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Chapter 50 Part [-]
Previous: Questioning skills: how to speak so that others will listen, how to listen so that others will speak
Chapter 10Interrogation Scene 10: Hidden Rules for Interrogation in the Workplace
Section [-] Distinguishing Between True and False Friends: Anger is worse than Seeing Each Other

Mini scene house: Facing a friend who is hot and cold, what kind of questions should be used to find out his sincerity.

Question story session:
Xiao Li has been in the company for a while, and everyone has a good relationship, but when he thinks of Ma Gang, Xiao Li murmurs in his heart: Is he really good with me or is he just pretending?At the beginning, the relationship was normal, why did it get better later?Is it because my uncle is the leader of the company?After thinking for a long time, he still couldn't figure it out.Today, the two of them met again.

Ma Gang: "Hi, Xiao Li, we meet again."

Xiao Li: "Yeah, it's pretty good. Brother Ma, there's something I don't know if I should say it or not?"

Ma Gang: "Speak, there is something you can't say."

Xiao Li: "Then I'll tell you, don't blame me. You're actually a pretty good person, but why do I always feel that you treat me hot and cold, and you're not real?"

Ma Gang: "What do you mean by that?"

Xiao Li: "My meaning is very clear. Why don't you tell the truth? Why does it always make people think that you always have a certain purpose in contacting others? Are you taking advantage of something?"

After hearing Xiao Li's series of questioning, Ma Gang, who was originally full of smiles, suddenly turned red, feeling uneasy and embarrassed.

Ma Gang: "Xiao Li, you must speak responsibly. I regard you as a sincere friend. There is nothing to use or not to use."

Xiao Li: "A true friend? If that's the case, of course it's good. I heard that you want to transfer departments recently. Did you also know that my uncle is the leader of the company and want to take advantage of it? That's why you are so enthusiastic about me?"

Ma Gang: "No way, no way."

Xiao Li suddenly emphasized his tone: "You are! Otherwise, why did you ignore me when I first came here, and then you became more enthusiastic when my uncle introduced me in front of everyone. Do you think I can't see it? Want to lie to me? Is such a person a true friend?"

At this time, Ma Gang had nothing to say, and he didn't dare to refute forcefully, so he could only endure the embarrassment, said "nothing" and walked away quickly.

Wonderful question:

Whether the other party is your true friend can be seen from whether he has ambitions in the process of interacting with you.Some people are indifferent to people at the beginning, and then suddenly change.Faced with this situation, one should not be blindly rejoicing, thinking that one has gained another best friend.You must first understand why the other party changes, is he really thinks that you are someone who can continue to communicate, or has discovered a resource worth using in you.If it's the former, it doesn't matter. If it's the latter, you have to be careful. Such people can't be called true friends.

Ma Gang is not Xiao Li's true friend, he just wants to use Xiao Li's uncle and treat others as tools.In the beginning, Xiao Li was confused. In order to let himself see through Ma Gang, he used the questioning method of intentionally provoking the other party, asking only unpleasant questions, which can be said to hit the vital point.

Generally speaking, if a person does not do something but is considered to have done something, he will show an expression of grievance and inner feelings.But Ma Gang in the story did not behave like this, all he had was sophistry and wrongdoing.When someone sees through his scheming, especially when the scheming is not aboveboard, his heartbeat will speed up, and the blood circulation on his face will speed up, just like Ma Gang's expression.As a result, his "fox tail" was exposed: being friends is fake, but using people is real.If Xiao Li hadn't stimulated him by deliberately asking unpleasant questions, Ma Gang might have kept pretending until his work was done.

In life, there are always people who approach you under the guise of making friends with you, but they actually have other plans.Such people are either fickle and ungrateful, who don't pay much attention to the most precious emotions in life, and only approach you when he needs them; When you use value, you will strengthen the connection with you. Once you lose value, you will be left behind; In fact, it only appears in front of you when you do him a favor.

All of these are people who may be hot and cold to you.When you meet them, you can question them directly and mercilessly.Only in this way can the other party tell the truth, and you can see the other party clearly.

(End of this chapter)