A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

Zhang Lan could tell that Zhang Jintao really loved life, but the mood revealed in his words and life was incompatible with ordinary rural life.

Zhang Jintao's mother had previously asked Zhang Lan if there was any problem with his child. From Zhang Lan's perspective now, there was no problem at all.

In fact, it's just a problem. When people are alone for a long time and get used to the single life, if you let them leave their original comfort zone, they will naturally feel uncomfortable.

Once something becomes a habit, it is difficult to correct it.

Zhang Jintao himself did not deny it. Even when Zhang Lan asked him about it, he smiled and told Zhang Lan that he was enjoying solitude.

The reason is that he feels that a person's excellence starts with loneliness.

In "A Father's Proverbs", there is a passage:

“It’s easy for a person to win over another person, that is to learn to suffer losses. No one in this world likes people who like to take advantage, but everyone likes people who like to suffer losses.”

Zhang Jintao deeply agrees with this statement. He thinks it is not that difficult to get rid of loneliness and refuse to be alone. As long as you are willing to suffer losses, willing to compromise, and able to tolerate, you will always find a group that can accept you.

But facing loneliness and enjoying being alone is not easy. It requires you to accept yourself and be clear about what you want.

It is often the latter who are more likely to succeed and enjoy life more.

Because from a certain perspective, people are born lonely. Even in a group, the loneliness and sadness of not being understood by others always exist.

On the contrary, the person who can face loneliness and enjoy being alone always knows what he wants and can arrange his life well. Even if he is alone, he will not really feel helpless.

Therefore, an outstanding life often begins with a person being able to enjoy solitude.

Such people are actually very easy to identify, because only those who are used to being alone will have these habits, and their future will also be shaped by these habits.

There is a question in "The Ferryman": "If fate is a lonely river, who will be the ferryman of your soul?"

The answer is just two words - yourself.

In fact, everyone can rely on others. If you want to succeed, you can rely on others to give you a push; when you are confused and helpless, you can rely on others to show you a way; when you are frustrated and down and out, you can rely on others' charity to live.

But the only person everyone can rely on is oneself, because one cannot guarantee how long others can help him or how much they can give to him.

As the saying goes, "If you rely on mountains, they will fall; if you rely on people, they will run away."

No matter how good friends are, they may no longer contact each other one day. No matter how close lovers are, they may part ways one day. No matter how selfless family members are, they may be forced to leave us one day.

People who are used to being alone understand these principles clearly. They have experienced the loneliness of being alone, the helplessness of having no one to help them, and the embarrassment of asking others for help. This is why they are used to relying on themselves in everything.

Start by accepting loneliness. Many things that you once didn’t want to do alone will become something you are used to doing alone.

Maybe you used to think that shopping alone is boring, but later you will find that shopping alone can improve your efficiency; maybe you used to think that eating alone is shabby, but later you will find that eating alone can also be enjoyable.

Any task may not be accomplished by relying on others, but if you rely on yourself, there will most likely be no mistakes. As long as you believe in yourself and dare to improve yourself, that is enough.

In life, we often see people who are very devoted to something. It may not be work, but playing games, collecting coupons for various activities, or even a certain sport.

They will invest a lot of time and energy in these things, not because they are bored, but because they find their own pleasure in loneliness, so they are willing to spend time and energy to satisfy themselves.

Some people may think that spending time on unnecessary things is a waste of time, and it is not an advantage of loneliness.

But as the famous philosopher Bertrand Russell once said, “If you can have fun wasting time, it is not wasting time.”

Everyone can define their own life, and they have the right to choose whether to read, travel, or just stay at home and play games.

Simply put, as long as a hobby or habit does not affect your life and physical health, it is not wrong to delve into it. It's just that the way you use your time is different from others.

Whether one can delve deeply into one thing can also prove whether one can enjoy solitude.

People who are used to loneliness and have lived alone for too long are unwilling to fit in just for the sake of being in a group. Only then do they find their own unique hobby.

Concentrating on being yourself is the best proof that you are used to loneliness. This investment in your hobbies will eventually benefit your life.

In life, many people occasionally have such experiences.

When you are with friends, you only need to think about what you want to say, where to go next, and what to do.

But once I am alone in the room, I will inexplicably ask myself: "Is the current life really what you want?"

Many people are afraid of this feeling, which is why they want to avoid being alone and try their best to integrate into the group, just to avoid experiencing this kind of questioning.

It can be said that the reason some people fear loneliness is not because they always want someone to accompany them, but because they are afraid to see their true selves in loneliness.

When a person is alone, his thoughts are often the most agile, the problems he can think of are also the most critical, but the insights he generates are also the most heartbreaking.

Grasping these insights may enable a person's life to have a qualitative leap, but many people dare not grasp them or face them, which is why they always live in their comfort zone and cannot get out of their current predicament.

Those who dare to face loneliness, are not afraid of the voice deep in their hearts, and can hear what they are saying will not go down the wrong path.

They are always true to their hearts and true to their choices.

Sanmao once said: "We are unwilling to explore our own value, and we overvalue the participation of others in our lives. As a result, loneliness is no longer beautiful, and we become confused and uneasy when we lose others."

People who are afraid of loneliness are used to the company of others and need the company of others for a long time.

Once a person becomes like this, his or her own value will be based on the evaluation of others, which makes it even more unbearable to be alone.

Those days spent busy fitting in with others will delay a person from finding himself, which is an important reason why many people have low self-esteem.

After all, there are some habits that only people who are used to being alone can have, and it is also in loneliness that a person can achieve better self-achievement.

"I am not enjoying loneliness, I am actually pursuing a better transcendence." Zhang Jintao made a firm conclusion about his behavior. (End of this chapter)