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Chapter 163 Part Two
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Chapter 5 Psychological Strategy 5: See people by their "heart" and have real friends
Section [-] Sincerity is the basis of friendship
Mental Wisdom Call:

As long as you give your sincerity to your friends, you will also get your friends' sincerity in return.

Skillful in control:

The ancients often said: "Golden gold is easy to get, but a confidant is hard to find." It is indeed difficult to make true friends, but, "You reap what you sow", as long as you give your heart to your friends, you will also get friends Sincere return.

In the Eastern Han Dynasty, there was a man named Xun Jubo.Once, he received an urgent letter saying that a friend was seriously ill.Friends are thousands of miles away, so Uncle Xun traveled for several days.But when he arrived at the county where his friend lived, he found that the place was surrounded by barbarians.He sneaked into the city to visit his friend, and the friend said to him, "Thank you for coming to visit me at this time. Now the city is surrounded by barbarians, and it seems that I can't hold it. I am a person who is about to die. It doesn't matter to me not to destroy the city; you don't need to stay here, you can go now while you can think of a way!" Xun Jubo immediately said: "What are you talking about? We should help each other when we are in trouble, and now the disaster is imminent. But you want me to leave you alone and run for my life, how can I do such unrighteous things?"

After the Hu people broke through the city, they fought all the way in and searched from house to house, but they saw that every house was in disarray and everyone fled, but there was a courtyard in order, so they went in and saw Uncle Xun sitting peacefully, and said with great authority: "Where our army arrived Who are you, how dare you run away without looking at the wind, do you want to be alone?" Uncle Xun said to them: "You have misunderstood. I am not from this city. I just came here to visit a My friend here. Now my friend is seriously ill and is in danger. I can’t leave him alone just because you are here. If you want to kill me, please kill me. Don’t kill me, a friend who is already in great pain and cannot be cured.” Hu Ren He was dumbfounded.After a long while, a leader looked at the big knife in his hand and said, "Hey, we are a group of people who don't understand morality. How can people like us wander around in such a moral country? Let's go!" The Hu people retreated because of this, and a county was preserved.

In life, many people hold the attitude of "someone has something to do, and nothing has nothing to do with it", and treats friends as crutches after injury, and throws them away after recovery.Most of these people will be abandoned, and no one is willing to help them.

Treat each other sincerely with friends, should do the following:
1. Help each other and help each other.When people work together, they are in the same boat. As long as they adopt a cooperative attitude and help and care for each other, it is the easiest way to generate emotional identification, and this kind of friendship will be stronger.

2. Have common interests, communicate and speculate.Sometimes common hobbies and interests may also become the bond of mutual friendship.For example, two people love to play chess, met at a roadside chess field, and became chess friends; both love fishing, met by a lake, and became fishing friends.Such common things call each other together, and in the joint discussion, friendship is formed.

3. Never hold the idea of ​​"one-time communication".In the eyes of some practical people, the so-called "favor" is that you do me a favor, and I will immediately find a reason to help back, just like borrowing money to pay back money, and there is no credit.This one-time communicative behavior seems free and easy, but it actually contains too much confusion and helplessness.It is true that the beneficiary may be reluctant to ask for help again in a short period of time, and the party who implements the aid actually does not need to stick to the old adage of "no more than three things".When someone really has difficulties and there is nothing you can do, even though you have already helped him, even though he is not good at talking to you again, as an insider, you should not be indifferent, but you might as well take the initiative to lend a helping hand.In fact, this kind of communicative behavior can win a greater human effect. Even if the recipient is unable to repay you for a while, your behavior and your noble nature will be known to more people.

You know, hypocritical and cunning people are difficult to make good friends and make people annoying; sincere friends give people a sense of security and are liked.Be honest with your friends and you will get much more than you give.

(End of this chapter)