A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

Some things become boring if you talk about them in detail, especially when the two people in conflict are from the same family or household.

Not to mention the situation where we meet each other every day, there are ways to avoid such meetings in modern society. At worst, I can live farther away from you, work farther away from you, and I won't have any intersection with you in life.

Human beings are social animals. Most people cannot isolate themselves from their relatives and friends. There will always be people and things that they don’t like, and they can’t always choose to escape.

If people want to awaken, they must go through nine levels. Blaming others is the first level, being impatient for quick success is the second level, being isolated and helpless is the third level, deep thinking is the fourth level, changing oneself is the fifth level, accepting everything is the sixth level, giving one's all is the seventh level, going with the flow is the eighth level, and being calm is the ninth level.

Awakening depends on being cut into pieces, skinned and torn apart, and reborn into a brand new self in pain, despair and collapse. During this period, no one can help, because everyone has their own wall to hit. As the Tao Te Ching says, if the heart is not strong, wisdom will not be developed; if the body is not strong, fortune and luck will not be great.

If a person wants to become very powerful suddenly, he must learn to be insensitive, learn to shield himself, learn to reconcile with himself, piece together the fragmented self as soon as possible, and pull himself out of the abyss of inferiority, social phobia, and mental exhaustion.

In fact, to put it bluntly, it means to raise yourself again, to end the people-pleasing personality, to end the sensitive character, to no longer be bound by emotions, to no longer complain about life, to no longer be clouded by emotions, to make yourself rational, and to change the discouraging words that are often on your lips into "I can do it, I can do it", to do whatever you want to do, and to change whatever you want to change.

In this life of living towards death and never to be repeated, you must be clear-headed, free and easy, and live for yourself. The number of people you care about and hate in this world may not exceed ten in total, so a person may not really have so many "people" to care about in his life.

The essence of internal friction is actually a bit smart, but not much.

Stupid people will definitely not waste their energy, and neither will smart people. The most wasteful people are those who are a little smart but not enough. They see through the essence of part of society, or think they see through the essence of part of society, but they can't accept the impact of this information on themselves. They always think that others will pay attention to whether they are rich, beautiful, or have a lot, but in fact, they are just adding drama to themselves.

Therefore, you must have self-knowledge. How others view you is a more important issue. Most people really don’t need to care whether they have a sense of existence. What you need to do is to find your own rhythm and pace.

Gradually you will find that it is never too late, and destiny will give you what you want at the right time. If you can't get it now, it's either because the timing is not right or you are not worthy of it.

Let go of unrealistic and frivolous ideals and accept that you are an ordinary person.

When I was young, I firmly believed that I was a lucky boy and that I would achieve great things in the future and cross the social class. However, after being ruthlessly beaten by society, I realized that getting rich is a relay race and that hard work does not always bring rewards.

When I grow up, I understand that if I have no big storms, no natural disasters, and my family is healthy and my work is going well, I am already very happy. Stop complaining about the unfairness of fate and accept your own mediocrity. What's more, the life we ​​hate may be the stability that many people desire. You stand on the bridge to enjoy the scenery, and the people who enjoy the scenery are watching you from the upstairs.

One day, you will suddenly realize that those men and women who have a smooth life, a prosperous career, and many romantic relationships are not much better than others.

But people's most basic daily routines are healthy and bright, so all the fruits of life are naturally sweet and delicious.

When a person can love himself wholeheartedly and focus all his energy on himself, it means that he should put himself first in everything and live for himself. For those people and things that damage you, smile and stay away from them, don't make enemies or complain, just hope that each other is well and don't disturb each other.

Then, try to live a simple and pure life. When working, focus on benefits and progress, put your demands on the table openly, don't eat the cake drawn by others, but also don't let others down for their efforts, summarize every year and strive for progress.

In marriage, you must be brave to break the ice and never take a childish and passive attitude again. You must actively show friendliness and sunshine to those high-quality people of the opposite sex. Even if there is no fate, it can still be a beautiful friendship.

In life, don't be disturbed by those complicated trivial matters. You can save time to read, exercise, cultivate taste, and broaden your horizons. This is the true performance of a smart person. This is called not settling for serious matters and not getting involved in trivial matters.

For life, it means believing in your own efforts and respecting the mysterious power of the horoscope. In a person's life, there are good times and bad times, as well as storms and rains.

When you encounter sad things, just cry, then take a good nap, wake up early tomorrow morning, and continue your life as usual, being strong and rational.

Don't hide behind others and be kept in captivity. Be independent.

There are two basic conditions for maturity: economic independence and personal independence. Without either, one will become a parasite without confidence and at the mercy of others.

As for the economy, you must have your own considerable source of income. Money is the most reliable sense of security. Don't treat anyone as a life-saving straw. There is no difference between "I will support you" and "Drink more hot water".

As for personality, there are three channels to change your ideas: read more good books, meet more great people, and see more of the world.

When dealing with interpersonal relationships, you must be clear that you are the C position, take care of your own emotions first, and learn to let go of those who cannot be loved and are drifting away.

In the workplace, change from a "working mentality" to a "responsibility mentality". Working for a boss and working for your own resume are two very different concepts. Focus on personal skill accumulation, which is a monetization ability that no one can steal.

When we were young, we always liked to give up the center of life and envy others for their brilliance. Now that we are unwilling to be spectators, we should stand up and challenge with our strength.

If you observe the high-level people around you, you will find that they all have one thing in common, that is, they know that the other person is not good, but they don’t remind or give advice, and they are not good at being a teacher. Even if their cognition and experience are higher than the other person, they will not give the other person any advice.

Because whether it is giving instructions or preaching, it consumes a lot of energy. The behavior with the lowest emotional intelligence is to keep talking about reason. The strong choose to forgive, the wise choose to ignore, or be reluctant to talk, and the foolish choose to point fingers.

Respect the fate of others and let go of the desire to help others. + What can convince a person is never the truth, but the wall; what can awaken a person is never preaching, but suffering, training, enlightenment, and experience.

Therefore, if it is not something he has realized by himself, he will not be able to grasp it even if it is given to him. (End of this chapter)