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Chapter 20 Parents can even give life to their children
Pan Xishi finally said before parting with the eldest sister: "I have always been very confident in the learning status of Shangyan. He is the kind of kid who needs to be encouraged by the people around him. Now I think it is a good time for him to improve. If the status If you don’t come up, you will be more passive in your studies in the future. And you told them my views on playing games. I think parents should not regard children’s playing games as a scourge. I also play games, in fact As long as you don’t delay doing serious things, it’s actually better to get in touch earlier than later.”

Pan Shengnan doesn't play games herself, but she has been teaching for so many years and has come into contact with so many teenage children. She also agrees with Pan Xishi's views on the matter of playing games.

Shangyan is completely ruined, and the elders in the family have nothing to do with him.Shang Xuehai vented his emotions on the phone every day, like a psychopath, which made Pan Shengnan tireless.She came to her parents' house to discuss the children's education.

Sure enough, as soon as Pan Shengnan talked about games, Pan Guanlin ran away: "The biggest problem in learning Shangyan is playing games. It can be said that playing games is the root of all evils that affect learning. You mother and teacher There is such a fallacy. Of course adults have the ability to control themselves. Shangyan is just a 14-year-old kid who can’t study well. "

Pan Shengnan patiently explained: "Self-control is the experience and lessons learned by oneself after a fall. Several students I have handed in before were still top students in key high schools, and their families were very strict. They went to 985 University I completely let go, became obsessed with games, got out of hand, and finally failed to drop out of school. It can be seen that sometimes there is still a detour that should be taken. Self-control must be controlled by one's own consciousness. "

Pan Guanlin said: "You are the one who made strict demands on business language, and now you don't agree to a one-size-fits-all approach. I don't know what you are going to do, is it just to torment me and your mother?"

"Can't this kind of education be flexible? You can't use black in one method. Your education method was useful in our era", but it is useless for business dialect!Electronic products must indeed be controlled, but there must be a process.The same goes for basketball and drums. If you let a child who has no interest in learning at all, only study in his life from now on, he can't stand it. "

Pan Guanlin asked the eldest daughter: "Then what do you say?"

Pan Shengnan said: "I used to pay great attention to communication with Shangyan. Before making this decision, I had to convince him, at least in advance, so that he had to have a process of adaptation. He would definitely not be able to accept such a one-size-fits-all approach."

Pan Guanlin said: "I've seen it a long time ago. Business language can accept everything, such as bad discipline, bad manners, bad grades, just can't accept not playing games, just can't accept not playing games. He is putting everything together now. Everything is placed in a particularly important position, and only study is regarded as an after-dinner. You asked me to communicate with him, how to communicate, you go to communicate? You have communicated for almost 9 years, and finally your child is educated like this?"

Pan Shengnan said: "In the past, when I didn't let the children play, didn't you say not to control the children too strictly, and when the children grow up, you will understand everything?"

Song Jiahui said: "Shengnan, it doesn't count before. Let's talk about how to improve his grades in this midterm exam. When is this? No one science is good, and other subjects can be said to be good." The previous foundation was so poor that it took time to improve, but what about the chemistry that just started? They are all just beginning to learn, and others can master them all, but he basically can't master them all."

Pan Shengnan said: "Anyway, based on my understanding of Shangyan, this will cause problems."

"A loving mother is a loser!" Pan Guanlin said, "You don't need to worry about the business language. Now think about how much time you spent taking your child on a trip before. It's a waste of time and money. The child's heart is flying .I don’t think it’s because children want to travel, but adults are serious about playing. Use children as an excuse to satisfy yourself. Don’t think about traveling this year, just stay at home and study hard.”

Pan Shengnan said: "Dad, you don't allow your child to go to cram school or travel. You wish to be educated like we were when we were young. The times are different. To put it bluntly, if you don't have special skills, you don't have to travel. Without playing games, children cannot communicate with their peers."

"Adults are too vain, and children are led astray." Pan Guanlin said, "When you were young, how could you compare food and clothing with enjoyment? You had to help your parents with housework when you came home from school, and you took good care of your studies and personal life. Unlike today's children, learning is the responsibility of parents and teachers, and if one's life is not controlled by adults, maggots will be born."

Pan Shengnan said, "Dad, who was used to Shangyan when I was young?"

Just as she was talking, Pan Xihong came in from the outside.Seeing his parents and eldest sister having a meeting about business language again, he washed his hands and went to the room to look for Xiaoxiao.Xiaoxiao’s diapers have been dirty for a long time. The child fell asleep in the fence. The floor of the fence is covered with plastic foam. There are no pillows or mattresses. A plastic bear toy is stuck in the child’s heart. Mother’s Seeing the child's situation, the mood of the whole person is instantly bad.

