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Chapter 162 Part Two
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Chapter 5 Psychological Strategy 5: See people by their "heart" and have real friends
Section [-] Be polite to your friends

Mental Wisdom Call:

In communication, being presumptuous and rude to friends is the easiest way to hurt friends, and it is also easy to hurt yourself.

Skillful in control:

How do you treat your friends in real life?

1. Excessive performance and careless speech, which bruises a friend's self-esteem

When you are with friends, if you show your sharpness, express yourself, and show a sense of superiority in your speech, this will make your friend feel that you are talking to him condescendingly, and his self-esteem will be bruised, and he can't help but have the idea of ​​keeping you at a distance .Therefore, when interacting with friends, you must control your emotions, maintain a rational balance, have a humble attitude, put yourself on an equal footing with others, and pay attention to the existence of the other party at all times.

2. Disregarding each other, violating the contract, making friends feel defensive towards you

The most inattentive thing among friends is careless handling of friends' belongings. They often think "how do friends divide each other", take things belonging to friends without permission, do not cherish them, and sometimes return them late or not.Once or twice, friends are embarrassed to criticize because of their sympathy. Over time, they will think that you are too presumptuous and become defensive towards you.

3. Take advantage of people's unpreparedness and forcibly ask for it, making your friends think you are too unreasonable and domineering

When you need someone for something, friends are of course the No. 1 choice.But if you don't notify in advance, you come to the door temporarily to make a request, or force your friend to participate in a certain activity with you regardless of whether he is willing or not, which will make your friend feel in a dilemma.It will be even more embarrassing if he has already arranged activities and cannot change them.For your request, if you agree, you will disrupt your plan, and if you refuse, you will feel sorry for your feelings.Maybe he is willing to do it on the surface, but he always feels a little unhappy in his heart, thinking that you are too domineering and unreasonable.Therefore, when you have a request for a friend, you must inform it in advance, speak in a negotiating tone, and try to ask it on the premise that your friend is free or willing.

4. Ignorance of current affairs, slow response, make friends feel disgusted with you

When you visit a friend’s house, if you meet a friend who is reading or studying, or receiving guests, or preparing to go out, etc., you may rely on yourself as a true friend, regardless of the time and occasion, and regardless of the friend’s face, you will sit for a long time and talk about it, but you don’t care that the other person has already done it. Very impatient.In this way, friends will definitely think that you are uneducated and "ignorant of current affairs", and will try to avoid you in the future, fearing that you will disturb his private life again.

5. Make casual acquaintances and exaggerate to make friends feel that you are a frivolous person

You may be driven by vanity or honor, or you may be eager to make friends. You think that the more friends you have, the greater your ability and the better your popularity.At this time, your friend is already sneering slightly, thinking that you are a frivolous person who is always on the move, you can't get along with each other sincerely, and you will lose your true friends on the contrary.Therefore, when making friends, you should treat each other sincerely and have a single-minded relationship, and you must not think that general friendship will make you prominent.

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