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Chapter 142 Part Two
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Chapter 1 Psychological Strategy 1: Weaving a network of contacts
Section [-] Take the Initiative in Interpersonal Communication
Mental Wisdom Call:

You must defend your kindness with a firm stance, and let him feel that you are kind but not weak.

Skillful in control:

In the long years of life, it is inevitable to encounter betrayal, hostility, slander, traps and other unexpected things.Anticipating these things in advance and avoiding them can make your life smooth sailing.

Smart people are always good at conquering opponents by means of control, so as to achieve the purpose of control.Be vigilant in the process of getting along with people, and know how to control the initiative and use different routines when fighting openly and secretly.

The first is "consolidating the city".If people can't figure out your details, the actual way to do it is not to reveal your personality weaknesses casually, not to easily reveal your desires and intentions, not to show your sharpness, and not to offend others... If others can't figure out your details, naturally you will not They will use you and frame you casually, because you don't give them a chance.When the two armies confront each other, if the reality is seen through, it will leave a lot of opportunities for the opponent, and the same is true for defense.

The second is "prevention before it happens".Soldiers are not tired of cheating, and when fighting for interests, the human heart is not tired of cheating, so we must have a calm and objective judgment on other people's actions.All abnormal actions have abnormal intentions. If you think about this action and the environment you are in, you can discover the mystery.

But having said that, people are often unable to get rid of their personality weaknesses and paranoia, and cannot guard against others, not to mention "the height of the road is one foot, and the height of the devil is one foot", so we must be as careful as possible.However, if you make yourself mysterious and lose friends in order to "strengthen the city", it is overkill, and it will become the target of people's exclusion.But in any case, defense is still necessary.

Although most of the people we meet in our life are kind, there are many "militants" in the world besides kind people.Therefore, you must defend your kindness with a firm stance, and let him feel that you are kind but not weak.You should not provide them with the opportunity to attack, but you must have firm psychological support behind your kindness.Soft but not "weak", kind but not "excessive".If you want to protect yourself from being bullied by others, you must understand people's hearts in daily life and work, and at the same time control the initiative in communicating with others, and your life will be full of disadvantages.

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