Thick black school

Chapter 60
——Settle down and live, thick and black
Half sober and half confused, life is rarely confused.
[Zongwu Mantra] "Deafness is deafness"; laughing and scolding is up to him, good or bad I will do it myself.But the word "deaf" contains the meaning of blind.Literal slander, close your eyes and don't read it.

In dealing with people, some people see society and people as simple, and are used to examining society and measuring others with their own eyes and thinking.They are fussy about everything, and they are too serious about being human. They think that there should be rules in everything they do, that people should be honest with each other, and that everyone in the world should act according to the rules and treat others with morality.

In the view of Houheixue, this view is naive.Society is not as simple as you imagined, and people are not as simple as you imagined. If you treat people with your own eyes and measure them with the highest standard, you will encounter many obstacles and take many detours. In the end, your friends will leave you. Instead, he becomes a "lonely person" outside the society. "When the water is clear, there will be no fish, and when people observe it, there will be no disciples." This is the truth.

Zheng Banqiao, a master of calligraphy and painting in the Qing Dynasty, once wrote a calligraphy banner "It's rare to be confused", and it was accompanied by an explanation: "It's hard to be smart, and it's hard to be confused. It's even harder to turn from being smart to being confused. Put it aside, take a step back, and feel at ease now. It is not intended to be rewarded later.” Its intention is to tell the world that one should not be too serious in life, one should not be too sober in life, one should be half sober and half confused, be confused when you should be confused, and regress when you should regress. Instead of being a smart and confused person, It's better to be a confused and sober person.It can be said that ignorance is the master key for a person to live in the world and the shield for his life.

Looking closely at ancient and modern China and foreign countries, no matter in politics, military affairs, diplomacy, management, etc., or in the aspects of people, communication, work, and life, muddled philosophy can "popular".And those thick and black people are well aware of the tricks. Whenever there is a crisis, they pretend to be foolish and foolish, so as to avoid the limelight and the wave.

Make full use of the "confused" skills, there will be many unexpected gains, and it is also a means to protect yourself.

Sima Yi in the Three Kingdoms period was originally a scheming and extremely intelligent person, but he always liked to pretend to be confused.When he was in Wuzhangyuan, he finally defeated his old opponent Zhuge Liang by virtue of a set of insidious kung fu with great wisdom and foolishness.Precisely because of his high meritorious service, he inevitably attracted the jealousy of his colleagues and the suspicion of the court.Under such circumstances, Sima Yi simply pretended to be confused and took a long-term vacation at home on the grounds of being seriously ill, creating the illusion that he was dying.

But his opponents were still worried, and sent someone to spy on Sima Yi's reality on the grounds of condolences for his illness.Sima Yi simply followed his plan and pushed the boat with the current, and really pretended to be dying, dying, and terminally ill, and received him; so the fake play was real, and a vivid live drama was staged.

Under Sima Yi's planning, the visitor was really deceived, and when he returned, he said that Sima Yi was seriously ill and would die soon, so Sima Yi's political opponents finally relaxed their vigilance.At this time, Sima Yi secretly cultivated wings and recruited cronies, and arranged for his two sons to seize the power of the Imperial Guard in the capital without anyone knowing it.Later, seeing an opportunity, the "Gaopingling Change" was launched, which almost wiped out the power of the Cao family. So far, all the military and political power of the Wei State fell into the hands of the Sima family.

In the 20s, a notorious "Lockheed Scandal" broke out in Japan, and even former Prime Minister Kakuei Tanaka was involved in it, and his reputation in Japan suddenly plummeted.When the Japanese fully despised Kakuei Tanaka, Chinese friends went to condolences one after another, and kept mentioning his contribution to the normalization of Sino-Japanese diplomatic relations.For those who don't know the truth, perhaps the Chinese's approach is quite inappropriate, but if you take a closer look, it may not be a brilliant political wisdom.The Chinese have always despised "adding insult to injury", and at the same time vigorously advocated "drinking water and remembering the source", and always regarded "giving charcoal in the snow" as a virtue. In this case, all three of them were fully reflected.

Kakuei Tanaka's acceptance of bribes is an improper act. The Chinese are of course aware of this, but since he is an old friend of the Chinese people, it is impossible for us not to express our concern, so we "vaguely" express our high regard. concerns.In this way, it also clearly shows our attitude of distinguishing between merits and demerits, right and wrong, grievances and grievances, which really serves multiple purposes.The "inner square and outer circle" that the Chinese often emphasize is probably expressed in this way. We call it "principled response".

