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Chapter 19 They Are Your Parents, Too
Li Kun's study status is getting better and better. Even if he doesn't come to school for class, he can see the progress day by day with a clear eye on the completion of homework.In the next few days, Pan Xishi found that the state of learning Shangyan had returned to before liberation overnight, even worse than when she first took over.Looking for Shangyan again, the child also avoids her, even if they communicate face to face, they become a jagged gourd, unwilling to say anything to Pan Xishi.

In desperation, Pan Xishi approached Pan Shengnan in private and asked about the situation of Shang Yan.Pan Shengnan was already upset, but Shang Xuehai secretly gave Shangyan pocket money in order to improve the relationship between father and son. No one knew about the money, and it caused a catastrophe.This man blamed her for not educating the children well, but he and his parents tried their best to educate the children, but he ruined a pot of soup with a piece of mouse feces.

She said flatly: "He has two mobile phones. Grandpa found out, and now they are in tatters."

Pan Xishi said: "I know this. He has already promised me that he will put the phone away by himself and will not play games anymore. There is also the problem between you and Shang Xuehai. Can you not affect the children? Education speaks It is the unity of the family and the school, and you even have your own affairs within the family, can this child be better?"

Pan Shengnan's face darkened: "You know that Shang Yan has two mobile phones, but he deliberately left them alone, and his honesty angered his parents, right? He put them away by himself. If he had that kind of self-control, he wouldn't be like this! And me My marriage is a matter, so there is no need for you to point fingers. People in your early thirties will take care of yourself!"

"Shang Yan's best friend is because his parents divorced, and his grades plummeted. Now I have used many methods to make this child interested in studying again. Shang Yan is so childish and impatient. The marriage between you and Shang Xuehai Sooner or later, the problem will completely affect the child, and if it is not done, it will go astray."

When Pan Shengnan heard Pan Xishi comment on his married life, his emotions had surpassed the matter itself: "Aren't you happy to gloat? I know you have opinions on our whole family, do you just hope that we are not good? Are you As far as Shang Yan is concerned with the head teacher, I have never seen any head teacher who even dictates the marriage of the students' parents."

Seeing Pan Shengnan talking about the past, Pan Xishi immediately became excited: "That's because I know that your parents have always been "Huang Shiren" who only focused on grades and treated their children as tools.

"Pan Xishi, let me tell you. My parents are the best parents in the world. If you dare to say nothing about them again, be careful that I will turn against you."

"The best parents in the world?" Pan Xishi's eyes suddenly turned red, "Maybe they are the best parents in the world to you, but they are the most irresponsible parents to me. Before high school, whether they were letters or The few times we met, they only talked about my grades, and every time it was like a landlord collecting rent, like a judge handing down a sentence, as if the only purpose of my meeting with me was to see the report card."

"That's because your parents have placed high hopes on you since you were a child." Pan Shengnan said, "You are also a teacher now, so you should understand their hearts. They just hope that you will be successful."

Pan Xishi sneered: "Don't persuade others to be kind without others suffering. I got the bottom of the high school entrance examination, and I didn't adapt to the learning environment there. I was often bullied by my classmates and I was under a lot of pressure to study. I got depression, you know? "

Pan Shengnan froze for a moment, speechless for a while.All she knew was that when her family of four first arrived in Xingang, they were complaining that every day should not be done, and the ground was not working. She always thought that Pan Xishi was treated preferentially at her grandma's house, and she didn't know that these things would happen again.

"Grandma and grandpa treated me very well, but they couldn't replace many things that my parents need to do. I suffered from depression, but the old man was getting old and his health was deteriorating, so he had no time to take care of me. Give me 100 yuan for living expenses and let me buy snacks. They don't know what depression is, and I can't possibly add trouble to the elderly who love me. I can only pin my hopes on my parents. He is the closest blood relative to me in this world.

But they let me down time and time again. Not only do they not care about me, they just add salt to my wounds every time, calling me worthless and making me feel like the worst person in the world.All my value is just being admitted to a key university.If I don't pass the exam, it means that the family is different, and it is to discredit them.They have nothing but demands on me, no love.My grades in high school were getting worse and worse, and I was reduced to the point of repeating my studies. They criticized me more and more, and even rose to the insult of personality.

