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Chapter 156 Part Two
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Chapter 4 Psychological Strategy 4: Perfectly Control the Psychological Game of Others
Section [-] Make good use of suggestions and win with softness

Mental Wisdom Call:

It is best not to use a commanding tone to persuade others.

Skillful in control:

Everyone has self-esteem and respect. Therefore, in the process of persuading others, you should give them advice in a negotiable tone. This will not only avoid hurting their self-esteem, but also make them feel that you are approachable and willing to accept you. Suggestions and friendly cooperation with you.

Mr. Zhang is well-known in the industrial and commercial circles. At work, he never uses an imperative tone to persuade others.When he wants others to work according to his ideas, he always speaks in a negotiating tone.For example: "Do you think this is a good way to do it?" If he wants the secretary to write a letter, he will explain the general idea and main points, and then ask the secretary: "Do you think it is appropriate to write this way?" Ask him to read it. After reading it, he feels that there is still room for revision, and he will say: "If it is written like this, do you think it is better?" Although he is in the position of giving orders, he understands that others do not like to follow orders. So don't speak in an orderly tone.

Mr. Zhang's approach makes everyone willing to get along with him and to do things according to his wishes.Therefore, when we want to persuade someone, it is best to use the tone of suggestion.

Sean is a teacher in a vocational school. One of his students was late for some reason. Sean asked in a very aggressive tone: "How can you waste everyone's time? Don't you know that everyone is waiting for you?"

When the student answered, he shouted again: "Go back, since you don't want to listen to my class, you won't use it in the future."

This student was wrong. He shouldn't have delayed other students' class by not saying hello first.But from that day on, not only this student was dissatisfied with Sean's behavior, but the whole class was against him.

He could have handled it differently.If he asks kindly, "Is there anything you need to take care of? Is the problem solved?" and says, "If you don't let me know, everyone's class will be delayed." The student will be very happy to accept it. , and other students will not be so angry.

To persuade others, it is best not to use a commanding tone; otherwise, not only will the persuasion effect you want not be achieved, but it may also make things worse.By using a more suggestive tone, people will be more willing to correct their mistakes and maintain their self-esteem, making them feel important and cooperate with your work rather than against you.

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