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Chapter 165 Part Two
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Chapter 5 Psychological Strategy 5: See people by their "heart" and have real friends
Section [-] Resolutely reject unreasonable requests from friends
Mental Wisdom Call:

The friendship of good friends cannot be established overnight. It requires long-term understanding, tolerance, and mutual assistance from both parties to maintain it. We must cherish and love it.

Skillful in control:

It is normal for friends to ask each other for things.But there are also things that some people ask for each other often go beyond the scope of principles and objective facts, for example, beyond your subjective tolerance, against your own subjective wishes, etc.At this time, those who should refuse should simply refuse.

For ordinary friends, it is very easy to refuse the other party's request without thinking if it is not to your liking.But when a good friend asks you too much and you can't satisfy him, you will feel in a dilemma and be in an embarrassing situation.At this time, you can adopt clever rejection methods for different situations.

When the requests, conditions, and wishes of a good friend cannot be met, you must not evade or beat around the bush, but give the other party a straightforward, concise and simple rejection to express your attitude, and at the same time explain clearly to him the situation you are in. Don't let the other party have illusions about the situation and the insurmountable difficulties in accomplishing this matter.

Xiao Wang and Xiao Liu are a pair of close buddies who grew up together.After graduating from university, Xiao Wang worked in the Personnel Bureau of a certain district, while Xiao Liu was assigned to work in an enterprise.One day, Xiao Liu came to Xiao Wang's house with a gift, and said straight to the point: "Old friend, I want to change jobs and change jobs. Please help me anyway." It's just that the general cadres are really unable to do what they want, so they said truthfully to Xiao Liu: "Although I work in the Personnel Bureau, I am a soft-spoken person, and now that the decision-making power for personnel matters is delegated to the enterprise, I am afraid it will be difficult for you to help me. You should still Think of other ways." Xiao Liu turned to seek other ways, and finally got his wish.Although Xiao Wang once rejected Xiao Liu, Xiao Liu knew Xiao Wang's difficulties very well and could understand Xiao Wang very well. They still maintain a good friendship so far.

Here, Xiao Wang knew that his "ability" was limited, so he rejected Xiao Liu straightforwardly and straightforwardly.This not only saves the trouble of not being able to keep the promise once it is promised, but also gives friends the opportunity to find another way.When rejecting others, the reasons must be fully credible, and don't let the other party have the idea of ​​"not helping at critical moments".If you overestimate your capabilities and make a verbal promise, but fail to do so in the end, it will cause a misunderstanding of "helping but not doing your best" to the other party and create a gap between good friends.

When refusing a friend, don't feel that it will make the other party feel bad because of face, and blindly hesitate and evade. This will only make the friend feel that there is an opportunity to take advantage of, and there is still hope, but it will cause trouble.If you can't do it, simply refuse it. Of course, you must pay attention to strategy when refusing, and don't be blunt.You can dissuade them patiently, clarify your interests, explain the situation truthfully, and let your friends understand your difficulties, or you can deal with it in a roundabout way, and use other methods to complete the things entrusted by your friends.

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