35 this year

Chapter 9 The Value Identity of Full-Time Housewives

Regarding Xu Hong's choice, Sheng Min couldn't understand it. She felt that it would be over if she had to bear it. The company gave her two departments, maybe it really trusted her.Xu Hong dismissed this.trust?The word "trust" has never appeared in the company, only how to save money, increase income and reduce expenditure, and Xu Hong is the part that has been saved.Yu He asked her how she was sure that the people in the company would not suspect that she was recording, did she record it as soon as she wanted, and Xu Hong said again in a sophisticated tone, "Because the company thinks that I will not leave the job, and that I will not be able to find someone after I leave here." I've got a better job." Although this is the company's wishful thinking, Xu Hong also understands that maybe she really can't find a better job.

I don’t know when, 35 years old has become a threshold, and all walks of life are liquidating 35-year-old people, as if the retirement age is a fake, and everyone should retire at 35 years old.Xu Hong told Yu He, "It's said that it's the same when you don't get promoted at the age of 35. You will have no great prospects in your life, but there are only so many positions in a company, and there are only a few management positions. No matter how you count, it is impossible to have all of them. Do you want to be a management team, and those who have not been promoted to the management team will die, don’t you need to eat?” Listening to Xu Hong’s long voice, Yuhe’s husband, who was working overtime, raised his head. I think what Xu Hong said makes sense, but what's the use of making sense? This is how it is in real life. People like him who can't get promoted face the risk of being eliminated.

While looking after the child, Yu He pressed the voice key to return to Xu Hong, "Then what are you going to do next?" Xu Hong's lazy voice came from the voice, and she said, "Forget about the deposit, take a rest first, and then prepare Find another job." Before Xu Hong resigned, she calculated her deposit, although it was not much, it was enough for her to take a short rest, and every time at this time, Xu Hong lamented the benefits of saving money.

Hearing that Xu Hong wanted to rest, Sheng Min couldn't wait to say, "Would you like to come to our place to have fun?" Sheng Min was referring to our place, which is the city where she and Yuhe stayed. Not above, but the two of them are indeed in the same city.Hearing Sheng Min's proposal, Yu He also echoed it. Xu Hong thought for a while, and although the meeting just past was not very pleasant, she is now an unemployed person and has no reason to refuse others' kindness, so she readily agreed .In this way, after a short two-month separation, Xu Hong flew to Yuhe and Shengmin's city.

It was autumn when Xu Hongfei passed by, and Sheng Min's husband was on a business trip again, so Xu Hong lived in Sheng Min's house as a matter of course.Sheng Min's home is in a remote location in the suburbs. It is a small two-bedroom house, where they live in their husband and wife and a cat. Sheng Min cleaned the guest room cleanly, and threw Xu Hong's suitcase into it.

After Xu Hong settled down, Sheng Min served her a bowl of soup. According to Sheng Min, she went to the vegetable market early in the morning to buy it, and she worked so hard to make it herself.Xu Hong looked at her slightly blackened little hands, and joked about her hard work, Sheng Min rolled her eyes and said, "This is the only one that did well."

"Then what do you eat when your husband is not at home?"

"Just stir-fry vegetables and stuffed rice."

Xu Hong showed doubts on his face, and Sheng Min said like bitter water, "Really, why do you all think I'm lying? Cooking requires talent."

"Who else doubts you?"

"Him." As she said that, Sheng Min pouted towards the picture frame standing in the corner, where her wedding photo was placed.Sheng Min went on to say, "Before he went on a business trip, he told me that he would take his parents over, saying that he was old enough to take care of him. But he had to take care of himself, and he was not at home, so why should I take care of him?" "Speaking of this, Sheng Min gave Xu Hong a yes look, in order to get her approval.

Xu Hong said with some reservations, "If you are really ready to go to work, you can really say that."

"I'm really going to work. Besides, even if I really can't find a suitable job for a while, it's not convenient to be in the same room with his parents? What's more, her father is still a man , His mother urged us to have children again."

"Fucking urging too?" Xu Hong thought that as long as he got married, he couldn't escape the urging of the next step.Sheng Min nodded, and said angrily, "How could it be possible not to rush, and he won't tell his parents that he doesn't want it either."

Hearing the meaning of Sheng Min's words, Xu Hong narrowed his eyes, as if Sheng Min's husband had thrown her into a battle, allowing her to be hit by bullets alone, while he was at ease.

"Then how do you plan to find a job?" Xu Hong thinks that work should be the first priority. Sheng Min's behavior of not working is indeed easy to be criticized, and if he doesn't work, he will have no financial income. In a family, the economy is the word right.

Sheng Min said, "I plan to take a human resources certificate first."

"But you are 35 years old, you don't read books every day, right? How do you take the test?"