As soon as Pan Xihong picked up the child, she burst into tears with a smile.She walked out with the child in her arms and said to her parents: "Mom, Xiaoxiao, it's been a long time since I changed this diaper. It's cold now, and no one knows that the child is sleeping by himself. His hands and feet are cold. You can see that the child has a runny nose." gone."

Song Jiahui quickly stood up and said, "Your eldest sister smiled and laughed at herself having a good time before she came, but who knew that she fell asleep after talking for a while."

While coaxing the child, Pan Xihong said to her mother: "Can you talk about business dialect for a short time? The child probably fell asleep after crying and tired, and the milk bottle is cold. You can really do it."

Seeing that the corners of the second daughter's eyes were red as she spoke, Song Jiahui quickly explained: "Xiaoxiao doesn't like to drink milk now, and if she doesn't drink it, she will be cold. Listen to what you said, I know it's my own grandma, no Those who knew thought grandma was the last one.”

Pan Shengnan also frowned: "Now at Xiaoxiao's age, he should train himself to use the toilet. It's not a good habit to use diapers."

Pan Xihong looked at the eldest sister, and said in a bad tone: "You have good business habits. You know Huo Huo's family when you are so old, and you know how to be angry with grandma and grandpa. When you play games, you are like crazy, yelling. It's not him Scared to cry, it is because parents rectify the discipline of Shangyan and scare Xiaoxiao to cry, if I have a little way, I won’t put the child here.”

Pan Guanlin said to his second daughter: "What's the matter with you? Shangyan is about to take the senior high school entrance examination, and this year is the most critical. Xiaoxiao fell asleep and your mother didn't see it. As for it? When you were young, in the nursery school in Inner Mongolia, an aunt Looking at dozens of children, it is enough to ensure that they will not fall or touch them. Aren't you equally successful?"

"Are the children now the same as we were at that time?" Pan Xihong suddenly became more excited, "You have to communicate with the children, you have to follow my schedule, you should read and study, you should feed supplementary food, and you should go out to sunbathe too strictly. Sun, it’s time to listen to music, to play with the children, to play together. Do you see how Xiaoxiao looks now? Besides, business language is the most critical year. Isn’t it the most critical year for me? I went to a key high school to get into 985, and I went to 985 to get a good job. He hasn’t even caught a glimpse of it yet, but if I can’t get a job title in my current job, I might not be able to keep my current job when I compete for a job at the end of the year.”

Song Jiahui panicked when she heard this, her heart jumped.The second daughter is right. Studying hard is ultimately to have a good job. The second daughter is also at the most critical moment in her life: "Then what should I do?"

Pan Xihong's eyes were red: "If it's really not possible, I will go to the library to be an administrator. I will have a leisurely job, look after the children, and save you trouble."

Pan Guanlin hurriedly said: "After graduating with a Ph. D., you can become a librarian. You can figure it out! When did your mother and I think you were troublesome? Shang Yan is my grandson, and Xiaoxiao is my granddaughter. I know you work. It's not easy, I want to take care of your children and share your worries."

"What's new, librarians are not graduates with Ph. Yes. She is a scumbag compared to her peers now, look at what other children of the same age are doing, she is still wearing diapers, locked in a pen like a puppy." Pan Xihong said, suddenly So I cried, "You only have business words in your heart, and Xiaoxiao doesn't take up any space here. You should know that every stage of a child's growth is important, not just adolescence."

The two daughters are the flesh on the top of their hearts, and the two children logically have a deeper relationship with Shang Yan, but the smile and the second daughter's heart-to-heart relationship have reached the point where work is seriously affected, and they have no choice but to follow along. Pan Xihong meant to ask a nanny to take care of the children's daily life and cook meals by the way.The main task of the old couple is to tutor the eldest grandson with homework and accompany Xiaoxiao. The money cannot be paid by the second and eldest daughters.

Pan Guanlin said to Song Jiahui in private: "Both sons-in-law have opinions on us. Don't talk about Shang Xuehai. Now that he has opinions, he is full of doubts about our ability. We can no longer touch his money. , It’s a mouthful. The second son-in-law’s family conditions are average, and the loan is several million, and it’s up to the husband and wife to pay it back. We use our pension to hire a nanny to serve everyone, and the children can read a little bit.”

Song Jiahui said: "I think the same as you, as long as our two girls have a happy family, let alone money, I can give them my life."

(End of this chapter)