, they want to take care of more girls.

and so.

The so-called up-down effect.

The boss has taken the lead, so how could he not follow in his footsteps.

To learn from the big guys.

　PS: I didn’t realize until I finished writing it. I stopped it for a while, and there was a bit of a long story in the middle.But it's a pity to delete it after writing it, and this theoretical basis in the middle is also the basis for explaining the inner choices of many characters later.So after thinking about it, I decided not to delete it.I will pay more attention in the future and write less of these theoretical things.above.

　　
　
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