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Chapter 31 Part [-]
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Chapter 6 Interrogation scene 6: The secret that women cannot tell

Section [-] Deterrence is sometimes good medicine

Mini Scene House: When a woman loses her mind and wants to do something, how can she see through her sincerity.

Question story session:
A woman's husband had an affair, and after trying every means to dissuade him, the man still divorced her.In an instant, the woman seemed to have no interest in anything, nor could she see any hope.One day, she shared a terrible thought with a male friend of hers who studies psychology.

Woman: "You know? I want to kill myself! I want to kill myself!"

The friend looked at her in surprise.

"What did you say? Can you say it again?"

"I want to kill myself! Either way."

"I know, your husband betrayed you, you are disheartened, you feel that a good relationship can't be done, and the problem is not with you, you are the victim, so you want to kill everything, right? ?”

"Yes, I put all my heart and soul into this relationship. Now, the emotional sustenance is gone. I no longer trust anyone, no longer believe in feelings, and I don't want to live anymore."

When the friend heard this, he smiled grimly.

"You are so stupid, do women think this way when they encounter relationship problems? Do you want to commit suicide? Yes. Take sleeping pills? Two or three bottles, lie on the bed, like the disheartened people in TV dramas, looking for a quiet place ? But will it work? Will you be rescued by your family? Gastric lavage, vomiting, depression, severe sequelae, such a good result?"

"Then I choose another way, I jump off the building. Aren't many people jumping off the building now?"

"Jumping off a building? This is a good way. The higher you climb, the higher the success rate. But have you ever thought that if you fail to die, and you are blocked by a tree branch and then fall to the ground, your ending may be worse than death: hemiplegia , spend the rest of your life in a wheelchair, or become a vegetable directly. Vegetative is also pretty good, right? You don’t have to think about anything, and your whole life will pass.”

"Ah, then I..."

"Shaken? Women don't seem to be like this. Isn't it impossible to change if you are stubborn? Did you know that suicide can also be contagious! Don't you have children? Does he want to live in this world after seeing your tragic ending? ?”

"Actually, actually, I don't want to commit suicide, I'm just too sad. Can you understand me? A woman pays so much for a man, but he treats me like that."

"I understand, you just want to vent. You still have children and parents. You can have love again, but you only have one life."

"Well, I get it, I get it."

Wonderful question:

When women encounter emotional problems, in addition to needing to talk, they need relief.Confiding is the first stage for her to get out of emotional difficulties, and liberation is her ultimate goal.But not everyone, especially men, can understand a woman's mood.They often only know how to listen and persuade, and when they really encounter difficult problems, they will be helpless.But the man in the story is not like this, not only because he has knowledge of psychology, but also because he knows how to use deterrent words to shock women's hearts.

The woman in the story wanted to commit suicide because of her husband’s betrayal. When she told her friend about it clearly, it meant that she had made her own decision. "Neither worked.The softer the words, the more she will insist on her own ideas.So my friend did the opposite, telling her all about the terrible situation at the time of suicide and after suicide. On the surface, it seemed that there was no intention to persuade the other party to give up the idea of ​​suicide, but in fact, it secretly reminded her that suicide does not succeed every time. If it is unsuccessful, the outcome will be a vegetative state, hemiplegia, and serious sequelae.

At this time, the woman's heart has begun to waver, and her speech also shows signs of intermittent.This shows that she is hesitating: Is suicide really that terrible?Is it really that miserable after a failed suicide attempt?At this time, her mental state is gradually returning to calm.The friend's deterrent questioning was to "scare" her, let her know the serious consequences of the suicide, calm her mind, slow down her mood, and stop acting recklessly.

In life, once a woman shows the same mental state and language logic as the protagonist in the story, after necessary appeasement, you can try the deterrent questioning method.Only in this way can he know the seriousness of the matter, gradually restore his calm, and express his true thoughts.

(End of this chapter)