let go of that director

Chapter 348 Differences
Self-affirmation is the basis of human existence.

When a person begins to doubt and deny himself, he will reject himself, others, and the world.He will doubt, question, and distrust himself, others, and the world, and distrust is actually the beginning of negation.

Either deny yourself, or deny others, or deny the world.

When negativity begins to germinate in the heart, people will fall into negative emotions, and quarrels, depression, and various mental illnesses will naturally follow one after another.

The reason why IU's emotions fluctuated during this period is because she doubted her self-worth and began to deny herself.

And Lee Seung Woo used to preach and criticize IU more than affirmation, although in his view he did not break up with IU, he also endured IU's noisy and petty temper, which has proved the status of IU in his heart.

This is actually a common problem with most men.

I feel that no matter how sweet words and tenderness are, they are just empty words, far less real and powerful than actual actions.

but.

This is just a man's point of view.

Women are sensual, or, more essentially, women are far more self-centered, selfish, and less restrained than men.

What they obey is the current state and current emotions.

and so.

They hope that men will affirm them all the time, focus on them, and put them first.

This kind of psychology is euphemistically called 'sensibility', but in essence, it is just more 'selfish'.

So from this point of view, "love" is actually not a very beautiful word, and it is far less effective than "respect" in maintaining the relationship between people.

What is love?

It doesn't make much sense to delve deeper into its original meaning, but in today's society, the definition in many women's minds can actually be equated with 'selfishness'.

In this definition, what is love?
Love requires the other party to be unconditional, to have no complaints or regrets, not to care about gains and losses, life and death, friends, relatives, and not to care about any consequences. I realize that if there is a trace of hesitation and hesitation, it means that there is not enough love, or not that much love.

So why some women often ask - if your mother and I fell into the river, who would you save first?

This is actually a manifestation of extreme selfishness and selfishness.

Because the subtext is that I come first, and you have to give up everything you have for me, including you, and even the mother who gave birth to you.

If you can't, it proves that you don't 'love' me, at least not 'love' me enough.

So why do women often talk about 'love', and why do they often instill the concept of 'love' in men... Human nature is all about profit.

It's like men are indoctrinated and given the word 'responsibility'.

What is responsibility?

To change another similar word or meaning is to give without complaint.

Therefore, compared with the words 'love' and 'respect', this concept is actually more capable of maintaining the relationship between people.

Because respect means mutual affirmation and giving to each other, not just unilateral demands.

Confucius said that it is indecent to go without coming.

In fact, the ancients, or Confucianism, have long pointed out how to communicate with each other for a longer period of time. ——In ceremony, in respect, in mutual respect.

It's the same between people, and it's the same between men and women.

Lee Seung Woo didn't understand this before, so when it comes to getting along with IU, Lin Yoona, Park Ji Yeon and others, he is actually more selfish and selfish.

of course.

Now that he understands this, it does not mean that he is not selfish or selfish.

He just knows better how to deal with the relationship with IU and others, or in other words, how to meet the expectations and needs of IU, Lin Yuner and others. ——That is to give them the affirmation and respect they want.

Not only in action, but also in words.

Less negation and accusation, more affirmation and respect, so that the people around you will be happier and you will be more comfortable.

Raising his hands lightly, wiping away the tears on both sides of IU's cheeks, Lee Seung-woo smiled warmly and said softly, "Why are you crying again? You cry every now and then, your cheeks are crying."

IU sobbed, grabbed Li Chengyou's hand, half coquettish and half complaining: "You didn't provoke me, if you told me like this earlier, how could I be angry?"

Lee Seung Woo: "..."

Got it!
It was my fault again.

Women are never wrong, only men are wrong.

But Lee Seung-woo has already looked down on these verbal wins and losses and right and wrong, and he has no intention of competing with IU for victory or defeat.

With a dumb smile, Li Chengyou nodded frankly: "I did do a lot of things wrong before, and I want to apologize to you. I promise that I will respect you and care more about you if I make corrections in the future. Of course, you can't play petty temper too often. , I will make trouble with me at every turn. If I am really wrong and you are angry with reason and restraint, I will sincerely apologize to you and correct it humbly.

But if you're being petty..."

"Whoever is playing petty temper is not all because of you." IU wiped away her tears, and opened her mouth to refute.

Li Chengyou smiled: "Okay, I admit my mistake, and it's all my fault."

"It's your fault." IU couldn't help but muttered again.

After finishing speaking, she seemed to think of something again, and asked suddenly: "By the way, I almost forgot, you just said that I am not as smart as Lin Yuner, I am not as smart as Lin Yuner, I am not as beautiful as Zhiyan, and I am not as good-looking as Zhiyan. Why do you like me, what do you like about me?"

What do you like?I like you stupid.

Li Chengyou secretly laughed, but he wouldn't really answer like that. ——Although this is indeed the main reason why IU can attract him and why he likes IU.

Actually stupid.

If you look at it in a derogatory sense, you are stupid and not smart; but if you look at it in a positive sense, it is pure and sincere.

Fortune and misfortune depend on each other, and pros and cons complement each other.

Smartness is an advantage, but it is also a disadvantage.

Smart people are often too calculating, too concerned about gains and losses, and too concerned about interests.The more things you care about, the less sincere people will be.

Unless they are people who are really smart enough to realize their wisdom, the smarter they are, the smarter they act, the more people will be on guard, the more vigilant they will be, and the less they dare to really open their hearts.

It's like the difference between Yoona and IU.

Lin Yuner is indeed smart and has a high EQ, but she is too smart and cares about gains and losses, so she and Lee Seung Woo have known each other for more than two years and collaborated on two works, but so far they still haven't really come together.

And IU is not as beautiful as her, and her IQ and EQ are not as good as her, but on the contrary, she chased after Li Chengyou a long time ago.

Why do most men like stupid women?
to be honest.

Human nature is 'selfish', whether it is a man or a woman, they all like and hope that the other party will pay more.

People are self-centered, regardless of gender.

It's just that women are more serious than men.

But even though I know it well and understand why I like IU, I can't say it so bluntly.

One can be selfish, but one cannot be selfish enough to think that others are not selfish, and that others should obey oneself, understand oneself, and serve oneself for granted.

The result of thinking like this will only cause trouble for yourself.

and so.

After thinking about it, Li Chengyou didn't answer directly, but borrowed a famous saying.

"There is a saying that I think is very good, we can encourage each other. - Einstein said: Everyone has a talent, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will last its entire life Think you're stupid."

　PS: Two points, one, there is only one update today.[-]. After finishing the writing, I found out that the old problem was committed again, and as I wrote it, I unknowingly continued to write a long story, and the plot did not advance.This is an old problem and needs to be corrected. I will wake up again today, sorry.After thinking about it, this may be related to my reading too much recently, so I couldn't help but subconsciously added private goods.But to be honest, the more I read, the more I feel the greatness of Confucius and the importance of "rituals".On the surface, Confucianism and the ritual system are the choices of the emperor and the ruling class, but in essence they are the needs of society and human nature.After all, the foundation of etiquette lies in respect and respect.This is really what everyone desires and needs.

　　
　
(End of this chapter)