The first assistant girl has space

Chapter 197

"Hey, how do you talk? I just said that, why do you have to be serious with me? What kind of husband I will find in the future is none of your business? Whether he can meet me on horseback is none of your business. , you just think about what you were like when you got married, you brought a change of clothes, no dowry, and you have the nerve to arrange me here."

"Bah! You are a young girl who has not been out of the court, but you keep saying that you are married to your husband, do you know how to be ashamed!"

"What little girl who hasn't left the cabinet, I haven't left the cabinet, why are you still telling me these things? Could it be that you are disrespectful and deliberately troubled me? I will say that about you. You don’t slap someone in the face when you hit someone, and you don’t hurt someone’s heart when you hit someone. You should say me first, and then I will say you. This is fair.”

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Not to mention how people outside saw their lively wedding, whether they were envious or jealous, the whole process still seemed very lively.

At least from the beginning to the end, beating and beating, approving red and hanging green, attracted the attention of many people along the way, and the procession of welcoming relatives walked from the city, which attracted the attention of countless people.

And after the groom was stopped outside, he was blocked again.

Jiang Wenzhu has participated in several ancient weddings, from her eldest sister to her neighbor's wedding in normal times, and found that compared with today's weddings, there are indeed many more procedures in ancient weddings, and they are also extraordinarily grand interesting.

If you are a scholar, then you have to be the ultimate teacher, if you are a martial artist, then you have to show some tricks, if you are an ordinary person, you have to pass the test and play some harmless games.

In short, let the troublemakers have fun, anyway, you won't let it go easily, so you will marry the bride away.

Of course, this is actually just a fun thing, it needs to go through the formalities of blocking the door, but in fact, in the end, these people will not particularly embarrass the groom, at most they will lengthen the time of blocking the door, making it more difficult a little.

For example, there are many rules for blocking the door. Those who block the door must be sincere, and those who are sincere must have eighteen skills in martial arts.

Not only do you have to see all directions and listen to all directions, but you must also be able to speak well, preferably literary and military, and be able to do everything.

So in the groom's team, many people will be brought here, in addition to helping the bride pull out the dowry, on the other hand, it is to deal with these problems.

This time they also stopped for almost three hours before walking from outside the yard to the bride.

"Xiaojia, after you go to your husband's house, you must get along well with your husband's family and do your own duty. The wife wants this, and never forgets those things. She wants to be gentle and gentle, respect her parents, and teach her husband and children. But don't forget, while being nice to them, you can't have no bottom line and forget yourself." Lin said.

Because Lu Jia's parents passed away early, the relationship between the Lu family and the family was very cold, so apart from inviting Mrs. Quan Fu, Lin Shi was beside her to give her instructions on other things.

In fact, it stands to reason that Lin's situation should not be suitable to attend the family's wedding, because Lin's identity is declared to the outside world as a widow, and when attending a couple's wedding, the status of a widow is relatively inauspicious.

However, neither Lu Jia nor Lu Weiliang minded.

When Lin refused, the two agreed on the reason for the question.

Lin originally wanted to find a reason to prevaricate, but the reasons they gave were rejected by the two Yiyi, so Lin could only tell the truth.

"What does that matter? Auntie, you think too much about this. Maybe the customs in your place are like this, but we don't mind it. Uncle has passed away for many years. Can you not attend other people's weddings in the future? That is also Impossible, we don't pay much attention to this here, as long as you are not a newly widowed person, you can come to the wedding." Lu Jia said.

"Yes, mother-in-law, as long as you are not a newly widowed woman, you can go to the wedding, as long as you have been married for a year. Whether there are any elders in our family, we have to rely on you when we encounter problems." Lu Weiliang said.

Lu Weiliang looked at Mrs. Lin, and said sincerely: "My parents left early, and my elder brothers have their own small family to take care of, and because I inherited the position of the family's policeman, I also handed over part of the wages to the family. They still have a few younger sisters to raise, and the family is really poor, and everyone was very unhappy because of the previous incident, so now I basically have no contact with my brothers."

"Actually, I also know that it is a last resort to take the initiative to fight with them. They have been lying on us for so many years, trying to make progress. I want to live a good life with Wen Shan, so I can't have contact with them."

"The people in the clan also know about my situation, but the people in the clan have never spoken on this matter."

"I know that I inherited the position of the family's fast catcher. I really should pay a little price and give them some wages. I have no objection, but they shouldn't pay back when my sister is sick and force me to take the money. Isn't that Asking me to pay the price is asking for the lives of my sisters."

"I am willing to take out the wages, but I am willing to see them bury the lives of their sisters in order to ask for money. The way they ask for money really disgusts me. In order to get money, they come to my house to find all kinds of money. I've put up with them over the years, but I can't put up with them all the time."

"The people in the clan know about these situations, and they haven't stood up for our brothers and sisters. You only know how to suppress our brothers and sisters, let us bear more patience, and maintain the reputation of the Lu family."

Ever since the family said such things, Lu Weiliang became cold-hearted towards these elders in the family, and gradually lost his respect, because in a family, the patriarchs and elders always help a group of people to suppress these elders. Weak, kind, and upright people, then such a family has no cohesion.

He has been disappointed with the patriarchs and patriarchs in the clan, and he will not go to the clan to seek help after something happens to him.

He was so weak before, and when he needed help, he didn't get their help. Now that he is strong and can make decisions for himself, he will definitely not ask those people in the family.