Emperor Taizong of the Song Dynasty was drinking in the Beibei Garden, and his courtiers Kong Shouzheng and Wang Rong served the banquet.The second minister was drunk and quarreled endlessly, losing the etiquette of his subordinates.The servant asked Taizong to arrest the two and send them to the Ministry of Officials for punishment, but Taizong sent someone to send them home.The next day, the two of them woke up from the wine, remembering that they had been rude in front of the emperor after drinking last night, they were very scared, and they knelt together on the Golden Luan Hall to plead guilty to the emperor.Song Taizong smiled slightly and said: "Last night, I was also drunk, so I don't remember these things."

Song Taizong excused that he was also drunk, not only did not lose the emperor's face, but also made the two courtiers guard against him in the future.Song Taizong pretended to be confused, not only showed generosity, but also bought people's hearts, which really killed two birds with one stone.

As human beings, sometimes we need to be a little confused.Being confused is a kind of state of mind and a kind of virtue. If you behave with a confused state of mind, you will naturally be able to treat people and things in the world properly. You can respect yourself and win the respect of others. This is also the essence of being a person who is confused.

Great wisdom is like stupidity, from a perspective, it can also be understood as being stupid in small things and wise in big things.It is a very high self-cultivation for an individual.The so-called stupidity refers to intentional confusion.When you should be confused, don't worry about your own face, your own knowledge, your own status, your own power, and you must be confused.And when you should be smart and sober, you must be smart.If you turn from being smart to being stupid, and from being stupid to being smart, you will have both ways, and you will not be disturbed by troubles or burdened by human affairs. In this way, you will also have a happy, joyful and successful life.

Objective experience tells us not to be too "smart" in communication.Communication should be the communication and exchange of emotions between people.As long as you treat people with sincerity is enough, do you need anything else to mix it up?To people, you don't have to be smart; to friends, it's better to be stupid."Smartness" in communication is easy to artificially complicate the relationship that should be simple and sincere, making people feel tricky and treacherous, so stay away from it.Such a shrewd result can only end in becoming a loner.

Normal communication between people is equal. If you don't behave carefully, your words are not elegant, and you are condescending, you can only isolate yourself and cause others to "disdain".

Pretending to be confused among friends can win you more respect and love from them.

Confusion is a high-quality glue that maintains interpersonal relationships.

The core of being confused is: being confused on the outside, not being confused on the inside.This kind of confusion is just pretending to be confused, not really being confused.

Pretending to be confused is a kind of great wisdom.

It is not advisable to be too stupid or too smart to live in the world.The so-called "unwise and not stupid" is actually a philosophy that uses the appearance of ignorance to act wisely.

Thick Black New Mysteries

The world is impermanent, the situation is changing, people's hearts are unpredictable, and they don't know what's on the outside. If you behave in the world, if you care too much, things will backfire in the end, and you will run into walls everywhere. If you fail, you don't know why.The "Confused Classic" of Houhei School clarifies: It is rare to be confused in life, the most important thing is to be confused, the pleasure is to be confused, and the success is to be confused. Being confused will make you suddenly realize, will bring you a kind of great wisdom, and let you obtain an unprecedented sense of insight and understanding. Take it easy.Houhei people are people who are good at "confused". They have rich connotations and profound backgrounds. They treat life and all phenomena in the world with a normal heart and a calm heart. The situation is changing, things are prioritized, weights are lifted lightly, and four or two are a thousand catties.Being a foolish person is a skill and art necessary for success and success.

Be a low-key person, don't forget your form when you are proud
[Zongwu Mantra] Wang Anshi said: "Don't be afraid of catastrophic changes in nature, don't pay attention to people's gossip, and don't follow the ready-made laws of your ancestors." The reason was originally right, but he was at that time.Because these three sentences were heavily slandered.Even if we read these three sentences today, we still feel that he is domineering and feel a little uncomfortable in our hearts.If we had been born at that time, we may not have conflicts with him.