Pan Shengnan said: "Don't blame your parents. At that time, grandma and grandfather were too harsh on them. The most filial person in the whole family is my mother, but it is also my mother who is the most angry. My mother went to the mountains and countryside for my uncle, because if she didn't When going to Inner Mongolia, the second aunt or uncle is the one who goes to the countryside. The second aunt is determined not to go, and the uncle is the lifeline of grandma. Our mother is afraid that grandma and grandpa will be sad, so she chooses to sacrifice herself. After going to the countryside, everyone is home Sending money and things to the children, our mother saves money and sends part of the salary home, but when they are in the most difficult time, grandma and grandpa drive them out of the house. They are angry with their parents and hurt you .”

Pan Xishi said: "Then what am I? I am a child without parents. Am I a tool used by my parents to engage in family struggles? No matter what, my grandparents raised me and did not ask for their living expenses, otherwise their life Isn't it more difficult? Shouldn't they be grateful? Just because I didn't spend money on my parents after working, but chose to repay the kindness I owed before, they turned their faces? They didn't ask me why I owed favors Debts, I jumped out of the cracks in the rocks without parents? I also want to enjoy the love of my parents wantonly, but all they give me are debts, and I am still a lender!"

Pan Shengnan looked at the little girl whose face was full of tears, and she also felt a little at a loss.If it was many years ago, she would not understand the suffering of the little sister, but as a middle school teacher who has taught for many years, she can understand how helpless and panic a sixteen or seventeen-year-old child is at that stage of life.

Pan Xishi saw that Pan Shengnan handed her a piece of facial tissue, and gradually returned to her senses. She wiped away the tears on her face with the tissue and said, "I'm not going to complain to you, nor to condemn anything. Do you think I treat you It doesn’t matter if my parents are prejudiced or think I’m taking advantage of the topic, I just hope from the bottom of my heart that we can make a tailor-made education plan for business language together, so that the mistakes of the past will not happen to the new generation again.”

Pan Shengnan looked at Pan Xishi, as if he had a new understanding of this unfamiliar little girl.

Pan Xishi said: "I think that no matter whether a child has self-control or not, he must first choose to believe in business words. If his condition does not improve within a few days, I will ask him to hand over his mobile phone to me for safekeeping. Later I will There are other ways. For a boy in adolescence who longs to be respected as an adult, you can’t be too hasty. Your parents always say that they have a lot of experience in teaching and educating people, as if no one can compete with them in education. Competing. But the times are different. The generation of Shangyan, they are more self-centered than we were when we were young, but they lack serious self-discipline. Therefore, in terms of education, I think we should communicate more, be less autocratic, follow rules, and not interfere. , be strict and encourage more. Not their old ways."

Pan Shengnan corrected, "That's your parents too!"

Pan Xishi was noncommittal, and only said to the eldest sister: You, a key teacher who has been the class teacher for so many years, how can you not know that your parents sometimes do not educate properly?If you really care about the children, can you not use the elderly to take care of you? I remember that you are very ambitious. You said in front of grandma that you would not come to their house even if you were begging for food. "

Pan Shengnan said: "Of course I have ambitions. But I can't be angry with my parents. They have always been for the better life of their children. They have done nothing wrong. And you can eat enough for one person and the whole family is not hungry. I don't understand professional women. If you want to educate your children well, do a good job at work, and satisfy your husband and in-laws, it is really difficult. If I can only choose one, I would rather choose a career. Even if I really think there is a problem with the intergenerational education of my parents , but I can't live without them. If I don't even need my parents, I really can't live in those days."

Pan Xishi said: "Then I'll talk to them. You also know how critical the last year is to children. If Shangyan can't hear the parents and teachers at all, the consequences will be unimaginable."

For the first time, Pan Shengnan learned about the pain of the little girl's growing up, and also realized the education problem of business language in adolescence, so he had to talk to his parents again.Although she has talked about it more than once before, if you want to use the elderly to educate children, this is a protracted battle, and you must constantly adjust and communicate.

(End of this chapter)