The first assistant girl has space

Chapter 191 191 Going Home
Although I heard a lot of things at the full moon banquet, some good and some not so good, people have their own views on these things, and they said what they wanted to say with great interest, and everyone exchanged information together.You gossip about these things, the whole banquet seems private and occasionally there are small quarrels, but the whole is still very harmonious.

The Lu family also entertained them as much as possible. Although it was not perfect, they did their best.

After all the guests have been sent away at the end, put away all the presents before cleaning.During the banquet, some neighbors were left to help clean up. It took more than two hours before everything was cleaned up.

Cleaning up is a rather cumbersome task, but the timely steps are very simple. All you need is some effort, and you need to cooperate with some people. Clean up all the pots, pans, tables, chairs, and The things of these guys who came in from the neighbor’s house are all returned to other people’s homes. In fact, Jiang’s family has a lot of these guys’ things, so they can just move them in the restaurant, but the restaurant is still far away from here, and the guys in the restaurant have to use them by themselves. The spare ones are all new ones or some older ones. It's a pity to use the new ones, but it's really hard to get rid of them.

Running back and forth is also a very troublesome thing, so when the banquet was held, the Lu family followed the rules of banquets in the past, and borrowed some tables, chairs, benches, pots and pans from the neighbors around. Now that I am playing again, I have to return it one by one, and because of the things of other families in the world, in the process of returning, I should thank others for their help.

Generally speaking, as long as you give some of the rice bought during the banquet, it will be fine.When holding banquets in ancient times, generally speaking, there were very few people with good stature. Basically, all the meat and vegetables served would be eaten up, and those small dishes could not be sold, so at this time, on the basis of the original vegetable shopping, If you keep a few bowls, when you send them back, you will send back more or less of these dishes, adding one or two eggs is enough.

The Lu family also did the same. Each household sent two pieces of meat and one egg back. Aijia A’s attitude of thanks was also very sincere, so the whole process was also very smooth, and the full moon wine was processed so smoothly up.

After the full moon was successfully completed, Mrs. Lin went home.

Before, because the Lu family had no elders, Mrs. Lin stayed in the Lu family, helping to take care of her, and also helping to serve Jiang Wenshan's confinement child.

Now that Jiang Wenshan is out of confinement and is even well-raised, Lin decided to go back.

Although Lu Weiliang sincerely invited her to stay at Lu's house for another month, allowing Jiang Wenshan to have a full confinement, but the doctor said that Jiang Wenshan's confinement is doing well, and she can move around freely, and Jiang Wenshan herself also thinks that there is no need for confinement. It's confinement.

Although Lin really wanted to stay at Lu's house and see her grandson more, she also knew that as a mother-in-law, she did something special by helping to take care of her confinement. Now that Jiang Wenshan's condition has stabilized, her health It's all over, if she stays at Lu's house any longer, she will feel like she's acting like a superintendent.

She couldn't get involved in the days and plans of other people, because after all, she was not the Lu family, but the Jiang family.

In the future, Jiang Wenshan will spend her life with Lu Weiliang. She can't get involved and handle all the affairs of his family. In this case, it's not good for Jiang Wenshan. She herself is not very good. After all, this kind of thing is for his young couple to live on their own, so it's okay for her to always get involved.

She has done what she should do, no matter how reluctant she is, and how much she wants to stay, she can't always stay at Lu's house. Moreover, the remaining children of his family have to be taken care of, so she thought about it for a long time After that, I finally calmed down and decided to go home.

Lin said: "From now on, Wen Shan will trouble you. My family is gone. I believe you can take good care of him. If you have anything to do, please send someone to tell me. As long as you persuade me to help, I will definitely come over. "

Parents should let go of their hands, children and grandchildren only have children and grandchildren, let them experience their own life, and parents should not always intervene, otherwise it will disrupt the rhythm of their life, which is not good for others or themselves.

Of course, when children need it, parents should extend a helping hand in time to help their children overcome the immediate difficulties, so that they have no worries. This is the ideological awareness that parents should have. After repeating it many times, it gradually changed into a thought.

In fact, it was right to think about it, and the way to do it was right, but to actually do it, she had to go through some ideological struggles. At this time, Lin suddenly remembered what Jiang Wenzhu said——

It is the first time for children to be children, and maybe they also know how to do it. Only children are truly filial to their parents, and only then can they do their best to make their parents not sad.

Parents are also first-time parents, and they aren't born parents either, so they may need to learn how to be parents too.

Not everyone can enter the role of parents all at once, and not everyone is born to be a good parent. They also need to learn how to be a good and responsible parent so that their children will admire them.

Generally speaking, all children grow up in the hearts of their parents, and the family atmosphere is particularly important to children.

What kind of child he grows up depends on what kind of family he lives in and what kind of parents he has.How did the parents cultivate him from an early age, how to make him have a sound personality and excellent qualities? If a family or a parent does not teach the child excellent qualities, then the child learns badly or does not grow up as the parents hoped, it is likely to be In the process of growing up, there is a lack of correct guidance.

You don't understand these concepts, because among these concepts, there are many advanced knowledge points and many new concepts that she has never heard of.

But when Jiang Wenzhu told her these concepts, and what she said made sense, she broke apart the details one by one, analyzed them carefully with her, and verified them in real life.

After verification, Lin found that the things she said were all traceable and to a large extent correct, more reasonable than the sage classics she had heard, and using this method to Raising children, I found that children can really grow up very well. The most prominent example of this is Jiang Wenyan.