In reality, when some people encounter smooth and happy things, they get carried away, narcissistic, and their joy is beyond words, and they like to show off in front of people, as if they are afraid that others will not know.Houheixue believes that when you walk in the society, when you have something proud, whether it is a promotion, a fortune, or everything is going well, you should not talk about it in front of the frustrated people. You must understand them. Mood.Because people who are frustrated are very sensitive to everything, even if you speak unintentionally, it may hurt the other person's self-esteem.

Once, Huang Ming invited some friends over for dinner at home, and these friends were very familiar with each other.Huang Ming brought them together mainly to make a friend who was in a low ebb feel better through the lively atmosphere.

Not long ago, this friend closed down his company due to poor management, and his wife was divorcing him because of the unbearable pressure of life.Internally and externally, he was in great pain.

All the friends who came to dinner knew his current experience, and everyone avoided talking about career-related matters.But among them was a man surnamed Xiao, who had just made a lot of money, and as soon as he drank, he couldn't help but start talking about his ability to make money and how well he spent money. uncomfortable.The frustrated friend bowed his head and remained silent, with a very ugly face. He said to go to the toilet for a while, and said to make a phone call for a while, and then left early.

Huang Ming sent him out, and he said angrily at the alley, "Old Xiao knows how to make money, so you don't need to boast in front of me!"

From the above story, we should understand: When getting along with others, remember not to talk about your proud things in front of the frustrated!

If you want to talk about your pride, it’s best to look at the occasion and the object. You can talk about it in a public speech; Share your success with you.

Remember not to talk about your success to the frustrated person, because the frustrated person has the most fragile heart and the most caring heart. Your talk is full of irony and mockery to him, making the frustrated person feel that you "look down" on him .Of course, some people don't care, you say what you say, and he listens to him, but there are not many people who are so forthright.So the complacency you're talking about is a disservice to most frustrated people.

When you are proud, you should talk less and have a more humble attitude, so that you can win the respect of your friends.

As the saying goes, misfortune comes out of your mouth, there is no need to cause trouble yourself.Being a low-key person is good for adjusting one's own desires and requirements, and for winning the reliance and trust of the boss.In addition, being a low-key person will not show your competitive character, and of course it will not arouse the wariness of the leaders.

In life, we are rational and wise most of the time, and we can distinguish right from wrong, good from bad, and good from bad when we are sober. However, once we are satisfied, we are often blinded by a leaf and forget ourselves because of the momentary smugness, so that we fall into a situation where we cannot extricate ourselves. .

It took only two years for Jiang Nan, who went south to work, to become the deputy general manager of a company.It is undeniable that he took this position based on his real ability. In his words, all the achievements he has achieved were forced out.Both of Jiangnan's parents died when he was young, and he was brought up by his grandmother. Life was very hard at that time, but his grandmother still supported him to finish college.Therefore, he must work hard and repay his grandmother's upbringing with the best grades.

Whether he was an ordinary employee at the beginning or a deputy general manager later, Jiang Nan performed very well.Later, he discovered that Wang Hua, the general manager, was sitting in that seat, which was useless—every time Jiang Nan asked her for instructions, Wang Hua listened carefully to him, and finally said only one sentence: "You can do it at ease." agreed.In this way, almost everything is made by Jiangnan.But whenever a contract is signed, the client always has to have an interview with the general manager, which makes Jiangnan very unconvinced: Isn't she the boss's aunt?He has no level at all, but he insists on occupying a squatting position and not shitting.

As soon as Jiang Nan wanted to seek the position of general manager, he didn't want to give up.He clearly knew that Wang Hua was the boss's aunt, and this matter was not easy to handle, but as the amount of money he made for the company increased, his confidence became stronger and stronger.He thought: If the boss wants to pay his aunt, he can do it in any position, so why must he be the general manager?

The boss is a smiling person. He didn't keep his expression on hearing Jiangnan's complaints several times, but just asked with a smile: "My aunt won't interfere with your work too much?" Jiangnan thought: Even so, but always leave me alone. He had a heart problem, so he replied: "Maybe the company's profits will be better if Mr. Wang is placed in another position." The boss is still smiling, but he has a plan in mind.

Later, the boss really advised my aunt not to be the general manager.This angered Wang Hua, and as a major shareholder, she became more and more angry, and soon fired Jiangnan's squid.Jiang Nan never expected that things would develop to this stage. He still couldn't figure it out: what happened?
In fact, success means that you have climbed another level on the social ladder.But the higher you go, the more intense the competition. Just like in a company, the positions of upper-level leaders cannot be as many as those of ordinary employees. If you want to climb up, you need to wait for your boss to give up his position to you.

