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Chapter 715 Growing up is a sadness of constant separation

Qin Bing thought for a long time before starting to write.

He deleted and changed the title several times, and finally left a sentence: "This is a movie that should be watched by all children."

"In the beginning, I knew about this movie because my old friend Xu Ding finally got involved with the protagonist of a movie.

After watching the movie, there was a lot to say.

We often see news on the Internet that many parents complain that grandparents dote on their children too much, and intergenerational relatives make the old people often be overly tolerant and doting on their children.

In their era, filial sons were born under sticks, but when it comes to grandchildren, they seem to have lost their memory.

Of course I don't agree with the education method of producing filial sons under the stick, but I also don't agree with excessive spoiling.

How to educate children?In fact, it is a problem that all parents face, so I won't mention it here.

However, today I want to recommend a movie "Heaven's Reply", because in this movie, the way grandpas educate their children is worth learning from grandpas and parents.

Although the theme of the film is to teach children how to face death.

But many details are worth thinking about and learning.

In fact, no child is born a bad boy, and more bad boys are caused by the day after tomorrow.

At the beginning of the film, the grandfather took his grandson to fly a kite. There is a detail that touched me very much. After flying the kite, the grandson will take the grandfather with him on a tricycle. Here I can’t help but ask a question.

If it was your child who made such a request, as parents, or as grandparents, how would you respond?

I believe that the first reaction of most parents or grandparents is to refuse!

It's too dangerous, you can't ride it!
But how did the grandfather in the movie respond?

He agreed to let the child and himself rock paper scissors, and if he wins, he will satisfy the child's request.

Here I am not advocating that children ride tricycles to take grandpa to the streets. After all, the era in the movie is different from the present.

But this kind of courage to let children try things that they are interested in is worth advocating. Maybe we can change the way and let children feel whether it is hard for grandpa to ride a tricycle in a safe place.

Whether our current parents or grandparents, they try their best to avoid letting their children try any risky things. I think this is also an over-protection.

In the film, back home, the way grandfather and grandson get along is also worth thinking about.

Grandpa took the child to deliver the letter, but the elevator was out of power.

The grandfather asked his grandson what should he do if the recipient lives on the twelfth floor?
The child's first answer was, fear of difficulties, let's go home.

It is human nature to be afraid of difficulties.

But grandpa taught the children here to be brave enough to take responsibility. In fact, climbing the twelve floors is obviously a more difficult thing for grandpa.

But he still encourages the children to speak out by themselves, climb upstairs to deliver the letter, and at the same time, they are also brave enough to bear the burden. When encountering difficulties, don’t run away, especially some things that seem difficult, but in fact, they can be overcome if they do it. , I believe that such an experience is of great benefit to children.

Finally, teach children how to face death.

The meaning of death is often difficult for children to understand.

At the beginning of the movie, the grandfather and grandson were flying a kite, and when the grandfather suddenly felt uncomfortable and sat there to rest, he knew that his life was not long.

He is not afraid of leaving by himself, what he is afraid of is that his good grandson Chenchen who is young and dependent on him will not be able to face this farewell.

Therefore, in the following days, grandpa taught Chenchen how to face death intentionally or unintentionally, and even her mother's return did not come suddenly.

The first time I faced death was the deceased recipient. Although he was no longer alive, my grandfather did not give up sending the letter to him. He did not say that this person is dead, that he cannot receive the letter, forget it, etc. Negative language, but optimistically telling Chenchen that even if a person dies, he can receive the letter, and the kite can take the letter to heaven for him, imperceptibly making Chenchen full of fantasies about the world after death, dreaming that there is a paradise there , fantasizing that people do not disappear after death.This is grandpa subtly telling him that after death is not terrible, there is heaven there.

The second time he faced death was when his grandfather was sick and pretended to be dead in the hospital. He wanted to see Chenchen’s reaction. Chenchen was really frightened and couldn’t cry. left.When he returned home, he hugged his grandfather and said that he would not let him die. This was an expression of his true feelings, and it was also because Chenchen could not accept the death of his beloved relative.

The third time he faced death was the accidental departure of Chenchen’s old friend Guinea Pig. Because he was a friend with deep affection, Chenchen couldn’t help crying, but finally he calmed down and went to talk to his little friend. When burying old friends, there is a small kite beside the grave, because he believes that the kite can allow him to communicate with the guinea pig in heaven. Under the influence of his grandfather, he has been able to digest the sadness brought by death by himself. This is Chenchen's growth.

Facing death for the fourth time, that is, the departure of dearest grandpa, his real old friend and old buddy.Chenchen didn't cry to death, didn't feel overwhelmed with grief, but finally celebrated the last birthday for grandpa calmly, lit the birthday candles one by one, grandpa lay there peacefully in the candlelight, Chenchen was peaceful And strong.This is in stark contrast to the unacceptable Chenchen who wailed and cried when his grandfather faked his death, which is why the plot of his grandfather's fake death was arranged.Grandpa can feel at ease under Jiuquan.

In the end, in that lonely winter, he used the method his grandfather taught him to send the letter to his grandfather through a kite. This was Chenchen's real relief from death, and this is what his grandfather hoped for Chenchen from the very beginning. Those who are not sad about death are able to face it with strength.Grandpa had a good intention, and Chenchen lived up to his expectations.

So this ending is not deliberately sensational as some people said, this ending is the result that grandpa wanted from the very beginning.

Heaven wrote back, and the beautiful longing and longing for grandpa will remain in Chenchen's heart forever.

In the process of a person's growth, in his childhood stage, there is a person who can love but not spoil, can accompany him to know society, life, nature, small animals, play with him, teach him skills, and keep the child It is a rare and happy thing to have a childlike and playful elder.

So, if you are a grandparent, this is a movie worth taking your kids to watch.

If you are a parent, this is also a movie worth watching with your children.

If you have grandparents, this is also a movie that should be seen even more! "

(End of this chapter)