"Let me plan first." After Sheng Min finished speaking, Xu Hong knew that she had only thought about it, and did not actually do anything.Xu Hong understands Sheng Min's temperament. Ideas are greater than actions, or in other words, ideas are always ideas, and they are rarely implemented.

"What about you, what are your plans?"

Xu Hong took the soup bowl into the kitchen, and said as he walked, "Come here to play for a few days, and then go back to find a job in a few days."

"Why don't you just stay here? In this way, the three of us can be companions. I don't know what to say to Yuhe when you're not here. She always talks about her child, and I can't talk to her. The three of us together Anyway, we still have a little chat."

Xu Hong didn't intend to consider this proposal, because it would affect her whole body. After all these years, she had worked hard to make some connections, and she had some resources. It was a pity to give up so easily.Moreover, Xu Hong does not believe in the so-called friendship between people from the bottom of his heart.The so-called three of us together may end up being her alone.Xu Hong once believed that we were always together, but she couldn’t stop her from falling in love, getting married, and friends falling in love and getting married, and even sent her sincere blessings, but she was fed up with the situation where love disappeared and marriage left nothing to talk about. up.Xu Hong once shed tears in front of a TV series, because the three sisters who agreed to live together and take care of the elderly, finally went home to find a husband, and those who got married and had children got married and had children, and the remaining women could only cry and say "the agreed three Personally, I am the only one of you left, what should I do, what should I do..." Xu Hong felt the same way, in this world, no one is trustworthy.

The day after Xu Hong's arrival happened to be Saturday, Xu Hong and Sheng Min bought some children's toys and clothes at the mall, and took them to see Yuhe.Xu Hong did not attend Yuhe's wedding, and the children had only seen photos. After so many years, Xu Hong felt that he should go and see.Although Sheng Min was closer to Yuhe, she never went to see them. She had a natural resistance to children. She was at a loss when she saw them, and she didn't know where to put her eyes.

When he arrived at Yuhe's house, it was Yuhe's husband who came to open the door. This man, who only existed in the wedding photo before, looked younger than Yuhe. Xu Hong thought that this was the result of women doing housework.

Yu He hugged the child and enthusiastically let Xu Hong and Sheng Min in. Xu Hong saw the unusual child in her arms at a glance. The child laughed directly when he saw Xu Hong, and kept calling auntie.Xu Hong suddenly felt very warm, and he was a little at a loss and asked, "Do you have to wash your hands before you can hug him?" Yu He teased her, "You'd better change your clothes again." Xu Hongxin thought it was too much to hug him. It's hard, Yuhe couldn't stop laughing and said, "Go and wash your hands, I'll give you a hug." After finishing speaking, she pointed in the direction of the bathroom.When Xu Hong entered the bathroom, he passed by an old lady. She thought this should be Yuhe's nasty mother-in-law.

After Xu Hong washed his hands, Sheng Min also got into the bathroom. When Sheng Min came out, Xu Hong was already playing with the child in his arms.Sheng Min knew that Xu Hong only resisted marriage, but had no hostility towards children. It could even be said that she liked children quite a lot, especially children who loved to laugh. The people will not go bad.

The child giggled in Xu Hong's arms, and Xu Hong liked it even more. She unwrapped the toys one by one and gave them to Yuhe's son, and told the child exactly what the salesman told her. .While Xu Hong was talking, Yuhe's mother-in-law came over with water and said, "He can't understand what you tell him." Xu Hong looked at her coldly and said, "Of course such an older child can't understand, he If you can understand it, you are a prodigy." Although Xu Hong said coldly, but with a smile on Xu Hong's face, Yu He's mother-in-law didn't hear anything wrong.

Xu Hong and Sheng Min were surrounding the child, teasing and chatting with Yuhe when the doorbell rang again, and Yuhe's husband got up again to open the door.When Yu He saw the person coming in, the expression on her face became strange. She took a peek at Xu Hong, and immediately led the man and her husband into the dining room.

Sheng Min understood and said, "Isn't it a blind date arranged for you?" Xu Hong frowned in confusion, and Sheng Min approached her and said, "Yuhe mentioned before that there is a man in her husband's unit who is about the same age as us." Yes, she is a very nice person, her husband is very trustworthy, and has always wanted to introduce you." Xu Hong nodded, thinking about it, after all, a man of this age wants to find someone to marry even if he is poor. Besides, this may not be bad, but there are really few suitable women at this age who are not married.But Xu Hong thought about it again, and asked the question, "Don't their men like to find girls in their twenties?" Sheng Min glanced at the dining room again, and said, "That depends on what conditions Right? Girls in their twenties can also choose.” Xu Hong thinks it should be.

