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1185. Have you ever thought about this question

Confucius Tian returned home again, and before he could sit down, he was surrounded by two crying women complaining, as if this area was a heinous sinner. [ |] An idiom suddenly popped up in Confucius Tian's mind: the wicked first sue.Confucius Tian said: "When you called Fangyuan, I was there. I heard everything Fangyuan said, and I can guess what you said. Please sit down first."

Kong Shuanghua still couldn't appease her anger: "Dad, this Fangyuan is too disgraceful, even if he speaks soft words to me, this matter will be over, and I will never bite him again." Kong Zitian said: "What's wrong with Fangyuan? Why did you ask Fangyuan to speak soft words, and you are the one who should have said soft words, and asked Fangyuan to forgive you!" Kong Shuanghua said, "Dad, are you still my real father? Why are you elbowing me?" Go outside?" Confucius said, "I just said a few words of justice! Xiaohua, do you know how much damage you have done to Fangyuan's heart when you misunderstood Fangyuan first and bit him later?" Kong Shuanghua said: "He is a man, so he should have a broad mind. I misunderstood him, and I bit him because I loved him." Kong Zitian said: "Love is not a reason. Love also needs methods and strategies. Xiaohua, a heart-to-heart Only then can there be a truly happy marriage, and strengthening the communication between the heart and the soul is very important to your marriage happiness. But this time, you just hurt Fangyuan's heart." Kong Shuanghua said: "I don't want you to teach me a lesson. , you go, you go!" Kong Shuanghua covered his ears as he spoke, and ran back to his room with a big belly.

Kong Shufang said: "Zitian, our daughter is about to have a baby, can't you just follow her and say a few words?" Tell me, is Fangyuan wrong this time?" Kong Shufang was dumbfounded and shook her head.Kong Zitian said: "Then why do you want Fangyuan to speak softly?" Kong Shufang could not answer.Confucius Tian said: "Look at Xiaohua. He said for a while that he would kill the child, and for a while he said that Fangyuan should die. Does this look like a child raised by a family of high-level intellectuals? Don’t let other people laugh their ass off? Where is my old face with you?” Kong Shufang said: “That’s true. But I just can’t see Xiaohua being wronged. Who made me her mother?” Kong Zitian said : "I'm still her biological father! It's normal for human parents to love their children, but the most important thing is to love with degrees, love with laws, love with restraint, and love with reason. Blindly Doting is not really loving the child, but harming the child. Shufang, your love for Xiaohua is unprincipled, unreasonable, unrestrained, and unreasonable love, do I know? Are you helping Xiaohua? Hua, but you are harming Xiaohua!"

Kong Shufang said: "Obviously I was talking to Xiaohua and smoothing things over for Xiaohua. How could I harm Xiaohua?" No matter what, Xiaohua, although Fang Yuan is also good, but I always have a sense of superiority in my heart, thinking that Fang Yuan eats and drinks from our family, and that his work progress depends on my influence. Is it true? Like this? You can say this to a certain extent, but you also need to see Fangyuan's own hard work and talent. But Shufang, have you considered this issue? We can't take care of Xiaohua for a lifetime. In the future, happiness depends on Xiaohua Handle it yourself, if you can't handle it, Xiaohua will suffer for the rest of her life, is this what you and I want to see?" Kong Shufang said: "I don't want to see it." Kong Zitian said: "So, Xiaohua Whether Huaneng can hold on to happiness depends on the progress of his work, and whether he can manage his marriage well. As it is now, do you think your precious daughter can manage a good marriage?" Kong Shufang said: "Why, is Fangyuan Do you still dare to divorce, do you still want to divorce? What can he have if he is divorced?" Confucius Tian said: "It is gold that always shines, even if it is buried deep in the soil. With my help, Xiaofang's The improvement can be faster; without my influence, Xiao Fang can also improve, but the speed will not be as fast as now. A wife is also a good wife! If the wife is capable, then make her own achievements in career ;If the ability is not up to it, then feel at home to take care of your husband and children, be a good assistant to your husband, take care of your husband's and son's life, and relieve your husband's worries. This is the standard of the most virtuous wife, and this is the most understanding How to be a woman as a wife. Shufang, look at our precious daughter, which one does she fit?"

Kong Shufang had nothing to say.The daughter did not meet one of the criteria. From the husband's point of view, the daughter Kong Shuanghua was not a good wife at all.