So this is the reason why he came to find snacks. He has experienced the ups and downs of human relationships over the years, and he has long seen that sometimes many things cannot be forced. Blood relationship can often determine some things. For example, as long as With blood relationship, they have a layer of alliance that can be broken.

Some people say that there is another level of life-and-death friendship between parents and children, because between parents and children are a very close alliance of interests.They have a very deep relationship and a very close connection. They share the rest, and the blessings and misfortunes are related.

For the vast majority of people in the world, the relationship between parents and children is the closest, because parents are willing to pay for their children, and children are willing to pay for their parents.It can be said that in this world, there is no one who loves himself more than his parents, and no one who is more willing to honor his parents than his children.

However, there are exceptions to everything. Some people are born without parental ties, and some people who are related by blood are very indifferent.

And there are some people who have no relationship at all, because of some kind qualities, they have an intersection with each other, gradually develop feelings, and establish a stable and deep connection, and the mutual care and kindness between them It will be better than some people who are related by blood. This is what we call a life-and-death relationship.

So, in fact, if we want to be nice to a person, the most important thing is the distance between us, the relationship between us, the relationship between us, and the relationship between us.

So now Lu Weiliang chooses the Lin family because he has such a feeling for the Lin family. He thinks that the Lin family is better than those in his family.

So when doing such a great event, he is willing to let the Lin family guide the Lu family, and is willing to let the Lin family save face with their family, and he is not willing to let the people in his family to point fingers.

His thoughts are actually very simple. Lin's marriage of his daughter to him has brought about earth-shaking changes in his life.

They are very kind to everyone in their family, not only to him, but also to his three younger sisters. Compared with those in Lu's family, they are like heaven and earth.

That being the case, Lin has given so much to their family, so he should stand in front of Lu Jia when she is married, at this beautiful time.

He wanted to show his closeness to Mrs. Lin in front of everyone. This was his return to Mrs. Lin, and it was also a manifestation of his attitude.

And he felt that the Lin family would teach Lu Jia more attentively than those in the clan.

Lu Jia also thought so, and after her brother finished speaking, she also sincerely invited Lin to teach him some principles of being a woman when she got married.

Lin was moved by the firm attitude of the two, and finally agreed.

"I remember." Lu Jia said.

Lin held Lu Jia's hand and continued: "Although we have to do these things well, we must also remember that we have lost our lives, and when we live, the things I encounter are all practicable. , and it makes sense, so if someone in your family does something wrong, don't take the mistake on yourself, but firmly express your attitude, and at the first time, say that if you are wrong, you are wrong."

"For these things, you are not used to it, you don't agree with it, and you are not willing to bear it. Don't wrong yourself and let others get ahead. Things in life are like this. If you just give in, others will not regard your kindness as kindness. , and will think you are weak."

"Don't be afraid to make a fuss about things, don't suffer yourself, swallow your popularity, and let others bully you. In many cases, suffering is not a blessing, and don't suffer from being dumb. You will suffer from Mingchu. Don't worry, as long as you are wronged in Additional Come back and tell you something, let your brother stand up for you, it will definitely not be the same as being bullied by others, when you are bullied to the end, and you let your brother stand up, then you will be very wronged, you know?"

Lu Jia was a little moved by Lin's words, her nose was sour, and she nodded heavily.

She also knows that Lin's words like this are really treating her as a younger generation. You can see that she thinks about her, and everything is from her point of view. She is afraid that she will be wronged, swallow her anger, and dare not make a sound .

In the words, she considered all aspects for her, and told her that her mother's family is her solid backing, let her do her own things well in her husband's house, as long as she does the right thing, don't worry about being bullied by others.

This feeling reassured Lu Jia's family, and made him feel at ease, letting her know that no matter what, there are people behind her who will support her.

Mrs. Quanfu and Xi Niang, who were in charge of dressing and dressing next to her, froze their smiles for a moment when they heard Lin's words, but thinking about what Lin said, as women, they actually agreed and understood.

People who really love their daughters should be like this. They will not blindly tell their daughters to tell their daughters that after going to their husband's family, they must be filial to their husband's family, and they must put their husband's family first no matter what.

If you are not afraid of being wronged, you should endure it, and you must not do things that make your husband or in-laws disgusted.

Some people even directly tell their daughters before they are about to get married: the married daughter is now married, and she must gain a foothold in her husband's house in the future, and think carefully about what to do.If you make them lose face and get suspended, what will happen...

These girls have not yet married, and they are already afraid in their hearts.Will the husband's family like them?After marrying, what should I do if my husband and in-laws don't like her?
So before I got married, I was already afraid in my heart.Worried about the unfair treatment received by her husband's family, after the real marriage, she would lower her eyebrows and shrunk slightly, and dare not stand up straight and speak when she was bullied. The days passed more and more difficult.

Because when they were at home, they had already been told to call them over.Your family will not stand up for him. If she is beaten and scolded, it should be because she is not good enough, so she deserves it!
And now what Lin said, all the married girls will be very relieved and moved when they hear it.

Mrs. Quanfu, Xi Niang, and the few people in the room were all moved after hearing Lin's words.

well!When they got married, their parents also expressed their best wishes and asked them to live well after they got married.Live life, but did not say, what to do if life is not good, what to do if you are bullied.Will her natal family stand up for her?

I didn't talk about it at all, didn't give them enough confidence, and didn't give them enough confidence.So before they got married, the panic in their hearts almost overflowed.

(End of this chapter)