life is sweet

Chapter 37 [037] Marriage needs management

After coming out of Li Jun's box, Su Qingchun said in embarrassment: "Oh, it was really embarrassing just now. Fortunately, you smoothed things over for me."

"Hehe, it's okay, I know you don't like this occasion."

"If I knew they were playing cards, I wouldn't have come."

"Hey, I'm definitely going to come here. The relationship will deepen after meeting once. There's a big difference between coming and not coming."

Lu Feihu has always been a very sociable person. Su Qingchun has always known this. Although the hospital platform he works in is not very high, he can be regarded as a small leader, but he is very humble to his classmates. This may be his high EQ model.

Su Qingchun also admired Lu Feihu, but he couldn't learn Su Qingchun's likeness.

Now that the words have been spoken just now, Lu Feihu took Su Qingchun and the other students to say hello one by one before returning to the box.

After returning to the box, Lu Feihu and Su Qingchun chatted while drinking tea.

"Brother Chun, how are you doing?"

"That's it!"

Su Qingchun's depressed look was written all over his face.

"What's the matter?" Lu Feihu asked, "Yesterday I heard you said something happened at home, what is it?"

"Hi! Things at home are trivial, and I can't explain clearly." Su Qingchun frowned and sighed.

Seeing Su Qingchun's sad face, Lu Feihu felt that he must have something to do, so he quickly said, "Brother Chun, you all have something to do, right?"

Before Su Qingchun could explain, Lu Feihu said again: "Let me tell you, the classmates in our class have divorced a lot. Just this time for dinner, I found that there are a few more divorced couples."

"Tell you, don't be impulsive like I was back then. Look at your second sister-in-law, who knows how to buy this and that all day long, and doesn't care about family affairs. My experience has proved that second marriage is real. Not as good as the original one."

Lu Feihu persuaded with the attitude of someone who came here: "These second-married women are too realistic. They are all for money. Few of them are sincere, let alone feel wronged and give something."

Su Qingchun saw that Lu Feihu was getting divorced all of a sudden, so he quickly explained: "Hey, the troubles I just mentioned were some troubles at home. It's not about divorce. It's actually not a big deal."

"That's good." Lu Feihu breathed a sigh of relief, and then said not optimistically, "However, there are some things I still want to tell you. Don't blame the old classmates for speaking directly."

"It's alright, tell me."

"Honestness is an advantage of you, but sometimes you have a stubborn temper. This woman is a very strange animal. I advise you not to be too stubborn. , There is something at home, communicate well, don't get angry, let alone get angry overnight, this is not good for the relationship between husband and wife." Lu Feihu persuaded.

"Well, it's actually a small thing to say, but to be honest, sometimes it really feels exhausting to deal with it."

"Don't take it lightly. Now you feel that it's just some small things, and you don't take it seriously. The two are arguing, but those who divorced, do you think they all divorced for big things?" Lu Feihu asked back.

"Those who get divorced are not all accumulated by some small things as big as sesame seeds and mung beans. Disappointment is definitely not achieved overnight, but accumulated bit by bit. It is a long-term decision to separate. When it really breaks out, it may only be a matter of time." It takes a small thing to ignite the disappointment that has been accumulated for a long time, and once you get angry, you really leave."

"Death is a moment, but before death, you have already experienced all kinds of torture, so don't underestimate the barriers that those little things bring to you, those things are terrible."

"I know, but we really won't get to that point when we get divorced." Su Qingchun emphasized again.

In the past few years, Su Qingchun and his wife have said that they had conflicts occasionally, but divorce is definitely not possible. He never thought about it. Today he only talked about some trivial matters at home. He didn't expect Lu Feihu to make a fuss and talk about divorce. From Su Qingchun's point of view, it seems a little bit It's a big deal.

"Brother, I can advise you that marriage is very complicated. It is said to be bumpy and difficult, but maybe this is the meaning of marriage. It needs to be managed. It requires two people in marriage to work together. supporting each other."

"Let me give you an experience. There is really no right or wrong between a husband and wife. Sometimes you should not be too serious. Women are all stingy, so just don't care too much about them," Lu Feihu shared with Su Qingchun With the experience of marriage, "even the trivial things in life must be handled carefully, and there must be a method."

"It's not easy for your wife. She suffered a lot because of you staying in Shanghai. Just because of this, you should treat her well."

"I know it's not easy for her," Su Qingchun said, "Maybe the child has grown up in the past few years, and you know the situation in my family. Since my mother-in-law left, Xiaopei has taken care of the child at home. , We are very busy as doctors, so we often have some conflicts about children's education, especially in the past year, after children go to primary school, there are more and more problems."

"She is a teacher, and she is used to talking to me in the way of educating children at school. I know that she is also very hard, but you think we are so tired after work every day that we have to face her with an attitude of being superior and admonishing others, really. It’s hard to communicate well.”

"Are you still bringing your children by yourself?" Lu Feihu asked.

"Yes!"

"That's very hard. After all, both of you are at work, and you don't have time to take care of the children. It's rare for your wife to go to work and take the children by herself, especially now that there are various training classes. Many training sessions are hard enough.”

"Yes."

"I suggest that you can ask your parents to come to work to help take care of the children, which can also reduce some of Xiaopei's burden, so I think the relationship between your husband and wife will be much better."

"Hey, don't mention the fact that my parents came to Shanghai to take care of their children. My family's situation may be different from other families. The possibility of my parents coming to Shanghai is very small. Xiaopei also quarreled with me about this matter a few days ago. .”

"Uncles and aunts can't come, right?" Lu Feihu suggested, "Then try asking a nanny to take a look."

"My family's financial situation is clear about you. The money I borrowed from you to buy a house was paid off last year. How can I have spare money to hire a nanny? Now the salary of a nanny is very expensive, and the nanny is not at ease."

"Then I think you should have a good discussion on this matter to see if the uncles and aunts can accommodate you. Work hard for a few years first, and it will be fine when the child grows up."

"Oh..." Su Qingchun sighed, "It's not that my parents said they would never come, but that I don't want them to come."

(End of this chapter)