Jiang Wenyan, a child, grew up beside him and was raised with Jiang Wenzhu's ideas.

Whether it is studying and practicing martial arts, dealing with people, or all aspects, every aspect is cultivated according to some ideas of Jiang Wenzhu, and Lin is very satisfied with Jiang Wenyan's current appearance.

Lively, clever, smart, hard-working, and flexible... All things are solved with his own strength, he can think, he is willing to innovate, and he always makes some unexpected attempts, and he has some ideas, which is Lian Lin's Thoughts that she doesn't understand, and these ideas will always achieve some better results when they are verified in the end. She can indeed see Jiang Wenyan's obvious growth.

If, according to her previous teaching methods, she would never be as smart, clever, lively, and capable as she is now...

Maybe, according to her teaching method, Jiang Wenyan will become very reasonable, kind, and hardworking... But she will never become as thoughtful and capable of solving problems as she is now.

Lin himself has experienced a lot of hardships and hardships in life, so he knows that a child should have the ability to solve problems when faced with problems, and the ability to solve problems is in the original way of suppressing children's thoughts. Ability that cannot be cultivated under education.

At least she looked very good. Apart from being sensible and smart, his child has the ability to adapt to changing circumstances, which is the most important thing.

Children will eventually go to life, and will eventually face all kinds of twists and turns and difficulties encountered in life alone.If the child has gone through the wind and rain at this time, he has already solved various problems in the process of growing up.Even when they encounter problems in the future, they cannot solve all the problems and do not have such strong abilities, but when they face difficulties, they will not be afraid, and they will not be afraid because of difficulties.

They have the courage to solve problems, instead of doubting themselves as soon as a problem arises, they only think about the help of the planet, and when others refuse, they feel resentful.Once others refuse, there is nothing you can do, you will be devastated, and you will die.

Rather than this, she would rather her children have all kinds of weird ideas in their daily life, rather than become like a marionette in their daily life, listening to their parents and letting the old Never go east to west, so that catching chickens will never drive dogs.Marry whoever you want, and divorce whoever you want, I have no idea at all.

She has endured such hardships. The reason why Jiang Xianyong divorced her was largely because he listened to his parents and didn't know what was right and what was wrong. Of course, it was also largely because he wanted to have a son. , he doesn't like her anymore.

Such people have always listened to their parents since they were young. Everything is decided by their parents. Whether it is marrying a wife and having children, or eating and drinking, every move is an order of their parents.

Do these people have ideas once their parents are gone?Will their thoughts still be normal?If there is no idea at this time, they have a lot of ideas, some real ideas come up, and there is no time for them to try and make mistakes, then how can they be able to solve the real mistakes?
When such a child grows up, no matter how old he is, he is still a manifestation of lack of thought. The puppets are just like what Jiang Wenzhu said, they are not adults, they are just giant babies with an adult body.

To be honest, Lin felt that Jiang Wenzhu's words were somewhat exaggerated, but there was some truth to them.

She had thought countless times, if Jiang Xianyong could stand up and stand firmly on her side when his parents proposed to divorce his wife, and she would not divorce his wife no matter what his parents said, what would happen now?

She didn't know, if that was the case, would her life be better than now, but there was always one thing, she knew very well, that is, when she thought of Jiang's family, she would not feel without a trace of warmth.

When a person recalls the past more than ten years without a trace of warmth in it, then there is a barrenness in the memory, and what this barrenness brings to people is definitely not full of hope for progress.If there is no good future, if there is no good cure, then these pasts can completely destroy a person's hope for all life.

Lin felt that if Jiang Wenzhu hadn't asked their family to make pickles, if it hadn't been for their family's earning a lot of money, if they hadn't experienced so many things, made their business so big, and lived such a good life, many things would be wrong. Her views have undergone earth-shaking changes. She has experienced things, broadened her horizons, and liberated her mind. Lin will definitely be immersed in the pain of the past, unable to extricate herself, and even make her life worse and worse, perhaps leading to an even more despondent life. Situation, will never be like now, become an enviable wife.

So these past experiences told Lin that she should raise her child to be a capable person, a person who has hope under any circumstances and has the ability to lead a happy life for herself.

And the process of this kind of ability cannot be under the all-round observation of parents, but should allow children to have the space to grow independently, instead of parents protecting the calf and holding the child in their arms like an old hen.

She has actually tried very hard to restrain herself, she is the kind of person who protects the calf.In fact, she was not as free and easy as Jiang Wenzhu and the others, especially when Jiang Wenzhu was training Jiang Wenyan, she was really not soft-hearted at all, and when she dealt with these problems, she was often soft-hearted and always wanted to consider them carefully.

Parents love their children and have far-reaching plans for it.

She wants to be far-reaching, but how to do it is the far-reaching approach. How to do it can truly exercise children's ability to be independent, which is what she should study carefully.

At the beginning, she didn't do very well, but after so many years, she can always handle these things well, because if she doesn't handle them well, Jiang Wenzhu will keep nagging beside her, until she listens .

If she doesn't listen, then it will be time for Jiang Wenzhu to reason. Imagining how Jiang Wenzhu's relatives would not recognize him when he was speaking, Lin felt that her ears were itchy.

Just like today, if she stays at Lu's house and refuses to leave, Jiang Wenzhong will definitely try to reason with her thousands of times in her ears when Mother Lu Wei is not around.

Faced with these truths, she had no power to resist. At that time, she was wronged, and the wrongedness could not convince others. At that time, she could no longer maintain the dignity of being a parent, so she had to go back if she didn't want to go back.

(End of this chapter)