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Chapter 146 Part Two
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Chapter 1 Psychological Strategy 1: Weaving a network of contacts
Section [-] Don't be burdened by the burden of favor

Mental Wisdom Call:

A smart person always tries not to owe others too much favor, and also strives to find opportunities to repay the favor, so as to unload the burden of favor in his heart.

Skillful in control:

Many people know the importance of connections to success, and they all know how to invest in emotions and put a long line to catch big fish.At the same time, people are very particular about face. If someone owes too much to others, he will feel uneasy, and favors will overwhelm him like a burden.

People say, "The kindness of a drop of water should be repaid by a spring." If you owe more favors, how many "springs" can you have?This is one aspect.On the other hand, human feelings also need to maintain a general balance.You owe others a small favor, if you repay the big favor, wouldn't it be a disadvantage?And if you owe it for a long time, it will be a kind of burden and a burden for you if you don't pay the favor.Therefore, smart people always try not to owe others too much favor, and also try to find opportunities to repay the favor, so as to remove the burden of favor from their hearts.

"The Analects of Confucius" said: "Benefits are enough to make people." It means that giving you favors is enough to use you.Therefore, in the face of small favors and big favors from friends, you must be cautious when accepting them, and try not to accept them if you can. "Eat people's mouths are soft, but their hands are short." If the mouth is soft, it will not be hard to speak in front of others; if the hands are short, it will be difficult to reach out in front of others.

However, it is extremely normal for people to exchange courtesy and courtesy.If you don't accept the things brought by others, he feels that you don't show face, and if you let him take them back, it will damage his dignity.Therefore, you can't refute the other person's face too much, the kindness is hard to turn down, you can temporarily accept it, but you must send the favor back according to the severity of the other party's gift.You are going to pay a return visit to him, and with similar favors, you won't hurt your peace if you get even.

The usual method of giving favors between people is to treat guests to dinner. At this time, you have to turn your head quickly, know who the other party is, figure out the relationship network, and figure out the circle of friends, and then think about whether to accept it or reject it.

To avoid debt of favor, be self-aware.I should know myself best, how many bowls of rice I can eat, and how many things I can do.However, some people like to slap their faces swollen to pretend to be fat. They think they are special, and when others ask for it, they immediately slap their chests and wrap them around their bodies.What's more, knowing that they can't do it, they force themselves to do it.

Jiang Gan in the Three Kingdoms period was such a person. He thought he was great, and thought that his eloquence could be compared with the eloquent geniuses who united horizontal and vertical in the Spring and Autumn and Warring States.He recommended himself to Cao Cao to persuade Zhou Yu to surrender to Cao Cao, and he was full of confidence.Xiaomao in Tsing Yi, plus a book boy, went to see Zhou Yu in a boat.Is Zhou Yu someone who waits for nothing?Can command millions of troops at a young age, how can a classmate's lobbyist be swayed?When Jiang Gan arrived at Zhou Yu's barracks, he didn't even say a few words. Zhou Yu played tricks and brought back the secret letter, which tricked Cao Cao and lost two generals.

Don't try to be brave when you do things, if you can't do it, you have to be honest, there is nothing to be ashamed of.If you can't do something, you can't do it. The reason why others come to you is because they can't do it. Don't feel bad because you can't help others. Instead of screwing things up, it's better to let him hire someone else.In this way, you can avoid carrying the burden of favor, and your life will be much easier.

(End of this chapter)