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Chapter 116
Medium: Mind Reading: Knowing and Influencing Those Around You Without Knowing It
Chapter 7 Mind-reading exercise 7: The social code of the Enneagram
Section [-] Observational personality: self-enclosed and difficult to approach

Aspects of mind reading:
What kind of person belongs to the "observation personality"?
Wonderful interpretation of mind:
Zhang Ailing, Tony Leung, Einstein... are all outstanding observers. In them, we can see the personality characteristics of observers such as introversion, loneliness, thinking more than talking, preferring to be alone than to party.Eileen Chang was lonely all her life, and finally died of old age in her apartment in the United States, without any relatives or friends around her; the misfortune of Tony Leung’s family when he was a child taught him to talk to the mirror at home, which may explain why he was able to star in "In the Mood for Love". Zhou Muyun who told stories in the tree hole.

Observers are focused and fascinating to work with, but when you try to step into their world, it can be difficult.They always carefully protect their own small world, like a castle, you can only wander outside without being allowed to enter.

It is necessary to maintain an appropriate distance when interacting with people, but it is not a good thing to be too far away from others, because it means that it is not easy for you to get friendship, and loneliness will accompany you all your life.

In the 19th century, there was a brave young explorer who wanted to try the desert island life of the protagonist in "Robinson Crusoe", so he came to a desert island alone and lived there for 4 years.During these four years, he could freely cope with the cruelty of nature and meet all his needs for survival, but he could not bear the feeling of loneliness.For this reason, he learned from Robinson that he kept a dog, a parrot and several wild animals as companions, and had long talks with these animals every day.However, he still often fell into a state of trance and couldn't extricate himself. Four years later, although he returned to his family, he could not fully recover his previous ability to communicate with others.

Coincidentally, there is also an admiral named Burr who once described his life experience when he lived alone for 6 months during his Arctic expedition in his book "Lonely".For the past 6 months, he spent alone in the cabin under the ice and snow.Burr also took the initiative to live an isolated life. He wanted to truly experience the peace and tranquility of a lonely life, but to his surprise, he only lived alone in a log cabin under the ice and snow for three months. , fell into a state of extreme depression, and had to return to society resentfully after 3 months.

In modern society, more and more people feel alienated due to self-enclosure. This is not only the natural enemy of interpersonal communication, but also one of the sources of modern people's sense of loneliness and depression.Nowadays, communication between people is more and more limited to telephone and e-mail, and there is less face-to-face communication and communication, so an invisible wall of heart has opened the distance between people.

To escape the torment of loneliness, you must open yourself up.It's like being in a deserted valley, only by walking out on your own initiative can you leave this desolate place.Similarly, to gain rich and deep interpersonal relationships, you also need to get out of your own small world and interact with others.In fact, human beings are born as a social animal, and it is obviously not enough to live in this world by one's own personal strength.Especially in modern society, people need extensive and in-depth cooperation to accomplish one thing together, so learning to communicate and cooperate is a very important way to survive.Moreover, only in communication can people experience the joy brought by various emotional experiences.Therefore, communication is a very important lesson in life, and you need to study and practice hard.The more you invest, the greater the return you get, and the stronger your sense of happiness.

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