When Yuhe came back, Sheng Min knew that she had guessed correctly, it was indeed a blind date for Xu Hong.With an apologetic smile on her face, Yuhe kept apologizing to Xu Hong, saying that her husband called someone to come over, but she really didn't know.Xu Hong smiled gently, hugged her son and said, "It's okay, this kind of thing happens often." Xu Hong gave Yu He face, and Yu He relaxed.Xu Hong felt that she had the right to deal with an accident, which happened quite often.

To entertain Xu Hong and Shengmin's meal, Yuhe made some with her mother-in-law, and also ordered some takeaways. After all the preparations were ready, and several people served the table, Yuhe's mother-in-law took the child away from Xu Hong's hand and hid in the house alone. inside.Yuhe said, "Mom, let's eat together." The old lady replied, "You young people, eat first and talk first. I'm not hungry. I'll come and see the baby." Xu Hong and Sheng Min looked at Yuhe, and Yuhe also He curled his lips and let her behave in front of others.

The old man and the children were not there, so Xu Hong was naturally placed next to Yuhe's husband's colleague. After being introduced, she found out that this person's surname was Chang, and his name was Chang Qing.After the introduction, Yu He's husband thought he was humorous and said, "Your name is Hong, his name is Qing, one red and one blue, don't they match well?" Sheng Min whispered in Xu Hong's ear, "Red and green match shit." Xu Hong I couldn't help laughing, and burst out laughing.

Xu Hong has always felt that adults' dinners are boring. After all, there are only a few things, such as relationships, marriage, and work.While chatting, Yuhe's husband began to complain about the injustice of the company, pointing to Xu Hong to make her agree with each sentence, because he felt that Xu Hong, who was unemployed, should understand him, but Xu Hong really didn't.In Xu Hong's eyes, men and women are completely different in the workplace. For example, Yu He's husband hated that he could not accompany the leader to attend the wine bureau and missed the chance of promotion, but Xu Hong felt that it was good not to participate in the wine bureau, because The drinking party is too dangerous for women; for example, Yu He's husband thinks that it is much easier for women to get promoted in the workplace than men, but Xu Hong thinks there is something in this remark. Hearing the rebuttal in Xu Hong's words, Chang Qing also joined in. Whether it's to please Xu Hong, or whether it's really difficult for women, he is helping women at this moment.

Seeing that Chang Qing also stood by Xu Hong's side, expressing the difficulty of women in the workplace, Yu He's husband pointed the finger at Yu He as a housewife.He said, "Look at how relaxed Yuhe is. She takes care of the children at home every day, does housework, and my mother helps her. Even the worries are all around this [-]-square-meter house. How can she know that she is facing such two people?" We beat workers hard."

If he had been drinking, Xu Hong could attribute it to his slip of the tongue after drinking, but since everyone didn't drink, Yu He, Xu Hong, and Sheng Min all became unhappy.Yu He was the first to speak, "Is there no contribution for a housewife, and no value? You think it is easy to take care of children, you can try to take care of children at home..." In fact, Yu He wanted to talk about her son's situation. Her mother-in-law, but in front of Chang Qing, Yu He didn't want to speak in such detail, lest her husband be criticized outside.

After Yuhe finished speaking, Yuhe's husband still stubbornly said that this is not difficult, but bowing to others in the company and betraying his dignity is uncomfortable.Then he looked at Xu Hong and Chang Qing, hoping to get their approval.Chang Qing said that he is not married and does not know what women pay in marriage, so he does not express his opinion.Xu Hong was not very happy about this, Xu Hong said, "Have you never eaten pork or seen a pig run? At our age, you won't tell me that you have never been in love, right? Impossible?" After finishing speaking Looking at Yuhe's husband, he said, "I know your hard work, who doesn't work hard, everyone works hard, but housewives are really not easy, 24 hours a day, all year round, I believe you can hear it too. Tired, then think about it, do you ever want to go home after work, because you have to face noisy children, mother's nagging, and wife's complaints when you go home, but why does your wife complain to you? Because She has endured such noise and nagging for a day. The reason why you don't want to go home is because the outside is cleaner than home, no matter how hard you work, there will be times when you are clean, and the wife who stays at home all year round has never been clean for a moment."

After finishing speaking, Xu Hong looked at Yuhe and said, "You, you full-time housewives, you don't need to tell everyone about your value. What's the use of letting the whole society recognize your value? It's useless. The whole world agrees. It doesn't help if your husband doesn't agree with you as a member of your family, after all, the law doesn't protect you."

What Xu Hong said caused the dinner to be awkward, and Yu He's husband was disconcerted, and finally said, "No wonder you can't get married." Yu He kicked her husband under the table, and Sheng Min also pulled her gave her a hand.Xu Hong smiled and signaled to Yuhe that it's okay, it happens often.

(End of this chapter)