However, if your boss knows that you are waiting for him to go to the top, he will definitely kick you out first.Therefore, if you want to survive in a certain circle safely, you must know when to show up and when to retreat, and grasp the scale of showing up and retreating.If you only see the bright side of yourself and rush forward without hesitation, you will probably be hit badly, until you ruin your future.

Thick Black New Mysteries

It is easy to get carried away when one is proud.Because of self-satisfaction, people will become indistinct, forgetful, complacent, feel good about themselves, think that they are better than others in everything, better than others in everything, have a feeling of standing out from the crowd, and feel dizzy and difficult to distinguish the direction.As everyone knows, extreme joy will lead to sorrow, and if you are too happy, you will lose your mind, and you will plant hidden dangers and plant disasters.Houheixue pointed out that when a person gets carried away, it is easy to ignore the existence of others, thereby incurring the envy and hatred of others, followed by neglect, attack, exclusion, and failure is not far away from you.We must learn to behave in the dark in the society, and we must "never forget yourself when you are proud, and don't be discouraged when you are frustrated", be low-key and act humbly, only in this way can you win good popularity, good reputation, and good future.

Endure humiliation for a while, and achieve eternal success
[Zongwu Mantra] Zhang Liang picked up the shoes for the old man, and knelt down to put the shoes on the old man's feet. This is using patience for himself. "Xiaoguan Honggou" broke the covenant and put people to death. This is to use patience on others.

Confucius said: "Small intolerance leads to great chaos." When people live in society, they will inevitably encounter things that don't go their way and people who are against them.When this happens, some people advocate that they would rather bend than bend, and stick to their own principles; some people advocate using their own way to deal with their own body.But Houheixue opposes this approach, thinking that fighting against others for the sake of gaining and losing for a while may make oneself fall into a passive position, and you will be beaten badly, and the gain will not be worth the loss.

The core of Mr. Li Zongwu's whole thick black study is "forbearance". In life, thick and invisible, black and colorless, ninjas are invincible, and ninjas can survive. It is not so much that the winner wins in battle, as it is in the end.In dealing with people, one hundred patiences can be turned into gold, one hundred can be burned into steel, one can bear heavy burdens only by enduring humiliation, and one can accomplish great things only by enduring what ordinary people cannot bear.

Forbearance is an indispensable psychological quality for a successful person. Only by staying calm in the face of changes can we stop with silence and strike later.Forbearance is a kind of ability. It is good at hiding one's thoughts and feelings. What pedestrians cannot do is the first condition for what adults cannot do. It is a strategy and tactic of accumulating strength and waiting for opportunities. When it comes to being angry, you might as well be patient first, and don't act on your own whim.The thick black people in history and reality know how to weigh the pros and cons, value the big gains, not take the small ones, endure when they can, and endure when they can, and can endure temporary humiliation, temper their will, and find suitable opportunities.

Han Xin in the Western Han Dynasty was from Huaiyin, his family was poor and he had nothing to do.Someone once insulted Han Xin and said: "Although you are tall and big, you like to wear a sword, but you are actually cowardly." He insulted Han Xin in public and said: "If you are not afraid of death, stab me with a sword; Drill down and get out." Han Xin took a closer look, thought for a while, leaned over and crawled out from under the man's crotch, and everyone in the street laughed at Han Xin's cowardice.

Later, Duke Teng mentioned Han Xin to Liu Bang, Emperor Gaozu of the Han Dynasty. Liu Bang didn't know him at first, so he ran away. Han Xin can’t. You have to invite him, choose a day, fast, set up an altar, and complete the etiquette.” Liu Bang agreed to Xiao He and worshiped Han Xin as a general.After Liu Bang won the world, Han Xin was named King of Qi and Marquis of Huaiyin.

There is a Chinese saying "a man can bend and stretch", which tells the story of the general Han Xin who was humiliated in his crotch.If you can't bear it, you will make big plans, and you should avoid being arrogant.It was Han Xin's great endurance that made him successful. "Repentance to Heaven" stated: "The reason why people are rich and respected by the world is obtained from humiliation."

Zhang Liang, a native of the Western Han Dynasty, has a story about receiving books at Diqiao.

(End of this chapter)