life is sweet

Chapter 162 [162] Discussion on the way of living for the elderly
Huang Xiaopei vaguely remembered the scene when he insisted on asking his in-laws to come and take care of the children, but her husband strongly opposed it.

Compared with other families, the man strongly recommends taking his parents-in-law with him, while the woman objects, they are just the opposite. His own son is opposed to bringing his parents with him. Huang Xiaopei once suspected that Su Qingchun was too unfilial and impersonal .

Now that her in-laws are here, on the first day they came, Huang Xiaopei was a little uncomfortable with eating and living habits, but at the time she saw that she was busy with work and had to ask for her parents' sake, so she still had some patience and endurance.

But after a few days of contact, it is obvious that her patience has almost been exhausted, especially for her father-in-law who did not help her, her favorability has reached a negative number.

After experiencing this, Huang Xiaopei finally understood how wise her husband's decision was. Although what Su Qingchun said just now was not pleasant, Huang Xiaopei also understood that what he said was indeed correct.

Now she is also secretly angry with herself in her heart: "I really deserved it!"

Thinking of this, she said to Su Qingchun with some shame and self-reproach: "Hey... Maybe you are right. It is indeed my fault that I have caused this."

"I really understand what you said this time. The living habits are different. If you want to live together, the friction and contradictions are really great."

"It's huge!" She added another sentence quickly.

Su Qingchun looked at Huang Xiaopei's current appearance, the previous arbitrariness and domineering air suddenly disappeared, which was funny, but he didn't dare to speak out.

Then Huang Xiaopei looked at his current living environment, and said, "Look at where we live now, it doesn't look like a home. Let me tell you that when I prepare lessons in the morning, I just sit on the bed and I feel aggrieved when I think about it." panic."

After she finished speaking, she paused again, and said, "I thought about it, instead of doing this, let's just forget about it after finishing my cram school this time, and I won't go to the summer vacation class. It seems that the money is really not something I can earn. No life, I'd better earn my own wages honestly."

Su Qingchun was very relieved to hear that his wife had such sentiments. He had explained to her countless times that there was no need to go to the training class, and analyzed countless disadvantages, but she just didn't listen. Now it's good, her parents only came for a few days, and she It seems that he has realized the stakes in this, and he also finds it funny when he thinks about it.

Sure enough, [-] well-intentioned words of advice are not as reliable and convincing as the lessons learned from one failure of the person concerned.

So he smiled and replied: "I'm quite happy that you have such an awareness, that means my parents didn't come in vain, hehe..."

"Then, you can talk to your mother about this matter later. I asked them to come here at the time. Now that I don't need them here during the summer vacation, I can't say it," Huang Xiaopei said. I also went back to Xiao Min and told her about the summer class.

"Okay, that's what's decided."

"it is good."

Su Qingchun was very happy to have such an ending. Seeing Huang Xiaopei's resignation and helplessness, he persuaded: "Since this matter has been decided in this way, don't be sad. In fact, I think everything has its own merits." Don’t worry too much about mistakes, if you really like teaching children, you can go to cram school when Xuanxuan grows up.”

"Okay, I get it, don't try to persuade me anymore, there are pros and cons, there are gains and losses, I understand."

Su Qingchun patted his wife on the shoulder to express comfort.

"After this incident, I understand that some things really cannot be forced."

"That's right," Su Qingchun replied, "but then again, the old people have the habits of the old, and we young people have the habits of the young. We can't just deny them just because their habits are different from ours. And think that their actions must be wrong, in fact, no matter what they do, they have their own ideas, perhaps in their view, some of our habits they are not familiar with or even agree with."

"Actually, there is no right or wrong about these housework. Everyone is not wrong. It's just that people with different living habits are forced together."

"You're right, but now I don't go to the cram school to solve the urgent need. After all, the parents are going to be old. When you get old, don't you want to live with your children? Just like your brother, let him I think the possibility of taking care of your parents is very small, if we don’t force them to live together, we will live together.” Huang Xiaopei sighed, “Hey, it will be troublesome then.”

Su Qingchun disagreed: "Actually, I don't think so. Who said that parents must live with their children when they are old?"

"Are you sure that the elderly will be happy living with their children? Are you enjoying your old age?"

Su Qingchun asked again.

Faced with Su Qingchun's rhetorical question, Huang Xiaopei was surprised and surprised. She never expected her traditional and rigid husband to say such a thing. Even Huang Xiaopei, who usually seems to be avant-garde, would not dare to think of such a thing. After all, China's Tradition is to raise children for old age. Parents still have to live with their children sooner or later to take care of them when they get older.

She stared at Su Qingchun with wide eyes and replied, "Why do you ask such a question?"

"Aren't all the old people over there living with their children when they are old?"

"I still want to answer you with Mr. Lu Xun's words, 'Is it right to always be like this?'"

After Su Qingchun finished speaking, he continued to explain, "On the contrary, I think that many parents are old, and living with their children is not comfortable at all. It is true that they do want to see their children more when they are old, but living with children will make them feel uncomfortable. There's a lot of conflict, and they always feel like they're living in someone else's house when they live in their children's house."

"I once saw a report saying that our Chinese elderly living in the city with their children are not happy at all, even depressed, because they are not used to life in the city first, and second, they are always disgusted when they are doing things at home. If he doesn’t do things, he will be disliked even more, and he will feel that everyone is different inside and out. He doesn’t even know what he has to do every day, and sometimes even how and where to sit? He will think about it for a long time, and his life is not at ease.”

"Think about it, if you are old, would you like to live with Xuanxuan and his wife in a restrained way, and think about what the children like about you every day, and what should you do about yourself? Or would you rather live in your own home? Can you live a life of doing what you want in peace?"

"Then I must be willing to live in my own home freely!" Huang Xiaopei replied without thinking.

"That's why! Thinking in another way, I think the old people should have the same idea as us." Su Qingchun replied.

(End of this chapter)