Confucius Tian became more earnest: "Shufang, you and I are going to grow old after all. We can't be Xiaohua's protective umbrella forever, and the children who are always under our two protective umbrellas will never grow up. Maybe Fangyuan can bear it now. Xiaohua, because of me, because of Xiaohua Fangyuan gave birth to a son; if I retire, without the current power and status, can Fangyuan bear it? If you and I have been together for a hundred years, who else will Kong Shuanghua rely on to ask Fangyuan for no reason? , lose your temper unreasonably? When we are helpless, can we still help Xiaohua?"

Kong Shufang's expression darkened: "Yes, in fact, Xiao Fang is still a very good young man, and his future development potential is still very good." Kong Zitian said: "In this era, divorce is commonplace. Leave as soon as you leave.” Kong Shufang said: “Isn’t Xiaohua going to give birth to Fangyuan’s child soon? With a child, the possibility of this will be much reduced.” Kong Zitian said: “Stupid! Think about your unit. How many divorced people, and how many divorced people also have children? Children will affect the judgment of divorce, but children are not the key to deciding whether to divorce. is attractive."

"Then what should we do now? You also know Xiaohua's temper. Over the years, I have followed her, and you usually don't care about her too much. You are used to it. If you don't go well, you will cry and make a fuss. In fact, Xiaohua Hua's nature is still very good, very kind, very simple, very cultured, and our family is also good, a family of senior intellectuals."

Confucius Tian said: "The person who tied the bell is needed to untie the bell! Shufang, I am busy outside all day, and the child's education mainly depends on you! This time, I will find a way to calm it down, but the most important thing is to let it go. Fang Yuan's heart regained her confidence in our family and in Xiaohua. In order to appease the injustice in Fang Yuan's heart, I actually gave both kindness and force, but there was still a big price to pay. I originally wanted to let the child who was about to be born be surnamed Kong; now that there is such an incident, I think the matter of the child being surnamed Kong will be postponed, you, you, this is a big deal that ruined me!"

Kong Shufang knew that Kong Zitian wanted his child's surname to be Kong, and said: "Can't we let the child's surname be Kong now? The child takes the mother's surname or the father's surname, which is allowed in the Marriage Law." Kong Zitian said: "Originally, Fangyuan had a problem with being bitten. Am I stupid enough to make things worse at this time? This matter is slow, this matter is slow." At this time, Confucius suddenly thought that if there was a relationship between himself and that woman, Son, then whether Fangyuan's child is surnamed Kong is not so important.

Kong Shufang said: "Zitian, you should come up with an idea quickly. I really can't stand Xiaohua crying like this." Tell me, Xiaohua. I am now an enemy in the eyes of your precious daughter! Let me just go straight to the point, just ask Xiaohua, if her father retires, if her parents pass away, can she still keep Fangyuan Is your heart and people?" Kong Shufang said: "Yes, once you say that, I know what to do. Zitian, you are my backbone!" Kong Zitian said: "I said, love and Marriage needs to be managed with the heart and strategies. Xiaohua must gradually learn to manage her love and marriage, to keep love young and vigorous, and to make marriage firm and long-lasting. This is a subject that requires a lifetime of study. A big topic! From a short-term point of view, Xiaohua wants to admit his mistake to Fangyuan. In the future, if he encounters similar problems, he should not make a fuss anymore. Instead, he needs to pay attention to strategies, analyze the reasons, and find the crux. It is even more necessary to do this; if you don't love Fangyuan, then leave directly, so as not to suffer because of this every day."

"No, I don't want to divorce Fangyuan." At some point, Kong Shuanghua appeared in front of Kong Zitian and Kong Shufang, "Dad, I heard everything you said, yes, my love and marriage depend on my hard work." Let’s run it! Fangyuan and Song Sisi have no indistinct relationship. Fangyuan’s ability to refuse Song Sisi’s temptation proves that he loves this family and he loves me. I also love Fangyuan very, very much, and I feel that Fangyuan will be very successful in the future. For the future, the happiness of my child and I depends on Fang Yuan, and I cannot lose him." Confucius Tian said: "Impulse and temper tantrums are the refrigerants of marriage, and they will only make the lover's heart farther and farther away from you. Xiaohua, I'm going to be a mother soon, and it's time to grow up." Kong Shuanghua said: "Yes, I was really impulsive this time. But Dad, I heard from many colleagues that between husband and wife, who will give in first In the future, I will always lose the upper hand in the disputes between husband and wife. In fact, this is also an important reason why I refuse to admit defeat every time I quarrel with Fangyuan! Dad, this time I am soft. If I quarrel with Fangyuan in the future, I can still regain Do you have the upper hand?"