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Chapter 12 Part [-]
Previous: Questioning skills: how to speak so that others will listen, how to listen so that others will speak
Chapter 3 Interrogation Scene 3: Asking for help, clever questioning and insight into people's hearts
The first quarter reciprocates, and those close to each other also need "sugar-coated offensive"

Mini scene house:
How to persuade close people to do things for you.

Question story session:
Li Ling is 27 years old this year. He is very capable. He has been doing business for several years and made a small fortune.But he was not satisfied, and always wanted to do a bigger business.It just so happened that the fish pond in the village was to be contracted to outsiders. He wanted to contract the pond, but he didn't have enough funds at hand.

He thought about it, and thought of a distant relative of his, who was his mother's cousin, who should be called uncle according to his seniority.The old uncle opened a business in the county, and it is running well. He is a well-known "land rich man" in the county.But Li Ling thought that he was estranged from him and hadn't moved around for a long time. If he went there rashly, he would not say anything, and he would definitely not be able to get things done.How to do it?He decided to make a good relationship first and get close to the old uncle.He inquired that the old uncle was not in good health these days and often fell ill, so he saw the timing, brought a large bag of supplements, and came to the old uncle's house.

"Uncle, I haven't seen you for a while. Why is your old man sick? You are old, you should pay more attention to your health and don't work too hard. I brought you some things today to replenish your body. Don't you Would you dislike him less?"

Li Ling spoke very enthusiastically, and put the things on the old uncle's table.

As the saying goes, "Many people don't blame people for courtesy." Although the two families have not moved around for a long time, but today the nephew came to the door with so many things, and it was when he was sick, the old uncle was very happy: "Boy, If you can come here today, I will not be so happy, old uncle. Let's have two drinks at noon today."

So Li Ling stayed and had dinner with his uncle.

Since then, the relationship between the two has improved.From now on, Li Ling would visit his uncle every now and then, asking him how he was doing, or asking him what he wanted to eat recently, covering everything.Seeing Li Ling caring about him so much, the old uncle was also very happy, treating Li Ling like his own son.Li Ling saw that the time was right. One day, he brought two bottles of wine to his uncle, and they drank together.

Li Ling said, "Uncle, have you finished the supplements I bought for you last time? I'll buy you more when I finish."

"No need, it's too expensive, and there's still a lot to eat. Son, I can see that you are good to my uncle. I am your elder. If you have any difficulties in the future, just talk to me."

When Li Ling heard this, he pretended to be extremely excited, and quickly told about the contracted fish pond.

After hearing this, the old uncle said: "Okay, you have ambition and courage, and the old uncle strongly supports... To be a man, you should do something. The idea is very good, but you must be cautious when doing it. Young people must not be impatient. "

Li Ling quickly nodded in agreement, and then told about the shortage of funds.In the end, Li Ling successfully borrowed 3 yuan from his uncle to contract the fish pond.

Wonderful question:

No matter who you ask for a job, even if it is someone close to you or a relative by blood, you must know how to reciprocate and send some "sugar-coated cannonballs" in a timely manner.

Li Ling wanted to contract the fish pond, but he lacked sufficient financial support. When he didn't know what to do, he thought of his old uncle.The old uncle's family is well-off and can provide financial support.But Li Ling understands a truth. Even relatives should pay attention to methods when asking him to do something, not take it for granted, and know how to give back in a timely manner.

In order to improve the relationship with the old uncle, Li Ling began to frequent the old uncle's house.Care about his body, care about all aspects of him, and buy him various supplements.During this process, the relationship between the two families that were originally estranged gradually became closer. With these foreshadowings, Li Ling asked his uncle to do something.

Li Ling's concern for his uncle was not hypocrisy, it was just a way of asking for help, even relatives should give some favors.There is a misunderstanding in many relative relationships nowadays, that is: relative relationship is a kind of blood relationship, family relationship, each other is a family, and helping each other is a duty, it should be, it is not necessary Be polite like everyone else.In fact, this idea is wrong.Although the blood relationship is "cut off the bones and connect the tendons", the maintenance and preservation of family ties also lie in mutual help and gratitude.

Therefore, in the story, when Li Ling's old uncle felt that Li Ling cared so much about him, especially when he greeted him with care, his heart was warmed.Hearing that others care about their daily life, there will be a kind of touch from the bottom of my heart.With this touch, things will be much easier.

In life, whether it is a relative or someone else who has a close relationship, once it is necessary to trouble him to do things for him, he should be sweeter, more diligent, and give the other party a feeling of being cared and cared for, and he will naturally help you of.

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