A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

Including Zhang Lan herself, even though she knew some things and understood how things should be handled to make everyone satisfied, she just didn't want to do it.

Some people may have been subjected to a lot of internal friction since childhood, but they are unable to fight back and can only be trapped in this kind of mental friction. Perhaps their poor academic performance is also due to this...

And now there is no place to vent the predicament, which includes material difficulties and spiritual difficulties. If I tell others, they may comfort me on the surface, but they will also ridicule me behind my back.

But think about it again, those relatives who play tricks on others and laugh at others in their hearts are not doing well now.

Those students who thought they were so capable and smart and thought that others were not good at dealing with people and had low emotional intelligence are now no better than others...

When a person puts a lot of energy into thinking about how stupid others are to prove how smart he is, thus achieving an Ah Q-style spiritual victory, when a person thinks that others are fools and he is so smart...

In fact, most things in life are trivial, and it doesn’t matter if you make mistakes, but many people like to hold on to these trivial matters and make fun of others openly or secretly.

What is really important are those few big things about the future direction, which few people are capable of handling. Perhaps those people also know that they are not capable of handling big things, so they can only gloat over other people's small troubles, thereby gaining a low-level, tasteless and vulgar pleasure...

At some point, perhaps most people have played the role of gloating.

In an ordinary university, I know that my future is likely to be limited to a certain range, but I use the many certificates I have obtained to numb myself, not thinking seriously about how to go in the future, and I increase this anesthesia by gloating over my college classmates who have not obtained these certificates or who have been frustrated by some things...

In fact, there are very few people in this world who can truly live and see things clearly...

When a person feels that the circle he is in is like a low pigsty, where a group of pigs are fighting for coarse food, some pigs are complacent because they grab more rice bran, and some pigs are gloating when they see other pigs fall.

I was one of the pigs and wanted to jump out of the circle. However, when I tried to jump out, some other pigs mocked me and some even tried to prevent them from jumping out.

When I think back on my life now, I realize that many times it was difficult to make breakthroughs, and I was restricted by this pair of invisible hands.

It is difficult to get into a good university after studying in the county's No. 1 middle school, and it is difficult to find a good job in an ordinary university. These are all the work of this invisible hand. It is like a group of crabs in a basket. He is the crab who wants to climb up, but the other crabs around him either pull his legs or press him down, preventing him from climbing up. If he was the only crab in the basket, he would have climbed out of the basket long ago.

At this time, the fisherman put all the crabs in the basket into the pot and steamed them. He was angry and regretful.

The basket this person is in is just like the living environment, learning environment, relatives, friends, and classmates around him since childhood. The process of his learning, growth, and learning is just like the process of climbing up, and the situation he is about to be evaporated is just like him facing the dangers of society...When you suddenly realize at some point that you have never had a heart-to-heart person since childhood, and at the same time the circle you are in has been constantly wasting energy, and most people are calculating themselves in their hearts, you feel loneliness as the main feeling, and it's not just loneliness, but also contradictions, fear of the future, and regret for certain previous behaviors and thoughts. This is a sense of separation.

The sense of separation separates people into an isolated island. At the same time, every blade of grass and every tree on the island has a sense of separation, and even the air is filled with a sense of separation, which makes people feel shattered.

As for the pressure of life, in fact, if you look at history, there are very few times in history where there is peace and stability like now, where everyone can have enough food. Most of the times in history are accompanied by famine and war, but this sense of separation is unique in history.

Zhang Lan's generation had a course called Ideological and Moral Education or Political Science in primary and junior high school. In primary school, this course was a simple course with no exams. In junior high school, this course was just memorization, and the exams were similar to reciting the memorized content, and even the exams were open-book.

At that time, I felt that the ideological and moral education classes were meaningless and a waste of time, with useless content to memorize. Secondly, I felt that the content of the ideological and moral education classes was empty and contrary to reality. Thirdly, I felt that the content of the ideological and moral education classes was full of hypocritical talk about benevolence, righteousness, and morality, and the teachers did not believe in it and were just doing it to complete their jobs.

The moral education class seemed to be a teacher deceiving students, and students were also cooperating with the teacher's performance. The air was filled with hypocrisy. For this reason, I superficially thought that the moral education class itself was meaningless.

Later I realized that the content of the book is very profound. It is not a book full of meaningless benevolence, righteousness, and morality. Instead, it talks about the operating laws of society and the allocation of resources. It is all-encompassing. It is the most important course and a course that everyone must go through.

When I was young, I thought that anyone could teach courses like ideology and morality and politics. They just read from the textbook and memorized the questions. Later, I realized that it was much more difficult to teach these courses well and clearly than to teach math and physics well.

Humans have rationality, but the problem is that what motivates us to do things is often not rationality, but emotional factors such as emotions, feelings, passion, and aspirations.

So, in a sense, we are made up of two split parts: reason and emotion, and the two often conflict with each other.

For example, many people desire success, but no matter how much they desire it in a certain career on a rational level, no matter how clear they are about the steps needed to achieve success.

If you don't love this career from the bottom of your heart, if you can't be passionate about what you do on an emotional level, then you will undoubtedly fall into laziness and procrastination, and ultimately you may end up accomplishing nothing.

Because the brain is constantly thinking about how to minimize pain and effort and how to maximize enjoyment and happiness, it will instinctively like and tend to stay in its familiar comfort zone.

Knowing a new truth or making a new change often means stepping out of your comfort zone and enduring a certain degree of pain.

But there are always some people who are unwilling to make efforts and do not want to endure pain, just wanting to change automatically after waking up. They can only think and use fantasy to satisfy themselves and relieve anxiety, and it is difficult for them to make any effective efforts at the action level. (End of this chapter)